I have always found it interesting that sex toys are considered quite normal for women but are something of a taboo for men.
Perhaps women have more specific sexual needs and are more open to experimentation. Perhaps it is the machoism that is attached to male sex life and the idea of not getting any action is an embarrassment. Perhaps, if we are going to be completely honest, it is far easier for a bloke to experience an orgasm so is in less need of help.
The truth is, when it comes to self-love, masturbating has done everything that I have needed it to.
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But as youthful exuberance begins to leave my body and the sex life dries to its lowest point in my adulthood, I thought it might be the perfect time to see what toys have to offer for the very first time.
I picked up the Satisfyer Men Heat Vibration toy and it proved to be the ideal introduction into self-pleasure technology. Not only was the orgasm one of the best I have ever experienced while in a room on my own, but it has left me yearning for more. If this is entry-level, what more could there be on offer?
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It is not the most complex of toys and I am certain that it will not be the most enjoyable out there either, but for a gentle nudge into the world of sex toys it opened my eyes - and then some - as to how you can easily enhance your personal time.
It comes with a sleek and slightly-discreet design and is easy for storage and travel. It certainly looks the part, if nothing else.
The toy is not a ‘stroker’ as such, and is more of a stimulator for the glans (particularly as most people will not get their entire manhood inside). If you do not get much pleasure from the head of your penis, perhaps it wouldn’t be for you.
Satisfyer Men Heat Vibration
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As it is more of a glans stimulator, the entry point for your member is a little shallow and lubrication is an essential. If you are blessed enough to have something of an XL phallus, then you will end up finding the experience a little too snug - or even perhaps painful.
The toy is as simple to use as you could imagine. Lube up, slide it in and hit go. The lack of airflow due to the non-entry end being shut off means that there is a lot of suction and when the vibrations begin, you can sit back and relax.
By my third use, I let it get to work and focused on my breathing and that was the key for me to get the most out of the toy. It soon takes you to a place that is less than familiar when you are lying alone on your bed.
The heat takes a while to kick in, so you need to be patient, but it is another sensation when it hits.
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Admittedly, as it does all the work for you, I can see why some users may eventually grow bored of the toy and want something else to add another element of fun. Because of the suction, too much stroking could quickly end up being painful.
It says there are fourteen different paces of vibration, but I could only really notice four or five of them, yet it was enough variation for my needs. It is also waterproof, which makes it easy to clean after use.
This toy was a starting point for me, but has done the job by opening my eyes to a whole new world. It's retailed at £67.95, which is in the medium range makes it a good option for first-timers.
And ultimately, it gave me a feeling that I hadn’t experienced before, so as far as introductions into sex toys go, this one hit the mark.
Alternatively, you can try Lovehoney's Blowmotion Warming Vibrating Male Masturbator for an "authentic blow job" experience. It has a three-inch interior canal that warms to 40°C for unbelievable realism. It's currently on 20% off so you can save it £15 and get it for £59.99.