Why You Should Buy Your Partner a Sex Toy
Here’s Why You Should Buy Her a Sex Toy ASAP
Here’s a dirty little secret that many guys still don’t know — women want sex toys to help them get off.
It’s true — women get off better with sex toys than they do with male partners, or even female partners, for that matter. With the right sex toy, by and large, they’re in orgasm heaven.
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It can be humbling to learn this as someone who’s been fed a steady diet of internet porn, where a big cock and a can-do attitude are all you need to make a woman orgasm, but the truth is that the penis, no matter the size, is not the primary instrument of sexual pleasure for women and vulva owners these days.
Sure, that deep pounding stuff, done right, can be great! But it’s kind of like a handjob — both literally and figuratively. Figuratively because, well, studies show most women orgasm more easily from other techniques; literally because both techniques miss out on the person’s real pleasure center: the head of the penis and its female analogue, the clitoris.
Unfortunately, too many guys don’t receive a useful sex education when it comes to pleasuring their partners, and that means there are tons of women in relationships with men they love that are still kind of sexually unsatisfying. The difference between how often men orgasm from sex with women and vice versa is so pronounced there’s even a name for it: the orgasm gap.
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But it doesn’t have to be this way! You can fix the issue by becoming more proficient at giving oral, and learning to use your hands and your words as well as your dick, but if your partner has a clitoris, well, one thing you can do real quick to up the orgasm count in your relationship is bring a sex toy into the mix.
The average straight guy probably doesn’t have much experience with sex toys. Sex toys for men are often the butt of jokes, considered last resorts for incels and virgins, rather than as legitimate ways to take your masturbation to the next level — or simply ways to explore different solo sex techniques.
And sex toys for women are often things they masturbate with during solo time, without bringing them into the mix as a couple. Even if you’re fairly sexually experienced as a guy, there’s a decent possibility that you could make it through a good chunk — if not all — of your sexual career without using an actual sex toy.
And while there’s nothing wrong with that per se, it’s also a little strange. We use the miracles of high tech in every other facet of our lives to improve our quality of living; why do we still screw like we’re cavepeople? For a lot of guys, unfortunately, it’s simply a kind of masculine inertia — why should I learn how to do a new thing? For some there’s also the fear of the toy rendering you obsolete in some way, or of being “less of a man” if you’re not the one giving your partner 100% of the pleasure.
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That’s a backward mentality, unfortunately. It can be a little shot to the ego to try to use a toy on a partner if you’re not used to it. And it can feel like you’re being one-upped by a machine if your partner gets off from a toy while you’re right there. But I assure you that that’s small-minded thinking. All else being equal, which woman is happier — the one who’s having more orgasms or the one who’s having fewer?
Introducing sex toys into your shared sex life could be the best thing to ever happen to you as a couple. It’s a whole new dimension of pleasure, and once you get past the initial hesitancy you may find yourself becoming increasingly adept at pleasuring your partner not just with your dick, your hands or your tongue, but with toys, too, you might just start to feel like a bit of a sex wizard. There’s a reason one of the most popular toys is called the Magic Wand, after all.
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