A hilarious and vulnerable exploration of growing up with a Fresh Prince-meets-Dwyane Wade imaginary sidekick (as one does), from one of the stars of HBO's Insecure
What to do when you're the perpetual new kid, only child, military brat hustling school-to-school each year and everyone's looking to you for answers? Make some shit up, of course! And a young Jay Ellis does just that, with help from every child's favorite co-conspirator—their imaginary best friend. Born in the perfect storm of especially ferocious rain and a sugar-fueled imagination, Mikey, his imaginary best friend, steps in to figuratively hold Jay's hand through various youthful shenanigans.
A testament to the importance of imagination, trusting oneself, and making space for your creativity, Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend or Just Me? is a memoir of a 90s kid who confided in his imaginary sidekick to navigate everything from parallel pop culture universes, like watching Fresh Prince alongside John Hughes movies or listening to Ja Rule and Dave Matthews, to a lifetime of birthday disappointment (being a Christmas season Capricorn will do that to you) and hoop dreams gone bad. Mikey also guides him through greater tragedies, like losing his teenage cousin in a mistaken-target driveby and the shame and fear of being pulled over by cops almost a dozen times the year he got his driver's license.
As imaginary friend morphs into adult consciousness, Ellis charts an unforgettable story of looking within yourself for guidance to some of life’s biggest (and smallest) challenges, told in the roast-you-with-love voice of your closest homie.
This is a sweet little memoir in essays from a celeb. There isn't anything here about his life as an actor or his journey to becoming one. It is all about his childhood, which he tells us clearly from jump. It isn't a life changing book, but it is also totally unoffensive and readable, with some fun antidotes stories, and childhood mess ups.
Ellis is such a great narrator and storyteller! I loved learning more about his background and this was such a fun audiobook (so well-produced)! Full review to come.
Jay Ellis, whom I've never heard of, is apparently some sort of famous actor. Sic Transit Gloria. During the pandemic, he started this book.
His childhood wasn't all that different than Bill Cosby's except in a different time. He was mostly working class, but still had poor relations. An only child, he had an imaginary friend, who was much cooler than he. In the picture, he looks like actor Kadeem Hardison from It's A Different World, who in the pantheon of coolness, comes in somewhere behind the Mon chi chis.
Reading Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (or Just Me)? by Jay Ellis was such a treat! The moment I saw the cover adorned with references from my own coming-of-age (Dwayne Wayne, the pager, and the floppy-disk), I knew this book would be one I could relate to.
Jay Ellis makes it known in the beginning of the book that it isn't a memoir. He even reminds us later in reading that he hasn't "lived enough" to consider this book a memoir. That has no bearing on how solid these childhood stories are. I was entertained from beginning to end, even scared a few times (especially during that melee at the movie theater). Ellis recounts stories of growing up with his imaginary friend, Mikey, so vividly, I pictured a precocious little boy running alongside him through every adventure shared.
While readers won't find much about the onset of an acting career for Jay Ellis within these pages, we do see that his bright imagination was an inspiration from the start. Isn't that the stuff creatives are made of? I can remember claiming to have an imaginary friend through the early years of elementary school, but nothing as close and consistent as Mikey. Mikey went to pre-school with Jay, wreaking havoc. He moved across states with Jay, as he was a military kid who changed schools quite a bit. And he even caught the blame for many bad decisions Jay made throughout his younger years. With each essay, I looked forward to reading what Mikey would get Jay into next.
Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (or Just Me)? is an exciting gift for those of us who have found safe spaces in imaginary friends and/or wild imaginations. Jay's stories lure you in and keep you excited for "the good part," wondering how Mikey will show up and how much damage he will cause. Even as Mikey begins to fade away and Ellis gets older, we see how much of an affect an imaginary friend has had on Ellis.
Also, seeing that celebrities with a star as bright as Jay's still get anxious about sharing their work was affirming. We all feel that same vulnerability when sharing parts of ourselves that can easily be dismissed, ridiculed, or shamed. Jay Ellis, I am glad that you shared your "imaginary friend" story during the pandemic. It is the reason I was able to experience such a beautiful book that I won't soon forget. I hope you continue to write and share even more of your stories + creative works.
Many thanks to Netgalley and Random House Publishing Group for an eARC of Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (or Just Me)? by Jay Ellis. All thoughts and opinions shared are my own.
Thank you #partners @oneworldbooks @coloringbooks & @jayrellis for my gifted hardcover & audiobook, and for the most amazing box of goodies sent to celebrate the release of this fantastic memoir. 🎉
Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (or Just Me?) By Jay Ellis Audiobook narrated by the author
Inspired to write his story during the COVID-19 pandemic, actor Jay Ellis chronicles his coming-of-age journey as a military child, perpetually "the new kid," who finds comfort and companionship in Mikey, his Fresh Prince-meets-Dwayne-Wayne imaginary friend. Full of 90s nostalgia, Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend is an adventurous, humorous, and heartfelt tale that will have readers reminiscing on their own childhood. This one will really resonate with those of us who grew up in the 90s.
🎧 If audiobooks are your thing, you'll definitely want to listen to Ellis tell his story in his own words. ❤️
📌 If you want to see Ellis on his book tour, his schedule is pinned to his IG!
Thank you to NetGalley, Random House Publishing Group-Random House | One World, Jay Ellis, for this ARC of "Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (or Just me)" out tomorrow, July 30th!
I have been a fan of Jay Ellis since watching Insecure. When I saw his book was coming out and I got selected to read it before release, I was so excited! I wasn't sure what to expect but this was a cute book of stories about his life growing up. I liked that there were pictures for each chapter and we got to see him during the age of that year. Less than 200 pages and a pretty quick read, I'd recommend if you are a fan of his. I hope they release an audiobook because if so, I will listen to it if he's the narrator and would possibly increase my rating too. I usually enjoy biographies when the person writing is also the person narrating it.
Overall Rating: I'm rounding up 3.5 stars to 4!
This novel was provided by the publisher, via Net Galley, in exchange for my honest review.
DNF after a solid 25%, which was a VERY good try considering how much I didn't enjoy this book from the first page. I didn't have an imaginary friend growing up, but I thought the stories Jay included would still be pretty relatable. And if not relatable, at least funny.
I was way off. I'll attribute it to my not having imaginary friends, I guess....
Also want to mention that typically I'd give a book more than 25% before DNFing, but this was essentially story after story about his imaginary friend. If I didn't care about his IF yet, I wasn't going to.
{Thank you to Goodreads Giveaway for the print copy I won! And another thank you to NetGalley, Jay Ellis, and publisher for providing an eARC in e,change for my honest review!}
Ugh, this book is just the sweetest, most heartwarming read! Jay Ellis takes you on this wild ride through his life as the perpetual new kid, but he's got his trusty imaginary bestie Mikey by his side the whole time. It's like a mashup of Fresh Prince vibes and that classic coming-of-age feel - super funny, but also really genuine and vulnerable. From navigating all the pop culture references of the 90s to dealing with some heavy stuff like losing his cousin, Mikey is always there to hype Jay up and give him that much-needed dose of encouragement. It's all about embracing your creativity, trusting yourself, and having that one ride-or-die friend, even if they only exist in your imagination. Jay's voice is just so relatable and endearing, like chatting with your closest girlfriend. If you've ever had an imaginary friend (or just wished you did!), you've gotta pick this one up. It'll make you laugh, it'll make you cry, and it'll leave you with the sweetest sense of nostalgia. Seriously, do yourself a favor and read this book! 💕✨
Jay Ellis’s book, Did Everyone Have An Imaginary Friend (Or Just Me)?, spoke to a childhood nostalgia that I don’t visit often in books, and I’m grateful for that. Ellis writes this book in a series of short stories, recounting his misadventures with his imaginary friend Mikey by his side (& in his mind). As he fumbled through choices (some good, many bad in a rambunctious kid way), Mikey is Ellis’s companion as he grows into his understanding of boyhood and early manhood. There’s a genuine curiosity and playfulness that Ellis fits into each moment that kept me reading. Letting Mikey and that relationship be the focus allows Ellis to escape some of the monotony that can happen when recounting memory. Rather, it highlights joy and emotionality, which I think is particularly important from young men.
Ellis writes that he believes most creative people have an imaginary friend growing up and wonders what would happen if we didn’t lose this curiosity and openness—if instead we rechanneled it. The end of the book finds Ellis reflecting on the impact of Mikey, as a “catalyst” for his imagination. I hope this book can reach others to reclaim that imagination.
There’s a lot to be said when celebrities come out with books about their childhood. This one is no different. I loved his openness about his childhood. I especially loved when he talked about his love for basketball and the whole 80’s -90’s vibe of this book. I didn’t have an imaginary friend, because I had a twin sister💓 but I definitely feel like I went through some of these same stores he tells 👌🏽I blamed things on her. My kids are military brats so I could relate AJ’s need to ask them about their experiences after reading this book. It’s thought provoking and an entertaining read📚
Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (Or Just Me) by Jay Ellis Book Review
In Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (Or Just Me), Jay Ellis has written his autobiography feeling his tall tale adventures with his imaginary friend, Mikey. Readers will recognize Jay from his tv acting. He stars in the HBO series Insecure. He compares his friend to become someone he could trusts and count on. Mikey was like his older brother who would protect him at all costs. He explained that he loves to learn and he was always a student at heart. He would often take classes in between his acting roles. Instead of a superhero role, he choose him to be a young black man who dressed in the latest trends and had a fresh haircut. He was calm, curious, and easy going. He grew up as a only child and was alone most of the time. He came from a traveling military family. He shared how he came to him during a bad storm when he was about four years old. He was trapped in a swamp surrounded by crocodiles and he couldn’t even go to his parents room in fear that he would be eaten. He opened up about how he stayed with him through his high school years even. He was around through the crazy teenager experiences. Mikey taught him how to trust his instincts, having a spirit of play, and accepting who you are.
I would recommend this creative book on imaginary friends mixed with his life story. I liked how he shared about his experiences with gangs, first kiss, dating, getting pulled over by the cops a few times, and much more. He has some fun and exciting stories to share. What was surprising to me was the fact that his best friend stayed with him throughout his schools years until he faded away. In writing this book, he learned that others have also experienced an imaginary friend. I remember playing pretending when I was younger but my imaginary friends would have had superpowers and they weren’t and every day looking person. I also am an only child so I can relate creating someone to bring you comfort through life experiences. I think he did an excellent job in detailing what he went through growing up and how his imaginary friend was there through it all. I also liked how he enclosed pictures throughout the book to bring the book even more to life and relatable.
Jay Ellis, born Wendell Ramone Ellis Jr., tells the adventurous story of growing up with an imaginary friend. As a military brat, Jay was the perpetual new kid shuffling from school to school. He was an only child used to making shit up—hence, imaginary friend Mikey, who was part Dwayne Wayne, part Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. Mikey was there through birthday disappointments, pop culture, hoop dreams, gang jump-ins, road trips, young love and so much more.
Jay Ellis had me at the title: Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (Or Just Me)? I absolutely did have an imaginary friend that everyone had to acknowledge. Set a place at the table, buckle the seatbelt, pull a chair out and include in conversations. My imaginary friend kept me company, gave me courage and evolved into adult consciousness. So it was not just you, Jay Ellis. Thanks for validating imaginary friends!
Judge this book by the cover! It is colorful, fun and totally for 80s babies who came of age in the 90s. Whether you recognize him as Lawrence from Insecure, Bryce on The Game or as the talented Black actor (now author) he is, add this nonfiction book to your reading list this summer. You will deep dive into the content, laugh in agreement and get lost in the childhood memories. Told through the voice of your homeboy, this memoir was unputdownable and oh so enjoyable!
Happy Early Pub Day, Jay Ellis! Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (Or Just Me)?: Adventures in Boyhood will be available on July 30.
Disclaimer: An advance copy was received directly from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. Opinions are my own and would be the same if I spent my hard-earned coins. ~LiteraryMarie
I really enjoyed “Did Everyone Have Imaginary Friends (Or Just Me?)” by Jay Ellis. The book is a fun and nostalgic journey that brings back memories of childhood imagination. Ellis has a unique way of blending humor with heartfelt moments, making it both entertaining and thought-provoking. His storytelling is engaging, and I found myself laughing out loud at some of the relatable anecdotes.
The book dives into the concept of imaginary friends and how they shaped the author’s life, sparking my own memories of childhood creativity. While the pace slowed down a bit in some parts, overall, it’s a delightful read that offers a fresh perspective on the power of imagination.
If you’re looking for a lighthearted and reflective book that will take you on a trip down memory lane, this is definitely worth picking up. Jay Ellis does a great job of reminding us of the joy and innocence of our younger years.
Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend (Or Just Me)?: Adventures in Boyhood by Jay Ellis is a nostalgic and deeply personal collection of life stories reflecting the experiences of a Black boy growing up in the '80s and '90s in the U.S. Jay, born to young married parents with a father in the military, shares his journey as an only child who relied on his imagination to cope with the challenges of frequent moves and transient life. His stories, from a brief stint as a gang member to his first heartbreak, resonate with readers who grew up in similar circumstances or simply appreciate the power of imagination. As an only child myself, I connected deeply with Jay's tales, recalling my own imaginary sibling. This book is a heartfelt and relatable read for anyone who values the significance of creativity in shaping one’s childhood experiences.
Thanks to NetGalley and One World for the advance copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
Since I never had an imaginary friend (at least not that I remember) I found the concept hard to comprehend. The explanatory chapter at the beginning was a big help in understanding it, but it was a little dry, making me wonder about the rest of the book.
Once we got into the actual events, though, the book became more interesting. I still had trouble comprehending the friend, but he seemed very real and likable—most of the time. In fact, I often forgot he was imaginary and read the book as if it were two boys.
The chapters when he wasn’t around were also interesting to read, as they had entirely different scenarios than I grew up with.
Glad it ended with a blurb about how the author got from high school to where he is now, but I think it would have been nicer if it had been a full chapter.
Jay Ellis captured growing up in the 80s/90s in such a way that it unlocked memories for me. This was a relatable celebrity memoir to read. I loved that it wasn't a "celebrity book" that was filled with name dropping. Jay was open and honest about his child and being an only child who is also a "military brat".
I forgot about my imaginary friend, until reading more and more about Jay and Mikey. Mikey was Jay's right hand man and had a hand in shaping him into the person he is today. As Jay reflects, we learn the life lessons along with him on how impactful Mikey was and also when Mikey started fading with age.
This is a book that I'd recommend to any parent figure, especially one that has a little one with an active imagination!
Did Everyone Have an Imaginary Friend... is a conversational memoir in essays. It was an enjoyable read, exploring the humorous and heartbreaking events in Ellis's childhood to teen years. However, this is one where the audiobook would be a much better experience.
Thank you, One World and Netgalley, for an advance ebook in exchange for a fair review.
Jay, a imaginary friend, Mikey, sounds like a friend I need to have, minus his mischievous ways. I love the dynamics his parents instilled in Jay Ellis, the struggle as an army kid. Jay sounds like many typical kids who grew up in a two-home family, struggling as a unit to provide for their family, feeling not seen, and being loved by his grandparents. The stories shared were quite funny, heartwarming, and funny.
Super sweet; I appreciated his musings on his childhood, what role his imaginary friend (and really his imagination and spirit) played in shaping who he is.