Know Where You're Going: A Complete Buddhist Guide to Meditation, Faith, and Everyday Transcendence
By Ayya Khema
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Know Where You're Going provides a full course of instruction in Buddhist meditation and reflection, and contains a wealth of exercises and advice to help the reader grow. As we put these teachings into practice over time, we learn to see things as they really are and discover transcendence right here in our everyday lives.
Ayya Khema shows us how to live a wholehearted spiritual life, even amid our day to day concerns and responsibilities. Her teachings unfold simply, free of jargon, and are ideal for the contemporary world. Grounding the practice of more advanced meditations in a deeply cultivated sense of mindfulness, love, and altruism, Khema shows us, step by step, how to access to liberation and freedom.
Know Where You're Going was previously published under the title When the Iron Eagle Flies.
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Know Where You're Going - Ayya Khema
Know Where You’re Going
A COMPLETE MEDITATION COURSE FROM ONE OF THE WORLD’S MOST RENOWNED BUDDHIST TEACHERS
KNOW WHERE YOU’RE GOING SHOWS US HOW TO LIVE A WHOLEHEARTED SPIRITUAL LIFE, even amid our day-to-day concerns and responsibilities. Grounding the practice of more advanced meditations in a deeply cultivated sense of mindfulness, love, and altruism, Khema gradually shows us how to access liberation and freedom. As we put these seemingly simple teachings into practice over time, we learn to see things as they really are and discover transcendence right here in our everyday lives.
In this practical volume, Ayya Khema presents a complete meditation course and outlines the benefits accruing to those who do regular practice: letting go, equanimity, and courtesy toward all sentient beings. Throughout are sprinkled a variety of meditations on loving-kindness.
—Spirituality and Practice
PRAISE FOR AYYA KHEMA
Ayya Khema is a meditator’s meditator, a real expert, as clear about the nuts and bolts of technique as she is about the basic sanity and profound peacefulness that is the goal of all technique.
—Zoketsu Norman Fischer, author of Training in Compassion
Ayya Khema’s teachings are strongly grounded in a practical daily life perspective, yet she shows how to experience sublime states in meditation.
—Sandy Boucher, author of Hidden Spring
Born in Berlin in 1923 to Jewish parents, AYYA KHEMA was educated in Scotland and China and later emigrated to the United States. She was ordained as a nun in Sri Lanka in 1979 and established several Buddhist centers, including Wat Buddha Dhamma in Australia, Parapuddua Nun’s Island in Sri Lanka, and Buddha-Haus in Germany. She is the author of twenty-five books including the bestselling Being Nobody, Going Nowhere. She passed away in 1997.
Contents
Foreword by His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama
Acknowledgments
Introduction
1.The Why
and How
of Meditation
2.The Heart Essence
3.Guided Contemplations and Loving-Kindness Meditations
4.Dependent Arising: Cause and Effect
5.Transcendental Dependent Arising: Unsatisfactoriness
6.Faith and Confidence
7.Mindfulness of Feelings and Sensations: A Technique of Meditation
8.Joy
9.Concentration: The Meditative Absorptions
10.A Technique of Meditation
11.Further Steps
12.Nonmaterial Meditative Absorptions
13.Knowledge and Vision of Things as They Really Are
14.Disenchantment
15.Dispassion and Freedom
16.Day by Day
Notes
Glossary
Index
About the Author
Foreword
AFTER HIS ATTAINMENT of enlightenment the Lord Buddha taught for many years in north India. He counseled his listeners not simply to accept his words out of faith but to think about them and then, if they found them convincing and appropriate, to put the advice into practice. Thus, his teachings spread because they impressed people, who found them useful in their own lives, and in turn passed them on to others. With time Buddhism spread throughout Asia.
However, the relevance of the Buddha’s message is not confined to one geographical area, for all human beings can apply what he taught. In recent years people from Western lands have had greater access to living Buddhist tradition and have taken increasing interest in it; some have even become Buddhists themselves. One such is Ayya Khema, who presents here the advice she has given while leading a meditation course in Canada based on her own experience. Such efforts are indeed heartening, and I hope that through them all beings may find peace.
Tenzin Gyatso
H. H. the Fourteenth Dalai Lama
Acknowledgments
THIS BOOK IS DEDICATED to my parents, all my teachers, all my students, all my friends, and all those who have supported the Buddha’s teachings in the past and who support them now.
Special thanks come from my heart to the Venerable Pema Chödrön, who invited me to give these teachings, to Ani Trime Lhamo, who transcribed the cassettes on which this book is based, and to Claudia Klump, who diligently helped with the typing.
May beings everywhere rejoice and benefit from these words.
Ayya Khema
Buddha-Haus,
Germany, September 1989
Introduction
BEFORE I BEGIN MY TEACHING I would like to explain the origin of the Buddha’s discourses. Three months after the Buddha’s death (parinibbāna) the first great council of enlightened ones (arahants) took place. At that time the Buddha’s teaching was systematized and put into orderly categories. When he was alive, he taught as befitted the occasion, often in answer to questions. In those days religious teaching was always transmitted orally.
At the first great council of enlightened ones, the Venerable Ananda, who had been the Buddha’s attendant for twenty-five years, recited the discourses (suttas), and the Venerable Upāli recited the Vinaya (the rules of the order of monks and nuns). Approximately 17,500 discourses of the Buddha were thus transmitted. About a hundred years later the second council of enlightened ones was convened. The enlightened ones were called together because there were significant differences of opinion, particularly concerning the Vinaya, and in holding these different viewpoints the Sangha (community of monks and nuns) had split into various factions. It had become imperative to finalize the whole of the Buddha’s transmission so that a definitive body of teaching would be safeguarded.
Two hundred and fifty years after the Buddha’s parinibbāna the third great council of enlightened ones took place. At that time the Venerable Ananda, the Venerable Moggallāna, and the Venerable Sariputta, who had been the great disciples of the Buddha, each had one disciple still living. Their pupils were each over one hundred years old, of course, but their presence helped to authenticate the teaching as it was transmitted. At this stage the suttas and the Vinaya were written down in Sinhalese script using the Pali language. Today we can read Pali using the Roman alphabet.
At that time King Asoka, the great Buddhist king of India, had sent his son, the Venerable Mahindra, to Sri Lanka to propagate Buddhism. The king of Sri Lanka readily adopted this new teaching, and many noblemen became monks (bhikkhus). The monks undertook to put what we call the Pali canon into written form. In Pali this is called the Tipiṭaka (ti means three and pitaka means basket). There is a reason for this name. The original manuscript was written down on palm (ola) leaves with a stilo, a pointed steel dagger-like instrument, which scratched the letters into the soft leaves. An ink made from berries was rubbed over the whole page and then gently removed, so that only the indentations retained the color. Palm leaves were not bound like books but had to be carried around in baskets. Three separate ones were used: one for suttas, one for Vinaya, and one for Abhidhamma, to keep them apart. Since that time, monks of Sri Lanka have copied the original palm leaves onto new ones in the same manner, because the leaves eventually crumble and fall apart. It is a matter of pride and tradition for the monks of the monastery built around the rock where Mahindra first preached the Dhamma to copy the original leaves year after year.
The written transmission has always been supported by oral transmission; reading a book can never be the same as hearing the Dhamma from a teacher. The oral transmission from the Buddha’s time was passed from teacher to disciple in spite of political upheavals and natural disasters, and it continues to be so today.
In order to benefit from an oral transmission, one must listen with heart and mind. The mind conceptualizes; the heart believes without clearly understanding. Together they can grasp the meaning behind the words. Words are concepts, which can be twisted out of shape. Our minds are magicians and are capable of transforming one thing into another.
The teaching of the Buddha is like an enormous map showing a vast landscape with a roadway leading from here to there. It is his unique gift that this map is offered and made available to anyone who wants it. Naturally, not having traversed the whole length of the road, one cannot possibly know whether what lies ahead is correctly delineated. There is only one way of approaching that which one has not yet experienced, namely by opening heart and mind to hear whether truth is being expounded. The heart must summon up enough confidence to try the next step, otherwise conceptual thinking and logical conclusions will stand in the way.
This teaching, tried and true over the centuries, is one of the greatest jewels humanity possesses. The original words of the master are overpoweringly effective in changing pain and grief (dukkha) to happiness (sukkha). Access to it is through the heart and the mind. The Buddha recommended study and practice, so that knowledge can point the way and practice can do the work.
The discourse you will hear, called the Upanisa Sutta from the Connected Discourses (Saṃyutta Nikāya), teaches us the path from our present pain and grief to liberation. Can we do it in the scope of a seven-day meditation course? The Buddha says we can. In the Satipaṭṭhāna Sutta, the discourse on the foundations of mindfulness, the Buddha said that if one practices mindfulness for seven years one will definitely have the result either of becoming enlightened or not returning to the wheel of birth and death. Then he said, Nay, not for seven years, even six years, five, four, three, two, or even one year. Even for eleven months, ten, nine, eight, seven, six, five, four, three, two, or even one month. Nay, even for seven days.
That, of course, means mindfulness in its perfection. It is unusual, to say the least, to reach complete freedom in seven days, but it is certainly possible to explain the path of practice within that time.
There is a story about the Buddha taking a walk with his monks in the forest. Picking up a handful of leaves, he said to the monks, Which are greater in number, the leaves on the trees or the leaves in my hand?
The monks said, Sir, the leaves on the trees, of course, are far greater in number than those you have in your hand.
The Buddha replied, That’s right. What I have taught you, compared with what I know, is like the leaves in my hand, but it is perfectly sufficient to attain liberation.
The authenticity of the Tipiṭaka can be felt when people who were present when the Buddha spoke are mentioned by name and profession. The place where the sutta was being taught is often described, and the same people occur so many times that one feels one actually knows them. Many of the suttas start with the words "Evam me suttam, meaning
Thus have I heard," an opening used by the Venerable Ananda speaking at the first great council of enlightened ones. He went on to say where he heard the teaching and who else was present. This was to ensure that he was repeating the discourse correctly; in the case of discrepancies, those who had also been present could be asked to confirm his account.
We can feel enormous gratitude and joy to be among those people on earth who are able to hear the oral transmission of the Buddha’s teaching. Considering that there are more than five billion people on this planet, this is a most fortunate karma resultant. Joy and gratitude should be the two factors that open our hearts to the teaching. The mind alone does not suffice. Meditation generates certain experiences, always connected with feeling, which is our heart quality.
The Buddha himself was a prince and lived in great luxury. He found that all the indulgences open to him and the luxury in which he lived did not bring him happiness. This certainly applies to today’s society. We can have all the luxury and indulgences possible, and yet happiness escapes us. The Buddha felt that his luxurious life prevented his true understanding of reality. He left the palace and became an ascetic, mortifying his body for six years, but that too failed to bring the desired results. After having found his own way to enlightenment, he said that neither indulgence nor asceticism was right, but rather a middle path that avoided both extremes.
The middle path is always one of simplicity—of providing necessities, but nothing more. This simplicity can also be noticed in the teaching. There are few rituals, no initiations, and no secrets. The sutta that I have chosen for this meditation course contains all the elements needed for a complete spiritual path. As is common in the Buddha’s expositions, it is a graduated path, which starts with our ordinary, everyday experience and gradually shows us how to gain access to liberation, to final freedom.
1The Why
and How
of Meditation
THERE IS VERY LITTLE DOUBT that those of us who want to meditate are looking for something other than what we are used to in the world. We are already wise enough to know that the world hasn’t fulfilled our expectations, and maybe we already know that it may never do so. That is a big step in itself.
When we sit down to meditate, we are trying to transcend our everyday consciousness, the consciousness used to transact ordinary business, the one used in the world’s marketplace as we go shopping, bring up our children, work in an office or in our business, clean the house, check our bank statements, and all the rest of daily living. Everyone knows that kind of consciousness, and without it we can’t function. It is our survival consciousness, and we need it for that. It cannot reach far enough or deep enough into the Buddha’s teachings, because these are unique and profound; our everyday consciousness is neither unique nor profound, just utilitarian.
In order to attain the kind of consciousness that is capable of going deeply enough into the teachings to make them our own and thereby change our whole inner view, we need a mind with the ability to remove itself from the ordinary thinking process. Attaining this sort of mind is only possible through meditation. There is no other way. Meditation is therefore a means, and not an end in itself. It is a means to change the mind’s capacity in such a way that it can perceive entirely different realities from the ones we are used to. The recognition that meditation is a tool is important, because it is often wrongly considered to be an end in itself. In Pali, meditation is called bhāvanā, mind training,
to be used for honing the mind until it becomes such a sharp tool that it cuts through everyday realities.
Most people sit down to meditate in order to make their minds peaceful. But a calm mind is only one of the two essential aspects of meditation. Insight (vipassanā) is the other. The goal of meditation is insight, and tranquility (samatha) is the means to that end. According to the Pali canon, the Buddha taught forty different methods of meditation, some used strictly for achieving calm and others for attaining insight. We do not need to practice that many.
Everybody is looking for some calm, some peace, and the ability to stop the mind from continuing its usual chatter. While it is necessary to cultivate the calm aspect of meditation, most people find it impossible to sit down and immediately become tranquil. Unfortunately, our minds are used to being exactly the opposite. They are thinking, evaluating, and judging from morning to night, and then dreaming from night to morning, so that they don’t get a moment’s rest. If we were to treat our bodies in that way we would soon be out of commission. The body can’t handle that for more than a few days, never having a moment’s rest, working all the time. When we ask this of our mind we are surprised that things don’t turn out the way we hoped, and that the world doesn’t work the way we thought it would. It would be even more surprising if it were otherwise, because what we see in our own mind is exactly what is going on in everybody else’s. That, too, is an important aspect of the meditative mind—to realize that we are not individually burdened with all this unsatisfactoriness (dukkha). It is a universal aspect of existence, comprising the first noble truth of the Buddha’s teaching.¹
Unsatisfactoriness is universal. It doesn’t belong to any one of us but to all of us. Because our minds are not yet trained, the world is the way it is, and meditation is a struggle. We need to learn to halt the habit patterns of the mind. Our minds are used to thinking, but when we want to become calm and peaceful, that is exactly what we have to stop doing. It is easier said than done, because the mind will continue to do what it is used to doing. There is another reason why the mind finds it difficult to refrain from its habits: thinking is the only ego support we have while we are meditating, and particularly when we keep noble silence. I think, therefore I am
—some Western philosophy accepts that as an absolute. Actually, it is a relative truth that all of us experience.
When we are thinking, we know that we are here; when there is no chattering in the mind, we believe we have lost control. But actually, it’s exactly the other way around. As long as we can’t stop thinking, we have no control. We are in control of our mind only when we are able to stop thinking when we want to. The difficulty arising for most, if not all, meditators is this aspect of letting go. To let go of the only ego support we have while we are meditating, namely our thinking, has to be a deliberate act. When we go about our daily business we deliberately direct our mind toward what we want to do. If we want to work in the kitchen we deliberately go there and turn our attention to what needs to be done. If we have work to do in an office we deliberately turn our mind to letters, files, and other office business. It’s the same in meditation.
Our first difficulty is that although we would like to become peaceful and calm and have no thoughts, our mind does not want to obey. It refuses to do so because then we would appear to have no support for our existence, and because our habits are against it. So instead of trying over and over again to become calm, we can use whatever arises to gain some insight. A little bit of insight brings a little bit of calm, and a little bit of calm brings a little bit of insight. Calm has no purpose other than to change our ordinary, everyday consciousness into a transcendental consciousness that is able to understand and use the teachings of the Buddha to change from an ordinary being into a transcendental being. If calm doesn’t arise it is not a great problem, because whatever else does arise helps us to gain some insight into who we really are. This is the main reason for a meditation retreat. It is an inward journey to give us a little more understanding of who we are. Nothing could be more interesting, but there are some aspects from which we would like to run at times. We can’t run away, while we are meditating, unless we start fantasizing and making up stories. Everybody is liable to do that, but when it does happen, let us realize that it is simply an escape.
To really further our inner journey, we are going to observe noble silence. Noble silence means not to talk to one another, which may be difficult when we are among friends. Take the difficulty as a challenge, and remember that challenges are steppingstones. Noble silence is one of the most effective tools for an inner journey. Usually we only have the opportunity for noble silence when we go on a retreat. Normally there are people around us with whom we communicate, which is one means of escape from our own suffering. Pain and grief is familiar to everyone even if we use different words for it, such as anger, fear, worry, upset, restlessness, and many others.
It is important to keep in mind that the very first noble truth the Buddha expounded upon enlightenment was that unsatisfactoriness is.
Unsatisfactoriness is a feature of existence. If we experience it in ourselves, we prove that the Buddha’s teaching is correct. That’s all. We don’t need to start suffering over it, we can just observe it and say, Evidence.
There are innumerable things that expose us to unsatisfactoriness, but we can remember the first noble truth that unsatisfactoriness is
and say, That’s right, that’s what the Buddha taught.
The Buddha also propounded the second noble truth, namely that the reason for unsatisfactoriness is craving. We may look into ourselves and inquire, What do I want that I am not getting? What am I getting that I don’t want?
These are the two reasons, which are actually one and the same, for having unsatisfactoriness. There’s only one way of dealing with suffering when it arises, and that’s to drop the wanting; suffering will then disappear. Such insight is only possible when we stop going outward, through communication and through our many activities. We must have quiet times when we can really look inside ourselves.
Perhaps you have meditated before. Nevertheless, I will explain to you various meditation methods and their possible results. Whatever method we use is only valid if it brings results. If a certain method doesn’t work, it’s best to change it. There is nothing to hang on to where a meditation method is concerned. People have different tendencies and different characters, and although our minds may have the same potential and capacities, we do need different approaches. Some minds are visual and like pictures; some like words, telling stories; and some prefer numbers, putting everything in neat little boxes. There are minds that delight in attention to detail. We may already know what kind of mind we have, or we can experiment in meditation and see which one of the different methods is most conducive to our becoming calm.
Meditating on the breath is how one practices the first foundation of mindfulness, mindfulness of the body (kāyânupassanā). Such mindfulness should also extend to everything we do outside the meditation room, which is something we will often forget, but at least we should direct our attention toward that goal. It