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When dating somebody new, you might have a list of qualities you’d like them to possess — such as ‘makes me laugh’, ‘great in the bedroom’, or ‘gets along with my friends’.
Sure, these are worth taking into consideration. But when you start thinking about this person as your life partner, there are other ‘deeper’ qualities to bear in mind.
April 27, 2023
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With all that’s going on in our country, our economy, the world, and on social media, it feels like so many of us are under a great deal of stress. Relationships, in particular, can be stress-inducing.What are stress management strategies that people use to become “Stress-Proof? What are some great tweaks, hacks, and tips that help reduce or even eliminate stress?
January 31, 2023
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Parisa Ghanbari, Registered Psychotherapist in Toronto says dealing with relationship breakups and be extremely painful. Here are several ways you can start to heal your broken heart.
Reframe your mindset
One way to deal with emotional heartbreak over a relationship is to consider the heartbreak a learning experience. It helps to focus on things you learned about yourself and your needs in that relationship, as well as patterns that did not serve you.
Reframing the heartbreak as a growth experience helps you move from a victim mentality to a survivor mentality.
December 8, 2022
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Feeling depressed once an affair ends isn’t unusual.
“It is [typical] for individuals to experience a sense of loss and sadness, especially if the breakup was unexpected,” explains Parisa Ghanbari, a registered psychotherapist in Toronto, Canada.
“Just like when a [monogomous] relationship ends, ending an affair can be shocking and heartbreaking,” she adds.
As such, “for the first few months, it is [understandable] for one to emotionally grieve, miss their partner, and even feel angry if they did not make the decision to end it,” Ghanbari shares.
September 6, 2022
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Checkout our latest expert contribution to The Emotional Intelligence Magazine!
Parisa Ghanbari, Registered Psychotherapist shares, “When we have been emotionally deprived and neglected early in life, we may come to think of ourselves as inadequate, insignificant, and unworthy; and assume that the setbacks we face in our career, personal life, or relationships are due to there being something wrong with us”
March 1, 2022
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Being receptive to uncomfortable conversations is a sign of an emotionally intelligent partner. Ghanbari says, “Watch out for how your partner handles criticism.” Does your partner seem open to hearing your constructive feedback, or do they react with defensiveness and maybe even retaliate out of hurt? If so, that’s definitely a yellow flag.
February 4, 2022
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As psychotherapist and relationship expert Parisa Ghanbari tells Bustle, “Relationships are like plants; if we don’t water and nourish them, the plants will inevitably die.” Being content and secure in your partnership is a good thing, but even decades-long relationships need attention to thrive…
January 14, 2022
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“Many people, especially men, struggle with feelings of self-doubt about their likability by a potential romantic partner,” explains Parisa Ghanbari, a psychotherapist and relationship expert. “They may show up for dates feeling very self-conscious and hyper-vigilant to any signs that may indicate that their date is not interested in them.This may make them see signs of rejection where there are none. Sometimes, people dealing with self-doubt may even reject potential partners out of fear that their partners may end up rejecting them.”
December 27, 2021
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LIVE Interview as an expert guest on The LET’s Go There Show w/ Shira Lazar and Ryan Mitchell on CHANNEL Q, the first and largest nationally-syndicated LGBTQ+ talk radio network. LISTEN HERE.
November 8, 2021
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Despite what some tend to believe, putting your relationship on pause temporarily doesn’t mean you’ll inevitably breakup. In fact, psychotherapist Parisa Ghanbari, tells Bustle, “Taking a break in a relationship can be helpful in stopping and deescalating unhealthy relationship dynamics.” But how can you take a break from a relationship in a way that leads to a positive outcome?
November 5, 2021
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“At the end of the day, if you don’t feel emotionally safe with your partner, it’s inevitable that you will be dealing with a lot of overthinking because you don’t feel safe enough to share your thoughts with your partner”, says Parisa Ghanbari, MA, Registered Psychotherapist.
September 8, 2021
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“therefore I have faith and conviction that all will work out for my good. Sometimes the hardest yet the most effective thing to do is to surrender to the situation and know that things will work out in the end.” — Parisa Ghanbari, psychotherapist, 33, Toronto, Canada
August 20, 2021
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“If your partner is consistently inattentive and neglectful of your needs and wants, despite your best efforts in communicating your needs to them, then it’s fair to say your partner is not valuing you and the relationship,” confirms registered psychotherapist Parisa Ghanbari.
October 20, 2020
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