Lois Shearing
Senior Sex and Relationship Writer
Lois Shearing is Cosmoplitan's Senior Sex and Relationship Writer. They have been writing about sex, sexuality, gender, politics, and relationships for almost ten years. Their writing on these topics has appeared in Mashable, The Independent, Metro, The Advocate, and Byline Times, among others. In 2021, they published their first book, Bi the Way with JKP. They are currently working on two other books, set to be published in 2024.
In a previous life, they worked as a content marketer and content writer for various tech start-ups. They continue to be interested in the tech sector and its impact on our lives, relationships, and work, with particular regard to the ways AI will shape our relationships in the future.
Outside of work, they are deeply passionate about queer community organising, and run the only support resource for bisexual survivors of sexual violence in the UK: the Bi Survivors Network. You can find them on Instagram and X.
Anal vibrators for every experience level and budget
From backdoor beginners to anal experts
The best silent and quiet vibrators that are still super powerful
Silent vibrators, for the next time you need peace and quiet
Board games, but not as you know them ā discover the 16 best adult sex games
As Lady Gaga would say: āLetās play a Love Game...ā
From Samantha's shower head to Charlotte's rabbit: every toy in Sex and the City
Get your kicks like Carrie with this ultimate lowdown.
The best sex machines for every budget
Sex machines might seem intimidating but they can be a whole lot of fun...
Enter the splash zone: how to make a woman squirt or squirt like a pro
The wetter, the better
Best finger vibrators that get straight to the point
Finger vibrators to help you get in touch with your sensual side...
What is love bombing and how can you spot the signs?
The behaviour is now recognised as a form of coercive control
The highs and lows of hard-launching a break-up
When else do you get a free pass to be this messy?
Magic wand vibrators are your answer to bigger, bolder orgasms ā and our sex writers have tracked down 11 of the best
These spell a good time šŖ
Free dating sites to help you find love
Who said love had to cost the earth?
FYI, weāve found 17 clit suckers that might be *better* than oral sex
Spoiler: they suck
Cheap sex toys that are actually incredible
Because your sexual pleasure shouldnāt have to break the bank
'Iām a sex writer and the Biird Namii might be my new favourite sex toy'
A customisable clit sucker and vibrator in one
'We're a team of sex writers and here are our 22 must-have vulva toys in 2024'
Tried and tested š
āI test sex toys for a living and Lovehoneyās Heartbeat clit stim is a total vibe'
A discreet clit sucker with 10 pulsing, sucking modes? Sign. Us. Up.
āLELO's SONA 2 Cruise offers an effortless route to orgasm ā and it's now 20% off'
A clit sucker fitted with 12 unique modes and a Cruise Control feature? Uh, hell yh
'We're sex writers and can confirm, after rigorous testing, that the Womanizer Next makes edging easy'
Thank you, Next
Stormzy and Maya Jama have split. Can getting back with an ex ever work?
Never try, never know? Or better left unsaid?
How to master going down on someone
A no-nonsense guide to mind-blowing cunnilingus
Everything you need to know about nipple clamps
Theyāre really not as scary as they sound
Sorry not sorry... Whatās an apology language?
Find out which of the five categories you fall into
How to use anal beads (and which ones to choose)
With these babies, timing is everything
Best vibrating knickers for subtle orgasms
Remote-controlled climaxing? Err, yes please
Red flags in dating and relationships that you shouldn't ignore
Plus, what to do if you notice the warning signs
What is lube and how do you use it?
Slippery, safe and oh-so-sexy š¦
These are the 19 best clit vibrators for bigger orgasms, according to our team of sex writers
C you at the finish line š
What is the orgasm gap, actually?
Thereās more to it than whether you cum or not
Do we really have to be āhealedā to date people?
The latest online discourse says we doā¦
What does it mean to be queer and a Traveller? Four people explain
āA lot of people still think you canāt be LGBT+ and Gypsy, Roma, Travellerā
From hysteria to high-end: How wanking became wellness
The sexual wellness market is booming, but what does it really mean for womenās pleasure?
Men are from Mars, Women are from TikTok: The 90s dating books revival and what it tells us about romance
Decades old dating books are enjoying a resurgence ā can we learn from them, or should we steer well clear?