60 Hot Ways to Turn Him On
Although, obvs, you can use these on folks of any gender!
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Do you delight in the power rush that comes with making your partner so turned on that boner (real or metaphorical) could cut sheetrock? Same. Regardless of the gender or genitals of whoever it is you’re banging these days, there are few things more sexually satisfying than turning someone all the way on. But here’s the thing: Everyone responds to sexy stimuli differently, which means you may need to do some (very fun) experimenting to learn exactly what it takes to get them there. So even if your partner is of the cis-het male variety (which society has falsely led us all to believe is horny, like, 100 percent of the time), it may take some trial and error to figure out how to turn him on.
“Arousal is different for everyone psychologically,” explains certified sex therapist and associate director at Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, Holly Richmond, PhD. “The physiological process is the same (increased blood flow to the genitals and heart, increased blood pressure, etc.), but what turns people on is vastly different and unique.”
Of course, the most direct path to learning what turns your partner on is to simply ask them. You can also practice some good old-fashioned mindfulness and pay extra attention to their physical and verbal reactions to various forms of touch or stimulation. But it’s always a good idea to show up prepared with some go-to strategies in your back pocket—especially if you’ve just started hooking up with someone new. Enter: Us with this list of 60 expert-approved ways to turn your partner on. Some are kinky, some are vanilla, but all are super hot. So if you’ve got a man at home in need of some arousing, here’s exactly how to turn him on—although, obvs, you can also apply these sexy little tips and tricks to partners of all genders. Happy arousing!
Syeda is a writer for Cosmopolitan who likes to analyze and improve the way we look at sex as a way to topple the patriarchy. She also writes for Bustle.com, Muslim Girl, and Muslim.co. You can follow her on Twitter here and Instagram here.
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