Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
Kindness is a good thing. No act of kindness is ever wasted. The truth is, what we give we receive right back in the giving. It's a win win that's not dependent on the other person.
I love Ash's post.
I think it's true. Most people in our chosen profession (consulting), not only lack kindness, but don't even know how to genuinely be kind. They simply take advantage of kind people.
The idea of being kind in your every day life does not mean being "nice." Being nice has nothing to do with being kind. Reaching out and being authentic is important. Genuinely caring about the well being of another is important.
In the past few years, I can count the number of times someone in a work environment was genuinely kind. Most people simply give lip service and play politics. Even people that I have considered "friends" in the past are not kind people.
About a year ago, I stopped reaching out to people who were unkind. My life became much simpler. Somewhere along the line the majority of humanity lost their way, people simply don't help others anymore.
My experiences in life, and specifically in consulting, have caused me to limit my circle of acquaintances down to just a handful of people. Everyone wants to take and receive kindness, but rarely if ever do people want to give, I guess this can be said for everything in life.
Kindness takes many forms: Offering help when not asked just because you can, helping shoulder workload, generally being unselfish, or delivering a message in a harsh way and taking the punishment for others knowing you're going to be disliked for it, because if you don't do it... who will? When people get to a certain level, kindness is sometimes taking the beatings (knowing you're going to make enemies) because it's the right thing to do.
Maybe one day people will stop being so selfish (and learn to be kind), but I wouldn't bet on it, it's a brutal world
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
+++ How about an Act of Kindness a Day +++
I absolutely love this post and I couldn’t agree more! I see many leaders perceive #kindness as a sign of weakness or submissiveness. I truly see the opposite..
- Kindness is essential for team
#morale.
- Kindness help cultivate a sense of belonging and #psychologicalsafety, where trust can be further strengthened.
- Kindness is a must for leaders at all levels because kindness comes #empathy and #humility
Have you considered an act of kindness at least once a day to people around you?
If not, WHY NOT?!?
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
Do you think people conflate kindness with passivity? Or something else? 🧐
Many people are not taught how to set and maintain healthy boundaries. This has taken attention away from an equally important trait of authenticity. Without this knowledge, they might struggle to understand how to be both kind and assertive, defaulting to passivity to avoid perceived unkindness.
In healthcare and hospitality, some customers expect others to be accepting of their antisocial antics. Those people may be left bewildered when they realize that a kind person can also be assertive.
The customer, in this case your patient/guest, is not always right. The confusion between kindness and passivity is a common issue and can stem from various societal norms and misconceptions like:
1. Cultural Norms
2. Misunderstanding of Kindness
3. Gender Expectations
4. Fear of Conflict
5. Manipulative Behaviors
6. Lack of Boundaries Education
7. People-Pleasing Tendencies
8. Social Conditioning
As a caregiver/host, it's important to maintain a balance between kindness and assertiveness. Here are some tips and suggestions whenever you need to speak up while still being perceived as kind:
Communicate Clearly and Calmly
When addressing issues, use calm and clear language. Explain your perspective and why certain behaviors are not acceptable in a respectful manner.
Set Clear Expectations
Provide clear guidelines and expectations upfront to prevent misunderstandings. This can include house rules and policies that help guests understand boundaries from the start.
Be Firm but Polite
Assert your boundaries firmly but politely. It's possible to be kind while standing your ground. Phrases like "I appreciate your understanding" can help maintain a respectful tone.
Provide Solutions
When addressing an issue, offer solutions or alternatives. This shows that you are willing to work with the guest to find a resolution that respects both parties' needs.
Emphasize Mutual Respect
Frame your boundaries as a matter of mutual respect. Explain that maintaining boundaries ensures a positive experience for everyone involved.
Reflect on Feedback
If guests perceive your assertiveness as unkind, consider their feedback and reflect on your communication style. Adjust if necessary while maintaining your boundaries.
Even if you do everything well some of your patients, clients, or guests will make you question your life’s choices. The good news is that an overwhelming majority of your other interactions should balance that out. Plus, you will be rewarded with plenty of grateful and positive connections.
Ultimately, being kind doesn't mean sacrificing your own well-being or allowing others to overstep your boundaries. It means treating others with all due respect while also respecting yourself. 🤍
Reference
OpenAI. (2022). ChatGPT Mobile application.
In this post, the ChatGPT mobile application, developed by OpenAI, was utilized as a tool for generating some responses and information.
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
Kindness is an important virtue particularly for leaders, but I believe that truly effective leaders will prioritize kindness with empathy and humility in their approach. This leadership style:
- Creates a positive work culture
- Fosters trust and open communication
- Enhances the understanding of employee needs
- Promotes an atmosphere of learning and growth
- Builds a lasting, caring organizational legacy
- Boosts employee engagement and productivity
By embracing these principles, leaders can create a thriving workplace that balances business success with employee well-being, resulting in a more innovative, resilient, and harmonious organization.
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
Another inspirational quote to help you in the workplace….
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Before you think I’m about to be unkind - I like some of Gary Vaynerchuk’s work. I love his story about how he transformed his family wine business. A great example of passion and why it matters. And a nice quote can certainly give us a quick fix or put a smile on our faces. For some people it might just get them thinking.
But my clients want more than just a few words that make them feel good in the morning, they want to be proactive in developing the skills they need to thrive.
That’s why I give practical tips, reflective exercises and advice on personal development that can really make a difference. We all know that being kind is easy when we like someone, or when someone is being kind to us. But who do you find it difficult to be kind to? What is it about them that triggers you? What assumptions are you making? How do you feel saying ‘no’ to people? Feel free to get in touch with your thoughts and experiences
For more detailed reflective exercises to help you develop self-awareness, empathy and authenticity, follow on Instagram.
@natacha_encounterleadership
#empathy#inspirationalquotes#motivationalquotes#workplacecommunity#personaldevelopment#leadership#youngprofessionals
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
I think people have really got my message - yes I am here to talk about kindness and the difference it can make in workplaces.
Thanks to the many connections and friends who have shared Gary Vaynerchuk's post with me. I have hesitated to respond because I have mixed feelings about this. Firstly I only have a vague idea of who this guy is (yeah yeah I know I live in a little NZ health and NFP bubble), Secondly it feels like we all love and value a conversion or contrast story over the stories of those whose whole careers are dedicated to spreading care and compassion (often to the point of burnout) in the helping professions - kindness is often a deeply felt ideal for us not something that we have the luxury of choosing from a place of power and privilege.
And also it is great to see someone with this type of profile really getting that kindness isn't weak, isn't passive and is a choice that we can all make in our worklife. I hope he is building kind cultures in the businesses he owns.
I am Christina a psychologist and founder of The Kindness Workshop NZ. I am creating a kind world through developing kind leaders and training organisations to get their values off their walls and into daily actions. I provide
🌱Leadership Development Coaching for new Team Leaders in Health and Social services.
🌻In person workshops for teams that want to create a culture of kindness
🌵 Well-being support for those who struggle with workplace stress and burnout.
☕️ A free coffee to those who want to meet up and have a yarn about transforming the world through kindness.
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
Agree with this whole-heartedly, but it also makes me incredibly sad when I think about corporate culture. Because there many people who believe they are kind... who are not.
Kindness isn't about what you put on display so others witness your kindness. Kindness isn't about selecting specific people to be kind to while ignoring others.
It is a lot like the famous quote about integrity: it's what you do when people aren't watching that demonstrates both your integrity & your kindness.
I know I am not always kind. I try to be, but biases get in the way, previous interactions with those people perhaps, and sometimes you just don't like someone (even if it's only intuition). But as leaders, I believe we have a responsibility to treat people with respect & common courtesy. And I'll keep working on it. Can you be too kind? Probably not!
Anyway, thanks, Gary Vaynerchuk for keeping kindness in the forefront. It's easy to forget all about it when you've seen massive success & honestly don't "need" to be kind to get what you want anymore.
#humanfirstemployeesecond#kindnessmatters
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
Executive communications change agent with public policy and national security communications experience using integrated, multi-channel communication campaigns and strategic planning.
Kindness is contagious. Do one kind act for a stranger a day. He/she/they likely pay it forward. One kind act will lead to another and another.
I've experienced heads of organizations that were more authoritative and ones that wore their power lightly using kindness and empathy. The leaders who practiced kindness had loyal and motivated employees. Kindness encourages a healthy work culture where employees want to do well.
Chairman - VaynerX, CEO - VaynerMedia & Veefriends , Co-Founder VaynerSports, VCR Group and VaynerWatt
For a while now, I’ve been pushing kindness more heavily than anything else.
For me, it’s a crucial part of the legacy I’m building.
I want to build big businesses and buy the Jets, but I want to do it by being a good guy.
I have zero interest in building the biggest building by tearing other people down.
The problem is that some people see kindness as a weakness. They confuse it with being passive or being a pushover.
The truth is, people who view kindness as a negative are just insecure themselves.
You can only be kind if you feel that you’re coming from a place of leverage.
That’s why I see kindness as a massive advantage, not a passive trait — especially if you’re a naturally “tough” person.
As I go through my own life, I’m realizing more and more how kindness is such a big part of the equation. It’s not just about sales and negotiation. It’s not just about doing what you love.
That’s why It breaks my heart that so many people think “nice guys finish last.”
People don’t get that kindness is the best business strategy.
Certified Hypnotist and Owner, Joann Dunsing Hypnosis - Sessions live, or Online via Zoom or FaceTime.
2moKindness is a good thing. No act of kindness is ever wasted. The truth is, what we give we receive right back in the giving. It's a win win that's not dependent on the other person.