The Night of the Gun: A reporter investigates the darkest story of his life. His own.
By David Carr
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Do we remember only the stories we can live with? The ones that make us look good in the rearview mirror? In The Night of the Gun, David Carr redefines memoir with the revelatory story of his years as an addict and chronicles his journey from crack-house regular to regular columnist for The New York Times. Built on sixty videotaped interviews, legal and medical records, and three years of reporting, The Night of the Gun is a ferocious tale that uses the tools of journalism to fact-check the past. Carr’s investigation of his own history reveals that his odyssey through addiction, recovery, cancer, and life as a single parent was far more harrowing—and, in the end, more miraculous—than he allowed himself to remember.
Fierce, gritty, and remarkable, The Night of the Gun is “an odyssey you’ll find hard to forget” (People).
David Carr
David Carr was a reporter and the “Media Equation” columnist for The New York Times. Previously, he wrote for the Atlantic Monthly and New York magazine and was editor of the Twin Cities Reader in Minneapolis. The author of the acclaimed memoir, The Night of the Gun, he passed away in February 2015.
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- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5David Carr works for the New York Times. He is from Minnesota and I worked with his mother. My bookclub thought it would be a good choice. Although I have a deep understanding of chemical dependency, I was disappointed in this book. I felt as if the author wandered and expressed his thoughts in such a random way.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5“Memories are like that. They live between synapses and between the people who hold them. Memories, even epic ones, are perishable from their very formation even in people who don't soak their brains in mood-altering chemicals. There is only so much space on any one person's hard drive, and old memories are prone to replacement by newer ones.” “I now inhabit a life I don't deserve, but we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon” I was not aware of David Carr as an award-winning journalist, but I remember being intrigued by this memoir, when it came out about a decade ago. As many books do, it got lost in the shuffle, but I was able to finally track the audiobook down and boy, I am glad I did. This may be the best addiction story I have ever read and possibly the best written. Due to his chronic drug and alcohol abuse, (and this is some harrowing stuff) he thought the best approach was to rely on others to help fill in the gaps of his careening life, so he began to interview family, friends and associates and unearth police and medical reports. Carr compiled all this research and used it to tell his story. Sadly, Carr died in 2015, still in his late 50s and sober for many years, but what a print legacy to leave behind. Highly recommended.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5This one's a coin flip between 3 and 4 stars--maybe 3 for the first half and four for the second. The idea of doing a "fact-checked" memoir to counter the entropy and self-deceptions of one's own drug-and-booze-addled memory is really intriguing. And Carr is sufficiently honest about the loathsomeness of his own junkie days to deliver a compelling portrait of addiction. But the result of that starkness is that I just disliked him and couldn't wait for him to pull his act together, which he does somewhat in more nuanced second half.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Fascinating on many levels, this memoir was written by a reporter who fact-checked himself rigorously. In so doing, he discovered that many of his memories were false or significantly altered from the reality experienced by the other participants. The layer added by his exploration of the nature of memory is perhaps more interesting that the somewhat banal "crackhead wises up" story it's wrapped around.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This was one of those books that I didn't want to put down. David Carr has lived a very colorful life, but what intrigued me about this book was that he was a journalist who came to acknowledge his own lack of objectivity. In fact, he discovers that none of us are objective and that our memories aren't simple video cameras recording our lives. Our memories are true to our emotions rather than the facts, but this is not necessarily a bad thing. It does mean that we're all imperfect and that it takes a lot of work to piece together a scene based on witness testimony.As a recovering drug addict and alcoholic David was thrown into single parenthood and openly admits that he wasn't a martyr in any sense. He openly admits to his own fallibility and failures, but at one point while his children were still young he chose to recover his life. This book is his investigation into who he was and the impact of his mistakes on the lives of those around him. His writing style is journalistic with use of strong metaphors and it works well for this book.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Incredibly depressing book about addiction . . . Last 75 pages are emotionally harrowing.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5In his New York Times obituary, I learned of David Carr’s memoir, published in 2008. From that obituary, I read of the dreadful years spent lost in a fog of drugs and later in the throes of alcoholism. I admired his writing and wanted to learn more about him. I was curious about how he moved from drug house to the newsroom of America’s best newspaper.Usually I’m not a big fan of memoir – in my estimation, they’re often meandering, boring and self-serving. Not so The Night of the Gun. In fact, David Carr was so concerned about getting things right that he went back to people and institutions he interacted with back when he was a druggie. Those in-depth interviews find their way into most chapters. Mr. Carr found that his memory was faulty and it was in the pages he wrote about the nature of memory that he was at his most brilliant. He read his own medical and police files, and obtained information about his stays in de-tox and rehab. Then he told the story as he found it. It was not a pretty picture and he didn’t spare readers the more sordid details. He was his toughest critic. I was riveted by The Night of the Gun. When is put it down, I couldn’t wait to get back to it. One of the best memoirs I’ve read.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5At first it seems like a gimmick: Investigating your own life to write a journalistic memoir. But Carr puts the device to work, producing a book that on one level is a junkie-makes-good story, on another level is a story about how we tell our own stories, on another level a rumination on the gifts and limitations of memory, and on another level is just a guy trying to make sense of stuff the best way he knows how.
I've known a few addicts, I've known a few journalists, I'm fascinated by memory, I'm a relatively new dad who frequently feels like I'm pretending at being normal (even if I wouldn't describe myself as a maniac, as Carr does). This book hits a lot of sweet spots and knocks 'em out of the park. - Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Written in reaction to the backlash over "the more fiction than truth" memoirs like A Million Little Pieces, David Carr's Night of The Gun takes a nearly scientific approach to the reporting of a life of addiction and recovery.At the start the book is a fascinating musing on the difference between what actually happened and how we remember it. But the novelty of this device ultimately tires and we are left with a brutal account of an ultimately unsympathetic character who makes it nearly impossible to root for him.Night of The Gun does have it's high points, but most of them come in the first half of the book. The backside of the book is an exercise in endurance with Carr turning his focus to the tragedies of the people around him and an account of him watching his carefully constructed world fall a part.At the end of this little experiment of a book I came away feeling exhausted and unfulfilled. The conclusion I reached was that I'd rather read the mostly true recollections of someone going through he'll than the blow by blow reporting based on the mostly true recollections of others.A Million Little Pieces may be filled with a million little white lies, but I enjoyed that book a million times more than this one. Memoir isn't really pure nonfiction and that's a good thing as a storyteller will always triumph a reporter when it comes to creating a compelling personal stories.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Autobiographical tales featuring survivors of drug addiction and substance abuse have always been popular. There is something intriguing about listening as someone describes hitting rock bottom, and then somehow managing to miraculously turn themselves around.Of course, such books are so popular that one must sometimes wonder whether the facts have been embellished for the sole purpose of entertainment. The debacle surrounding A Million Little Pieces alerted the literary community to the dangers behind that. While biographies involve investigations on behalf of the author, autobiographies become suspect, as the possible motivations of the self-diarists make them unreliable witnesses at best.This is where David Carr's book steps away from the rest of the pack. The Night of the Gun almost doesn't qualify as an autobiography. He remembers very little of what actually occurred during his days of drug abuse, and what he does remember is almost wholly unreliable. So, be an investigative reporter, he uses the skills on hand to delve into the mystery that is his own life.This is where Carr's book leaves the others behind. He wanders through the down and out periods of his life with a grim curiosity that never lapses into self-pity or melodrama. He could be writing about somebody else entirely, and in some ways, he is. His style isn't emotionless; one would have to be truly cold and indifferent not to feel something while looking back on some of the things Carr did had had done to him. But there is a slight detachment from the source material that keeps his observations from becoming self-serving or, even worse, self-pitying. He not only makes no excuses for his own actions, he doesn't even understand some of them himself.Carr's book will appeal to fans of similar books, such as Permanent Midnight, but don't expect a carbon copy of the format. If Carr's story doesn't appear to have the obviously uplifting ending or tone that you were expecting, that's because it wasn't meant to be that kind of book. Carr isn't telling us his story so we can learn from his mistakes. He exploring his own painful past, like probing the raw nerve beneath a sore tooth, because he just can't bring himself to leave it behind, at last not without knowing what it all must have appeared from the outside looking in.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Carr’s autobiography telling the story of his long history of addiction and shorter history of recovery, done as what he remembers plus investigation that he did as if he were reporting a story—which reveals a lot of things that he didn’t remember correctly, such as who exactly was holding a gun on one important night. He eventually took custody of his twins, born prematurely when both parents were addicted to crack and nearly incapable of taking care of themselves, much less babies. It’s beautifully written, and it has the messiness of life—his redemption story is about getting himself together to take care of his kids, and that is powerful, and yet when he relapses he drives drunk while they’re in the car. He achieves what seems like objectivity about his own history, including the parts he can’t remember, though I wish he’d talked a bit more about how he felt about all this, including about baring his lowest points for inspection.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This is a brutally honest memoir by an amazing writer. Carr's life story will stay with me for a long time.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Kenny actually has a lot of fondness—in clinical terms, it would be called “euphoric recall”—for those days.
One of the best things about this book, David Carr's autobiography, is his no crying-over-spilled-milk, simple and non-alacrious style. It's not noir, it's just a very good author's voice, elegantly translated from his journalistic self.
The book is mostly about his addiction, the long years of addiction, where he had two children, went from school to real jobs, trying to sober up, trying to remember, trying to remember, trying to build himself up, etc.
Memory can change the shape of a room; it can change the color of a car. —LEONARD, A MAN WHO CANNOT MAKE NEW MEMORIES AND IS SEARCHING FOR HIS WIFE’S KILLER, MEMENTO.
One of the most interesting parts about this book is that Carr has interviewed people from his past: exes, former friends, bosses, drug dealers, people he went into sobriety with. He compares his memory of events with theirs. No surprise: when he was a full-blown addict, he didn't exactly remember a lot. Mind shot, blood shot, Allshot.
I know we did lots of “more.” That’s what we called coke. We called it more because it was the operative metaphor for the drug. Even if it was the first call of the night, we would say, “You got any more?” because there would always be more—more need, more coke, more calls.
The eyes that saw too much because they did not close often enough.
He relives his life through this book, his memoir, where he at the best of times seems very introspect and at the worst of times seems bloated and boasting. Thankfully, there's very little of the latter and a lot of critical moments, mostly turned on his self:
Every hangover begins with an inventory. The next morning mine began with my mouth. I had been baking all night, and it was as dry as a two-year-old chicken bone. My head was a small prison, all yelps of pain and alarm, each movement seeming to shift bits of broken glass in my skull. My right arm came into view for inspection, caked in blood, and then I saw it had a few actual pieces of glass still embedded in it. So much for metaphor. My legs both hurt, but in remarkably different ways. Three quadrants in significant disrepair—that must have been some night, I thought absently. Then I remembered I had jumped my best friend outside a bar. And now that I thought about it, that was before I tried to kick down his door and broke a window in his house. And then I recalled, just for a second, the look of horror and fear on his sister’s face, a woman I adored. In fact, I had been such a jerk that my best friend had to point a gun at me to make me go away. Then I remembered I’d lost my job. It was a daylight waterfall of regret known to all addicts. It can’t get worse, but it does. When the bottom arrives, the cold fact of it all, it is always a surprise. Over fiteen years, I had made a seemingly organic journey from pothead to party boy, from knockaround guy to friendless thug. At thirty-one, I was washed out of my profession, morally and physically corrupt, but I still had almost a year left in the Life. I wasn’t done yet.
There's some great insight collected in this book. There's also repetition, but where repetition is due; I don't think one can really expect a person to go through rehab or trying to quit a sickness without being fully aware of it, every day of one's life, when it's come as far as in Carr's case (not that he's unique in the junkie's aspect, more like a copy); for conscience to be there, conscious repetition has to be in-place, otherwise things will fall apart.
Mornings for an addict involve waking up in a room where everything implicates him. Even if there is no piss or vomit—oh, blessed be the small wonders—there is the tipped-over bottle, the smashed phone, the bright midday light coming through the rip in the shade that says another day has started without you. Drunks and addicts tend to build nests out of the detritus of their misbegotten lives. It is that ecosystem, all there for the inventorying within twenty seconds of waking, which tends to make addiction a serial matter. Apart from the progression of the disease, if you wake up in that kind of hell, you might start looking for something to take the edge off. Nothing like the beer goggles and a nice bracing whiff of something to help you reframe your little disaster area. Hmmm, just a second here. A little of the hair of the dog. Yep. Now, that’s better. Everything is new again.
In a broader sense, addiction can be enormously simplifying. While other people worry about their 401(k)’s, getting their kids into the right nursery school and/or college, and keeping their plot to take over the world in good effect, a junkie or a drunk just has to worry about his next dose. It leads to a life that is, in a way, remarkably organized. What are we doing today? Exactly what we did yesterday, give or take.
His writing on his abusive self is precious (and naturally horrendous):
I found out that as a birthday gift, her friends had surprised her with a naked young man hanging from the ceiling of her cabin. I was livid. “I can remember being at my cabin, and you giving me a black eye and breaking my rib and throwing me off the dock,” she said. I had not remembered that last part, but as soon as she said it, I knew it had to be true. I did not so much move in with Anna as suddenly become someone who did not leave. Regardless of who is doing the remembering, some nasty, ineluctable truths lie between us. She was in the habit of slamming doors in my face—I called her “Bam Bam” in part because of that—and I was in the habit of coming right through those doors and choking her. She was using crack when her water broke, signaling that the twins had arrived two and a half months early. I was the one who had brought her those drugs. I treated her as an ATM, using her drugs and money almost at will, while she seemed more than willing to make the trade. In spite of the fact that I was the one who stepped up and raised our children, who shook off the Life, there are times when the moral high ground rests with her. I hit her, for one thing. For another, whatever she did, she did out of a kind of love. My presence in her life was far more mercenary.
All in all, very well written. Carr's style is so honed and he is so talented, that this reads like very few autobiographies that I have ever read, none of which are stylistically like this one, really. True, one could not towards Hunter S. Thompson, but all in all, this is very special and one to recommend for all, on the life of a man who - for a very long, cut-up time - did not care for responsibility at all, and now shows that he does.
Call on God, but row away from the rocks. —HUNTER S. THOMPSON - Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Carr really lays it all out there about the vicious circle of addiction--the good, the bad, the ugly, and the really ugly. A frank and important story about addiction, detox, recovery, relapse, redemption, and lasting rehabilitation.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This one's another midlife memoir. There's no shortage of these out there and the author, to his credit, knows it. A few things set this one apart from the others, though. For one thing, it's got professional-level reporting on incidents that the author freely admits he can't remember all that well. Carr has obviously done his reading on how unreliable memory can be, but he doesn't hide the fact that he finds out some genuinely unpleasant things about his former self and has had work hard to integrate the self that's writing "The Night of the Gun" with the often unpleasant protagonist who's as the center of most of the book's action. While every memoir might be described as an exercise in self-discovery, Carr seems to be especially committed to finding out -- and telling the reader -- who he is and was. He details the evasions that addicts use to get around their own moral beliefs, the languages and habits they share, and all of the things that doing a whole lot of coke -- and then crack -- in the eighties cost him. It mustn't have been pleasant for the author to go over this material -- some of which involves domestic violence and child endangerment -- but he doesn't spare his ego and provides a remarkably clear-eyed of who he was and who he might be now. "The Night of the Gun" suggests that he's a far braver author than others.Something else that sets this one apart from the pack is the sheer quality of its prose. Carr was a good journalist and knew it: his writing has a verve and spark that suggests that he's no rookie. It takes years of practice and considerable talent to sound this fresh on the page. Lastly, Carr emphasizes throughout "The Night of the Gun" that recovery is an active process, and not just a matter of not drinking, smoking, or sniffing. He should know: fifteen years after he quit coke, he somehow slid a comfortable, suburban kind of alcoholism, something he finds not just painful but also painfully unhip. The way he tells it, it takes work to keep your demons at bay, to maintain connections with others, to find a reason not to get high or drunk. Considering how far Carr was at various points throughout this story, it's incredible that he got as far as he did. The author's death at a relatively young age -- from medical issues not directly connected to his substance abuse -- gives the book an added sense of poignancy, but also seems, in its way, like a genuine victory. Carr seems to worry at various times if the world really needed another recovery memoir, but I'd say that it's better for having this one in it, even if it now serves as its author's own valediction. Fare thee well, Mr. Carr.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Great book about coming back from the bottom.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5An almost painfully honest memoir- taking a serious journalistic approach to ones memoir is a great idea. From a serious drug addiction (having your young children waiting in the car in a bad neighborhood while you go inside to buy and use crack) to tracking down stories while high, reading about Carr's attempts to juggle his addiction with family and work before he becomes clean is akin to watching a beautiful, rare train get into a wreck.Very interesting, fast-paced, heart-wrenching at times and hilarious and sweet at others. Carr balances journalistic writing with prose very well, which is a relief when reading about someone on a path of self-destruction being painfully honest about their mistakes. On top of that, I think journalism students would find this book particularly interesting, and his website has further info and recordings of the work he did to put the book together.
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- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Based on the stats to the side of this page, I’d guess that those readers, including myself, who took a dim view of this book are far outnumbered by a generally receptive audience. One could conclude that, on the whole, only those readers who enjoyed the book are likely to take the time to record it in their LibraryThing account and write a review of it. I am anomalous then: not only did I dislike David Carr’s memoir, The Night of the Gun, but here I am, dutifully warning my fellow readers to shy away from it.Carr is himself something of an anomaly (in reality, if not in “type”): the addict who made good. After spending his twenties and thirties as a coke addict, crackhead and raving psychotic, Carr managed to pull himself together, maintain (for the most part, with recent slip-ups) nearly twenty years clean, raise two daughters and succeed professionally, landing a job at The New York Times. It’s a story you’ve seen in a dozen movies, but seems impossible in real life. Musing on his past, Carr decided to investigate it as he would any other story, as a reporter, to learn if it all happened as he remembered it (specifically the eponymous “Night of the Gun”). Carr’s approach was novel and promising—by employing journalistic techniques, he quickly learned some disturbing things about his past and who he had once been, and the story becomes, to a degree, the study of the mutability (and transmutability) of memory. Interviews and court documents reveal a narrative that Carr himself had once lived but of which he was now only dimly aware.Sadly, Carr’s method promises more excitement than it can deliver, and it becomes a gimmick. Yes, he interviews old friends and associates, but the revelations gleaned from those conversations are not as surprising or significant to the readers as they must have been to Carr. Carr’s discussion of memory is shallow and, given the potential of the topic, ultimately detracts from the book.Carr’s narrative is at its strongest and most focused as he documents his addiction. When he begins discussing his discovery, the narrative unspools and the story loses its power as Carr waxes treacly, invoking wonder at his daughters, the value of hard work, and the redemptive power of love. It’s all fine, but it’s dull, poorly done and self-indulgent. One gets the impression that this began as a story for the Times—it would have been better had it stayed that way.The Night of the Gun is not all bad. Carr is a talented writer and rarely fails to paint a scene vividly or sketch someone’s character quickly, and he often employs a good turn of phrase (all skills of the journalist). Carr’s portrayal of his addiction and descent into (near) madness is incredibly well done. Carr was on the right track with his story—this is something of interest here for readers—and his methodology and concerns are intriguing, if underdeveloped. Carr argues that everyone’s story deserves to be told. I can’t argue with that, but I think he and I might quibble over the length alloted each narrative.
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Carr uses a unique approach that I found engrossing to tell the harrowing stories of his alcoholism, drug addition, and battle with cancer. Candid, raw, and often quite funny.
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To the magic fairies
Jill, Meagan, Erin, and Madeline
AUTHOR’S NOTE
The following book is based on sixty interviews conducted over three years, most of which were recorded on video and/or audio and then transcribed by a third party. The events represented are primarily the product of mutual recollection and discussion. Hundreds of medical files, legal documents, journals, and published reports were used as source material in reconstructing personal history. Every effort was made to corroborate memory with fact and in significant instances where that was not possible, it is noted in the text. (Go to nightofthegun.com for more information concerning methodology.) All of which is not to say that every word of this book is true—all human stories are subject to errors of omission, fact, or interpretation regardless of intent—only that it is as true as I could make it.
It is quite a common thing to be thus annoyed with the ringing in our ears, or rather in our memories, of the burden of some ordinary song, or some unimpressive snatches from an opera. Nor will we be the less tormented if the song in itself be good, or the opera air meritorious. In this manner, at last, I would perpetually catch myself pondering upon my security, and repeating, in a low undertone, the phrase, I am safe.
One day, whilst sauntering along the streets, I arrested myself in the act of murmuring, half aloud, these customary syllables. In a fit of petulance, I remodeled them thus:
I am safe—I am safe—yes—if I be not fool enough to make open confession!
—EDGAR ALLAN POE, THE IMP OF THE PERVERSE
PART ONE
1
GUN PLAY
Sure as a gun.
—DON QUIXOTE
The voice came from a long distance off, like a far-flung radio signal, all crackle and mystery with just an occasional word coming through. And then it was as if a hill had been crested and the signal locked. The voice was suddenly clear.
You can get up from this chair, go to treatment, and keep your job. There’s a bed waiting for you. Just go,
said the editor, a friendly guy, sitting behind the desk. Or you can refuse and be fired.
Friendly but firm.
The static returned, but now he had my attention. I knew about treatment—I had mumbled the slogans, eaten the Jell-O, and worn the paper slippers, twice. I was at the end of my monthlong probation at a business magazine in Minneapolis; it had begun with grave promises to reform, to show up at work like a normal person, and I had almost made it. But the day before, March 17, 1987, was Saint Patrick’s Day. Obeisance was required for my shanty Irish heritage. I twisted off the middle of the workday to celebrate my genetic loading with green beer and Jameson Irish whiskey. And cocaine. Lots and lots of coke. There was a van, friends from the office, and a call to some pals, including Tom, a comedian I knew. We decided to attend a small but brave Saint Patrick’s Day parade in Hopkins, Minnesota, the suburban town where I grew up.
My mother made the parade happen through sheer force of will. She blew a whistle, and people came. There were no floats, just a bunch of drunk Irish-for-a-days and their kids, yelling and waving banners to unsuspecting locals who set up folding chairs as if there were going to be a real parade. After we walked down Main Street accompanied only by those sad little metal noisemakers, we all filed into the Knights of Columbus hall. The adults did standup drinking while the kids assembled for some entertainment. I told my mom that Tom the comedian had some good material for the kids. He immediately began spraying purple jokes in all directions and was wrestled off the stage by a few nearby adults. I remember telling my mom we were sorry as we left, but I don’t remember precisely what happened after that.
I know we did lots of more.
That’s what we called coke. We called it more because it was the operative metaphor for the drug. Even if it was the first call of the night, we would say, You got any more?
because there would always be more—more need, more coke, more calls.
After the Knights of Columbus debacle—it was rendered as a triumph after we got in the van—we went downtown to McCready’s, an Irish bar in name only that was kind of a clubhouse for our crowd. We had some more, along with shots of Irish whiskey. We kept calling it just a wee taste
in honor of the occasion. The shot glasses piled up between trips to the back room for line after line of coke, and at closing time we moved to a house party. Then the dreaded walk home accompanied by the chirping of birds.
That’s how it always went, wheeling through bars, selling, cadging, or giving away coke, drinking like a sailor and swearing like a pirate. And then somehow slinking into work as a reporter. Maybe it took a line or two off the bottom of the desk drawer to achieve battle readiness in the morning, but hey, I was there, wasn’t I?
• • •
On the day I got fired—it would be some time before I worked again—I was on the last vapors of a young career that demonstrated real aptitude. Even as I was getting busy with the coke at night, I was happy to hold the cops and government officials to account in my day job. Getting loaded, acting the fool, seemed like a part of the job description, at least the way I did it. Editors dealt with my idiosyncrasies—covering the city council in a bowling shirt and red visor sunglasses—because I was well sourced in what was essentially a small town and wrote a great deal of copy. I saw my bifurcated existence as the best of both worlds, no worries. But now that mad run seemed to be over. I sat with my hands on the arms of the chair that suddenly seemed wired with very strong current.
There was no time to panic, but the panic came anyway. Holy shit. They are on to me.
The editor prodded me gently for an answer. Treatment or professional unallotment? For an addict the choice between sanity and chaos is sometimes a riddle, but my mind was suddenly epically clear.
I’m not done yet.
Things moved quickly after that. After a stop at my desk, I went down the elevator and out into a brutally clear morning. Magically, my friend Paul was walking down the street in front of my office building, looking ravaged in a leather coat and sunglasses. He hadn’t even beaten the birds home. I told him I had just been fired, which was clinically true but not the whole story. A folk singer of significant talent and many virulent songs about the wages of working for The Man, Paul understood immediately. He had some pills of iffy provenance—neither he nor I knew much about pills—maybe they were muscle relaxers. I ate them.
Freshly, emphatically fired, I was suffused with a rush of sudden liberation. A celebration was in order. I called Donald, my trusty wingman. A pal from college, he was tall, dark, and compliant, a boon companion once he got a couple of pops in him. We had first met at a crappy state college in Wisconsin, where we tucked dozens of capers under our belts. We had been washed down a mountain in the Smokies inside a tent, created a campfire out of four stacked picnic tables at Wolf River, and casually taken out picket fences and toppled mailboxes during road trips all over Wisconsin. Our shared taste for skipping classes in lieu of hikes, Frisbee, and dropping acid during college had been replaced by new frolics once we both moved on to Minneapolis.
We worked restaurant jobs, pouring and downing liquor, spending the ready cash as fast as it came in. Make some calls!
became the warm-up line for many a night of grand foolishness. We shared friends, money, and, once, a woman named Signe, a worldly cocktail waitress who found herself wanly amused by the two guys tripping on acid one night at closing time at a bar called Moby Dick’s. Let me know when you boys are finished,
she said in a bored voice as Donald and I grinned madly at each other from either end of her. We didn’t care. He was a painter and photographer when he wasn’t getting shit faced. And at a certain point, I became a journalist when I wasn’t ingesting all the substances I could get my hands on. We were a fine pair. Now that I had been fired for cause, there was no doubt that Donald would know what to say.
Fuck ’em,
he said when he met me at McCready’s to toast my first day between opportunities. The pills had made me a little hinky, but I shook it off with a snort of coke. Nicely prepped, we went to the Cabooze, a Minneapolis blues bar. Details are unclear, but there was some sort of beef inside, and we were asked to leave. Donald complained on the way out that I was always getting us 86’d, and my response included throwing him across the expansive hood of his battered ’75 LTD. Seeing the trend, he drove away, leaving me standing with thirty-four cents in my pocket. That detail I remember.
I was pissed: Not about losing my job—they’d be sorry. Not about getting 86’d—that was routine. But my best friend had abandoned me. I was livid, and somebody was going to get it. I walked the few miles back to McCready’s to refuel and called Donald at home.
I’m coming over.
Hearing the quiet menace in my voice, he advised me against it; that he had a gun.
Oh really? Now I’m coming over for sure.
He and his sister Ann Marie had a nice rental on Nicollet Avenue in a rugged neighborhood on the south side of Minneapolis, not far from where I lived. I don’t remember how I got there, but I stormed up to the front door—a thick one of wood and glass—and after no one answered, I tried kicking my way in. My right knee started to give way before my sneaker did any damage. Ann Marie, finally giving in to the commotion, came to the door and asked me what I was going to do if I came in.
I just want to talk to him.
Donald came to the door and, true to his word, had a handgun at his side. With genuine regret on his face, he said he was going to call the cops. I had been in that house dozens of times and knew the phone was in his bedroom. I limped around the corner and put my fist through the window, grabbed the phone, and held it aloft in my bloody arm. All right, call ’em, motherfucker! Call ’em! Call the goddamn cops!
I felt like Jack Fucking Nicholson. Momentarily impressed, Donald recovered long enough to grab the phone out of my bloody hand and do just that.
When we met again through the glass of the front door, he still had the gun, but his voice was now friendly. You should leave. They’re coming right now.
I looked down Nicollet toward Lake Street and saw a fast-moving squad car with the cherries lit, no siren.
I wasn’t limping anymore. I had eight blocks to go to my apartment, full tilt all the way. Off the steps, ’round the house, and into the alleys. Several squads were crisscrossing. What the hell did Donald tell them? I thought as I sprinted. I dove behind a Dumpster to avoid one squad coming around the corner, opening up a flap of jeans and skin on my other knee. I had to hit the bushes and be very still as the cops strafed the area with their searchlights, but I made it, scurrying up the back steps to my apartment in a fourplex on Garfield Avenue. I was bleeding, covered in sweat, and suddenly very hungry. I decided to heat up some leftover ribs, turned the oven on high, and left the door of it open so I could smell the ribs when they heated up. And then I passed out on my couch.
• • •
Every hangover begins with an inventory. The next morning mine began with my mouth. I had been baking all night, and it was as dry as a two-year-old chicken bone. My head was a small prison, all yelps of pain and alarm, each movement seeming to shift bits of broken glass in my skull. My right arm came into view for inspection, caked in blood, and then I saw it had a few actual pieces of glass still embedded in it. So much for metaphor. My legs both hurt, but in remarkably different ways.
Three quadrants in significant disrepair—that must have been some night, I thought absently. Then I remembered I had jumped my best friend outside a bar. And now that I thought about it, that was before I tried to kick down his door and broke a window in his house. And then I recalled, just for a second, the look of horror and fear on his sister’s face, a woman I adored. In fact, I had been such a jerk that my best friend had to point a gun at me to make me go away. Then I remembered I’d lost my job.
It was a daylight waterfall of regret known to all addicts. It can’t get worse, but it does. When the bottom arrives, the cold fact of it all, it is always a surprise. Over fiteen years, I had made a seemingly organic journey from pothead to party boy, from knockaround guy to friendless thug. At thirty-one, I was washed out of my profession, morally and physically corrupt, but I still had almost a year left in the Life. I wasn’t done yet.
• • •
In the pantheon of worst days of my life,
getting fired was right up there, but I don’t remember precisely how bad it was. You would think that I would recall getting canned with a great deal of acuity. But it was twenty years ago.
Even if I had amazing recall, and I don’t, recollection is often just self-fashioning. Some of it is reflexive, designed to bury truths that cannot be swallowed, but other memories
are just redemption myths writ small. Personal narrative is not simply opening up a vein and letting the blood flow toward anyone willing to stare. The historical self is created to keep dissonance at bay and render the subject palatable in the present.
But my past does not connect to my present. There was That Guy, a dynamo of hilarity and then misery, and then there is This Guy, the one with a family, a house, and a good job as a reporter and columnist for The New York Times. Connecting the two will take a lot more than typing. The first-date version of my story would suggest that I took a short detour into narcotics, went through an aberrant period of buying, selling, snorting, smoking, and finally shooting cocaine, and once I knocked that off, well, all was well.
The meme of abasement followed by salvation is a durable device in literature, but does it abide the complexity of how things really happened? Everyone is told just as much as he needs to know, including the self. In Notes from Underground, Fyodor Dostoevsky explains that recollection—memory, even—is fungible, and often leaves out unspeakable truths, saying, Man is bound to lie about himself.
I am not an enthusiastic or adept liar. Even so, can I tell you a true story about the worst day of my life? No. To begin with, it was far from the worst day of my life. And those who were there swear it did not happen the way I recall, on that day and on many others. And if I can’t tell a true story about one of the worst days of my life, what about the rest of those days, that life, this story?
• • •
Nearly twenty years later, in the summer of 2006, I sat in a two-room shack in Newport, a town outside of the Twin Cities, near the stockyards where Donald now lived and worked at a tree farm. He was still handsome, still a boon companion. We hadn’t seen each other in years, but what knit us together—an abiding bond hatched in reckless glory—was in the room with us.
I told him the story about the Night of the Gun. He listened carefully and patiently, taking an occasional swig out of a whiskey bottle and laughing at the funny parts. He said it was all true, except the part about the gun. I never owned a gun,
he said. "I think you might have had it."
This is a story about who had the gun.
2
POSSESSION
Who by now could know where was what? Liars controlled the locks.
—NORMAN MAILER, THE ARMIES OF THE NIGHT
I am not a gun guy. That is bedrock. And that includes buying one, carrying one, and, most especially, pointing one. I’ve been on the wrong end a few times, squirming and asking people to calm the fuck down. But walking over to my best friend’s house with a gun jammed in my pants? No chance. That did not fit my story, the one about the white boy who took a self-guided tour of some of life’s less savory hobbies before becoming an upright citizen. Being the guy who waved a gun around made me a crook, or worse, a full-on nut ball.
Still, there it was: "I think you might have had it."
We were not having an argument, we were trying to remember. I had gone to his house with a video camera and a tape recorder in pursuit of the past. By now the statutes were up, no charges in abeyance, no friendship at stake.
Donald is not prone to lies. He has his faults: He has wasted a gorgeous mug and his abundant talent on whiskey and worse, but he is a stand-up guy, and I have seen him bullshit only when the law is involved. Still, I know what I know—Descartes called it the holy music of the self
—and I believe that I was not a person who owned or used a gun. The Night of the Gun had stuck in my head because it suggested that I was such a menace that my best friend not only had to call the cops on me but wave a piece in my face.
I didn’t hold it against him—Donald was far from violent, and maybe I had it coming. I doubt that he would have shot me no matter what I did. But now that memory lay between us. Sort of like that gun.
Memories are like that. They live between synapses and between the people who hold them. Memories, even epic ones, are perishable from their very formation even in people who don’t soak their brains in mood-altering chemicals. There is only so much space on any one person’s hard drive, and old memories are prone to replacement by newer ones. There’s even a formula for the phenomena:
In the Ebbinghaus curve, or forgetting curve, R stands for memory retention, s is the relative strength of memory, and t is time. The power of a memory can be built through repetition, but it is the memory we are recalling when we speak, not the event. And stories are annealed in the telling, edited by turns each time they are recalled until they become little more than chimeras. People remember what they can live with more often than how they lived. I loathe guns and, with some exceptions, the people who carry them, so therefore I was not a person who held a gun. Perhaps in the course of transforming from That Guy to This Guy, there is a shedding of old selves that requires a kind of self-induced Alzheimer’s.
In this instance, the truth didn’t seem knowable. At best, there was a note on a long-lost precinct nightly sheet about some lunatic at Thirty-first and Nicollet. In the matter of the gun, Donald and I are both unreliable witnesses, given the passage of years and our chemical résumés. But Ann Marie was there. I called her in the midst of my attempt to report something in dispute. She said that she remembers me showing up in a state of complete agitation, but nothing about a gun. Then again, she said, I didn’t exactly stick around.
Perhaps her brother or I had the decency not to wave one around in her presence. The change in custody of the weapon made no sense. It’s true that I was fully involved in the drug lifestyle at the time, buying and selling coke, but weapons were not part of my corner of that scene.
Bat-shit crazy or not, the weight of a large-caliber handgun in your hand is not something you’re likely to forget. I’ve held a few as a cop reporter, and I was always stunned by how dense and formidable a gun felt. As I thought about it, I realized I would have had to walk over to his house with one jammed in my pants. I’m not obsessed with my own privates, but I’m not one to point a pistol at them, either.
Donald was the first person I went to see when I decided to put my own memories up against those of others. By turns, it became a kind of journalistic ghost dancing, trying to conjure spirits past, including mine. Donald was my first stop because he was and is incredibly dear to me. And if I were being honest, I thought that addiction, which had come close to killing me, would take him out, and I would miss my shot. He was plenty lucid and hilarious while we talked, but the bottle was winning over the longer haul, exacerbated by a methadone habit that served as a rubber band, always pulling him back to that same terrible place. (Sometimes addiction seems more like possession, a death grip from Satan that requires supernatural intervention. Absolution from end-stage chemical obsession tends to force otherwise faithless men to their knees.)
Other mysteries would pile up as I made my way, but the Night of the Gun stuck with me. Maybe Donald didn’t know what he was talking about. Perhaps his memory was even more compromised than my own. Those were very busy days—I was on the run a lot—but I remember some of it with a great deal of acuity.
In that same year, near the end of 1987, I got in a fight with my girlfriend. The last time we had fought, I ended up going to jail because I assaulted her, so this time I was smart enough to call my friend Chris to pick me up. Chris was one of the saner people I knew, and I used to call him whenever I got in a jam. That night, I called him for a ride, threw my stuff in some garbage bags, and fled out the back of my apartment. It’s the kind of thing you see on Cops—I was even shirtless, to add to the verisimilitude. Chris was and is a kind man, and he never seemed to run out of patience with me. As I panted in the cab of that truck, he told me everything would be OK even though we both knew better.
In the summer of 2007, a year after I talked with Donald about the gun, I went to New Orleans to see Chris. He is now a professor of creative writing at Loyola University and the godfather to one of my children. Sitting in his backyard, we caught up on family stuff, and then I asked him about that night.
I remember showing up,
he said. I had this GMC pickup truck. You put the garbage bags in the back, and that was it.
Then he said something else: I went back into your place once you’d taken off. You sent me back to get a gun that you’d left there…
Oops.
You were worried about the cops going through the place, and so you’d asked me to go back and get some things that you had stashed. You had, I think, a .38 special,
he said evenly. I don’t know where you got it. It was toward the very end, and you were starting to act real…
He didn’t finish the sentence, but he didn’t have to.
Yeah, you did have one—for I don’t know how long,
he said. Somewhere in the closet, up above the shelf or something. And up above the refrigerator you had some drug paraphernalia or something, and you wanted me to just go there and clear out anything that would be incriminating.
Given that Chris was able to describe where the gun was stashed in the closet of my apartment near Donald’s house, it probably happened the way Donald remembers it. It started to ring some distant, alarming bell. Oh yeah, my gun. Maybe so.
But if I was wrong about the gun, what else was I wrong about?
3
WHO YOU GONNA BELIEVE, ME OR YOUR LYING EYES?
The moral question of whether you are lying or not is not settled by establishing the truth or falsity of what you say. In order to settle this question, we must know whether you intend your statement to mislead.
—SISSELA BOK, MORAL CHOICES IN PUBLIC AND PRIVATE LIFE
On the face of it, I am no more qualified to take my own historical inventory than the addict with the fetid dreads who spare-changes people on the subway while singing Stand by Me.
Ask him how he ended up sweating people for quarters with off-key singing, and he may have an answer, but it won’t be the whole story. He doesn’t know it and probably couldn’t bear it if he did.
To be an addict is to be something of a cognitive acrobat. You spread versions of yourself around, giving each person the truth he or she needs—you need, actually—to keep them at one remove. How, then, to reassemble that montage of deceit into a truthful past?
Addiction, which Oliver Sacks defines as a form of self-induced catatonia, a repetitive action bordering on hysteria,
is a little preoccupying. And if the apparatus is impaired, what of the will to be truthful? Let’s stipulate that I do not have a good memory, having recklessly sautéed my brain in fistfuls of pharmaceutical spices. I generally test well for intelligence, but if you caught me after a punishing night-and-day run back then with a simple What happened to you?
I was usually stumped.
I learned early on as that it was probably OK to lie to my parents, but once I had skipped out into the world, not so much. It is dumb to lie to cops, a lesson that was tattooed into me at a tender age. Later on, when a cop asked me a direct question about something that would implicate me, I would always say the same thing: I can’t help you with that, officer.
Even so, give or take a died-in-the-diagnosis sociopath, there may be no more unreliable narrator than an addict. Recovered or not, you are in the hands of someone who used his mouth and his words to constantly create one more opportunity to get high. But my version of events is worth knowing, if for no other reason than I was there.
• • •
HERE IS WHAT I DESERVED: Hepatitis C, federal prison time, HIV, a cold park bench, an early, addled death.
HERE IS WHAT I GOT: A nice house, a good job, three lovely children.
HERE IS WHAT I REMEMBER ABOUT HOW THAT GUY BECAME THIS GUY: Not much. Junkies don’t generally put stuff in boxes, they wear the boxes on their heads, so that everything around them—the sky, the future, the house down the street—is lost to them.
To the extent that I remember, this is what I know: I was born a middle kid in a family of seven into a John Cheever novel set on the border of Hopkins and Minnetonka on the western edge of Minneapolis. It was a suburban idyll where any mayhem was hidden in the rear rooms of large split-level homes. I sought trouble even though I had to walk a long way to find it. My home was a good one, my parents were wonderful, no one slipped me a Mickey, and if they did, I would have grabbed it with both hands and asked for more. I drank and drugged for the same reason that a four-year-old spins around past the point of dizziness: I liked feeling different. Three of my siblings have the allergy to alcohol. My dad is in recovery, and while my mother may not have been an alcoholic, she knew her way around a party. That girl could go.
Let’s skip high school. I mostly did, smoking doobies like they were Pall Malls every single day of those four years. I went to an all-boys school I loathed and hid behind red eyes and long hair that hung in my face. The day after I finished high school, my friend Greg and I hitchhiked to the yippie camp-in at Spokane, Washington, near the site of the 1974 World’s Fair. I became a hippie at precisely the instant that it had lost cultural salience. The camp-in was pathetic—Nixon was on the way out, the draft and the war were over, it was mostly just loadies trading food stamps for pot and eating the gruel that the Krishnas were handing out with beatific smiles. I ended up hopping a bus of the so-called Rainbow Tribe, and on the ensuing ride, they gifted me with peyote, a profound sense of life’s psychedelic possibilities, and a tenacious case of crabs.
I came back and was working in a jelly bean factory, Powell’s Candy, where we wore helmets, beard guards, and earmuffs while we cranked out trays of rolled sugar. My foreman called me Curlicue because of my long ringlets and rarely spoke to me without using his index finger on my sternum as a punctuation device. I worked in a hydraulic tube assembly plant where my boss was a dwarf named George who took Dolly Parton’s breasts as his central religious icons. Here and there I dug ditches, worked at a golf course, and washed dishes.
Obviously on a roll, I decided that the time was not right for college, but my father thought otherwise. He drove me to a branch of the University of Wisconsin at River Falls, a small farming town near the Minnesota border. He dropped me off in the middle of campus with my beanbag chair and chest of bongs and gave me a check for $20. It bounced.
My crowning achievement came early: As a brand-new freshman, I won the beer-chugging contest, drinking five twelve-ounce beers in under twenty seconds. My new pals clapped me on the back as I vomited minutes later. I stayed for two years and moved in with a lovely girl, Lizbeth, whom I soon wore out. I ended up working at a local nursing home, where I found myself the lone male on night shifts full of townie girls. It was a good life until one night when I was doing laundry at one of their trailers and the ex-husband came by drunk as a goat and pointed a gun at me. I left town soon afterward. (Never, ever get mixed up with townies.)
After some months of traveling in the West, I came back to Minneapolis and enrolled at the University of Minnesota, a massive campus in the middle of the city. I worked nights in a restaurant called the Little Prince—one of two straight guys on a very large gay and female staff, so, again, I was blessed with friendly odds—and during the day, I hung out in parking garages at school with pals, mostly lesbians and pot smokers. Throughout college I had many friends, very little money, and what Pavlov called the blind force of the subcortex.
Ring the getting-high bell, and I was right there.
I subsisted on Pop-Tarts and Mountain Dew, along with less nutritious substances: LSD, peyote, pot, mushrooms, mescaline, amphetamines, quaaludes, valium, opium, hash, liquor of all kinds, and—this is embarrassing—morning glory seeds. (Rumored to have psychedelic properties, they didn’t work.) Total garbage head.
• • •
On my twenty-first birthday, I went out with Kim, who worked at the Little Prince and would become my wife. I also did coke for the first time. The relationship with the coke was far more enduring and would define the next decade.
A dealer who dropped his money on Dom Pérignon at the restaurant palmed me a Balkan Sobranie cigarette tin when he found out it was my birthday. He told me to open it in the bathroom. I saw the powder and knew what to do.
It was a Helen Keller hand-under-the-water moment. Lordy, I can finally see! Cold fusion, right here in the bathroom stall; it was the greatest thing ever. My endorphins leaped at this new opportunity, hugging it and feeling all its splendid corners. My, that’s better. You can laugh all you want, but Proust had a similar epiphany eating a madeleine: …a shudder ran through me, and I stopped, intent upon the extraordinary thing that had happened to me. An exquisite pleasure invaded my senses, something isolated, detached, with no suggestion of its origin.
Every addict is formed in the crucible of the memory of that first hit. Even as the available endorphins attenuate, the memory is right there. The chase is on, sometimes for hours, sometimes for days—in my case, for years on end. I could get high just having coke in my pocket, knowing that I had a little edge that few others had. I had spent my life terrified that I would miss out on something, and now I didn’t have to. If I had delved deeper, I might have also noticed that coke accessed something in me that was unruly and ungovernable, but there would be time for that later.
In school and out—I attended classes when I could while working at the Little Prince—I told people I was a journalist, with only that uttered noun as evidence. Then I caught a real actual story for the Twin Cities Reader, a local alternative weekly, and the fever to go with it. I developed an intense interest in the craft immediately.
But working on stories and the attention that came with them was never enough. Tucked in safe suburban redoubts, kids who had it soft like me manufactured peril. When there is no edge, we