Rather unsurprisingly, there are serious perks to being a sex writer — ones that Ms Carrie Bradshaw seemed to skate right over — like having the latest sex tech delivered straight to my door or getting the lowdown on sales (Amazon Prime Day is here, people).
And sure, you might say that having most of my weeknights taken up with exploring new routes to the Big O is something of a bonus too.
But, while you might expect me to have a new favourite teaser every other week, I have a confession: I’m a taken woman, totally monogamous, and in a serious, committed relationship... with a clit sucker.
LELO’s SILA Sonic Clitoral Massager, also known as the brand’s gentle clitoral vibrator, comes fitted with an extra wide mouth that, frankly, can get me off in under 40 seconds (!) and with minimal effort.
It’s the upgrade I recommend to every fan of the Rose — or to every woman/vulva owner in general — due to the fact it comes programmed with eight modes, is 100% waterproof, and lasts up to two hours per charge (for context, longer than any ex of mine).
Everything you need to know about the LELO SILA
| Sex toy type | Clitoral suction stimulator |
|---|---|
| In the box | USB charging cord, satin storage pouch, warranty registration card and a detailed instruction manual |
| Material | Body-safe silicone, ABS plastic |
| Length | 3.1 inches |
| Weight | 105 grams |
| Power | USB rechargeable |
| Battery life | Up to 2 hours |
You’ll find the SILA listed under ‘clitoral vibrators’ on the LELO website — although strictly speaking this is a clitoral suction stimulator.
It’s a little different to the Swedish sexual wellness brand’s first external teaser, the SONA, which has a small rounded mouth to encircle your clitoris for intense, targeted teasing. Instead, the SILA has an extra wide head, directing contactless vibrations, and air pressure waves to your entire downstairs erogenous zone.
The logic: while it may take you a little longer to get to the finish line, stimulating a larger area should result in bigger, bolder orgasms.
Let’s talk logistics. Like most of the brand’s other sexual aids, the SILA is controlled via an intuitive three-button interface. Hold the ‘()’ button for three seconds to power it on/off before quickly pressing it again to cycle through the eight modes (three persistent patterns followed by five rolling ones — my personal favourites are numbers two and four).
You might have guessed, but the ‘–’ and ‘+’ control the intensity, resulting in customisable rhythms. And to activate the travel lock — yep, bid goodbye to unexpected turbulence — hold both buttons together for a count of three.
Per charge, you’ll get up to two hours of action — I normally plug mine in after every other session — and you can take it to the tub or shower, as it’s 100% waterproof. Just bear in mind that it’s a little louder when wet.
The teaser, despite packing some pretty modern tech, is super lightweight, coming in at just 105 grams. Plus, as only the nub inside the mouth moves (as opposed to the entire toy vibrating), you won’t be left with a numb hand — ideal if you’re using it pre-penetration.
LELO SILA FAQs
- Where can I buy the LELO SILA? We’d usually recommend heading direct, as LELO has some detailed diagrams that show how to get the most out of your clit sucker. However, you can also shop the sucker at Amazon.
- What lube should I use with my LELO SILA? Water-based is best to avoid damaging the silicone outer. If you want to stay loyal, LELO’s Personal Moisturiser is infused with aloe vera for added hydration and isn’t at all sticky.
LELO SILA: My verdict
PROS
- Built for low-effort orgasms — you don’t even have to locate your clit
- That rounded shape fits perfectly in your palm — plus it can be held and controlled with just one hand
- Zero chance of it numbing you due to contactless vibrations
- The flat-tipped edge surrounding the mouth ensures good suction without being too intense for beginners and the more sensitive
- The perfect companion for partnered play, as this won’t get in the way during doggy
CONS
It’s almost perfect, but we do have notes if LELO is interested in making some minor improvements...
- The designers say it’s whisper quiet, but it’s probably as loud as an electric toothbrush
- Can I request one or two more modes that are a little different? All eight modes are identical to those programmed into my other LELO toys
