About You: Fully Human, Fully Alive
By Dick Staub
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Staub's previous book (The Culturally Savvy Christian) was selected by Kirkus Reviews for their 2007 Religion and Spirituality edition. This new book is designed to help those who are seeking a way to integrate both a fully alive spirituality and a fully alive humanity—a way that is embodied in the often-misunderstood life and teaching of Jesus Christ. This groundbreaking book illuminates the path towards becoming the best version of yourself.
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About You - Dick Staub
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human potential and our universal dilemma
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you are a masterpiece
Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.
—THOREAU
Once upon a time an adolescent asked Mozart how to compose symphonies. Because the lad was so young, Mozart suggested that perhaps he should begin by composing ballads. But,
the young man objected, you wrote symphonies when you were only ten years old.
Mozart replied, But I didn’t have to ask how.
There are two important lessons in this story. First, Mozart was a genius (which can be defined as one with exceptional natural capacity of intellect, especially as shown in creative and original work in science, art, and music). Second, Mozart was fortunate enough to have discovered his genius, and at a very young age.
But there is a third important lesson here, and this one is about you. Webster’s second definition of genius is an individual’s natural abilities and capacities.
In this sense, you are a genius! About You explores the origin of your genius and will help you discover your blend of unique talents, capacities, personality, and life experiences so that you can become the absolute best version of yourself.
I have always been intrigued by the powerful notion of individual genius, but the simplistic bromides of positive thinking have turned me off. This book takes the position that there is a factual basis for believing in your inestimable worth: you are created by an infinitely creative God. It also takes seriously the obstacles to achieving your potential and concludes that you cannot achieve it by yourself, but the good news is help is available.
I know, you don’t need another book. It’s not as if there aren’t enough books out there already, sitting lonely and forlorn, stacked high in bedrooms and offices, unread. It’s not as if you have a lot of extra time to read another one, busy as you are with whatever you are busy with: work, a love life, raising kids, watching reruns of Friends or Gilligan’s Island, Tweeting, game playing, movie watching, Facebooking, scrapbooking—any one of which leave little time for book reading.
Even book lovers agree. Ecclesiastes got it right, Of making many books there is no end, and much study wearies the body.
And yet you purchased this slim volume or loaded its electronic version onto your e-reader. Why this book? What made you pick it up, turn it over, read the back cover, carry it to a cashier, or click and order it through an online bookseller?
You don’t need another book but you wanted this one, probably because it is about something that matters to you: you and your desire to live a fuller and more complete life, to become fully human.
You are not alone in your quest. Throughout the centuries, thinking humans, whether mere mortals, philosophers, prophets, or sages, have asked the same universal questions: What is a human being? Who am I? Why am I here? What is the meaning and significance of human life, and my life specifically?
Most ancient philosophers believed the primary job of the philosopher was to answer the questions: How do people live happy, fulfilling lives and how can they be good persons? There has been no shortage of verbiage on these matters: Know thyself. To thine own self be true. The unexamined life is not worth living. The chief end of man is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever.
Experiencing a satisfying life requires answering these questions for yourself, and consciously or not from the very beginning you’ve been naturally curious about your place in the world. When you first emerged from your mother’s womb, your journey of self-discovery and wonder began.
As a newborn you got in touch with yourself, literally—your fingers and toes, your hunger pangs, your pain, your discomfort. Soon your eyes became a portal of discovery to a world beyond yourself and your ears began to capture the exotic, mysterious sounds of others. What is that? Who is that? What have they to do with me? Your crawling turned to walking, your indistinguishable blabber turned to talking, and one day you became the reader of bedtime stories instead of the listener.
The infant became a child, the child became a teen, the teen became an adult and an immense, complex world unfolded before you as the curious explorer who, though but a speck of dust trapped in time, began searching for meaning, wisdom, and maybe even for the eternal, transcendent God.
Your solitary journey commenced with a sense of limitless possibilities and an expansive awareness of your own potential. Soon you were joined by family, friends, neighbors, acquaintances, the media, teachers, and a million other external influences who set about their work of expanding your sense of value and worth or diminishing it, of constructively guiding or derailing you, of clarifying your life’s purpose or diverting you from it.
Perhaps your life has unfolded ideally and just as you planned. But for most of us, life deals some serious blows and detours. Paraphrasing Tolstoy, happy humans are all alike, but every unhappy human is unhappy in his or her own way. You didn’t make the team or you made the team but didn’t play, or you played a lot but on a losing team, or you played on the championship team but still didn’t feel like a winner. You didn’t get cast in the play or you got cast but in a minor role; you weren’t chosen for the select band or choir; you scored too low on the SATs; you weren’t admitted to the college of your choice; your one true love broke your heart, leaving you for another; your parents divorced; you were passed by for the job of your dreams and have languished in lesser work, or you got the job of your dreams and hated it. You finished school or were well into your career before you realized that you didn’t really know what you wanted to be when you grew up!
Privately you’ve written poems or songs that no one will ever hear or drawn sketches or created art no one will ever see. This saddens you because this deeply personal work somehow reflects the essential you, the one longing for expression, hungry to be known. Some folks’ lives roll easily and sometimes yours never seems to roll at all. Life batters and shatters you and one day you wake up fearing you are becoming the person described in Thoreau’s haunting refrain: Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.
You wonder if you’ve missed your own life the way someone misses a plane. You ask: Has it taken a lifetime or did it happen overnight that I become a hollowed-out version of the person I might have become? The greatest hazard of all, losing one’s self, can occur very quietly in the world, as if it were nothing at all. No other loss can occur so quietly; any other loss—an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc.—is sure to be noticed.
So said the wistful and wise Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard in his masterpiece Sickness Unto Death.
And so I have written this little book to share what I’ve learned about becoming fully human. I’ve studied this question academically, completing graduate studies with a concentration in the humanities (philosophy, the arts, religion), because, after all, the humanities are the study of humans and the culture they create, and that is what I was interested in.
I’ve sought the answers to life’s deepest questions personally, through trial and error, successes and failures. My philosophical quest began in earnest when I was ten years old and my brother Timmy was born with brain damage, leaving him unable to walk, talk, feed, or care for himself. My childlike trust in God unraveled and my questions about the nature and meaning of human existence were born. Did my brother’s life have meaning? What was a fully human life and could he ever live one?
As an adult I’ve traveled to more than fifty countries, listening to and observing the universal, common desires of all humans, seeking to understand how we are alike instead of focusing on the differences that so often divide us.
My career took me into a large corporate, then nonprofit, environment where I rose through the ranks of management only to discover that my work was a good use of my talents, but not the best use.
A Few Lessons I’ve Learned
Perhaps my greatest education in our subject came as a broadcaster where, as a nationally syndicated talk show host, I was afforded a unique vantage point from which to understand people’s hopes, dreams, aspirations, disappointments, sorrows, and frustrations. For fifteen years my daily life consisted of reading five newspapers a day, devouring thirty journals a month, and then identifying and evaluating contemporary trends in light of ancient wisdom. On a show billed as a home for warm hearts, active minds, and hungry souls, during three hours each day I interviewed influential authors and talked with callers about ideas that matter. Although occasionally I heard upbeat answers from callers and guests, more often I heard tales of lives unraveling and hopes gone unfulfilled.
Let me underscore a few themes that I’ve learned.
Most People Can and Should Live Fuller Lives and Will Be Chronically Unhappy If They Don’t
Full means complete in all respects. Applied to humans, living fully means living a complete life as opposed to an incomplete, partial, or compartmentalized life. The ancient Greeks called this complete life arête, a word used to describe the lives of people who had reached their fullest potential. Fame or wealth was not the measure of such a life. Rather these individuals aspired to become well-rounded persons: physically, mentally, morally, and spiritually. The Greeks understood that each individual’s unique capacities—or genius
—enabled him or her to excel at certain aspects of life over others, but they believed the full life involved the total development of the whole person.
This same thought is captured in the Hebrew word shalom, which is generally translated into English as peace
but actually refers less to the cessation of war than to wholeness and well-being. To achieve shalom means to arrive at a balanced, healthy, and whole life.
The Greeks and Hebrews assumed that achieving less than a full, complete, and balanced life leaves one with a sense of incompleteness and an acute awareness that something is missing. Does this not describe most contemporary humans?
Many People Have Forgotten the Magnificence of Being Human and Have Little Sense of Their Unique, Extraordinary Potential
We aim for fullness and completeness, but what does it mean to be fully human? What differentiates humans from animals? Even today’s most rigorous materialist would say humans are distinguishable by our intellectual, creative, moral, relational, and even spiritual capacities. Might it be that we today are dissatisfied with our lives because we have lost touch with these basic qualities of humanness itself? Is it possible that the way to a satisfactory and fulfilling life begins with rediscovering the essence of what it means to be human?
Psychologists generally agree that the happy life is the fully integrated life, not the compartmentalized life. They seek to make us well by helping us become emotionally whole, because anything less will result in a feeling of dissatisfaction and a longing for something more. Academics develop the intellect, the religiously devout a spiritual life, athletes the body, artists the creative. What if being human involves all of these together, not the development of one or two in isolation from the others?
Most People Are Not Fully Alive
Most of us exist but are dispirited, indifferent, lacking in passion. This is a global phenomenon.
Sooner or later most humans realize that gone are the days of childhood when they were exuberant, alert, animated, hopeful, full of energy, and vivid and vibrant. Something important is missing, they realize, and they face a choice: give up, or try to fill the empty space. Those who haven’t given up pursue learning, reading the wisdom of the ages, buying self-help books, or taking seminars. They meditate or turn to religion or a spiritual tradition or crawl onto the psychiatrist’s couch. Those who have given up overmedicate, overeat, shop compulsively, drink too much, party too much, or find diversions through senseless entertainments and amusements.
About You
I am striving to become more fully alive and fully human, but this book is about you because I want you to join me in this quest.
Whether you are trying to fill the empty space or have already given up, About You is your invitation to an adventure that combines ancient wisdom and new insights. Together we will see that you have unique and incalculable value and worth; there is a reason you feel loss and longing and there is a path toward becoming fully alive and fully human. There is a grand and noble collective human story of which your life is a part, and your fulfillment and happiness depends on your living your unique story fully. There is within you an inner Mozart
waiting to come out, and I want to help release it!
One final note as we get started on this journey together. Chaucer said, A pilgrimage can be a rowdy affair.
Given what I know about people and suspect to be true about you (my readers tend to march to the beat of a different drummer), I say, Let your rowdy pilgrimage to fully human begin!
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primal humans
the collective memory of the way we were
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created
Talking about cosmology, you can’t help making the connection to religion. In all religions, all cultures, there’s always, In the beginning.
Either you started from something or you didn’t, right?
—GEORGE SMOOT
Everything I know about becoming fully alive and fully human starts with a simple but profoundly important idea: God created humans and God created us in the image of God so we can enjoy a rich intellectual, creative, relational, moral, and spiritual life. You are not the accidental result of a random, purposeless process but, in fact, were created by a loving, personal God who had you in mind before the beginning of time. This is an essential and reasonable but embattled truth.
I am not a scientist, but I live in a scientific age. I am not a scientist, but I’ve always taken the natural world seriously. As I child I walked down the dirt road in Bly, Oregon, and watched Dayton Hyde observing the migratory pattern of a Sandhill Crane. He later wrote the book Sandy, the Sand Hill Crane. As a nine-year-old I stood