Divorce 🤝 gender transition = a big costly life decision with too much paperwork that conservatives say will cause the end of civilization & ruin your life but if you actually ask people who chose to do it, they’ll tell you their only regret is that they didn’t do it sooner
Fun fact: I had wanted gender affirming top surgery for a long time but, due to a variety of personal hangups, didn’t think I could ever convince myself to prioritize it enough to dedicate the time and resources it would require even though objectively I would have been able to find them.
A little over a year ago, I was driving my friend to their top surgery consultation and we passed a billboard for a divorce attorney that read “life is short, get the divorce.” Some switch flipped in my head. I realized that, if this amount of time/money were all it took to escape some terrible marriage and live the rest of my life happy, the answer would be obvious. So why not for this?
I picked up some info at the clinic when we were there that day and exactly a year later got my own top surgery! Absolutely the best decision I’ve ever made. Fucking life changing. 10/10 cannot overstate what a good decision it was. And all because of a fucking divorce billboard…
Hi if you ever find yourself in a relationship saying anything along the lines of “well I can’t leave cause I would never be able to find something better than this because I’m trans/fat/aging/antisocial/unlucky” I beg of you to run. Please. You can find and build better but in order to do that you have to take the first step out the door. You do not have to endure abuse, mistreatment, or just plain incompatibility for the sake of a fraction of happiness. You don’t.
This post has ended multiple shitty relationships. Reblog it to end even more
for anyone unaware–I have a fund set up, and I buy esims and top them up out of that fund. I get eSims to people in Gaza (and refugees in Egypt) in three ways–via Connecting Humanity ([email protected]), via Gaza Online, and directly, through my contact in Gaza.
you can donate to my eSim fund through venmo (@gothhabiba), cashapp ($NajiaK), or paypal (paypal.me/Najia). use tagline “esims” or something similar, because otherwise I assume all donations are for Mohammad Abu Hamam’s fundraiser.
hey! there's zero esims left for the connecting gaza campaign as of today. i remember you promoting them earlier. could you give them a much needed boost?
“I don’t know what my goals are, no. Thanks for asking.”
50k on this. If anything i’d like everyone reblogging this to know ive read the same sentiment over and over again. I read pretty much every reblogs tags and it both saddens me and fills me with this strange sort of comfort. So you are not alone! Neither am I
If you’d like to check out some of my more light hearted stuff i have a little mini zine for sale over at itch.io:
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