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Sex bucket list ideas to add to your checklist
Feeling a bit extra?
Sex bucket lists are a bit old fashioned, but so much fun. If you're anything like me, you won't be up for experimental sex every time, but sometimes you just fancy doing something a little extra. Whether its role play or trying different sex positions you're intro, when the mood takes you and you're feeling fancy, refer to this list of ideas. And if you're feeling really brave, try this 30-day sex challenge.
Sex bucket list - Listen to audio porn
Audio porn is huge, in case you hadn't heard. Whether you listen to it alone or with a partner, arousal very often starts in the mind. So give it a go. It might even give you some ideas and inspiration for IRL sex.
Sex bucket list - Try the Kivin method oral sex technique
The Kivin method is an oral sex technique that claims to make women and people with vulvas orgasm in three minutes or under. Yes, we're skeptical too (and don't think racing to make someone come is very conducive to well... making them come). But, there's no harm in trying new stuff, right? Instead of licking up and down and having your partner positioned between your legs, ask them to come at you from the side and lick across the clitoris instead.
Sex bucket list ideas - Get into a 69
The 69 sex position is an oldie but a goodie. A) it involves double oral sex, and B) anyone of any gender identity and sexuality can do it. What's not to love?! You get to be super close and intimate with your partner, and most importantly, it's fun!
Sex bucket list ideas - Give an erotic massage
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Sex bucket list ideas - Have sex in the bath or shower
Shower sex can be all kinds of fun (and potentially dangerous because: water), especially if you try out some of these bathroom sex positions.
Sex bucket list ideas - Outdoor sex and public sex
Don't worry, as long as no one sees you, having public sex outdoors is totally legal. The thrill of doing something a bit naughty, and potentially getting caught, will just add to the general sexy vibe.
Sex bucket list ideas - Role play
Role play can be a giant laugh, but also really bloody sexy. If you want to play around with the roles you usually take during sex, this is the perfect opportunity. Plus, dressing up is so fun. Whether you go for the classic French maid or full fetish cat, there's a costume for what you're into.
Sex bucket list - Try kegel balls
Remember that scene in Fifty Shades where Christian popped a metal ball into Ana's vagina before they went off to a masked ball? Yes, totally normal behaviour. And you can try that, too. Kegel balls are worn internally and stimulate you gently and you walk around/go about your business. Plus, they're designed to train your pelvic floor muscles.
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Sex bucket list ideas - Wear something a little extra
Erotic lingerie not only looks great from your partner's point of view, but it can make you feel sexy and confident, right?
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Sex bucket list ideas - Join the Mile High Club
The Mile High Club is so damn fun to join, even 13 major celebs have spoken out about their in-air sexual experiences. Whether you risk getting caught by doing your business under a blanket, or pop to the loos under the watchful eye of the cabin crew, it'll one hell of a story to tell your pals.
Sex bucket list ideas - Watch porn together
Watching porn together can turn you on, but also give you ideas and awaken fantasies you never knew you had. It also opens a discussion between partners about what they might like to try, how fun! Make sure you choose ethical, feminist, legit porn where people are paid to act and the content isn't ripped by the tube site giants. Here's how to find good porn.
Sex bucket list ideas - Spank the night away
If you're interested in trying some light impact play, grab yourself a spanking paddle and get spanking. Whether you are the spanker or the spankee (technical terms here people!), read our spanking for beginners guide first.
Sex bucket list ideas - Have sex in a swimming pool
Pool sex is up there on a lot of people's sexual fantasies list. So why not try having sex in a swimming pool, or a hot tub... or the sea... whatever you have access too, basically.
Sex bucket list ideas - Have a threesome
While some people's idea of personal hell is inviting someone else into the sacred bedroom, others say threesome sex was the best sex of their lives. Just be sure to communicate openly and honestly beforehand (and during, and after) about your boundaries, limits and desires. And try these trusty threesome sex positions.
Sex bucket list ideas - Try anal play
If you want to dip your toe (not literally... unless you want to) into anal play for the first time but you aren't sure where to start, take it slow. Here's how to use anal sex toys for the first time. We'd recommend starting off very small with some good quality, silicone anal beads. They're a no frills but super pleasurable toy to begin with. Or choose one of these anal sex toys for beginners. You coudl also try rimming or anal fingering if toys aren't for you.
Sex bucket list ideas - Perform the classic Rusty Trombone
Simultaneous rimming and a hand job doesn't sound too easy, but it can be done. And for a penis-having partner, it can feel incredible (remember they have a G-spot in their butt, known as the P spot.)If you're worried about cleanliness or potential poop, you can use an anal douche before you get going. Or, get some flavoured lube up in there.
Sex bucket list ideas - Go to a sex party
If you're interested in going to a sex party for the first time, know you can be as involved as you want to be. Whether you go with a partner and just have sex while other people watch, or actually have sex with other people you meet there, it's up to you. Here's a list of the best swingers clubs and sex parties in the UK. You could even try a virtual sex party...
Sex bucket list ideas - Strap into a harness and get pegging
Pegging - a reasonably new term that means when a woman or vagina-having person anally penetrates a male/penis-owning person with a strap on dildo - is becoming so much more popular. And it's not hard to see why (seriously, I tried it, it was hot). If your partner's into it, start off small with an anal toy and work your way up to a full-on dildo as they become more comfortable. Whatever you do, use a fuck load of lube because the anus doesn't self-lubricate like the vagina.
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