Bride Kicks Sister Out of Wedding for Not Following Yellow Dress Code: ‘She Ruined' the 'Color Scheme'

A bride is asking the internet whether she was in the wrong for kicking her sister out of her wedding for not following the dress code. 

The 25-year-old shared in a post on Reddit's popular “Am I the A------?” forum that she and her fiancée decided that it “would be fun” to set a “color scheme” for their wedding, in which their guests would wear a color in accordance with which side of the wedding party they belonged to.

The bride said that her favorite color was yellow and her groom’s favorite color was blue, so their guests were asked to wear the corresponding colors, while mutual friends wore green. She noted that she didn’t require guests to “dress head to toe in their assigned color,” and said they could also wear “neutral colors” with a yellow, blue or green accessory. However, she requested that guests didn’t wear colors outside of that. 

“When [my sister] Jen found out about this, she was mad,” the bride recalled in her post. “I didn’t know this [at the time], but she hates yellow, and [said] it ‘washes her out.’ She told me under no circumstances would she wear yellow. I shrugged and said that was fine–I would just kick her out if she did not wear yellow.”

The woman shared that she had a complicated past with her sister and claimed that she received “special treatment” from her parents over several years and would “throw a tantrum” if she didn’t get her way. 

On her wedding day, her sister “came in a purple dress,” and since this was a wedding that she threw without her parents’ support or funding, she made the decision to “kick” her “out.”

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“I told her to leave immediately,” the bride said. “The color scheme was perfect and she ruined it. Jen refused to leave until I threatened to call security.”

She said the rest of the wedding “went smoothly,” but after the wedding, her parents “were furious” with her for removing Jen from the wedding. She told them that she had warned her sister ahead of time about the attire, but “they all thought it was a joke.”

“They said it was cruel of me to kick my sister out over something so trivial,” she explained. “I told them this was MY wedding that I threw without their support, so I can kick out whoever I want to.”

“A lot of people I’ve talked to–grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, have [had] mixed [feelings about this]. Some say they wouldn’t have even invited Jen if they were me, while others think I should have let it slide,” she said before asking others on Reddit their opinion. 

Several people agreed in the comments that the bride was not wrong for asking her sister to leave the wedding because she didn’t follow the dress code. One commenter said, that the bride’s sister shows “pure spite” by wearing a dress color not in line with the wedding. 

“She showed up in purple with the express intention of upstaging the bride and groom and causing a scene, knowing all the time that your parents would back her up,” the person wrote.

Another said, “If anyone had a serious objection to it, they just politely could bow out of it. That said, what your sister did was an obvious play at upstaging you, just like she always has done.”

The Reddit poster shared in an update that she eventually spoke to her parents and explained her feelings about the whole situation and what she’s felt growing up. She said they were “making an effort” to work things out and had also encouraged her sister to “go to therapy.”