Celebrity Celebrity Relationships Celebrity Breakups VPR: Ariana's Friends Think She Needs to Finally Let Go of Her Hatred for Sandoval and Choose 'Inner Peace' "I’m not saying that Ariana needs to forgive and forget but I think maybe it would be better if Ariana released some of this anger," James Kennedy shared on Tuesday’s 'Vanderpump Rules' By Stephanie Wenger Stephanie Wenger Stephanie Wenger is a TV Writer/Reporter at PEOPLE. She joined the brand in 2021 as a digital news writer, covering stories spanning across the site's verticals. She previously contributed E! Online, Hollywood Life and Oscar.com. People Editorial Guidelines Published on April 2, 2024 09:00PM EDT From left: Ariana Madix and Tom Sandoval. Ariana Madix isn’t ready to let bygones be bygones when it comes to Scandoval — but her friends think it’s time to move forward. On Tuesday’s episode of Vanderpump Rules, the Something About Her co-owner, 38, decided to attend a water tasting arranged by her costar Lala Kent, despite her ex Tom Sandoval being in attendance. As Ariana, 38, explained, "Short of removing myself entirely from this group of friends, it’s not possible to just never be in the same room as my ex ever so I’m gonna go.” “I’ve been working hard to rebuild relationships but with Ariana constantly putting pressure on people to choose her, the deck is stacked against me,” Sandoval. 40, shared after Ariana criticized him in front of their pals. Tom Sandoval (L) and Ariana Madix attend the Friends and Family Opening at Schwartz & Sandy's with the cast of "Vanderpump Rules" at Schwartz & Sandy's Lounge on July 26, 2022 in Los Angeles, California. Amanda Edwards/Getty Katie Maloney Says She Would've Broken Up with Tom Schwartz Had She Known About His Secret Scheana Shay Kiss The situation escalated when Ariana referred to Sandoval as an “attempted dog murderer” after he accidentally locked their dog Mya in her room and where the pup ingested food and needed to be rushed to the vet. She insisted that Sandoval never go in her room again because it was the only “safe space in that home because you f---ing wrecked it.” Sandoval explained in a confessional that Ariana had made “a very quick jump from accident to dog murderer. "Mya’s ok. There’s no dead dog in this situation. It’s f—ing ridiculous," he insisted. Their argument continued as Ariana called out his “callousness” when it comes to her “f---ing dream house” and her “f---ing children.” She repeatedly yelled, “Get the f— away from me. Never f---ing look at me in the eye again, you f---ing piece of shit” as he left the room. When he tried to get the last word in, she responded, “Ruin my life, my home and then f---ing attempt to kill my f---ing dog.” From left: Tom Sandoval and Ariana Madix. River Callaway/Variety via Getty (2) VPR: A Secret Kiss Rattles the Friend Group and Sandoval Finally Finds Common Ground with Lala After His Affair After the blowout fight, Lala, 33, encouraged Ariana to have a “productive conversation” with Sandoval but she refused. Instead, she told her costar, “I’m not capable of having a productive conversation with a f---ing sociopath, disgusting psycho, narcissist, gaslighter, piece of s--- person.” However, Scheana Shay also thought it was time for Ariana to let go of her anger, telling cameras, “Seeing Ariana upset like this just breaks my heart. What’s best for your mental health is to find a way to process those emotions and then move on with your life.” After a conversation with her husband Brock Davies, Scheana, 38, said in a confessional, “What Sandoval did, it’s the best thing that ever happened to Ariana. It has brought so much prosperity, wealth and happiness and opportunity into her life but I’m afraid if I say anything to Ariana about wanting to move past this anger and hatred against Sandoval, she’s going to cut me out.” The Dancing with the Stars alum realized that she needed to get out of their shared home “as soon as possible” after her fight with Sandoval but refused to back down when making an exit strategy. From left: Tom Sandoval and Ariana Madix attend the Los Angeles premiere of Universal Pictures' "Jurassic World Dominion" on June 06, 2022 in Hollywood, California. Frazer Harrison/Getty Rachel Leviss Reveals Shocking 'Slip-Up' Tom Sandoval Made as She Struggled with 'Shame' of Recorded Intimate Video “I’m pretty sure when Tom sent me a letter of intent to buy me out of the house, he thought I would say, ‘Great, thanks for the cash,' and leave all the furniture that I paid for picked out just sitting there for him to use," she said. "I don’t f---ing think so.” Despite the tension between her and Sandoval, Ariana decided to attend beach day with her friends as well as her ex. However, the pair soon had another blowup when Brock brought up their former costar Rachel “Raquel” Leviss, whom Sandoval had a months-long affair with behind Ariana's back. Ariana then demanded that Sandoval “stop speaking” to her while he wondered why they can’t be “civil” in front of their friends. “This is why I will not do this again but you guys keep doing this,” she told her pals. “Literally, he sits there and talks s---. He’s the one ruined by entire f---ing life.” She also claimed that none of the guys “put him in check” during the conversation, adding, “It’s really f---ing disrespectful.” “You got to step in as men and be like, ‘Bro, shut the f--- up’ because he is such a misogynist, he requires men because that’s who he respects to put him in his place and say, ‘Dude, you gotta shut the f--- up and f---ing take it because you’re the one in the wrong here,'” she continued. Tom Schwartz Jokes Tom Sandoval Belongs on 'Dancing with the Fallen Stars' After He Starts Taking Ballroom Lessons But James Kennedy saw the situation differently, saying, “I’m not saying that Ariana needs to forgive and forget but I think maybe it would be better if Ariana released some of this anger. It’s just probably consuming a lot of her life. I just feel like she would be more at peace if she released.” After Lala suggested that Sandoval was in a “defense mode,” Ariana quickly shut her down. “I don’t care tell him to shut the f--- up. Lala, I don’t need you to play devil’s advocate,” she said. “The devil has enough advocates.” Lala denied that she was supporting Sandoval and told cameras, “I understand that he was an uber douche. This was the most devastating breakup, but at what point do you choose inner peace? He didn’t win, look at his life. You won.” Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Vanderpump Rules airs Tuesday at 8 p.m. ET/PT on Bravo.