Dear Abby: I was married to a wonderful woman for 27 happy years until she passed last year. We did everything together. Now I feel lonely and depressed. We had a sweet furry guy named Maxx who was our whole world. I lost Maxx a few months ago, and I am devastated.
I’m a very hardworking man. After losing my family, I feel lifeless -- like the life has been sucked out of my body. My co-workers tell me I need to start dating and move on. It’s not that easy. Is this normal?
I have been attending grief therapy, but it doesn’t seem to be working. I tried joining a dating site but it’s a disaster out there. Most of the women are gold diggers or interested only in hookups. I like only curvy ladies. I don’t think I’m ever going to find someone intelligent or reasonable. What do you suggest?
-- Out of Sorts in Oregon
Dear Out of Sorts: Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your dear wife. I’m sure she is irreplaceable. Losing Maxx, your emotional support furry friend, has only added to your loss. Because the grief counseling you have been getting hasn’t helped, it may be time to find another therapist. Do not begin dating until you are stronger emotionally.
If you are contacting only “curvy ladies” for their looks, it may be why you are finding “gold diggers or women interested only in hookups.” You will meet women who are intelligent and reasonable once you start looking specifically for ladies who have those qualities. Once you do, you may be surprised to find some of them are curvy. But, please, make “curvy” the third item on your list.
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