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'''''Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother''''' is a book by American author and law professor [[Amy Chua]] that was published in 2011.<ref>{{cite news |author=Terry Hong, Special to The Chronicle |url=http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/01/08/RVAE1H3BSG.DTL |title=San Francisco Chronicle review of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother |publisher=Sfgate.com |date=January 9, 2011 |accessdate=January 28, 2011 |archiveurl=https://web.archive.org/web/20110121045144/http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=%2Fc%2Fa%2F2011%2F01%2F08%2FRVAE1H3BSG.DTL |archivedate=21 January 2011 |url-status=live }}</ref><ref>{{cite news| author= Elizabeth Chang |url= https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2011/01/07/AR2011010702516.html |title = Amy Chua's ''Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother'', on Chinese-American family culture | work =Washington Post |date = January 7, 2011 }}</ref> It quickly popularized the concept and term "[[tiger mother]]" while also becoming the inspiration{{citation needed|date=June 2016}} for the 2014-2015 Singaporean TV show ''[[Tiger Mum]],'' the 2015 mainland Chinese drama ''[[Tiger Mom (TV series)|Tiger Mom]],'' and the 2017 Hong Kong series ''[[Tiger Mom Blues]].''
'''''Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother''''' is a book by American author and law professor [[Amy Chua]] that was published in 2011.<ref>{{cite news |author=Terry Hong, Special to The Chronicle |url=http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/01/08/RVAE1H3BSG.DTL |title=San Francisco Chronicle review of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother |publisher=Sfgate.com |date=January 9, 2011 |access-date=January 28, 2011 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110121045144/http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=%2Fc%2Fa%2F2011%2F01%2F08%2FRVAE1H3BSG.DTL |archive-date=21 January 2011 |url-status=live }}</ref><ref>{{cite news| author= Elizabeth Chang |url= https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2011/01/07/AR2011010702516.html |title = Amy Chua's ''Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother'', on Chinese-American family culture | newspaper =[[The Washington Post]] |date = January 7, 2011 }}</ref> It quickly popularized the concept and term "[[tiger mother]]".


==Summary==
==Summary==
The complete blurb of the book reads: "This is a story about a mother and two daughters. This was ''supposed'' to be a story of how Chinese parents are better at raising kids than Western ones. But instead, it's about a bitter clash of cultures and a fleeting taste of glory."<ref name="battle-hymn">{{cite web | url = https://archive.org/details/battlehymnoftige00chua | title = Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother | isbn = 978-1-59420-284-1 | publisher = Penguin Press Hard Cover | date = January 11, 2011 | first = Amy | last = Chua | authorlink = Amy Chua | accessdate = January 15, 2012 | url-access = registration }}</ref>
The complete blurb of the book reads: "This is a story about a mother, two daughters, and two dogs. This was ''supposed'' to be a story of how Chinese parents are better at raising kids than Western ones. But instead, it's about a bitter clash of cultures, a fleeting taste of glory, and how I was humbled by a thirteen-year-old."<ref name="battle-hymn">{{cite book | url = https://archive.org/details/battlehymnoftige00chua | title = Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother | isbn = 978-1-59420-284-1 | publisher = Penguin Press Hard Cover | date = January 11, 2011 | first = Amy | last = Chua | author-link = Amy Chua | access-date = January 15, 2012 | url-access = registration }}</ref>


An article published under the headline "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior" in ''[[The Wall Street Journal]]'' on January 8, 2011, contained excerpts from her book in which Chua recounts her efforts to give her children what she describes as a traditional, strict "Chinese" upbringing.<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011">{{cite news
An article published under the headline "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior" in ''[[The Wall Street Journal]]'' on January 8, 2011, contained excerpts from her book in which Chua recounts her efforts to give her children what she describes as a traditional, strict "Chinese" [[Confucian]]-style upbringing.<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011">{{cite news
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}}</ref> This piece was controversial. Many readers believed that Chua was advocating the "superiority" of a particular, very strict, ethnically-defined approach to [[parenting]]. In response, Chua has stated that the book was not a "how-to" manual, but rather a self-mocking memoir.<ref>{{cite news | url = https://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/16/fashion/16Cultural.html | title = Retreat of the 'Tiger Mother' | first = Kate | last = Zernike | date = January 14, 2011 | accessdate = December 25, 2011 | quote = "... ironic and self-mocking ... Here's what I did, and boy did I learn a lesson." | work= New York Times}}</ref><ref>{{cite news | url = https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052970204791104577110870328419222 | title = Tiger Mom's Long-Distance Cub | work = The Wall Street Journal | first=Amy | last=Chua | date=December 24, 2011}}</ref> She defines "Chinese mother" loosely to include parents of other ethnicities who practice traditional, strict child-rearing while also acknowledging that "Western parents come in all varieties" and that not all ethnically Chinese parents practice strict child-rearing.<ref name="battle-hymn" />{{rp|4}}
}}</ref> This piece was controversial, as many readers believed that Chua was advocating the "superiority" of a particular, very strict, ethnically defined approach to [[parenting]]. In response, Chua has stated that the book was not a "how-to" manual, but rather a self-mocking memoir.<ref>{{cite news | url = https://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/16/fashion/16Cultural.html | title = Retreat of the 'Tiger Mother' | first = Kate | last = Zernike | date = January 14, 2011 | access-date = December 25, 2011 | quote = ironic and self-mocking&nbsp;... Here's what I did, and boy did I learn a lesson. | work=[[The New York Times]]}}</ref><ref>{{cite news | url = https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052970204791104577110870328419222 | title = Tiger Mom's Long-Distance Cub | work = The Wall Street Journal | first=Amy | last=Chua | date=December 24, 2011}}</ref> She defines "Chinese mother" loosely to include parents of other ethnic backgrounds who practice traditional, strict child-rearing while also acknowledging that "Western parents come in all varieties" and that not all ethnically Chinese parents necessarily practice strict child-rearing techniques.<ref name="battle-hymn" />{{rp|4}}


Chua also reported that in one study of 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, the vast majority "said that they believe their children can be 'the best' students, that 'academic achievement reflects successful parenting', and that if children did not excel at school then there was 'a problem' and parents 'were not doing their job'". Chua contrasts them with the view she labels "Western"{{spaced ndash}}that a child's [[self-esteem]] is paramount.<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011"/>
Chua also reported that in one study of 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, the vast majority "said that they believe their children can be 'the best' students, the notion that 'academic achievement reflects successful parenting', and that if children did not excel in school, then there was 'a problem' in the household and the parents 'were not doing their job'." Chua contrasts them with the view she labels "Western"{{spaced ndash}}that a child's [[self-esteem]] is paramount.<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011"/>


Chua uses the term "[[Tiger Mother]]" to describe a mother who is a strict disciplinarian. In one extreme example, Chua mentioned that she had called one of her children "garbage", a translation of a term her own father called her on occasion in her family's native [[Hokkien]] dialect. Particularly controversial was the 'Little White Donkey' anecdote, where Chua described how she got her unwilling younger daughter to learn a very difficult piano song: "I hauled Lulu's dollhouse to the car and told her I'd donate it to the [[Salvation Army]] piece by piece if she didn't have '[[The Little White Donkey]]' perfect by the next day. When Lulu said, 'I thought you were going to the Salvation Army, why are you still here?' I threatened her with no lunch, no dinner, no Christmas or Hanukkah presents, no birthday parties for two, three, four years. When she still kept playing it wrong, I told her she was purposely working herself into a frenzy because she was secretly afraid she couldn't do it. I told her to stop being lazy, cowardly, self-indulgent and pathetic." They then "work[ed] right through dinner" without letting her daughter "get up, not for water, not even for bathroom breaks". The anecdote concludes by describing how her daughter was "beaming" after she finally mastered the piece and "wanted to play [it] over and over".<ref name="battle-hymn"/>{{rp|62}}<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011"/>
Chua employs the term "[[Tiger Mother]]" to describe a mother who is a strict disciplinarian. In one extreme example, Chua mentioned that she had called one of her children "garbage", a translation of a term her own father called her on occasion in her family's native [[Hokkien]] dialect. Particularly controversial was the 'Little White Donkey' anecdote, where Chua described how she got her unwilling younger daughter to learn a very difficult piano song: "I hauled Lulu's dollhouse to the car and told her I'd donate it to [[the Salvation Army]] piece by piece if she didn't have '[[The Little White Donkey]]' perfect by the next day. When Lulu said, 'I thought you were going to the Salvation Army, why are you still here?' I threatened her with no lunch, no dinner, no Christmas or Hanukkah presents, no birthday parties for two, three, four years. When she still kept playing it wrong, I told her she was purposely working herself into a frenzy because she was secretly afraid she couldn't do it. I told her to stop being lazy, cowardly, self-indulgent and pathetic." They then "work[ed] right through dinner" without letting her daughter "get up, not for water, not even for bathroom breaks". The anecdote concludes by describing how her daughter was "beaming" after she finally mastered the piece and "wanted to play [it] over and over".<ref name="battle-hymn"/>{{rp|62}}<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011"/>


==Reviews==
==Reviews==
The ''Wall Street Journal'' article generated a huge response, both positive and negative.<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011"/> American political scientist [[Charles Murray (political scientist)|Charles Murray]] argued "large numbers of talented children everywhere would profit from Chua's approach, and instead are frittering away their gifts—they're nice kids, not brats, but they are also self-indulgent and inclined to make excuses for themselves".<ref>{{cite web |last=Murray |first=Charles |url=http://blog.american.com/?p=24765 |title=Amy Chua Bludgeons Entire Generation of Sensitive Parents, Bless Her " The Enterprise Blog |publisher=Blog.american.com |date=January 12, 2011 |access-date=January 28, 2011 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110115042551/http://blog.american.com/?p=24765 |archive-date=January 15, 2011 |url-status=dead }}</ref> In a poll on the ''Wall Street Journal'' website regarding Chua's response to readers, two-thirds of respondents voted that the "Demanding [[East Asia|Eastern]]" parenting model is better than the "Permissive Western" model.<ref name="wsj-jan-13-2011"/> Allison Pearson remarked in ''[[The Daily Telegraph]]'', "Amy Chua's philosophy of child-rearing may be harsh and not for the fainthearted, but ask yourself this: is it really more cruel than the laissez-faire indifference and babysitting-by-TV which too often passes for parenting these days?"<ref name="Allison_Pearson">{{cite news|last=Pearson |first=Allison |url=https://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/8255804/Why-we-all-need-a-Tiger-Mother.html |title=Why we all need a Tiger Mother |publisher=Telegraph |date=January 13, 2011 |access-date=January 28, 2011 |location=London| archive-url= https://web.archive.org/web/20110120111219/http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/8255804/Why-we-all-need-a-Tiger-Mother.html| archive-date= 20 January 2011 | url-status= live}}</ref>


The ''Wall Street Journal'' article generated a huge response, both positive and negative.<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011"/> [[Charles Murray (political scientist)|Charles Murray]] argued that "large numbers of talented children everywhere would profit from Chua's approach, and instead are frittering away their gifts—they're nice kids, not brats, but they are also self-indulgent and inclined to make excuses for themselves".<ref>{{cite web |last=Murray |first=Charles |url=http://blog.american.com/?p=24765 |title=Amy Chua Bludgeons Entire Generation of Sensitive Parents, Bless Her " The Enterprise Blog |publisher=Blog.american.com |date=January 12, 2011 |accessdate=January 28, 2011 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110115042551/http://blog.american.com/?p=24765 |archive-date=2011-01-15 |url-status=dead }}</ref> In a poll on the ''Wall Street Journal'' website regarding Chua's response to readers, two-thirds of respondents voted that the "Demanding Eastern" parenting model is better than the "Permissive Western" model.<ref name="wsj-jan-13-2011"/> Allison Pearson wondered the following in [[The Daily Telegraph]]: "Amy Chua's philosophy of child-rearing may be harsh and not for the fainthearted, but ask yourself this: is it really more cruel than the laissez-faire indifference and babysitting-by-TV which too often passes for parenting these days?"<ref name="Allison_Pearson">{{cite news|last=Pearson |first=Allison |url=https://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/8255804/Why-we-all-need-a-Tiger-Mother.html |title=Why we all need a Tiger Mother |publisher=Telegraph |date=January 13, 2011 |accessdate=January 28, 2011 |location=London| archiveurl= https://web.archive.org/web/20110120111219/http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/8255804/Why-we-all-need-a-Tiger-Mother.html| archivedate= 20 January 2011 | url-status= live}}</ref>
Columnist Annie Paul, writing for ''[[Time (magazine)|Time]]'', describes, "[i]n the 2008 book ''A Nation of Wimps'', author Hara Estroff Marano, editor-at-large of ''[[Psychology Today]]'' magazine, marshals evidence supporting Chua's approach: "Research demonstrates that children who are protected from grappling with difficult tasks don't develop what psychologists call 'mastery experiences'&nbsp;... Kids who have this well-earned sense of mastery are more optimistic and decisive; they've learned that they're capable of overcoming adversity and achieving goals".<ref name="Annie_Murphy">{{cite magazine|last=Murphy |first=Annie |url=http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2043313-3,00.html |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110124160119/http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2043313-3,00.html |url-status=dead |archive-date=January 24, 2011 |title=Tiger Mom: Amy Chua Parenting Memoir Raises American Fears |magazine=[[Time (magazine)|Time]] |date=January 20, 2011 |access-date=January 28, 2011}}</ref> Ann Hulbert of ''[[Slate (magazine)|Slate]]'' remarked on Chua's "shocking honesty about tactics. She has written the kind of exposé usually staged later by former prodigies themselves&nbsp;... [Chua] is a tiger who roars rather than purrs. That's because no child, she points out, naturally clamors for the 'tenacious practice, practice, practice' that mastery demands."<ref name="Ann_Hulbert">{{cite news | last=Hulbert |first=Ann |url= http://www.slate.com/id/2280712/pagenum/all/#p2 |title=Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother: Her new book will make readers gasp |work= [[Slate (magazine)|Slate]]|date=January 11, 2011 |access-date= January 28, 2011| archive-url= https://web.archive.org/web/20110119050521/http://www.slate.com/id/2280712/pagenum/all/| archive-date= January 19, 2011 | url-status= live}}</ref>


Annie Paul, writing for ''[[Time (magazine)|Time]]'', describes, "[i]n the 2008 book ''A Nation of Wimps'', author Hara Estroff Marano, editor-at-large of ''Psychology Today'' magazine, marshals evidence supporting Chua's approach: "Research demonstrates that children who are protected from grappling with difficult tasks don't develop what psychologists call 'mastery experiences'...Kids who have this well-earned sense of mastery are more optimistic and decisive; they've learned that they're capable of overcoming adversity and achieving goals".<ref name="Annie_Murphy">{{cite news|last=Murphy |first=Annie |url=http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2043313-3,00.html |title=Tiger Mom: Amy Chua Parenting Memoir Raises American Fears |publisher=TIME |date=January 20, 2011 |accessdate=January 28, 2011}}</ref> Ann Hulbert of ''[[Slate (magazine)|Slate]]'' remarked on Chua's "shocking honesty about tactics. She has written the kind of exposé usually staged later by former prodigies themselves...[Chua] is a tiger who roars rather than purrs. That's because no child, she points out, naturally clamors for the 'tenacious practice, practice, practice' that mastery demands."<ref name="Ann_Hulbert">{{cite news | last=Hulbert |first=Ann |url= http://www.slate.com/id/2280712/pagenum/all/#p2 |title=Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother: Her new book will make readers gasp |publisher= Slate Magazine |date=January 11, 2011 |accessdate= January 28, 2011| archiveurl= https://web.archive.org/web/20110119050521/http://www.slate.com/id/2280712/pagenum/all/| archivedate= 19 January 2011 | url-status= live}}</ref>
[[MSNBC]] stated that the article "reads alternately like a how-to guide, a satire or a lament".<ref name="Adrienne_Mong">{{cite web |last=Mong |first=Adrienne |url=http://behindthewall.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/01/10/5805977-chinese-or-western-who-wins-the-mommy-war- |title=Behind The Wall Chinese or Western? Who wins the mommy war? |publisher=[[MSNBC]] |access-date=January 28, 2011 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110113232252/http://behindthewall.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/01/10/5805977-chinese-or-western-who-wins-the-mommy-war- |archive-date=January 13, 2011 |url-status=dead }}</ref> MSNBC's critical response goes on to state that "the article sounds so incredible to Western readers—and many Asian ones, too—that many people thought the whole thing was satire&nbsp;... [but] aspects of her essay resonated profoundly with many people, especially Chinese Americans—not necessarily in a good way". In the ''[[Financial Times]]'', Isabel Berwick called the "tiger mother" approach to parenting "the exact opposite of everything that the Western liberal holds dear".<ref>{{cite news|url=http://www.ft.com/cms/s/2/2ebc6d28-1f56-11e0-8c1c-00144feab49a.html#ixzz1C0a7foqy |title=Review: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother | first = Isabel |last = Berwick |journal = [[Financial Times]] |date=January 17, 2011 |access-date=January 28, 2011| archive-url= https://web.archive.org/web/20110120080237/http://www.ft.com/cms/s/2/2ebc6d28-1f56-11e0-8c1c-00144feab49a.html| archive-date= 20 January 2011 | url-status= live}}</ref>


[[David Brooks (journalist)|David Brooks]] of ''[[The New York Times]]'', in an op-ed piece entitled "Amy Chua is a 'Wimp'", wrote that he believed Chua was "coddling her children" because "[m]anaging status rivalries, negotiating [[group dynamics]], understanding [[social norms]], navigating the distinction between self and group—these and other social tests impose cognitive demands that blow away any intense tutoring session or a class at Yale".<ref>{{cite news| url=https://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/18/opinion/18brooks.html | work=The New York Times | first=David | last=Brooks | title=Amy Chua Is a Wimp | date=January 17, 2011}}</ref> ''[[The Washington Post]]'', while not as critical, did suggest that "ending a parenting story when one child is only 15 seems premature".<ref name="Post_Store">{{cite news|url=https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2011/01/07/AR2011010702516.html |title=Amy Chua's "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother," on Chinese-American family culture |newspaper=The Washington Post |date=January 7, 2011 |access-date=January 28, 2011}}</ref>
[[MSNBC]] stated that the article "reads alternately like a how-to guide, a satire or a lament".<ref name="Adrienne_Mong">{{cite web |last=Mong |first=Adrienne |url=http://behindthewall.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/01/10/5805977-chinese-or-western-who-wins-the-mommy-war- |title=Behind The Wall - Chinese or Western? Who wins the mommy war? |publisher=Behindthewall.msnbc.msn.com |accessdate=January 28, 2011 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110113232252/http://behindthewall.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/01/10/5805977-chinese-or-western-who-wins-the-mommy-war- |archive-date=2011-01-13 |url-status=dead }}</ref> MSNBC's critical response goes on to state that "the article sounds so incredible to Western readers—and many Asian ones, too—that many people thought the whole thing was satire...[but] aspects of her essay resonated profoundly with many people, especially Chinese Americans—not necessarily in a good way". In the ''[[Financial Times]]'', Isabel Berwick called the "tiger mother" approach to parenting "the exact opposite of everything that the Western liberal holds dear".<ref>{{cite news|url=http://www.ft.com/cms/s/2/2ebc6d28-1f56-11e0-8c1c-00144feab49a.html#ixzz1C0a7foqy |title=Review: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother | first = Isabel |last = Berwick |publisher=The Financial Times, Ltd. |journal = Financial Times |date=January 17, 2011 |accessdate=January 28, 2011| archiveurl= https://web.archive.org/web/20110120080237/http://www.ft.com/cms/s/2/2ebc6d28-1f56-11e0-8c1c-00144feab49a.html| archivedate= 20 January 2011 | url-status= live}}</ref>


Others have noted that the ''Wall Street Journal'' article took excerpts only from the beginning of the book, and not from any of the later chapters in which Chua describes her retreat from what she calls "Chinese" parenting. Author [[Amy Gutman]] felt many have missed the point of Chua's book, which she described as "[[coming of age]]", and states the controversial examples shown in the book "reflect where Chua started, not who she is today, and passing judgment on her based on them strikes me as a bit akin to passing judgment on [[Jane Austen]]'s ''[[Emma (novel)|Emma]]'' for her churlish behaviour to Miss Bates. Like Emma's, Chua's narrative has an arc. It's a coming-of-age story—where the one to come of age is the parent".<ref>{{cite news|url=http://www.huffingtonpost.com/amy-gutman/tiger-mother-debate_b_810515.html|title=Rousing the Tiger Mother Inside Me|author=Amy Gutman|author-link=Amy Gutman| work =[[The Huffington Post]]|date=November 17, 2011}}</ref>
[[David Brooks (journalist)|David Brooks]] of ''[[The New York Times]]'', in an op-ed piece entitled "Amy Chua is a 'Wimp'", wrote that he believed Chua was "coddling her children" because "[m]anaging status rivalries, negotiating [[group dynamics]], understanding [[social norms]], navigating the distinction between self and group—these and other social tests impose cognitive demands that blow away any intense tutoring session or a class at Yale".<ref>{{cite news| url=https://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/18/opinion/18brooks.html | work= New York Times | first=David | last=Brooks | title=Amy Chua Is a Wimp | date=January 17, 2011}}</ref> ''[[The Washington Post]]'', while not as critical, did suggest that "ending a parenting story when one child is only 15 seems premature".<ref name="Post_Store">{{cite news|url=https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2011/01/07/AR2011010702516.html |title=Amy Chua's "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother," on Chinese-American family culture |publisher=Washington Post |date=January 7, 2011 |accessdate=January 28, 2011}}</ref>


[[Jon Carroll]] of the ''[[San Francisco Chronicle]]'' felt the excerpts in the ''Wall Street Journal'' article failed to represent the content in Chua's book and states that "the excerpt was chosen by the editors of the Journal and the publishers. The editors wanted to make a sensation; the publishers want to sell books" but "it does not tell the whole story."<ref>{{cite news|url=http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/01/19/DDNG1HATR0.DTL |title= The Tiger Mother speaks | work = [[San Francisco Chronicle]] |author=Jon Carroll |author-link=Jon Carroll |date=January 20, 2011}}</ref> A spokeswoman for the ''Wall Street Journal'' told the ''[[Columbia Journalism Review]]'' that "[w]e worked extensively with Amy's publisher, as we always do with book excerpts, and they signed off on the chosen extract in advance".<ref name="chittum"/> Chua maintains that the ''Wall Street Journal'' "basically strung together the most controversial sections of the book. And I had no idea they'd put that kind of a title on it".<ref name="chittum">{{cite web | last=Chittum | first=Ryan | title= Audit Notes: Financial Capture, Homeless, Amy Chua Criticizes WSJ | url= https://www.cjr.org/the_audit/audit_notes_financial_capture.php | date=January 13, 2011 | work = Columbia Journalism Review }}</ref>
Others have noted that the ''Wall Street Journal'' article took excerpts only from the beginning of the book, and not from any of the later chapters in which Chua describes her retreat from what she calls "Chinese" parenting. Author [[Amy Gutman]] felt many have missed the point of Chua's book, which she described as "[[coming of age]]", and states the controversial examples shown in the book "reflect where Chua started, not who she is today, and passing judgment on her based on them strikes me as a bit akin to passing judgment on [[Jane Austen]]'s ''[[Emma (novel)|Emma]]'' for her churlish behavior to Miss Bates. Like Emma's, Chua's narrative has an arc. It's a coming-of-age story—where the one to come of age is the parent".<ref>{{cite news|url=http://www.huffingtonpost.com/amy-gutman/tiger-mother-debate_b_810515.html|title=Rousing the Tiger Mother Inside Me|author=[[Amy Gutman]]| work =[[The Huffington Post]]|date=November 17, 2011}}</ref>


On March 29, 2011, the ''Wall Street Journal'' organized an event called "The Return of Tiger Mom" in the [[New York Public Library]].<ref>[https://blogs.wsj.com/ideas-market/2011/03/30/tiger-mother-and-family-live-on-stage "Tiger Mother and Family, Live on Stage"], ''WSJ'' Blogs, March 30, 2011</ref> This event discussed different aspects of child-raising, in a more nuanced and sensible manner, compared to controversy which the book had previously provoked. Amy Chua's husband, [[Jed Rubenfeld]], and their two daughters also attended the event. Rubenfeld, who has become known as "Tiger Dad", said that he does not believe the Tiger Mom education method representative of Chinese education, but rather a more traditional old-fashioned style.<ref>[http://www.thinkingchinese.com/index.php?page_id=262 华裔"虎妈"纽约分享育儿心得 Chinese descendent 'Tiger Mom' shared her child-raising insights in New-York], [http://www.thinkingchinese.com/ ThinkingChinese.com], April 22nd, 2011</ref> He and Chua expressed a more liberal attitude compared with the ''Wall Street Journal''{{'}}s article, while still stressing the importance of discipline in a child's early years.
[[Jon Carroll]] of the ''[[San Francisco Chronicle]]'' felt the excerpts in the ''Wall Street Journal'' article failed to represent the content in Chua's book and states that "the excerpt was chosen by the editors of the Journal and the publishers. The editors wanted to make a sensation; the publishers want to sell books" but "it does not tell the whole story."<ref>{{cite news|url=http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/01/19/DDNG1HATR0.DTL |title= The Tiger Mother speaks | work = [[San Francisco Chronicle]] |author=[[Jon Carroll]]|date=January 20, 2011}}</ref> A spokeswoman for the ''Wall Street Journal'' told the ''[[Columbia Journalism Review]]'' that "[w]e worked extensively with Amy's publisher, as we always do with book excerpts, and they signed off on the chosen extract in advance".<ref name="chittum"/> Chua maintains that the ''Wall Street Journal'' "basically strung together the most controversial sections of the book. And I had no idea they'd put that kind of a title on it".<ref name="chittum">{{cite web | last=Chittum | first=Ryan | title= Audit Notes: Financial Capture, Homeless, Amy Chua Criticizes WSJ | url= http://www.cjr.org/the_audit/audit_notes_financial_capture.php | date=January 13, 2011 | work = Columbia Journalism Review }}</ref>


The book was on the [[The New York Times Best Seller list|''New York Times'' bestseller list]] from January 30 to April 10, 2011.<ref>{{cite news|title=Best Sellers|url=https://www.nytimes.com/best-sellers-books/2011-04-10/hardcover-nonfiction/list.html|access-date=April 17, 2016|work=The New York Times|date=January 2011}}</ref>
On March 29, 2011, the ''Wall Street Journal'' organized an event called "The Return of Tiger Mom" in the [[New York Public Library]].<ref>[https://blogs.wsj.com/ideas-market/2011/03/30/tiger-mother-and-family-live-on-stage "Tiger Mother and Family, Live on Stage"], ''WSJ'' Blogs, March 30, 2011</ref> This event discussed different aspects of child-raising, in a more nuanced and sensible manner, compared to controversy which the book had previously provoked. Amy Chua's husband, Jed Rubenfeld, and their two daughters also attended the event. Rubenfeld, who has become known as "Tiger Dad", said that he doesn't see the Tiger Mom education method as a representative of Chinese education, but rather a more traditional old-fashioned style.<ref>[http://www.thinkingchinese.com/index.php?page_id=262 华裔"虎妈"纽约分享育儿心得 - Chinese descendent 'Tiger Mom' shared her child-raising insights in New-York], [http://www.thinkingchinese.com/ ThinkingChinese.com], April 22nd, 2011</ref> He and Chua expressed a more liberal attitude compared with the ''Wall Street Journal'''s article, while still stressing the importance of discipline in a child's early years.

The book was on ''[[The New York Times]]'' bestseller list from January 30 to April 10, 2011.<ref>{{cite news|title=Best Sellers|url=https://www.nytimes.com/best-sellers-books/2011-04-10/hardcover-nonfiction/list.html|accessdate=17 April 2016|work=[[The New York Times]]|date=January 2011}}</ref>


===Chua's defense===
===Chua's defense===
Chua has openly confronted criticism in print and during her [[book signing]]s.<ref>{{cite web|author=IClaudio |url=http://iclaudio2000.blogspot.com/2011/01/amy-chua-aka-tiger-mom-book-tour-review.html |title=I Claudio: Amy Chua aka "Tiger Mom" Book Tour Review |publisher=Iclaudio2000.blogspot.com |date=January 22, 2011 |accessdate=January 28, 2011}}</ref>
Chua has openly confronted criticism in print and during her [[book signing]]s.<ref>{{cite web|author=IClaudio |url=http://iclaudio2000.blogspot.com/2011/01/amy-chua-aka-tiger-mom-book-tour-review.html |title=I Claudio: Amy Chua aka "Tiger Mom" Book Tour Review |publisher=Iclaudio2000.blogspot.com |date=January 22, 2011 |access-date=January 28, 2011}}</ref>
In a follow-up article in the ''Wall Street Journal'', Chua explains that "my actual book is not a how-to guide; it's a memoir, the story of our family's journey in two cultures, and my own eventual transformation as a mother. Much of the book is about my decision to retreat from the strict 'Chinese' approach, after my younger daughter rebelled at thirteen".<ref name="wsj-jan-13-2011">{{cite news | title=The Tiger Mother Responds to Readers | url=https://blogs.wsj.com/ideas-market/2011/01/13/the-tiger-mother-responds-to-readers | work =Wall Street Journal | date=January 13, 2011 }}</ref>
In a follow-up article in the ''Wall Street Journal'', Chua explains that "my actual book is not a how-to guide; it's a memoir, the story of our family's journey in two cultures, and my own eventual transformation as a mother. Much of the book is about my decision to retreat from the strict 'Chinese' approach, after my younger daughter rebelled at thirteen".<ref name="wsj-jan-13-2011">{{cite news | title=The Tiger Mother Responds to Readers | url=https://blogs.wsj.com/ideas-market/2011/01/13/the-tiger-mother-responds-to-readers | work =Wall Street Journal | date=January 13, 2011 }}</ref>


In an interview with [[Jezebel (website)|Jezebel]], Chua addresses why she believes the book has hit such a chord with parents: "We parents, including me, are all so anxious about whether we're doing the right thing. You can never know the results. It's this latent anxiety."<ref>{{cite web|url=http://jezebel.com/5741872/tiger-mom-amy-chua-has-feelings-too |title=Tiger Mom Amy Chua Has Feelings Too | work =Jezebel |date =January 24, 2011 |accessdate=January 28, 2011}}</ref> In a conversation with ''[[Die Zeit]]'', Chua says about her book: "I would never burn the stuffed animals of my children—that was a hyperbole, an exaggeration. I have intensified many situations to clarify my position". She adds that the book "was therapy for me at the time of a great defeat".<ref>{{cite news | title=Amy Chua:In der Höhle der Tigerin (In the tigeress' den) | url=http://www.zeit.de/2011/11/Tiger-Mom-Amy-Chua | work = Die Zeit | date=March 10, 2011 }}</ref><ref>The original English transcript of the interview with Amy Chua is not available. The quote was translated by Die Zeit to German and was then translated back to English by Wikipedia users. For details about various translation options see the discussion page. The quote reads in German as follows: "Niemals würde ich die Stofftiere meiner Kinder verbrennen – das war ein Stilmittel, eine Übertreibung. Ich habe viele Situationen zugespitzt, um meine Position klarzumachen. (...) Es war für mich Therapie im Moment einer großen Niederlage."</ref>
In an interview with ''[[Jezebel (website)|Jezebel]]'', Chua addresses why she believes the book has hit such a chord with parents: "We parents, including me, are all so anxious about whether we're doing the right thing. You can never know the results. It's this latent anxiety."<ref>{{cite web|url=http://jezebel.com/5741872/tiger-mom-amy-chua-has-feelings-too |title=Tiger Mom Amy Chua Has Feelings Too | work =Jezebel |date =January 24, 2011 |access-date=January 28, 2011}}</ref> In a conversation with ''[[Die Zeit]]'', Chua says about her book: "I would never burn the stuffed animals of my children—that was a hyperbole, an exaggeration. I have intensified many situations to clarify my position". She adds that the book "was therapy for me at the time of a great defeat".<ref>{{cite news | title=Amy Chua:In der Höhle der Tigerin (In the tigeress' den) | url=http://www.zeit.de/2011/11/Tiger-Mom-Amy-Chua | work = Die Zeit | date=March 10, 2011 }}</ref><ref>The original English transcript of the interview with Amy Chua is not available. The quote was translated by Die Zeit to German and was then translated back to English by Wikipedia users. For details about various translation options see the discussion page. The quote reads in German as follows: "Niemals würde ich die Stofftiere meiner Kinder verbrennen – das war ein Stilmittel, eine Übertreibung. Ich habe viele Situationen zugespitzt, um meine Position klarzumachen. (...) Es war für mich Therapie im Moment einer großen Niederlage."</ref>


=== Reaction by Chua's daughter Sophia ===
=== Reaction by Chua's daughter Sophia ===
On January 17, 2011, an [[open letter]] from Chua's older daughter, Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld, to her mother was published in the ''[[New York Post]]''.<ref name="nyp-jan-17-2011">{{cite news | last=Chua-Rubenfeld | first=Sophia | title=Why I love my strict Chinese mom | url=https://nypost.com/2011/01/18/why-i-love-my-strict-chinese-mom | date=January 17, 2011 | work =[[New York Post]] | accessdate=July 10, 2014 }}</ref> Sophia's letter defends her parents' child-rearing methods and states that she and her sister were not oppressed by an "evil mother". She discusses some of the incidents that have been criticized as unduly harsh, and explains that they were not as bad as they sound out of context. She ends the letter saying, "If I died tomorrow, I would die feeling I've lived my whole life at 110 percent. And for that, Tiger Mom, thank you."<ref name="nyp-jan-17-2011"/>
On January 17, 2011, an [[open letter]] from Chua's older daughter, Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld, to her mother was published in the ''[[New York Post]]''.<ref name="nyp-jan-17-2011">{{cite news | last=Chua-Rubenfeld | first=Sophia | title=Why I love my strict Chinese mom | url=https://nypost.com/2011/01/18/why-i-love-my-strict-chinese-mom | date=January 17, 2011 | work =[[New York Post]] | access-date=July 10, 2014 }}</ref> Sophia's letter defends her parents' child-rearing methods and states that she and her sister were not oppressed by an "evil mother". She discusses some of the incidents that have been criticized as unduly harsh, and explains that they were not as bad as they sound out of context. She ends the letter saying, "If I died tomorrow, I would die feeling I've lived my whole life at 110 percent. And for that, Tiger Mom, thank you."<ref name="nyp-jan-17-2011"/>


== In popular culture ==
== In popular culture ==
The term and behavior of the "Tiger Mother" has been satirized in the online anthropomorphic animal comic strip series ''[[Kevin and Kell]]''<ref>{{cite web|url=http://kevinandkell.com/2011/kk0322.html|title=Tuesday Mar, 22 2011 - Kevin & Kell|work=kevinandkell.com}}</ref> with the recurring characters Mei-Li Lee and her raising methods with her daughter Lin as well as in attitude, although it's been noted that she is not actually a tigress but a [[tabby cat]] who "willed" (assimilated) herself into becoming a tiger through sheer effort, and is married to a tiger.<ref>{{cite web|url=http://kevinandkell.com/2011/kk0321.html|title=Monday Mar, 21 2011 - Kevin & Kell|work=kevinandkell.com}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|url=http://kevinandkell.com/2012/kk1213.html|title=Thursday Dec, 13 2012 - Kevin & Kell|work=kevinandkell.com}}</ref>
The term and behavior of the "Tiger Mother" has been satirized in the online anthropomorphic animal comic strip series ''[[Kevin and Kell]]''<ref>{{cite web|url=http://kevinandkell.com/2011/kk0322.html|title=Tuesday Mar, 22 2011 Kevin & Kell|work=kevinandkell.com}}</ref> with the recurring characters Mei-Li Lee and her raising methods with her daughter Lin as well as in attitude, although it has been noted that she is not actually a tigress but a [[tabby cat]] who "willed" (assimilated) herself into becoming a tiger through sheer effort, and is married to a tiger.<ref>{{cite web|url=http://kevinandkell.com/2011/kk0321.html|title=Monday Mar, 21 2011 Kevin & Kell|work=kevinandkell.com}}</ref><ref>{{cite web|url=http://kevinandkell.com/2012/kk1213.html|title=Thursday Dec, 13 2012 Kevin & Kell|work=kevinandkell.com}}</ref>


"Bios for New York's Most Popular Tutors", a humor article by [[Ryan Max Riley]] on [[CollegeHumor]], explicitly satirizes [[Amy Chua]]'s ''Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother''.<ref name="Riley">{{cite news|first=Ryan Max |last=Riley |url=http://www.collegehumor.com/article/6920322/tutor-bios/ |title=Bios for New York's Most Popular Tutors |publisher=CollegeHumor |date=10 October 2013 |accessdate=October 10, 2013}}</ref> Tiger mom is described in the article as "the best known teacher", and among many other accomplishments, "her students achieve standardized test scores that range from perfect to perfect with less bruising and blood loss but the same amount of shame".<ref name="Riley" /> The "students become so proficient at piano that they can embed hidden SOS messages in songs during concert performances".<ref name="Riley" />
"Bios for New York's Most Popular Tutors", a humor article by [[Ryan Max Riley]] on [[CollegeHumor]], explicitly satirizes [[Amy Chua]]'s ''Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother''.<ref name="Riley">{{cite news|first=Ryan Max |last=Riley |url=http://www.collegehumor.com/article/6920322/tutor-bios/ |title=Bios for New York's Most Popular Tutors |publisher=CollegeHumor |date=10 October 2013 |access-date=October 10, 2013}}</ref> Tiger mom is described in the article as "the best known teacher", and among many other accomplishments, "her students achieve standardized test scores that range from perfect to perfect with less bruising and blood loss but the same amount of shame".<ref name="Riley" /> The "students become so proficient at piano that they can embed hidden SOS messages in songs during concert performances".<ref name="Riley" />


===Neologism===
===Neologism===
The term ''tiger mom'' or ''tiger mother'' has been used as a [[neologism]] used to describe a tough, disciplinarian mother<ref>{{cite news | url=http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2043477,00.html | title=Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really the Answer? | work=[[Time Magazine]] | date=Jan 20, 2011 | accessdate=22 July 2013 | author=Paul, Annie Murphy}}</ref> due to the way [[Amy Chua]] describes bringing up her children in the strict, traditional Chinese way.<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011" /><ref name="Allison_Pearson" /><ref name="Annie_Murphy" /><ref name="Ann_Hulbert" /><ref name="Adrienne_Mong" /><ref name="Post_Store" />
The term ''tiger mom'' or ''tiger mother'' has been used as a [[neologism]] used to describe a tough, disciplinarian mother<ref>{{cite magazine | url=http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2043477,00.html | archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20110625115448/http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2043477,00.html | url-status=dead | archive-date=June 25, 2011 | title=Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really the Answer? | magazine=Time | date=Jan 20, 2011 | access-date=22 July 2013 | author=Paul, Annie Murphy}}</ref> due to the way [[Amy Chua]] describes bringing up her children in the strict, traditional Chinese way.<ref name="wsj-jan-8-2011" /><ref name="Allison_Pearson" /><ref name="Annie_Murphy" /><ref name="Ann_Hulbert" /><ref name="Adrienne_Mong" /><ref name="Post_Store" />


===Public reference by David Cameron===
===Public reference by David Cameron===
In a speech in January 2016, British Prime Minister [[David Cameron]] praised "tiger mums" as he laid out his strategy for tackling child poverty in the United Kingdom.<ref name="times">{{cite web|last1=Coates|first1=Sam|title=All children should have 'tiger mums' - Cameron|url=http://www.thetimes.co.uk/tto/news/politics/article4662945.ece|website=The Times|accessdate=22 February 2016}}</ref> In a speech he stated, "No matter how clever you are, if you do not believe in continued hard work and concentration, and if you do not believe that you can return from failure, you will not fulfill your potential. It is what the Tiger Mothers' battle hymn is all about: work, try hard, believe you can succeed, get up and try again."<ref>{{cite web | url=http://www.walesonline.co.uk/lifestyle/lifestyle-opinion/parenting-isnt-being-tiger-mum-10728816 | title=Why parenting isn't about being a Tiger Mum, Mr Cameron | publisher=Wales Online | date=16 January 2016 | accessdate=26 March 2016 | author=Mainwaring, Rachel}}</ref> The Prime Minister also criticized schools that have a culture where all children are rewarded prizes and insisted that "children thrive on high expectations."<ref name="times" />
In a speech in January 2016, British Prime Minister [[David Cameron]] praised "tiger mums" as he laid out his strategy for tackling [[child poverty]] in the United Kingdom.<ref name="times">{{cite news|last1=Coates|first1=Sam|title=All children should have 'tiger mums' Cameron|url=http://www.thetimes.co.uk/tto/news/politics/article4662945.ece|website=[[The Times]]|access-date=22 February 2016}}</ref> In a speech he stated, "No matter how clever you are, if you do not believe in continued hard work and concentration, and if you do not believe that you can return from failure, you will not fulfill your potential. It is what the Tiger Mothers' battle hymn is all about: work, try hard, believe you can succeed, get up and try again."<ref>{{cite web | url=http://www.walesonline.co.uk/lifestyle/lifestyle-opinion/parenting-isnt-being-tiger-mum-10728816 | title=Why parenting isn't about being a Tiger Mum, Mr Cameron | publisher=Wales Online | date=16 January 2016 | access-date=26 March 2016 | author=Mainwaring, Rachel}}</ref> The Prime Minister also criticized schools that have a culture where all children are rewarded prizes and insisted that "children thrive on high expectations."<ref name="times" />


== See also ==
== See also ==
* ''[[Harvard Girl]]''
* [[Helicopter parent]]
* [[Helicopter parent]]
* [[Kyōiku mama]], the original concept in 1960s Japanese culture
* [[Kyōiku mama]], the concept in 1960s Japanese culture


==References==
==References==
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Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
AuthorAmy Chua
LanguageEnglish
SubjectFamily and parenting
GenreEducation, parenting, memoir
PublisherPenguin Group
Publication date
2011
Publication placeUnited States
Pages240
ISBN978-1-59420-284-1

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is a book by American author and law professor Amy Chua that was published in 2011.[1][2] It quickly popularized the concept and term "tiger mother".

Summary

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The complete blurb of the book reads: "This is a story about a mother, two daughters, and two dogs. This was supposed to be a story of how Chinese parents are better at raising kids than Western ones. But instead, it's about a bitter clash of cultures, a fleeting taste of glory, and how I was humbled by a thirteen-year-old."[3]

An article published under the headline "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior" in The Wall Street Journal on January 8, 2011, contained excerpts from her book in which Chua recounts her efforts to give her children what she describes as a traditional, strict "Chinese" Confucian-style upbringing.[4] This piece was controversial, as many readers believed that Chua was advocating the "superiority" of a particular, very strict, ethnically defined approach to parenting. In response, Chua has stated that the book was not a "how-to" manual, but rather a self-mocking memoir.[5][6] She defines "Chinese mother" loosely to include parents of other ethnic backgrounds who practice traditional, strict child-rearing while also acknowledging that "Western parents come in all varieties" and that not all ethnically Chinese parents necessarily practice strict child-rearing techniques.[3]: 4 

Chua also reported that in one study of 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, the vast majority "said that they believe their children can be 'the best' students, the notion that 'academic achievement reflects successful parenting', and that if children did not excel in school, then there was 'a problem' in the household and the parents 'were not doing their job'." Chua contrasts them with the view she labels "Western" – that a child's self-esteem is paramount.[4]

Chua employs the term "Tiger Mother" to describe a mother who is a strict disciplinarian. In one extreme example, Chua mentioned that she had called one of her children "garbage", a translation of a term her own father called her on occasion in her family's native Hokkien dialect. Particularly controversial was the 'Little White Donkey' anecdote, where Chua described how she got her unwilling younger daughter to learn a very difficult piano song: "I hauled Lulu's dollhouse to the car and told her I'd donate it to the Salvation Army piece by piece if she didn't have 'The Little White Donkey' perfect by the next day. When Lulu said, 'I thought you were going to the Salvation Army, why are you still here?' I threatened her with no lunch, no dinner, no Christmas or Hanukkah presents, no birthday parties for two, three, four years. When she still kept playing it wrong, I told her she was purposely working herself into a frenzy because she was secretly afraid she couldn't do it. I told her to stop being lazy, cowardly, self-indulgent and pathetic." They then "work[ed] right through dinner" without letting her daughter "get up, not for water, not even for bathroom breaks". The anecdote concludes by describing how her daughter was "beaming" after she finally mastered the piece and "wanted to play [it] over and over".[3]: 62 [4]

Reviews

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The Wall Street Journal article generated a huge response, both positive and negative.[4] American political scientist Charles Murray argued "large numbers of talented children everywhere would profit from Chua's approach, and instead are frittering away their gifts—they're nice kids, not brats, but they are also self-indulgent and inclined to make excuses for themselves".[7] In a poll on the Wall Street Journal website regarding Chua's response to readers, two-thirds of respondents voted that the "Demanding Eastern" parenting model is better than the "Permissive Western" model.[8] Allison Pearson remarked in The Daily Telegraph, "Amy Chua's philosophy of child-rearing may be harsh and not for the fainthearted, but ask yourself this: is it really more cruel than the laissez-faire indifference and babysitting-by-TV which too often passes for parenting these days?"[9]

Columnist Annie Paul, writing for Time, describes, "[i]n the 2008 book A Nation of Wimps, author Hara Estroff Marano, editor-at-large of Psychology Today magazine, marshals evidence supporting Chua's approach: "Research demonstrates that children who are protected from grappling with difficult tasks don't develop what psychologists call 'mastery experiences' ... Kids who have this well-earned sense of mastery are more optimistic and decisive; they've learned that they're capable of overcoming adversity and achieving goals".[10] Ann Hulbert of Slate remarked on Chua's "shocking honesty about tactics. She has written the kind of exposé usually staged later by former prodigies themselves ... [Chua] is a tiger who roars rather than purrs. That's because no child, she points out, naturally clamors for the 'tenacious practice, practice, practice' that mastery demands."[11]

MSNBC stated that the article "reads alternately like a how-to guide, a satire or a lament".[12] MSNBC's critical response goes on to state that "the article sounds so incredible to Western readers—and many Asian ones, too—that many people thought the whole thing was satire ... [but] aspects of her essay resonated profoundly with many people, especially Chinese Americans—not necessarily in a good way". In the Financial Times, Isabel Berwick called the "tiger mother" approach to parenting "the exact opposite of everything that the Western liberal holds dear".[13]

David Brooks of The New York Times, in an op-ed piece entitled "Amy Chua is a 'Wimp'", wrote that he believed Chua was "coddling her children" because "[m]anaging status rivalries, negotiating group dynamics, understanding social norms, navigating the distinction between self and group—these and other social tests impose cognitive demands that blow away any intense tutoring session or a class at Yale".[14] The Washington Post, while not as critical, did suggest that "ending a parenting story when one child is only 15 seems premature".[15]

Others have noted that the Wall Street Journal article took excerpts only from the beginning of the book, and not from any of the later chapters in which Chua describes her retreat from what she calls "Chinese" parenting. Author Amy Gutman felt many have missed the point of Chua's book, which she described as "coming of age", and states the controversial examples shown in the book "reflect where Chua started, not who she is today, and passing judgment on her based on them strikes me as a bit akin to passing judgment on Jane Austen's Emma for her churlish behaviour to Miss Bates. Like Emma's, Chua's narrative has an arc. It's a coming-of-age story—where the one to come of age is the parent".[16]

Jon Carroll of the San Francisco Chronicle felt the excerpts in the Wall Street Journal article failed to represent the content in Chua's book and states that "the excerpt was chosen by the editors of the Journal and the publishers. The editors wanted to make a sensation; the publishers want to sell books" but "it does not tell the whole story."[17] A spokeswoman for the Wall Street Journal told the Columbia Journalism Review that "[w]e worked extensively with Amy's publisher, as we always do with book excerpts, and they signed off on the chosen extract in advance".[18] Chua maintains that the Wall Street Journal "basically strung together the most controversial sections of the book. And I had no idea they'd put that kind of a title on it".[18]

On March 29, 2011, the Wall Street Journal organized an event called "The Return of Tiger Mom" in the New York Public Library.[19] This event discussed different aspects of child-raising, in a more nuanced and sensible manner, compared to controversy which the book had previously provoked. Amy Chua's husband, Jed Rubenfeld, and their two daughters also attended the event. Rubenfeld, who has become known as "Tiger Dad", said that he does not believe the Tiger Mom education method representative of Chinese education, but rather a more traditional old-fashioned style.[20] He and Chua expressed a more liberal attitude compared with the Wall Street Journal's article, while still stressing the importance of discipline in a child's early years.

The book was on the New York Times bestseller list from January 30 to April 10, 2011.[21]

Chua's defense

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Chua has openly confronted criticism in print and during her book signings.[22] In a follow-up article in the Wall Street Journal, Chua explains that "my actual book is not a how-to guide; it's a memoir, the story of our family's journey in two cultures, and my own eventual transformation as a mother. Much of the book is about my decision to retreat from the strict 'Chinese' approach, after my younger daughter rebelled at thirteen".[8]

In an interview with Jezebel, Chua addresses why she believes the book has hit such a chord with parents: "We parents, including me, are all so anxious about whether we're doing the right thing. You can never know the results. It's this latent anxiety."[23] In a conversation with Die Zeit, Chua says about her book: "I would never burn the stuffed animals of my children—that was a hyperbole, an exaggeration. I have intensified many situations to clarify my position". She adds that the book "was therapy for me at the time of a great defeat".[24][25]

Reaction by Chua's daughter Sophia

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On January 17, 2011, an open letter from Chua's older daughter, Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld, to her mother was published in the New York Post.[26] Sophia's letter defends her parents' child-rearing methods and states that she and her sister were not oppressed by an "evil mother". She discusses some of the incidents that have been criticized as unduly harsh, and explains that they were not as bad as they sound out of context. She ends the letter saying, "If I died tomorrow, I would die feeling I've lived my whole life at 110 percent. And for that, Tiger Mom, thank you."[26]

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The term and behavior of the "Tiger Mother" has been satirized in the online anthropomorphic animal comic strip series Kevin and Kell[27] with the recurring characters Mei-Li Lee and her raising methods with her daughter Lin as well as in attitude, although it has been noted that she is not actually a tigress but a tabby cat who "willed" (assimilated) herself into becoming a tiger through sheer effort, and is married to a tiger.[28][29]

"Bios for New York's Most Popular Tutors", a humor article by Ryan Max Riley on CollegeHumor, explicitly satirizes Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.[30] Tiger mom is described in the article as "the best known teacher", and among many other accomplishments, "her students achieve standardized test scores that range from perfect to perfect with less bruising and blood loss but the same amount of shame".[30] The "students become so proficient at piano that they can embed hidden SOS messages in songs during concert performances".[30]

Neologism

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The term tiger mom or tiger mother has been used as a neologism used to describe a tough, disciplinarian mother[31] due to the way Amy Chua describes bringing up her children in the strict, traditional Chinese way.[4][9][10][11][12][15]

Public reference by David Cameron

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In a speech in January 2016, British Prime Minister David Cameron praised "tiger mums" as he laid out his strategy for tackling child poverty in the United Kingdom.[32] In a speech he stated, "No matter how clever you are, if you do not believe in continued hard work and concentration, and if you do not believe that you can return from failure, you will not fulfill your potential. It is what the Tiger Mothers' battle hymn is all about: work, try hard, believe you can succeed, get up and try again."[33] The Prime Minister also criticized schools that have a culture where all children are rewarded prizes and insisted that "children thrive on high expectations."[32]

See also

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References

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  1. ^ Terry Hong, Special to The Chronicle (January 9, 2011). "San Francisco Chronicle review of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother". Sfgate.com. Archived from the original on 21 January 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  2. ^ Elizabeth Chang (January 7, 2011). "Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, on Chinese-American family culture". The Washington Post.
  3. ^ a b c Chua, Amy (January 11, 2011). Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. Penguin Press Hard Cover. ISBN 978-1-59420-284-1. Retrieved January 15, 2012.
  4. ^ a b c d e Chua, Amy (January 8, 2011). "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior". Wall Street Journal. Archived from the original on February 14, 2011.
  5. ^ Zernike, Kate (January 14, 2011). "Retreat of the 'Tiger Mother'". The New York Times. Retrieved December 25, 2011. ironic and self-mocking ... Here's what I did, and boy did I learn a lesson.
  6. ^ Chua, Amy (December 24, 2011). "Tiger Mom's Long-Distance Cub". The Wall Street Journal.
  7. ^ Murray, Charles (January 12, 2011). "Amy Chua Bludgeons Entire Generation of Sensitive Parents, Bless Her " The Enterprise Blog". Blog.american.com. Archived from the original on January 15, 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  8. ^ a b "The Tiger Mother Responds to Readers". Wall Street Journal. January 13, 2011.
  9. ^ a b Pearson, Allison (January 13, 2011). "Why we all need a Tiger Mother". London: Telegraph. Archived from the original on 20 January 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  10. ^ a b Murphy, Annie (January 20, 2011). "Tiger Mom: Amy Chua Parenting Memoir Raises American Fears". Time. Archived from the original on January 24, 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  11. ^ a b Hulbert, Ann (January 11, 2011). "Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother: Her new book will make readers gasp". Slate. Archived from the original on January 19, 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  12. ^ a b Mong, Adrienne. "Behind The Wall – Chinese or Western? Who wins the mommy war?". MSNBC. Archived from the original on January 13, 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  13. ^ Berwick, Isabel (January 17, 2011). "Review: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother". Financial Times. Archived from the original on 20 January 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  14. ^ Brooks, David (January 17, 2011). "Amy Chua Is a Wimp". The New York Times.
  15. ^ a b "Amy Chua's "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother," on Chinese-American family culture". The Washington Post. January 7, 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  16. ^ Amy Gutman (November 17, 2011). "Rousing the Tiger Mother Inside Me". The Huffington Post.
  17. ^ Jon Carroll (January 20, 2011). "The Tiger Mother speaks". San Francisco Chronicle.
  18. ^ a b Chittum, Ryan (January 13, 2011). "Audit Notes: Financial Capture, Homeless, Amy Chua Criticizes WSJ". Columbia Journalism Review.
  19. ^ "Tiger Mother and Family, Live on Stage", WSJ Blogs, March 30, 2011
  20. ^ 华裔"虎妈"纽约分享育儿心得 – Chinese descendent 'Tiger Mom' shared her child-raising insights in New-York, ThinkingChinese.com, April 22nd, 2011
  21. ^ "Best Sellers". The New York Times. January 2011. Retrieved April 17, 2016.
  22. ^ IClaudio (January 22, 2011). "I Claudio: Amy Chua aka "Tiger Mom" Book Tour Review". Iclaudio2000.blogspot.com. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  23. ^ "Tiger Mom Amy Chua Has Feelings Too". Jezebel. January 24, 2011. Retrieved January 28, 2011.
  24. ^ "Amy Chua:In der Höhle der Tigerin (In the tigeress' den)". Die Zeit. March 10, 2011.
  25. ^ The original English transcript of the interview with Amy Chua is not available. The quote was translated by Die Zeit to German and was then translated back to English by Wikipedia users. For details about various translation options see the discussion page. The quote reads in German as follows: "Niemals würde ich die Stofftiere meiner Kinder verbrennen – das war ein Stilmittel, eine Übertreibung. Ich habe viele Situationen zugespitzt, um meine Position klarzumachen. (...) Es war für mich Therapie im Moment einer großen Niederlage."
  26. ^ a b Chua-Rubenfeld, Sophia (January 17, 2011). "Why I love my strict Chinese mom". New York Post. Retrieved July 10, 2014.
  27. ^ "Tuesday Mar, 22 2011 – Kevin & Kell". kevinandkell.com.
  28. ^ "Monday Mar, 21 2011 – Kevin & Kell". kevinandkell.com.
  29. ^ "Thursday Dec, 13 2012 – Kevin & Kell". kevinandkell.com.
  30. ^ a b c Riley, Ryan Max (10 October 2013). "Bios for New York's Most Popular Tutors". CollegeHumor. Retrieved October 10, 2013.
  31. ^ Paul, Annie Murphy (Jan 20, 2011). "Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really the Answer?". Time. Archived from the original on June 25, 2011. Retrieved 22 July 2013.
  32. ^ a b Coates, Sam. "All children should have 'tiger mums' – Cameron". The Times. Retrieved 22 February 2016.
  33. ^ Mainwaring, Rachel (16 January 2016). "Why parenting isn't about being a Tiger Mum, Mr Cameron". Wales Online. Retrieved 26 March 2016.
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