Wife stuns with long list of things she doesn't do for her husband: 'He's a grown man, he can do it himself'
- A wife doesn't do her husband's laundry, pack lunch or make his appointments
- The long list divided opinions on TikTok
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A wife has caused a stir after listing everything she doesn't do for her husband.
Paige Turner, from the US, wanted to make it clear she's her partner's wife - not his mum or personal assistant.
And so the mum-of-four doesn't do his laundry, nor does she cook for him, pack lunches or book any of his appointments.
While these might seen as 'small acts of kindness', Paige claimed doing her husband's chores is a form of 'domestic labour' that 'just add up to work at the end of the day'.
'There's a lot of things that I don't do for my husband,' she said in a now-viral TikTok.
'I don't do my husband's laundry, he can do that himself. I do my laundry and we do the kids laundry but he does his own.
'I don't cook dinner - he cooks dinner every single night. I do breakfast and lunch for us and our kids.'
The confession came as a shock to some women who said they 'adore' doing these mundane chores for their partner.
Paige Turner, from the US, wanted to make it clear she's her husband's wife - not his mum or personal assistant. And so she doesn't do his laundry, nor does she cook for him, pack lunches or make any of his appointments
Paige continued to share what else she doesn't do for her significant other.
'I don't pack him a lunch. If he's hungry, he'll figure out what he's gonna eat for lunch the same way that I do,' she revealed.
'I don't make his doctor's appointments because guess what, he's not making mine. Would it be kind of me to do that? For sure. Is it my job? Absolutely not. I want him to be healthy but he's a grown a** man, he can book his own appointments.'
Paige also doesn't schedule his haircuts, pack his clothes for a holiday, and she doesn't buy him new underwear when he needs it.
However, she shows her love in other ways, such as buying something he might like.
'If I see a vinyl that I think he's gonna like, I buy it. I'm at the store and I see something that I think he might enjoy eating, I buy it. If I find a new non-alcoholic beer he wants to try out, I buy it,' she said.
'But when it comes to chores, these are not acts of kindness.'
She admitted that she does these chores on occasion if her husband is working late or to assist with the house work.
'But me not doing that does not mean that I don't show him love or kindness - they're different things,' she clarified.
'It is not my job as a wife, it is not in my job description, to do all the domestic labour as small acts of kindness to my partner and receive nothing in return.
'I am not my husband's personal secretary or his personal assistant, I am none of those things. I am his partner, I am his equal and I do not have to do things to cater to him and serve him at all times to be kind and loving for him.'
The confession came as a shock to some women who said they 'adore' doing these mundane chores for their partner (stock image)
The video has since gone viral exceeding a staggering 5.3million views and opinions were divided in the comments.
Some women said they 'take pride' in doing the chores mentioned for their husband.
'I'm a stay-at-home wife. I do all those things plus more and I'm very happy. If I get overwhelmed he always steps up and helps me though. Every marriage is different,' one woman wrote.
'I would do anything for my husband. He is my king!' another said.
'Sounds like there is no love in your relationships. My wife and I do everything together, we don't have separate 'jobs'. That's the key…TOGETHER. If you can't do that, then why did you get married?' a third added.
But others couldn't believe Paige's list was deemed 'controversial' to some.
'The fact that people are shocked by this SENDS ME. I cannot fathom making his appts or lunches. Laundry we trade off on who does it and it's pretty even,' one said.
'Preach. Parentifying your spouse is such a turn off,' another added.
'Sounds like you're his wife not his mum. Love this for you queen,' someone else wrote.
Someone else said: 'Funny how not one person ever criticized my ex-husband for not doing my laundry when we both worked.'
'Small acts of kindness are only small when they don't usually fall on you and it's reciprocated,' one more added.
