Sassy: The Go-For-It Girl's Guide to Becoming Mistress Of Your Destiny
By Lisa Clark
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Do you have any idea what it is like to be that girl? The girl who is totally badass, speaks her truth,
makes money, follows her heart and has crazy-mad adventures? The girl who people stop in the
street and ask hey, g-friend, what is your secret?
When you are that girl, there is no secret. You are SASSY.
SASSY, from the creatrix of www.sassyology.com, is a rather deliciously delightful cocktail of
womanly arts, make-life-betterness and magickal chutzpah that will switch your I am awesome
levels to maxim-o. You will find ways to seek passion and pleasure, to dig on your sweet self
and to know your fabulosity. You will be inspired beyond measure by interviews and insights
from divine Daring Dames like Pleasure Provocateur, Sam Roddick and Queen of Burlesque,
Immodesty Blaize, and most importantly, you will learn how to conjure up and invoke whatever
it is you want in life, all while dancing to your very own beat and wearing completely inappropriate
footwear.
Lisa Clark
Lisa Clark is an author, editorial director of lolasland.com, freelance writer, youth market consultant and Mizz life coach. Lisa currently lives in a pink palace by the sea, where she watches romantic comedies and eats chocolate cake. A lot.
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Introduction
What is SASSY?
SASSY is the Spiritual, Authentic, Sensual & Sensational You. When all five elements combine, it unleashes the innate awesomeness of the most kick-ass members o’ lady-kind who came before us. SASSY is your magickal chutzpah, your go-for-it girl juice, your cosmic ju-ju, your very own super-girl super-power.
Woah! So I get super-powers?
As any super-hero-girl will testify, fully embracing your epic super-hero-girl powers takes time. But yep, you do. In fact, shall I let you into a little secret? You’ve already got them. They’re just lying dormant, deep down inside of you. Your job is to discover them, learn about them, work them out, and really get to grips with them before you can truly own them and use them for good. Just ask Wonder Woman. She was rubbish with a lasso when she started out.
But the good news is, it’s not difficult, far from it. How do I know? Because if it were, I certainly wouldn’t be doing it, and I, gorgeous girls, am totally in my SASSY power. Nope, all you’ve got to do is be ready.
Why? Because your life will change in a gazillion different ways and well… you really do have to be ready for that.
How do I get me some o’ that SASSY power?
Sorcery.
Now, this particular kind o’ sorcery, the SASSY kind, isn’t all puffs of smoke and eye-of-newt like in the Harry Potter movies, nor is it tie-dye, lentils and hours upon hours of deep meditation. Nope, SASSY sorcery is a very special glitter-sprinkled blend of the very best kind of magick, it’s feel-good magick. It doesn’t mean that it’s all pink and fluff-filled, I mean, yes, there is definitely some pink involved, and I make no apologies for that, but believe me, when used properly, with purpose and intent, this stuff is crazy-powerful. SASSY sorcery will allow you to splash in your very own bubble bath of fabulousness and will bestow upon you every super-hero-girl power you’ll ever need to conjure up happy moods, change the way you see yourself when you look in the mirror, positively radiate confidence, own any room you walk into, improve every aspect of your life - health, career, relationships, finances - and most importantly, find your very own SASSY, the magick that’s deep, deep inside you.
When you practice SASSY Sorcery, as in really practice it, something amazing happens. Think Elizabeth Taylor playing the ultimate seductress, Cleopatra. Hot, right? Well multiply that by 1000 then you might begin to get the idea. You’ll become quite possibly the most bewitching bombshell. The kind o’ gal who is so completely in tune with her powers that you can identify, go after, and most importantly, conjure up and invoke whatever it is you want in life, all while dancing to your very own beat and wearing completely inappropriate footwear. And like I said earlier, you really have to be ready for that, because not only will you walk taller, you’ll have an ‘I had amazing sex last night’ smile on your face a LOT of the time and people will have an insta-attraction to you without entirely knowing why – it’s just how you’ll roll.
I discovered the full power of SASSY Sorcery while on a girly weekend in the land of Oh la la, Paris. It was 2008 and my gorgeous gal-pal, Aimee and I had run away. Well, for the New Year at least. We had both cut ties with our boyfriends at the time, so we thought what better way for two rather fabulous, newly single girls to see the New Year in, than under the gorgeous sparkles of the Eiffel Tower? So we did. We maxed out our credit cards, we stayed in a gorgeous hotel, we watched beautiful ladies dance topless at the Crazy Horse, we ate delicious macaroons à la Carrie Bradshaw and Marie Antoinette before her and it was there, in beautiful, delightfully divine Paris, that I performed my first act of SASSY Sorcery, except I didn’t know that’s what it was back then. I want to tell you all about it right now, but hey, you’ll find out soon enough. All you need to know is that, at that moment, the planets aligned, they did a little cosmic wiggle and the beautiful tower o’ light blew me a kiss to seal the deal, because what happened after that day… Wow. Now that really has been magick.
Before we start, you need to know that I’m not a guru, although I do have a rather cute li’l Buddha belly that I rub for magickal insight. I’m not a philosopher either, although I do quite fancy myself as one, and, if I say so myself, I do look rather hot in an all-black ensemble. Nope, I’m just a girl who believes in the power o’ SASSY. I grew up on a council estate and never quite fitted the cookie-cutter version of how a girl should look, act and be. At school, as anyone who ever went to a comprehensive school will tell you, not fitting in truly sucked. In my world of SASSY however, not fitting society’s so-called ‘norm’ is positively encouraged. You see, even when I was dying my hair a variety of crazy colours, rimming my eyes with black kohl and writing the name of my latest boy crush on my school exercise books, I always thought that, despite the huge curveballs life kept throwing my way, there had to be something else. I desperately wanted something to believe in, so I believed in fairy-tales, I believed in happy ever-afters because there simply had to be something more fabulous in store for me, something that was truly magickal. Looking back, I’m guessing that was the divine/goddess/spiritual homegirl/source/all that is/universe – delete as applicable – giving me a friendly manicured-finger poke, delicately whispering in my ear that I was right, there really was a whole world of magick, insights and adventure for me to go and explore.
So that’s what I did. The girl that believed in magick, became a kick-ass SASSYologist. What is a SASSYologist? Simply put, she’s a wise woman, who uses her innate superpowers, to conjure, enchant and bewitch her way to a life of complete awesomeness. She salutes the wild women and goddess-girls of the past: Boudicca, Joan of Arc, Marilyn Monroe, Cleopatra, Hekate, Isis, Gypsy Rose Lee, while seeking new ways to blaze a sparkly pink trail of glitter and sparkles on her own SASSY path.
So what do you think?
Are you ready to rock and rule at this thing they call life? Want to do it in a wiggle dress and feather boa? Or biker boots and a vest? Whatever your chosen attire, this book will help you do that. As a life coach, I’ve worked with so many fabulous women in my Sassy Sessions who desperately wanted me to spill, to share my secret weapons o’ SASSY, so I have. This book has come directly from my first hand experience of discovering my own SASSY super powers and harnessing them, Boudicca-style, to become a life-creatrix, mistress of my own destiny. I’m also beside myself with excitement because some of my very own idol-girls, ladies that completely rock my world, have come to strut their very own SASSY and share their insight, wisdom and magickal powers with you too, make sure you look out for my Daring Dames – they’re truly, truly kick-ass. It’s raw, from-the-heart stuff for anyone who needs proof that magick does exist and a permission slip to dream the most juice-filled delicious dreams and then go right ahead and make them happen.
Oh, I don’t want to tell you how to read a book, but to experience it fully, I absolutely, positively encourage you to not just read it, but to write notes in the margins, dance with it, share the bits you love with friends, give it a smooch, sleep with it under your pillow – most importantly, participate.
I dare you.
Big, beautiful heart-filled love stuff,
Lisa x
The SASSYologist
The SASSY-festo
Just so you know, as controversial as this may sound, I really struggle with the ‘f’ word. I don’t know if it’s the negative connotations and stereotypes that have come with it over the years – bra burning (I would NEVER burn a bra, those bad boys are freakin’ expensive and far too pretty), man-hating (I HEART men A LOT) and the whole un-feminine thing (I REALLY love heels) but whatever it is, rightly or wrongly, the term ‘feminist’ just doesn’t sit right with me. It might just be that I don’t really like labels in general, I especially dislike the ones found in dresses, mainly because so many women feel the need to measure their self-worth based on the number they find on it. In fact, the only label I’ll ever be willing to accept is that I’m SASSY.
An always-learning, always creating, woman of awesome.
A feisty, emotive, love-hard woman in my total power who has amazing sex, has fears and insecurities but meets them head on, crushes on my own reflection in the mirror, is honest and real – which means sometimes, I’ll mess up, oh, and is able to wear MAC make-up rather fabulously, obv.
Now, another thing you need to know about me is that I’m often accused of being a bit ‘fluffy’. And that’s cool, because, do you know what? I am. And it’s taken me a while, but now I’m totally unapologetic for that. I have a penchant for boy bands, I meditate in a leopard print-slanket and tiara, I love pretty things, especially Vivienne Westwood shoes, I paint my nails every evening and I totally heart the colour pink. But, I’m also a kick-ass businesswoman, a deeply spiritual thinker and well… I’m complex. I love to learn about the stars and the wonders of the universe AND I love to watch E! Entertainment, I fight tirelessly for the rights of girls and women to have all the information they need to make informed decisions about their lives AND I interview popstars and celebrities. I care passionately about the self-development of women AND I love kissing boys. I am a mass of fabulous contradictions.
Now, there’s no hard-and-fast rules to actually being SASSY, it’s totally YOU-nique to you, but just so you know, once your SASSY superpowers have been unleashed, it’ll be really hard NOT to want to do all of the following, so why resist?
Don’t diss on fellow members o’ lady-kind – we need to love, support and nurture each other, NOT bitch, compete and draw red rings around each other’s wobbly bits in trash mags.
Take responsibility for your own happiness and joy quota – It’s up to you, and only you, with a little help from moi, obv., to awaken your SASSY superpowers, learn about them and then use them like a super-hero-girl to do seriously good super-hero-girl stuff in the world. Let’s not blame boykind for absolutely everything, eh?
Be a tigress, seek pleasure – this life is way too short NOT to do the things you heart. When you know who, or what, makes your belly do front flips and your heart skip a beat, chase it, enjoy it, fully indulge in it, give thanks for it, and then lick your lips in complete satisfaction. Life is yummo.
Embrace your contradictions and most importantly, don’t apologise for them – It’s really okay to indulge in the work of Anais Nin and Jackie Collins. You can be feisty and fabulous and emo and fearful in equal measures. It’s the beauty o’ being you and you are a beauty, just so you know.
Go where there are no paths and make your own killer-heel-shaped footprints – I love nothing more than to read how a student with zilcho money can go on to make over £90,000 a year by blogging outfit ensembles, but if no one has done what you want to do, don’t let that stop you. Trail blaze – you can do it, use your superpowers!
Talk about ALL aspects of being a girl in this world - and that involves dropping our li’l miss perfection masks and having frank, deep and open conversations about messing up, being afraid, sex, masturbation, orgasms, passions and fantasies too – go there, g-friend – I dare you!
Embrace all the things that make you completely YOU-nique – because seriously, fitting in is really rather boring. Embrace and totally love-up all your crazy habits and collections, your penchant for watching NCIS (admit it, LL Cool J’s dimples are hot, non?) your work, your relationship, your slightly out-there vocab, the spiritual practices you dig – being SASSY is about being YOU. Without the fear of ridicule, because as Dita Von Teese once said, ‘only mediocrity is free from ridicule – so dare to be different!’ High fives to that, Miss D!
It took me far too many years to actually get it. To not want to fit in with the popular girls, to not want to dress like fashion magazines dictated I should, to fly my SASSY freak flag high and embrace ALL the qualities that make me the most fabulous version of Lisa I can possibly be. I am Lisa, I LOVE being Lisa and quite frankly, I am really rather awesome at it.
Don’t mind me, I’m just going to high five myself!
Now, while I’m assuming you’re reading this with an open heart and mind, all I ask is that, no matter what, as you read, you absolutely go with your gut. Not only where the book is concerned, but with life too. I’ve got a Buddha belly – yep, it’s round and a li’l chubby – but more than that, it’s my inner guidance system, like a sat nav for the soul, it’s what I rely on to let me know what works and what doesn’t work for me, and it never, ever fails me. I sometimes ignore it, but when I do, life just goes… well, wrong. So, if what you read here feels right for you, then cool, go forth super-girl o’ SASSY, and spread nothing but the good stuff throughout the cosmoverse, but the most important thing about being really SASSY is to find what works for YOU. Try things out; see how they fit for you. Does one particular method really speak to you? Question how it makes you feel. Throughout this book, what I’ll be doing is sharing what works for me. My SASSY formula to unleashing my super powers o’ SASSY and becoming mistress o’ my destiny. Now, if I do say so myself, it’s a pretty freakin’ awesome one, but don’t just take my word for it. Try it, feel it, work with it – then create your own SASSY-festo, write your own book of SASSY. This, and the books that follow, are simply a guide to help you discover, create and nurture awesomeness. Your life is your road trip, and so it’s up to you what route you take, where you stop off, who you hang out with and what, and who you do en route, ok?
So, are you in?
The declaration o’ SASSY
I, (insert your name here)…………………………………………., declare that I am absolutely ready to channel my inner Boudicca, take the reigns, and finally become mistress of my own amazing destiny – wooohhhoooo! I am woman, hear me roar, damn it!
Name:…………………………………………………………………….
Date:………………………………………………………………………………
Have you signed up? High fives, sweet thing! Your life is about to get seriously SASSY!
SPIRITUAL
…Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude…
Denis Waitley
So what do you think when you hear the term ‘spirituality?’
Tie-dye wearing, incense burning hippy types? Or a totally zen-like, bendy-wendy guru in an Ashram in India? Spirituality is not an exclusive members-only club that you get to join when you chant ‘om’, meditate for 6 hours a day, wear floaty clothes and buy your over-priced ticket to a six-week retreat in an obscenely beautiful part of the world. If you feel called to do those things, do them, do them with a big love-filled heart, but also know that every day, in every way, you have insta-access to your own super-hero-girl power of spirituality. In fact, it doesn’t matter whether you believe in God, magick, Goddesses, angels, the law of attraction or Jedi mind power, we’ve ALL got an Access All Areas pass to spirituality and a shopping trip, watching a sunrise, applying lipstick, eating a cupcake can be just as much, if not more of a spiritual experience than getting face time with the ever-so smiley, big-hearted Dalai Lama. (Although, if you ever get the chance to meet him, you really should, he seems like quite the dude.)
Spirituality is a kick-ass super power, it’s my fail-safe trip to the happy stuff, and like all the SASSY powers you’re about to discover, the good news is, it’s all there, wrapped in a YOU-shaped package just waiting to be discovered. Spirituality is not religion, spirituality, to me, is when my actions and every day practices beat in sync with my big, beautiful heart. This literally flicks my SASSY switch to ‘on’ and I become a neon-pink flashing sign of awesome. Pretty much anything I do, or have done, that’s authentic and meaningful and truly matters, is done when I hook up with the goddess, my spiritual homegirl. Some of my every day practices and ways that I connect, you’ll read about in this chapter, and I urge you to give them a go, but I also insist that you dig deep inside o’ yourself and feel that part of you that experiences serendipitous moments o’ synchronicity, y’know that feeling? The one when you follow your gut and you’re proven right? Feel it, and hold it tight. Now, and here’s the fun bit, find out the ways to really tap into YOUR spirituality. To find the acts, the practices, and the actions that will beat in time with the beat of your own spiritual drum. It’s when the really amazingly good stuff happens. Promise.
Maybe it’s because I’m a Scorpio, (Scorpios are naturally drawn to all things esoteric), but I’ve never been able to follow just one particular spiritual practice, mostly because I’m far too fickle and there are so many delicious practices to try. I’ve studied reiki, Quaballah, crystals, astrology, runes, Wicca, Buddhism, Christianity, I’ve had my aura cleansed and my chakras re-aligned, I’ve met my spirit guides, had my palms read, been on shamanic journeys and tapped into Theta brainwaves to connect to Source, and that’s just for starters.
Now, I’ve had a complete ball exploring these fabulous spirituality treats, I’ve had moments of total clarity, felt deep frustration and met the most interesting, crazy, bizarre and beautiful people, but you’ve got to be really careful not to over-eat at what the gorgeous Sara Beak, author of The Red Book, calls ‘the spiritual buffet,’ as too much esoteric candy can make a girl feel ever-so queasy.
If this is all feeling like a crazy amount of woo-woo right now, start by just taking a deep breath and simply choose to believe. Make a little pact with your sweet self, right here, right now, and simply ask for proof. A sign that you’re on the right path to your awesome destiny, it may come from a lyric in a song, a word written on a passing van, a letter in the post, a change in situation, or an opportunity where before there wasn’t one, just ask, believe, and when that sign arrives, I defy you not to do a little