Diary of a F.A.T. (Fed Up and Tired) Girl
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Tanisha Thomas is best known as the hot-headed, larger-than-life diva from Oxygen’s hit show Bad Girls Club. Confident, successful, and never afraid to speak her mind, Tanisha seems to have it all. But appearances can be deceiving.
After years of battling the dreaded scale, seeking self-acceptance in the public eye, and struggling to find The One--or at least one who will pay for dinner--Tanisha is F.A.T.: fed up and tired. On the heels of a toxic breakup and the devastating passing of her father, she decides to throw out her vision of a picture perfect life and make peace with herself. Life might be sending her lemons, but Tanisha is determined to make lemonade . . . or find some chocolate.
In this compelling and wildly entertaining memoir, Tanisha dishes on her journey from Brooklyn to Hollywood and her ongoing search for happiness and fulfillment. From the ups and downs of her reality TV career to her search for love and well-fitting shapewear, Tanisha shares a hilarious, behind-the-scenes look at her unbelievable life story, urging fans to laugh along the way—and learn from her mistakes.
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Diary of a F.A.T. (Fed Up and Tired) Girl - Tanisha Thomas
Contents
Prologue: F.A.T. Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Does
Chapter 1: First Love, Or Sometimes You Need To Slap A Bitch
Chapter 2: Bad To The Bone
Chapter 3: Pulling Punches, Smashing Pots And Pans
Chapter 4: The Godmother of All Bad Girls
Chapter 5: Controlled Chaos: The BGC Reunions
Chapter 6: Larger Than Life
Is A Euphemism
Chapter 7: The Devil Doesn’t Only Wear Prada
Chapter 8: The Groupie Life
Chapter 9: MÉNAGE À TROIS
Chapter 10: Tanisha Gets Divorced (Well, She Tries To)
Chapter 11: Looking For The One…Or One Who Will Pay For Dinner
Chapter 12: Catfished
Chapter 13: Tips From The Dating Trenches
Chapter 14: Money And Envy
Chapter 15: The Best Show I Ever Hosted, On The Worst Day Of My Life
Chapter 16: BFFs Forever
Chapter 17: Thirty Days—and a Lifetime—to a Better Me
Chapter 18: Rules To Live By
Chapter 19: The (Mostly) Happy Ending
About the Author
PROLOGUE
F.A.T. Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Does
Dear Diary,
What the hell did I do to deserve this?
I’m so fuckin’ done.
—Tanisha
287384.jpgI was twenty years old when I flew in a plane for the first time. It was the summer of 2005 and I was headed to Los Angeles to film Bad Girls Club. I was convinced that I had finally gotten my big break. As I boarded the plane in New York I thought, I, Tanisha Thomas, am going to Hollywood and I am never coming back...
I’ll be honest, my imagination really ran wild. By the time we touched down at LAX I had envisioned it all: I’d be a Hollywood starlet with the paparazzi always on her heels, a HOT and sizzling damn he’s fine
man by my side, two kids, and a Shih Tzu that I’d carry around in a designer purse. The vision was oh so crystal clear. I’d be filthy rich, successful and, most importantly, I’d be in love.
And for once in my life I’d be in shape, sexy and fit. Did I forget to mention fit?
I was so excited I nearly skipped and twirled off the plane. Are you rolling your eyes yet? Well, bear with me. I can’t help it. You see, I’m a Virgo, so my success is written in the stars. I mean, don’t hate the girl, honey, hate the horoscope. The Universe wants me to be rich and famous! I’m driven to perfection and fabulousness, and I’m persistent and ambitious. Once I put my mind to something, that is it!
That’s it, right? Well, all these years later, let’s check in with my progress on the amazing vision
I once had:
Career: I’m never ever satisfied, and work can never seem to come in steady or fast enough. But, I’ll give this one a check.
Weight: Still doubling down on the Spanx, sometimes tripling (depending on what I ate that week) but at least my hair and make up is always laid for the gods!
Fine ass man: Um, does my vibrator count?
Two kids: You know what? I think we can stop now.
287388.jpgI’m convinced that my life is one big Lifetime movie and I have the lead role—even though I never auditioned. I am telling you, you simply can’t make none of this shit up! My life is so crazy it makes Dawson’s Creek look like a children’s lullaby.
Here I am, nearing thirty, still at home, my husband ducking and dodging the divorce papers like they’re the plague. I’m barely eating but the scale refuses to move, and I’m running into my neighbors—some of who are married by the way—and all my exes on the dating sites! Oh, and I still don’t have any kids (smh). Did I forget to mention that part?
For someone that always seems to have the master plan, my life never goes as expected. Mind you, it’s not just about me not having kids. It’s about that twenty-year-old girl in a plane for the first time, riding high off the feeling that her first big break would mean a lifetime of love, happiness, and success. And now, years later, nothing in my life is happening quite the way I thought it would. From my family driving me insane to picking up the damn check almost every time I go on a date, from facing the dreaded scale day after day, and seeking acceptance in the public eye, I’m fed up and tired. F.A.T.
I’m tired of complaining, though, and I’m sure you’re already tired of hearing it. Which is why it’s a good thing for both of us that every obstacle I’ve encountered has made me a better person—and I’m thankful for that. I may not have reached the milestones with my career and family that I thought I would at this age, but mentally and emotionally, I’m light years ahead.
I’m here to tell you that there’s no handbook for this thing called life. Screw what it’s supposed to be like and learn to roll with the punches. What screws us up is not what happens to us— it’s that picture we keep in our minds of what it all should look like.
When life throws you lemons…throw that crap back and demand chocolate, dammit! Nothing is going to go as planned. All you can hope is to still have your hairline and be better
not bitter.
I’m so different from the woman I was last year, and the year before that. Five years ago I would have probably punched you in the mouth if you offended me, now you’d be lucky if I responded. It took a lot of work to get here. A lot of work, and a whole lot of drama.
So buckle your seat belts, and get ready to learn from all of my mishaps and mistakes! If I could save at least one of you the trouble then maybe just maybe it was all worth it.
CHAPTER 1
First Love, Or Sometimes
You Need To Slap A Bitch
This may come as a shock to you, but I’ve never been one to hold my tongue.
My dad, on the other hand, rarely showed raw emotion, so when I was in the third grade I was surprised to come home one day and find him heartbroken over my broken piggy bank.
It was Valentine’s Day and I’d decided to go all out on the love of my eight year-old life: Raymond Taylor. Raymond was fine! He was an athlete, and he had nice, caramel skin, big brown eyes, and full, perfect lips. All the girls liked him, and I knew I needed to go all out to prove that I was destined to be Mrs. Raymond Taylor.
You’re probably thinking that I wrote Raymond a nice little Valentine card, or slipped him one of those notes asking, Do you like me? Check ‘yes’ or ‘no.’
Well you’re wrong. I cashed in my life savings.
Were you paying attention during the prologue? I wasn’t kidding when I told you I was determined.
I’d kept a ceramic piggy bank on my dresser, a pink pig with a ballerina skirt and a crown that contained all the allowance and birthday money I’d ever earned or received over the years. I tried to shake the money out of it but when that didn’t work, I smashed the damn thing! Then I waltzed my little butt down to the drug store (while my school driver waited for me outside) and bought a giant box of chocolates and the biggest teddy bear I could find! When I returned home, arms full of Valentine’s Day bounty,
I found my dad sweeping up the remnants of my piggy bank. He eyed me up and down, looking distraught.
Daddy, what’s wrong?
I asked, totally clueless.
Baby,
he said, voice quivering. Did you spend all your money on those presents? Who are they for?
Raymond Taylor,
I said, smiling from ear to ear. He lost it. My reserved, soft-spoken dad was crushed. Daddy,
I pressed him. What’s wrong?
Then he spoke the words that would haunt me until this very day. The prophecy, the curse, whatever you want to call it.
Men are going to be the death of my little girl. I just know it.
I was eight years old going on nine and I had no idea what he meant back then, but boy was I about to find out!
Daddy was right. Don’t believe me? Let’s skip ahead to the fifth grade and Christopher Johnson. Did I say Raymond Taylor was fine? Well Christopher was super-fine. (And Raymond shared my chocolates with the rest of our fourth grade class, so fuck him). Christopher and I were in a school play together and one day during rehearsals he grabbed my hand and pulled me toward him.
Hey Tanisha,
he whispered. Do you want to go together?
Um, yes!
I replied, bursting with excitement.
So we started going out—whatever that means in fifth grade. God knows, if my mother had found out, she would have beaten the