I Am Jennie
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Drunk and high, holed up in a hotel room with a beautiful blonde she barely knew, Jennie Ketcham was thirty-six hours away from entering rehab. Her on-camera alter ego, Penny Flame, was a rising star. Her personal life, however, had been getting worse for years and finally hit an all-time low.
After her parents’ divorce, she lost her virginity at thirteen and began a game of initiating boys her age into manhood. For the fleeting moments she spent in bed with them, she got to be the center of attention. Eventually, Jennie found porn—that enticing world of immediate gratification, endless drugs, and seemingly endless money—and became Penny Flame. Divorced from her feelings, tempted into a lifestyle she couldn’t afford, financially or emotionally, she entered Sex Rehab with Dr. Drew to boost her career. But when Dr. Drew and his staff insisted she appear using her real name, the once indestructible walls she had built around herself began to burn down.
Jennie candidly recounts her struggles: confusing sex with self-worth, addiction with love, detachment with strength. Ultimately, I Am Jennie is a tale of a woman who considers herself a work in progress but who finally understands that the only person she can truly afford to be is herself.
Jennie Ketcham
Jennie Ketcham is a reality TV star, blogger, and former pornographic actress and film director under the name of Penny Flame.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Good book.. Bounces back & forth in times in her life by the chapter, so you have to pay attention. But,it's a good story & has an inspiring message all in all..
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A truly eye-opening look at the porn industry and recovery from it and sex addiction. A potentially life changing book for any addict.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Jennie Ketcham went from a kid in a dysfunctional family, to a teen seeking attention wherever she could get it, to pothead college student, to adult model and film star, to reality show participant for sex addition. Her story is real, cautionary, lacking in sordid details on set (if that's what you want, go look at Ashley Blue's book), isn't anti-porn but does not encourage some of the excessive behavior found in the business. Worth reading, especially if you think the life of a porn star is nothing but fast cars, coke, and non-stop sex.
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I Am Jennie - Jennie Ketcham
INTRODUCTION
Jennie Ketcham is a special person—and I knew it from the first moment I saw her.
Of course, the irony is that the first person I saw when I showed up for work at the Pasadena Recovery Center on April 6, 2009, was Penny Flame—a vivacious, outrageous, camera-ready professional in the adult entertainment industry. Penny showed up for her stint in rehab with a suitcase full of sex toys and a plan to use her reality TV exposure to fuel her destructive quest for a dysfunctional definition of success.
Don’t get me wrong. I liked Penny; I was charmed by Penny, often amused by Penny, and—to my chagrin—initially deftly played by Penny, who used her wit and humor to keep any real connection at arm’s length. But it wasn’t long before I came to love and respect Jennie, the brave, real, and substantial woman hidden behind the facade.
Penny may have decided to come to rehab, but it was Jennie who decided to commit to recovery. Her story is the story of the road to health. This unsparing retelling of how she came to be sitting across from me in rehab and her journey into the real world as an authentic participant sends a loud and clear message to anyone who is struggling with pain, confusion, and choices that have led down a dangerous road. Choices have consequences, and in this book those choices play out in real time. Jennie’s story makes explicit that there is a point of no return. It also makes explicit that you don’t need to be rescued, or cast out of society, or emotionally numb. You don’t need to die of addiction. There is a way out.
Jennie’s story shows how people recover. Simply put: we all affect one another profoundly. I made the effort, and spent the time, to not be distracted by Penny Flame and to tune into Jennie. I paid attention to who she actually is, rather than who she was projecting out into the world. Jennie was brave enough to risk the scrutiny. She could have turned and run from it. But for whatever reason, she was surprisingly willing to allow me to be present with the real Jennie.
As a doctor, I can’t expect that my patients will give me what I hope for them. I have seen those who are too destroyed—they look at the carnage of their behavior and shrink away in shame. In treatment, all the stuff, all the manipulations Jennie had used to survive could have gotten in the way, if she hadn’t been willing to risk abject honesty.
Jennie never allowed her false bravado to take over. Instead she channeled it to face her shame, to withstand the discomfort of allowing me to see her real self, and then found the strength to reach out and meet me from that very real self.
This is the nature of a healthy, intimate interpersonal exchange. Our soul, our spirit, our core self is able to grow because another person is there to touch it and we allow them to see deeply into us. We become better people, and the self literally emerges through our exchanges with others. I know this is true, because knowing Jennie taught me something important about myself. Her commitment to truth held up a mirror to a weakness that still makes me cringe when I recall it.
When I first began working on reality television, the producers told me they had to do things to the environment to make the show interesting—to get outside of the same four walls. It was an argument I had become familiar with, and one I pushed back against every day that I went to work. I appreciated their point that hours of talk therapy and one-on-one counseling was not highly dramatic; in fact it can be about as exciting as watching hair grow. But as an addiction specialist, I know what I need to do for my patients in order to help them heal.
In this book, Jennie vividly details a moment in which I learned a wrenching lesson in what could happen when I blinked and did not follow my instincts. Her description of a moment in treatment when she almost lost faith is so graphic and heartbreaking that I could barely read it. Her uncompromising commitment to tell the truth about her journey required that I relive one of the lowest points of my work on television. Jennie’s treatment—which she was taking so seriously—was compromised for a moment, and she reacted with the full fury of someone who had experienced a violation of the honesty of her program.
Everything that Jennie writes about here that involves me happened precisely as she details, and so I trust that everything else in this book happened exactly as she says it did. Jennie is the rare real deal: someone who dares to report things about themselves exactly as they happened. Usually when people write stories like this from within their condition, there are distortions and manipulations. By the same token, when they write about it from a position of recovery, they can be judgmental and disdainful of how they were—and of others who are like them. Not Jennie. Reading this book is a real journey, in the moment, with no posturing or spin. You don’t get a commentary on an experience; the story isn’t filtered or flattered by carefully crafted recollections or the hope of sidestepping personal responsibility. This book is more than a memoir of recovery, however. Jennie’s story throws into relief the kinds of options society provides for people who are in pain. She holds a mirror up to the things our current culture tells us have value—fame-seeking, sex, and money—and she shows us the damage they do to people when distilled down to their numbing core.
Jennie is on a rare journey. In my experience, people who have been in this kind of situation either are rescued and hobble along in dependent dysfunctional relationships, or burn out. They take on other psychiatric ailments later in life as they continue with unresolved issues. But Jennie has gone to the mat to do what she needs to do to start over and heal. I’ve rarely had a patient who has committed so fully to life and to recovery. With each letting go of the trappings of her condition, she became a richer human being and more joyful to be with.
It’s exciting to be around Jennie. I look forward to interacting with her. Part of the excitement is in witnessing such a dynamic work in progress, but there is much more I gain from our relationship. There is a kind of excitement from seeing someone’s spirit come to life that you can’t get anywhere else. Jennie’s gift—not just to me and to others close to her, but to anyone who wrestles with painful demons—is the knowledge that such resilience exists. It fuels me to go back to the difficult patients. And it gives hope to a thousand other patients who are not ready to start the journey to recovery.
As I write this, I’ve known Jennie for nearly three years, and I would have said that I knew a lot about her and her life. Reading this book filled out her full experience. To be honest, there are stories here that make me uncomfortable; there were times when I wanted to avert my gaze from her raw honesty. In the end, however, the whole of the picture is astonishing and well worth momentary discomfort.
This book is an extraordinary gift, yet it is only a small part of Jennie’s story. It is clear that she now understands that every choice is a chance to find out more about herself. I can’t wait to see where she goes from here. There are so many things she might contribute that will have massive impact. This is a woman who can and who will make a difference—and it is a pure pleasure to be a part of her story.
Dr. Drew Pinsky
1
I HOPE THE MONEY FILLS THE HOLES ’CAUSE, SEE, THE ROOF IS CAVING IN.
—THE HORRIBLE CROWES, BLACK BETTY & THE MOON
I flew into Phoenix on a Thursday to work an Internet porn convention. I was trying to promote my webcam studio, a new webcam company that I couldn’t seem to get off the ground, even though I’d been running it for nearly four months. My boss, Del, wanted me to hang out, drink with affiliate managers, accompany him to dinners and parties, and be the arm candy he thought would help generate traffic to the site.
By Sunday, I had been awake for two, possibly three days. After the first twenty-four hours without sleep, days bled into weeks, which condensed into minutes that could have been years. Time did not matter, because I had a singular purpose in life, and it was to find more cocaine. I had called various random numbers from the Craigslist hooker sections—the sections listed under Adult Services
or Casual Encounters
—until, on the other end of one particular number, I recognized my girlfriend Camilla Bangs’s voice saying, Leave a message and I’ll call you right back.
So I did. I knew that, if I could get her on the phone, she could probably get some blow. I wasn’t concerned that it was 4:00 a.m. or that she might recognize my number and decide to press the IGNORE button. She knew I abhorred her hooking, let alone selling herself on Craigslist. I didn’t feel like I had a choice.
Del had started pacing. He walked fifteen feet to one wall and then fifteen feet to the opposite wall, shooting nervous glances from me to Kagney, a superhot blond chick I was in the process of seducing. I either had to find more blow, or leave the hotel room so he could find something else.
Del was hunting for something other than cocaine. Just like the last time I worked for him in Vegas, he wanted to watch girls fuck themselves until he fell asleep, usually with a tired and hopeless look in his eye. It was the same tired and hopeless look that visited a drug addict at 7:00 in the morning when he realized that the day would proceed and he had yet to sleep a wink.
In his hotel room in Phoenix, as Del continued scanning the personal ads, I tried to read his face. I also tried to read Kagney’s, to figure out how much time I had to appease his bossly desires before she got sick of the hunt and went to bed. I had been trying to get into her bikini bottom since I saw her at the pool earlier that morning. She was fairly new to the business and didn’t have the stamina of us old pros, so I wanted to take her to bed before she was too blasted to be of any good.
I might have offered up her services to Del, but I didn’t think Kagney was hooking. While many porn stars end up escorting,
which is just fancy talk for prostitution, she was still new enough in front of the camera that she was being booked for plenty of scenes, and so she didn’t need the extra money.
It amazed me how quickly a girl would be shot up
simply because she’d been booked solid for three months and ended up flooding the market with images or videos of herself. Then nobody in the biz could shoot her because she’d been shot out.
Some girls were cleverer than others and only took two or three bookings a week, understanding full well that $3,000 a week was a ton of money, and if they put too much product out at once, their porno shelf life would be nil.
Kagney seemed fairly clever. She was savvy enough to sense the discomfort in Del’s hotel room that morning and to understand it was time to go. She gave me a searching look as Del called yet another Craigslist phone number.
Bedtime?
I asked her quietly.
I didn’t do the escort thing for a wide variety of reasons. For one, I understood the laws of supply and demand. With the insane amount of porn stars, Playmates, and career girls who supplied pussy to the market of lonely, vagina-hungry men, I would never be able to charge an amount of money that I thought would make prostitution a rewarding experience. Additionally, I enjoyed the formality of going to work, filling out a W-2, signing waivers, getting tested, and having sex with tested people. I felt like I was a step higher than a regular old hooker. I managed to rationalize my way out of any suggestion that pornography equaled prostitution. Being an escort simply felt shadier than being a porn star, perhaps because there weren’t any Internet conventions for prostitutes.
Kagney reached her hand out and touched my thigh, meeting my eyes with her big blues, a nonverbal yes.
Del held his hand over the mouthpiece of the phone as if he were trying to hide something from the empty ring on the other end.
Wait one moment, girls,
he said, his posh accent making him sound much more refined than the pornographer he was. Will you try your friend again?
She probably recognizes my number, but I’ll give it another shot,
I said.
Kagney let out a little Harrumph
and settled down into the chair as I called Camilla again on my cell.
Voice mail.
Hey, dude, it’s me again,
I said. Listen, sorry to keep bugging you but I’ve got a little business proposition, one or the other if you know what I mean. Just, uh, give the hotel a call for room, uh, 307. Okay? Love you.
I hung up the phone, feeling a bit traitorous hooking her up with a hooking gig.
She’ll come over, yes?
Del asked, hope dying in his eyes with each passing second.
I mean, she might, but it’s, like, 4:15 in the morning, man,
I said. She’s probably on a call or too messed up to drive.
I saw his desperation and tried to reassure him.
I gave her your room number, so she might call back,
I said.
He sat forward and lit his fiftieth Marlboro Red.
Did you tell her I only want the masturbation?
he asked, sounding way more proper requesting masturbation than any American ever would.
No, but she’ll do whatever you want,
I said. If it’s only masturbation, she’ll be pumped.
I took one of his cigarettes.
Camilla had been in and out of the business for quite some time, struggling with a cocaine problem and then a weight problem, and felt uncomfortable in front of the camera and contrived in the bedroom. She hated hooking but did it anyway, because she needed the money. Rolling Stone magazine had even named her one of America’s worst hookers, although it was phrased a bit more eloquently. And while I was always interested in making more money, I was uninterested in becoming an unhappy hooker like Camilla, and so her example was enough to keep me out of the game.
I think you’re more likely to get her to bring blow,
I said.
There was nothing more telling than the lost, forlorn look in Del’s eyes. I grasped Kagney’s hand, the soft, perfectly manicured hand that had been resting on my knee. We both stood to make it apparent that we were going to leave. I prepped the final few lines of coke on the table.
So I’ll see you tomorrow at the show, right?
I asked. Around one?
I doubt I’ll be sleeping until then,
he chuckled. And then the manic desperation returned. Do you think she’ll be able to get in?
He dropped his cigarette into a very full ashtray. He knew damn well that the entire hotel had been reserved and closed down for this convention and that unless his special guest had a pass, she would be left out front with her tiny purse and plastic heels.
I kind of don’t think so,
I said. I mean, you can try, but security is no joke. I guess be ready to get another room at a different hotel?
I patted Kagney’s ass. She took her rail as I held her long blond hair off the cigarette-ash-and-coke-dusted table.
Leave your pass, mate,
he said.
He was simultaneously asking me and telling me, knowing that the next day was my final day of the show and that I wouldn’t be needing it to get back into the hotel. I bent over, snorted the final rail, then lit my cigarette.
Be careful, man,
I said, handing over the small plastic badge that allowed conventioneers onto the grounds. Arizona isn’t down with drugs.
I HAD A secret gram of blow stashed in my bra. Where the drugs in my bra had originally come from, and whether or not they’d been bought, borrowed, or taken were mysteries to me, and questions I didn’t bother asking two hours before dawn. The weekend had become a disjointed mess—a blurry, choppy jumble of memories.
I led Kagney out of Del’s room and down the hall to my own, which I unlocked with my small key card. Once inside, we tossed our purses, clothes, bras, and underwear to the ground. Then we were naked, with our heads at the foot of the bed and a magazine for cutting the secret cocaine into rails. With each line I tried to account for my whereabouts over the weekend, and with each line the weekend memories continued to slip and blend.
The previous morning I had hosted a beer pong tournament, where teams of grown men battled one another over flimsy pool-side Ping-Pong tables. Before the game I had done blow with Porno Dan, a producer, director, performer, and my favorite drinking companion, and when I felt too gacked out to be a proper beer pong host, Porno Dan had personally escorted me to the bar for successive shots of Jack Daniel’s and Jäger. I finally went back to the tournament and evened out: the high was not so high and the drunk was not so drunk.
Don’t you all do anything besides throw tiny balls into gaping, dirty, wet orifices?
I cried over the loudspeaker.
And then I led the girls at the pool in an arousing version of the Little Chicken Dance.
When my hosting duties were done, I happened upon Aaron Carpello, an ex-fling with easy, seductive eyes and the smug grin of a twenty-something-year-old guy who had already amassed a cool mil for his bank account. I had momentary imaginary heart palpitations when I remembered that we’d met at that same pool the year before. I still cared about him. But in lieu of saying hello, I pretended he was invisible and returned to the bar to meet Porno Dan, the drinking love of my life, who was totally visible. Carpello and I hadn’t seen each other in months, and the last time we’d hung out, we’d been out of our minds on E, and I was in no shape to do the catching up
thing with cocaine and Jack running through my blood.
BACK IN THE hotel room with Kagney, another fat line brought me out of my memories, and I wondered how long I’d been spacing out.
Okay, sexy Penny?
she asked.
She ran her fingers down my naked back, opened her body to me, and slid the cocaine-covered magazine to the side of the bed.
Yeah, just trying to remember where I left my shoes,
I said.
This wasn’t a total lie because I had lost my shoes at some point during the day, and during my poolside Carpello memories it had crossed my mind to wonder where they were.
Here, baby, let me fix you,
she cooed.
She kissed my ear ever so gently, flicking her tongue to the soft skin along my hairline, her fingers still tracing my tattooed back down to the curve of my ass.
But I still couldn’t shake thoughts of Carpello. I had been warned about him before we met through a feminist, sex-positive sex education director friend of mine named Tristan Taormino, who had offered me a gig directing my own line of sex-ed videos for Vivid. Tristan had run up against Aaron in the past, and thought he was an arrogant pig. I took that as a challenge and decided to fuck him.
Kagney swept my hair back to the left side of my body while she pressed her naked skin against my right side. Do you want me to lick your pussy?
she whispered delicately. I’ll make you come all over my pretty face.
I doubted she could make me come after a three-day cocaine binge, but I wasn’t against her trying. I wasn’t against the idea at all.
You sexy little whore,
I said.
With my left hand, I moved the magazine to the floor. With my right, I grabbed her crotch.
I’ve wanted to taste your wet little cunt since I saw you this morning,
I said.
She squealed with delight.
No, no, no, me first,
she said.
I rolled over to my back while she dove between my legs. As I looked down at the mess of blond curls, I thought of the thousands of other blondes who had been down there and wondered if she would surprise me and do something extraordinary with her mouth.
Lexi Belle, Love, Tyler, and Marie had all been between my legs with their beautiful, bouncing blond curls. I’d had an Elexis, an Alexis, a few Torys, Eves, and two Tiffanys, one redhead and one brunette. There had been so many of them that they all blended into one moving mass of pleasurable curls, small ringlets, big waving tendrils, highlights, lowlights. While Kagney worked her sweet tongue over my clit, I thought of the first night I’d fucked Carpello in one of these hotel rooms. It was even on the same floor we were on now.
We had been lying next to each other in bed, smoking a joint, when we started kissing. Because kissing is the gateway drug to fucking, I knew I had to bring up a very important matter before things got messy.
I’m bleeding right now, but I’ll still suck your dick.
I was breathless and ready, my hands already searching his pants.
I’m good with that,
he said with a smile.
I performed for him with one hand attached to my mouth, the best that I could do while using the other hand to tuck the tampon string away so I could show him my pussy. When I was sure everything looked perfect, I maneuvered my body so that he could watch me masturbate while I continued to suck his cock. I played my clit like turntables and he threw his head back, pleased he’d ended the evening in my mouth. When he came, it was warm and thick. I swallowed it without tasting his essence and casually excused myself to the restroom to clean the spit from my face.
After washing my cheeks in the sink, I sat on the toilet and started to pee with the door to his room wide open. How long do you normally fuck a bitch before she pisses in front of you?
I called out to him through the darkness, smiling, because I was sure very few women in his life called other women bitches
or talked about their own pissing.
What?
he said.
The silhouette of his naked body came into focus in the doorway, lit only by the dim table lamp by the bed.
I asked: How many times do you have to fuck a bitch before she pisses in front of you?
Without a word, he walked to where I sat on the toilet and shoved his cock again into my mouth and down my throat.
While I thought about Carpello, Kagney was still between my legs.
Do you like this, Penny?
she asked.
I shifted my hips into her face, grabbing the back of her head and holding it firmly but gently.
Yes, I most certainly do, my little beauty,
I said. You like the way my pussy tastes?
I was only with her for a moment, though, before I quickly faded out again to the night with Carpello the year before. As much as I tried to remain present, I’d done too much blow to keep my sexual escapades straight.
Are you really bleeding?
he asked.
He lifted me at the armpits and thrust my body and ass onto the cold bathroom counter.
Yeah, but I don’t care,
I said. I’ll make a fuckin’ mess with you.
He walked from the bathroom to his luggage, rummaged around until he found a condom, came back, and pressed it against my tit while pinching my nipple and pushing his mouth to my neck and ear.
You’re gonna make a mess with me?
he said. Be my messy girl?
I had already taken the tampon out in super-stealth mode, wrapped it in toilet paper, and tossed it while he was condom hunting, so I was ready for him.
I’ll be your filthy fucking mess,
I said. Be your messy little girl.
He fucked me in the dark, standing there with his balls driving into the counter and my ass cheeks. And then he carried me to the bed, and we fucked until he worked himself into a heated frenzy. I watched him attentively and listened to his breathing crescendo, matching my own breath to his. We came together, on and with one another, and fell asleep, exhausted, on top of surprisingly clean but damp, sweaty sheets.
Kagney brought me back to our moment.
I don’t think you’re really coming,
she said.
I sat up, grabbed her by the throat, and brought her perfectly structured face an inch away from my own.
You think I’m lying to you?
I said.
She laughed and licked my lips.
Hit me,
she hissed. Fucking hit me, you slut.
I smiled down into her face, eased her hair from her forehead, and slapped her. The force of my open palm shifted her gaze away from my eyes to across the room.
You like that, don’t you, you little fucking whore?
I growled.
She giggled and looked back into my eyes. Still holding her throat, I slapped her again. That time I grabbed her face and kissed her mouth, biting her fat, pink lips, which threatened to turn blue from my choke hold.
I love it,
she said.
"Put your lips on my cunt and show me how much you love it," I said.
I pressed her back down between my hot, wet thighs, her perfect curls now tangled and drenched in dewy pussy juice.
Whatever you say, sexy Penny.
She bit my clit and then flicked her tongue until I came in her mouth.
I can’t remember if my orgasm was because of her mouth or because there was nothing left to be felt.
Panting and exhausted, she slithered her glistening body up against mine. The sixty-plus hours we’d spent awake, drinking, laughing, and now fucking, finally hit her. With her back against me, I held her hips, my fingers following the curve of her abdomen while I inhaled the smell of her damp honey hair, which fell across my pillow.
As I listened to her slow breathing, my mind continued to piece together events from the weekend, searching for a linear explanation of my time in Phoenix, the work I’d accomplished by being there, and where in the hotel I might have left my shoes. When I started praying for sleep, for the cocaine to finally disperse into my system, for the depressant alcohol to finally win the battle for my blood, I realized that because the shoes were brand-new, I couldn’t remember what they looked like. Kagney was sound asleep. If I could fall asleep as well, I might be ready to enter rehab in thirty-six hours, like I was supposed to do.
2
IN MY BEGINNING IS MY END.
—T. S. ELIOT, EAST COKER
Most people believe porn stars were molested as children, and while some probably were, neither my dad nor my mom was abusive. Even though they were both addicts at one point in my childhood, they maintained a certain level of normalcy that isn’t possible in the majority of homes struck by addiction.
My Cabbage Patch Kids and I had homemade matching frilly dresses and patent leather shoes. On my birthdays, Mom would bake fantastically detailed cakes, creating Big Bird and Cookie Monster from little star-shaped dabs of frosting. Dad traveled a lot for business, and on the rare nights Mom would scold me, I’d lie in my king-size water bed with its white mesh canopy and downy comforter, pretending to be a princess awaiting her father, the King, who would return to save her from the punishing solitude of Go to your room, Jennifer.
I was nine years old when we moved from Evanston, Wyoming, to a little house on Spring Valley Way in Concord, California, a move that came only five years after our move from Denver to Evanston. The big companies for which Dad worked often restructured their workforces, and whenever Dad was restructured out of a company, he would apply for a job in a different city, and the family would up and move.
I never fully understood what he did at work. I knew he was a safety inspector of a plant or facility, but I had no idea what that meant. All I knew was that when he wasn’t traveling, he left for and returned from work at the same time each day, and once he was home and settled into his comfy jeans, we’d share a big glass of milk and eat peanut-buttered saltines in front of the television until dinnertime. I had no reason to believe he was anything other than perfect.
In fact, up until my parents’ divorce, my entire life was perfect. Like, super-perfect. Or at least it seemed perfect, until the problems that lurked below the surface made themselves known.
A few months after we moved to Concord, my mom went to Boston for a weekend to attend a training course in forensic science, which she was thinking about as a career choice, leaving my dad to watch my brother, my sister, and me. He came home from work early that Friday afternoon. After our usual peanut butter and saltines, followed by a special kung pao chicken dinner, he disappeared into his bedroom. This was fine with my siblings and me, because we had the run of the house. James, Lyss, and I ran from room to room, first jumping on the couches in the living room, then to each others’ bedrooms for bed jumping, and then back to the couches. The jump circuit continued for about an hour, until we had digested dinner and had room for dessert.
Ice cream?
I asked my sister.
She nodded excitedly and continued bouncing on a couch.
I ran through the house, back to where Dad was, slowing to a snail’s pace only as I walked into his bedroom.
Dad?
I said.
I expected to see him sitting in bed, illuminated by the glow of the TV. But the bed was empty. I started to wonder where he’d gone and why he hadn’t told us.
Dad?
I said again.
What’s up, Jen?
he said.
His muffled voice came from the bathroom, and my heart quit its million-mile-a-minute beat when I realized he was just going potty. I stood right at the door.
Can we have some ice cream?
I said.
Sure, Jen, go right ahead,
he said.
I took off at full speed for the kitchen with visions of mint chocolate chip dancing through my head.
We piled onto the freshly jumped couch and ate ice cream straight from the container, something Dad did but Mom hated, while watching Are You Afraid of the Dark?
I was awakened sometime later that night by the noise of the television. When I realized that the three of us had fallen asleep on the couch, I woke up James and Lyss and herded them off to bed. After I kissed Lyss on the forehead, I went into Dad’s room to say good night, but the bed was still empty. A little sliver of light beamed from underneath the still-closed bathroom door. I thought it was strange that Dad had pooed twice in one night but was too tired to bother saying anything about it.
Night, Dad,
I said.
Good night, Jen,
he said, his voice audible over the whirl of the fan.
I zombied off to bed.
Early the next day, we rose to watch Saturday morning cartoons. When Dad hadn’t gotten up by the time we finished our bowls of cereal, I padded back to his bedroom to see if he was awake. The bedroom door was closed, so I quietly cracked it open and poked my head in.
Dad?
I whispered, not wanting to wake him if he was still sleeping, because I remembered that he’d been having a poo superlate the night before.
I’m in the bathroom, Jen,
he said.
I slowly approached the bathroom door.
Do you want some cereal?
I asked.
No, I’m fine,
he said. I’ll be out in a bit.
I went back to watch cartoons with Lyss and James. It was near lunchtime when Lyss finally pulled her attention away from the TV.
Where’s Dad?
she asked.
I don’t think he feels good,
I said.
I went back to check on him again.
You sure you’re okay, Dad?
I asked.
This time I pressed my nose to the door to see if there was the smell of barf coming from the bathroom.
Yeah, I’m okay,
he said. I’ll be out in a bit. Make your brother and sister peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.
Revived with my new lunch mission, and feeling a bit like the queen of the house, I took Lyss and James to the kitchen. Once I had made the sammies and fed the kids, I sent them to their rooms to play. The afternoon turned into early evening, and not having seen Dad for nearly twenty-four hours, I started to get really worried about his stomach. I went to his room to check on him.
Everything is fine, Jen,
he said once again.
But this time I heard a slightly more frantic tone in his voice, and I decided to call Mom. She had left the phone number of her hotel right next to the phone.
I sat at