A woman has proudly shared how she confronted a mother who was fat-shaming her own daughter.
While “she wouldn’t recommend it in the future,” she’s glad she did it.
So, what exactly was the cause for concern?
The mother was making some passive-aggressive comments to her daughter about her body.
The interchange was troubling for the OP to hear.
“I approached another mom in public about her mothering yesterday, and I wouldn’t say I’d recommend it in the future. We both left with some ruffled feathers, but hear me out,” she begins in her video.
“I was trying on clothes, and next to me there was a mom and a 20-something-year-old looking woman, and the conversation was a little like, ‘I think I’m just used to you looking thinner’.”
“I’m still thin, Mom”
That’s when the daughter replied she had been “lifting” weights to explain her new physique.
“I think it’s just my taste. I like thin, long hair,” the OP imitates.
The daughter then replied, “I’m still thin, Mom.”
In a dismissive tone, the mother responded, “Yeah, you are.”
The OP continued, “And I was so appalled. I felt like it warranted interjection. Mothers of the world: be proud of your daughters when they are lifting weights and getting stronger, and their muscles are getting bigger. Or you could just go suck a very thin d**k.”
The video’s caption explained why the OP was so strong in her convictions: “I did it for the 12-year-old little sister watching.”
“Feels nice when a stranger sticks up for you”
The comments section was flooded with thanks for highlighting this seemingly “common” exchange between a mother and daughter.
While also sharing their generational trauma of their mothers who just could not (and still won’t) get over the idea of their daughters not being “thin.”
“As a daughter with a mother like that, thank you for saying something. It feels nice when a stranger sticks up for you,” one user wrote.
“HAHAHAHA the ending. I’m 41, and my mom is still obsessed about weight. Hers, mine, everyone else’s too,” another wrote.
Another said, “I’m 45, and every time I see my mother, she always comments about my weight.”
“My mom has been this way for 34 years, and I’m still working on my relationship with my body and food,” one user admitted.
One user shared, “Trying on wedding dresses, my mother said it’s a shame I’m so fat. I was a regular size 6. My MIL told her I was beautiful & perfect & to be quiet, lol.”
Another said, “I had a baby five months ago, and me losing the baby weight seems to be the only compliment certain people know how to give…🤷🏻♀️”
“Our mothers become our inner voice”
The OP replied, “Our moms can often become our inner minds. I’m sorry y’all had that type of relationship, but good job trying to be better.”
Several users wanted more details on how the conversation between herself and the mom actually went down.
“I need to hear how this interaction went, lol! Good for you. Our mothers become our inner voice,” one user wrote.
The OP explained, “They do! I ran into the mom and little sister at another store a few minutes later and said, ‘Hey, I was next to you at A&F [Abecrombie & Fitch], and I hope you weren’t telling your daughter that she needed to be thinner.” I probably could’ve approached it better but was a little worked up.”