Husband Is Angry After Wife Makes Scrapbooks for Their Daughters That Don't Include Him: 'What About Me?'

A woman says her husband is mad at her after realizing that the keepsake books she's been making for their daughters don't include any mention of him.

In a post shared to Reddit, the 31-year-old woman writes that she has been working on the books for her 2- and 6-year-old daughters since they were born.

"Every year on their birthdays, I write them a letter talking about them and how much I love them and I have been pasting them in a book next to a picture of me and them for each year," she writes. "I plan on gifting these books to them when they turn 16."

Her husband, she adds, "has always known" about the keepsake books. But when the couple's eldest daughter had a birthday, he looked at the book for the first time — and noticed he wasn't in it.

"He looked at the book and the pictures of me and her and said 'what about me?' " she writes. "He was angry that I hadn’t included him and insisted that I either go back and change all the letters to say 'we' instead of 'I' and print new pictures that have him in them or stop making the book."

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But the woman says she doesn't intend on stopping. Instead, she writes, she hid the books at the back of a cupboard, "hoping he won’t find them."

"I feel like they are about my relationship with my daughters and I’m a little sad that my husband doesn’t see the value in that," she adds. "But I feel uncomfortable that they are now a secret from him."

The woman ends her post with a plea to Reddit commenters: Is she in the wrong, or is it okay for her to continue making the keepsake books without letting her husband know?

Commenters appear to be split on the issue, with one writing, "I don’t think that two parents have to always be lumped into everything together. It’s okay for children to bond with one individual parent without the other one sometimes. The same way it’s important for parents to have one-on-one time with each child in multi-children households."

But another wrote that their own mom did something similar but included some notes about their dad, too.

"My Mum made beautiful books for my sister and I that included letters from her but also stories and photos from her and Dad’s childhood. I know it was all Mum, but the inclusion of things I might otherwise not have known about Dad was very special and it remains a very treasured possession," the commenter shared.