Raise your hand if you feel like being on top during sex can be a little…awkward. What should I do with my hips? Where should I look? What the eff do I do with my hands? Can he tell I ate five slices of pizza today?
Trust, most women’s hands are currently raised. Getting in the right mind-set to make sure you achieve your O can often be the hardest part of mastering cowgirl, or the on-top sex position. But thanks to the great platform of Twitter, we may have discovered the best “riding D” tip of all time....
If you’ve been on Twitter at all in the past few days (which, I’m sure you have—we’ve been in a heat wave, ppl!), you’ve seen that women across the country, the world, the universe have discovered the ultimate trick. Yes, they’re spelling out the word “coconut” with their hips when they’re on top during sex to make it feel amazing for all involved. See for yourself:
But why is this such a thing, you might ask?
While you may think this is just some funny Twitter joke that’s eventually going to be replaced by some other viral tweet in a few days, this tip is actually extremely beneficial for literally everyone.
For starters, “coconut” is pretty easy to remember (and spell). But using your hips to spell out the word when you’re on top requires a certain pattern of movement that will feel supes good.
“The more motion you work into on-top intercourse, the more complexity you stimulate for yourself and your partner,” explains Good Vibrations’ resident sexologist, Carol Queen, PhD.
Another perk: “Having a word to spell might take your attention away from less sexy feelings like, ‘I’m not sure what to do’ or ‘I feel exposed and nervous,’” says Queen. Working those hips toward a goal gives your mind something to think about so it doesn’t fixate on any worries or in-the-moment stressors (and FWIW, no, he can’t tell you ate Little Caesars last night).
Okay, but can I choose a word other than “coconut”?
Girl, of course you can! Literally, the sky is the limit. Think about how many words exist. If you don’t want to spell out “coconut” with your hips while riding your guy, you can choose any of your fave fruits, veggies, or…television shows?
“Any fairly long word will involve plenty of hip movement, changes in direction, and round and up-and-down movements to stimulate a lot of pleasure,” says Queen. “Even just the letter ‘Z’ has three changes of direction. So if you find a word you like better—go for it.”
TBH, the person who came up with this is a GD genius and gets a gold star. This is one small—but major—tip for making your own orgasms happen.
Taylor is the former Sex and Relationships editor who can tell you exactly which vibrators are worth the splurge, why you’re still dreaming about your ex, and tips on how to have the best sex of your life (including what word you should spell with your hips during cowgirl sex). You can follow her on Instagram here.
