Couple Disinvites Groom’s Dad and Stepmom to Wedding After They Insist on Mother-Son Dance: 'Their Own Fault'

A groom did not appreciate his pushy father and stepmother – so he rescinded their wedding invitation.

In a post on Reddit’s popular "Am I The A------" forum, a user explained that he and his fiancée mutually uninvited his father and stepmother to their wedding after they insisted on having a mother-son dance despite the marrying couple’s disinterest.

The groom, 26, said they opted out of a few traditions, including the father of the bride walking the bride down the aisle as well as any father-daughter or mother-son dances during the reception.

Instead, they plan on walking down the aisle as a couple and only doing their first dance.

The problem came when the groom’s stepmother, who married his father when he was six and became his primary caregiver a few years later when his mother died, asked for an exception be made, regardless of the couple's preferences.

The groom told his stepmother that even if the dance happened, he wouldn’t view it as a traditional mother-son dance, as he’d see it as a stepmother–stepson dance. She expressed her hurt at the comment and continued to bring up the topic, which made him upset. 

The groom’s father eventually got involved and tried to encourage the groom to make an exception.

The groom told his father and stepmother to stop bringing up the topic, but they continued to do so. As a result, he and the bride, 25, agreed that they would rescind their invitation if the topic was brought up again.

Later, when they brought up the dance again, the groom told them they were no longer invited to the wedding because they had pushed their boundaries too far. The groom added that the pair were not funding the wedding, and had no authority over what occurs and what doesn't.

The disgruntled father and stepmother told the groom that he was "making a big mistake and was turning into someone they didn't like before their very eyes."

"My stepmother asked me if I'd really prefer for them not to be there over a simple dance for the two of us where she can have one moment of feeling like she gets the recognition as more than just being my stepmother," the poster wrote. "I told her I would prefer that and it was their own fault for refusing to stop asking."

Several people in the comments have weighed in and assured the groom that he was not in the wrong for wanting his father and stepmother to respect their wishes. "They pushed the boundary and are dealing [with] the consequences. They should have accepted the first no and let it go. They have no one to blame except themselves," wrote one person. 

Another added: "What a sad situation. I understand it’s your wedding and ultimately your choice. They obviously were pushing you to do something you didn’t want and you got sick of it. I do feel sorry for your step mum, your dad, your siblings and you though."

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A different commenter weighed in and noted that they shared a dance with their stepfather at their own wedding and felt uncomfortable. "I danced with my stepdad who basically raised me since I was 3. We had our ups and downs but I felt guilty not dancing with him [because] my husband danced with his mom. It was awkward and I hated every minute of it," they shared. 

A third person insisted that the bride and groom should always have the final say in what happens at their wedding, writing, "You don’t have to explain why you don’t want it, it’s your wedding and you get to have it the way you choose. They were being incredibly rude and inconsiderate, and I don’t need to know anything else about your stepmother to know what kind of person she is."