The Writer's Survival Guide: An Instructive, Insightful Celebration of the Writing Life
By Rachel Simon
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This ebook’s rerelease of The Writer’s Survival Guide includes a new introduction that discusses the origins of the book and how, in spite of the many changes in publishing and technology, it remains relevant today.
Rachel Simon
RACHEL SIMON has written for the New York Times, Glamour, Vice, NBC News, Vulture, and more. Previously, she was an editor at Bustle, HelloGiggles, and Mic. When not writing, she teaches at Gotham Writers Workshop and Redbud Writing Project and creates custom crossword puzzles through her Etsy business, YourCrossword. A graduate of Emerson College and a New York native, she lives in Raleigh, North Carolina, with her husband, dog, and cat. You can find her on Twitter (@rachel_simon) and at rachelsimon.blog.
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The Writer's Survival Guide - Rachel Simon
Author’s Introduction to the 2016 Rerelease of The Writer’s Survival Guide
Since The Writer’s Survival Guide first hit the bookstore shelves in 1997, so much has changed in the publishing industry that the long-term prospects of both bookstores and shelves have become increasingly dubious. But when it comes to the writing process itself, and the myriad obstacles that can bleed away enthusiasm, spread rashes of doubt, and even lead to the rigor mortis of writer’s block, I’m not sure much has changed at all.
You might think I’m talking about the external impediments: finding the time to write, figuring out where to take classes, searching for an agent, etc. And I am—but I am referring even more to the many internal impediments that surround every aspect of the process.
Aspiring writers have always struggled with denying themselves the attractions of ordinary life, and denying loved ones the pleasure of their company, so they can focus on their writing. They have always contended with dismay at the gap between the magnificence of their thoughts and the awkwardness of their fledgling writing skills, and fretted over whether they truly have the talent, intelligence, patience, etc. (the list grows by the day) to translate their thoughts into words. They’ve always wrestled with anger toward their first readers who don’t get
them or irritation at themselves for their own literary ineptitude. Aspiring writers in our era are just as likely to feel at a loss about how to revise as writers from days gone by. When they start submitting work and receive nothing back but rejection and silence, they grow as anxious as those who came before: What if the road to success (whatever that means; the goal posts keep shifting) is longer than they can endure? How does one go on in the face of rejection and fear?
These challenges are the writer’s real foes. As I wrote in the original introduction to this book, which is as true today as it was then: The biggest impediment to writing is not friends or teachers or editors or anything else external. Not the other stars in the classroom, not your eye-rolling wife, nor the denouement that won’t get done, nor even the editor who wouldn’t buy or promote your book. The biggest impediment to writing is you. That means your emotions, your beliefs, your defense mechanisms, your conflicts, your self-image, your ability to handle practical decisions, and everything else that goes into making you believe you can’t, or aren’t, or shouldn’t.
When Story Press came to me in the mid-1990s and asked if I had an idea for a writing-related book, I wondered what I could add to that genre. It seemed all the How-To’s had been written many times over: creating character, producing the blockbuster, writing a book proposal, etc. Then it occurred to me that I spent much of my non-writing hours counseling young writers in matters that had as much to do with navigating the inner terrain as with the path to publication. It also occurred to me that most writers mistakenly thought their feelings of failure, inadequacy, shame, and so on were unique to them. Yet over and over, I would see that everyone endured the same struggles—and that included me.
The folks at Story Press were intrigued by the idea, and asked me to propose a Table of Contents that would cover the main topics I had in mind. This task turned out to be remarkably easy; I simply looked back at letters and teaching notes I’d written over the last several years, many of which still resided in my file cabinet and rudimentary desktop computer, and I spotted the recurring themes. Yes, there was envy, frustration, feelings of failure. But there were also countless rewards, from acquiring patience and cultivating the ability to hear one’s inner voice to becoming confident, egoless, nimble-minded, and euphoric. There was, too, advice on finding the time to write—and what that really meant; learning to read as a writer; unshackling oneself from writer’s block; and on and on.
These very personal origins led, I think, to The Writer’s Survival Guide having a friendly and encouraging tone. They might also account for the book’s longevity; it stayed in print for years, and remains a staple on many writing shelves. After it finally went out of print and I posted chapters from it on my website, it continued to attract readers, many of whom were strangers to my other work, and some of whom urged me to rerelease it in e-book and paperback formats. (I also wrote and posted a companion volume, The Writer’s Writing Guide, which offered tips on craft, and which I used when I was teaching creative writing. Having never published that book, I have held off putting it out as an e-book or paperback for the time being.)
A few details in The Writer’s Survival Guide are now dated; I wrote it when bookstore cafes were relatively new, libraries and newsstands were still the primary way to find literary magazines, and the world of online booksellers, social media, blogs, e-books, print-on-demand, computers that don’t require a desk, and phones that aren’t for talking were all on the far side of the horizon. Nonetheless, I still hear from writers who say The Writer’s Survival Guide helps them to this day. I mean that literally; the very day I began writing this introduction, I received an email from a creative writing teacher who told me she’d just shared with her students the section of the book where I opened up about my own writer’s block, and she elaborated on how much my candor and advice helped them. She added, I love what you say about the psychology of writing. I think people seek meaning now more than ever through writing, whether it’s for publication or not.
I hope readers of this new edition will find it to be a perceptive and generous companion as they seek meaning through their writing. Perhaps too they might find occasion to smile with a sense of affinity, nod at the prospect of new paths, and, whether for the first or thousandth time, sit down and get going on their work.
Rachel Simon
February 2016
www.rachelsimon.com
Introduction to the Original Edition, 1997
I was seven when I decided to be a writer. My moment of revelation came when I was lying on the sofa in our dining room, curled beside my mother as she took her afternoon nap and I, supposedly, napped too. But instead of sleeping, I occupied myself with my usual antinap activity, which consisted of trying to create pictures out of the cracked paint in the ceiling while I contemplated my future. I had long since tired of grown-ups asking, And what are you going to be when you grow up?
Many were the arbitrary replies I had given: ballerina, teacher, mommy. But I knew in my heart that none of these was true, so I struggled to come up with a more genuine response. That afternoon, as the sun settled on top of us and the house sighed deeper into its foundation, the answer finally came to me: Aha! I’ll be a writer! Somehow I knew—in spite of having written nothing but alphabet exercises so far in my life—that this was not a lie.
I thought, I can do that.
But I had no idea what it meant to be a writer. I imagined it meant writing, pure and simple. You came up with stories, penciled them down, and then, after passing through several magic chambers, perhaps drinking a secret potion or two along the way, you found those words bound together into a book. People bought and read the book, and then you wrote another.
I began with stories and over the years added correspondence, journal writing, poetry, lyrics, and novels. I loved coming up with narratives, transcribing dialogue from my mind to the page, making my friends giggle or grow plaintive after reading my work. So what if I wasn’t a blonde knockout or a swift-footed Mercury at the hundred-yard dash? If all my piecrusts in Home Ec flaked like aged plaster and my sculptures in Art class were so asymmetrical they kept tipping over and shattering on the linoleum? I could do something that I enjoyed enormously and everyone else respected: I could write.
But as biology extruded me from childhood into adolescence, and I discovered self-consciousness, I began to suspect that I didn’t actually know what it meant to be a writer. Clearly, it meant more than penciling drafts into spiral notebooks. It also meant submitting work for acceptance, and the deeper the inevitability of submission drilled itself into me, the more my dread erupted. I just couldn’t imagine sending my work away to a publisher. They (and it was an amorphous, mysterious they, vaguely resembling the panel of angels—or was it judges?—at the gates to the great Hereafter) knew so much more than I did. My work couldn’t possibly be good enough for them. I could never measure up. As if that fear weren’t crippling enough, I realized—after a high school teacher critiqued some of my stories, sitting me down for hours in the dining hall one day and gently pointing out where I could edit each—that being a writer meant working hard, harder than I’d thought. It also meant admitting that my stories might be flawed or, as I put it to myself, wrong
—that my cinematic references were too obscure to be useful, that my tendency to be unspecific about my narrator’s gender was confusing to the reader, that the words I used to describe the schizophrenic hippie candlemaker were more intellectual than a hippie voice should allow.
So something was wrong
with my stories. I understand,
I muttered to the teacher, slouching with embarrassment, gulping back my shame, because at that very moment, I was making the fatal leap: Having something wrong with my work, I erroneously thought, meant admitting that something was wrong with me. Egregiously wrong. Wronger than anyone else’s wrong, particularly anyone bold (and talented!) enough to call herself a writer. Wrong enough to quit.
So I quit. Clearly, I wasn’t worthy of being a writer.
And for six years I did not scribble another piece of fiction.
I now know that this writer’s block, as with all writer’s blocks, was also connected to my self-image, which was undergoing seismic upheaval at the time. But my fears about being a writer were genuine and, as I would later discover, similar to fears felt by all writers in the early stages of their development: I can’t, ergo I’m not, ergo I shouldn’t.
Only years later, after I returned to writing, did I come to understand that being a writer means much more than putting words on a page. Being a writer means pushing yourself up against your emotional limits, and then pushing through. Being a writer means confronting your psychological shortcomings, and continuing in spite of them. Being a writer means continually facing hoops of fire—everything you feel about yourself and think about the world—and, after a moment to assess them and determine the angle of your trajectory, launching yourself through, maintaining the faith that you will land safely.
This lesson took me years to see. And it has only been reinforced as I have become a professional writer and teacher:
The biggest impediment to writing is not friends or teachers or editors or anything else external. Not the other stars in the classroom, nor your eye-rolling wife, nor the denouement that won’t get done, nor even the editor who wouldn’t buy or promote your book. The biggest impediment to writing is you.
That means your emotions, your beliefs, your defense mechanisms, your conflicts, your self-image, your ability to handle practical decisions, and everything else that goes into making you believe you can’t, or aren’t, or shouldn’t.
Indeed, being a writer means experiencing the whole emotional shebang, from misery to bliss, and becoming intimate with every emotion—the good, the bad, and the glorious. And it means coping with all the associated dilemmas of a writing life, from how to make time when it means you have to say no to your loved ones, to how to remain productive when your best story keeps getting rejected, to how to decide whether to enter a writing program when you’re too scared, to how to support yourself as a writer when you don’t have a trust fund.
In all my years of writing and teaching, I’ve seen many talented writers throw in the towel, and seldom is their discontinuance due to an impasse with craft or even the publishing industry. Standards we can teach ourselves, technique we can practice, and publishing troubles don’t necessarily cause the ink in our pens to dry.
Instead, when writers stop writing, it is almost always because of such things as competitiveness with talented others who are sharing not just the workshop table but also the admiration of the teacher; envy toward more prolific authors whose dust jackets simply must bear the subliminal message Buy me; frustration that our exquisitely original voice keeps mating itself to lackluster, clichéd narratives and endings that fizzle; shame over taking three whole months on a story when our co-workers keep saying, "It’s not done yet?"; paranoia over Uncle Merv’s withdrawing the invitation to Thanksgiving after he recognizes that he was the model for the nefarious clockmaker with the cackle and downy mole.
This book was written to help writers live the writing life and understand what that means. By weaving my own stories with the stories of others, I present the whole writerly journey—what writers can expect to feel, when in the process they can expect to feel it, and specific advice on how they might make all their emotions work for them, whether those emotions are positive or negative. I also present all the major practical decisions writers have to make—from setting up when and where to write, to deciding how to educate oneself, to handling criticism—and again, I offer specific advice.
The book is set up to be read straight through and then used as a handy reference tool. It is meant to be marked up, coffee stained, highlighted, and dog-eared—i.e., it is meant to be used, and writers will be encouraged to use it. It is as much a book of inspiration as it is a book of solution.
The goal is twofold. First, it is to provide beginning writers with an emotional and practical map that will help them recognize and handle competitiveness, frustration, euphoria, etc., and recognize and handle the many practical decisions they must make. Second, the goal is to provide experienced writers with a comforting and thoughtful place that will help them diagnose any case of the blues, prescribe
remedies they might need, and guide them through major decisions. The overall goal is to show writers, whether beginning or advanced, many ways to keep going.
Part I, The Basics,
focuses on the fundamental emotional, philosophical, and logistical issues that beset all writers, from novice to Nobel Prize laureate. Part II, The Process,
breaks down the act of writing into four categories—long-term preparation, or Education
; shorter-term preparation, or Before the Draft
; the writing experience itself, During the Draft
; and writer’s block, or When You’re Stuck
—elaborating on the emotional highs and lows and practical predicaments of each. Part III, Becoming an Author,
describes what happens to writers’ emotions and what dilemmas writers must face as they enter the publishing world and achieve success.
All writers need a good friend with whom they can share their fervor, and who will believe in them. Not all writers are fortunate enough to have such a friend. I hope this book will fill the gap so when you feel alone, wrestling with the fears you believe no writer has felt before, you can open these pages and realize that no obstacle is too formidable. Maybe then you won’t have to struggle as much and can devote your time to craft, and imagination, and simply having fun.
PART ONE
THE BASICS
CHAPTER ONE
THE BIG QUESTIONS
I teach private classes in writing, one-on-one tutorials in which the entire course is tailored to the needs of that individual student.
I always imagine, before I meet with students for the first time, that their big questions will concern technique. How can I make my characters more distinct? Is there a better way to handle the structure of this piece?
Such questions are usually the basis of our first meeting or two.
But inevitably, by the third or fourth meeting, those questions taper off, and in their place spring up different questions. These new queries lurk beneath all the others, poking up from time to time to jolt the writer into self-examination or self-doubt or, sometimes, paralysis. They are, more than characterization or narrative technique, what the writer really wants to know:
Why should I—or anyone—write?
Do I have talent, and how can I tell?
How big a commitment can (or should) I make?
These concerns are almost invariably in the minds of every writer. I have heard them from people so new to writing they never kept a journal before our classes and from people who had published in prestigious magazines and won major literary awards. Regardless of the source, when these questions first emerge in class, it is almost always subtly, perhaps even imperceptibly, like a mumbled Gesundheit or a comment about the weather. Seldom does the student break eye contact; these questions are so trivial, they are not even speed bumps in our class. Or so the student would like me to believe.
But I know better. We (and I say we
because of course I have been needled by the same issues) ask these questions when we fear we aren’t good enough. We think that there must be right
answers to these questions, and since we don’t know them, we shouldn’t really continue writing. We must be deluding ourselves. We are impostors.
I’ve come to suspect that many writers were born into families where they were rarely praised. Perhaps their needs were ignored or minimized while the parents battered their way through their own lives. Or perhaps the parents were excessively demanding, holding out some delicious prize, telling the future writer, Jump! Higher!
while always raising or hiding the prize, ensuring that success could never be achieved. I have even met writers who spent their childhoods being blatantly ridiculed by the people they most respected.
Consequently, many people begin writing with a profound lack of faith in themselves. They might even be wrestling with depression. They know they want to write; maybe they even like writing. But deep down, they don’t feel worthy of writing. It seems so venerable, so important. How could they—measly little they, surely not as resolute and articulate and gifted as any writer they could buy in the airport, much less a Faulkner or a Fitzgerald—grant themselves the permission to go for it?
So they come to me with their souls open. They have been hurting for so long with their secret feelings of inadequacy that they are now aching for reassurance.
I address this by going through each of the big questions, and usually, by the time I’m finished, they feel a little better.
WHY SHOULD I—OR ANYONE—WRITE?
There are no correct reasons to write. We just think there are. We read so many interviews with writers that we get the sense that those who have made it
must know the way to do it—and that there is, indeed, one way. This is because we forget that writing is not a formula; we think, Since he succeeded by writing on a laptop computer from four to six in the morning before work, I will succeed by doing the same.
So when writers tell interviewers that they write because they have something to say about the human condition,
or because they escaped a prison in a third world country and want to expose political cruelty, or because they have a young daughter and like to make her laugh with their stories, we think these should be our answers, too. And woe be unto us if we realize that that is not so.
In all my years of writing and teaching writing, I have heard hundreds of reasons for why people write, but the most compelling one, the one that seems at the core of the most persistent (and usually successful) writers, is that they write because they like to write. Like eating a pizza or splashing in the ocean or savoring a four-minute kiss with a new lover, these writers write because it feels good.
This does not remotely mean that they don’t grapple with characters or language. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they have a jolly old time every day they sit down to write. It certainly doesn’t mean that they exist in an aura of unrelenting inspiration.
Rather, when writing feels good it means that something, at some point in the process, lights up inside them. This feeling might come through the Zen-like serenity found in hard work, or the simple satisfaction of gliding a ballpoint pen along a white page, or the wonder of seeing something blossom where previously there had been nothing, or the worldly revelations encountered during exploration of thematic material, or the psychic ping! that echoes after two disparate elements connect into a shockingly perfect metaphor, or the delight that permeates as some latent humor snake-charms up from the page, or the tender gratification that carries us through the day after we wring our own heart into tears. It can come in a million ways. But as long as it comes, the writer almost always keeps writing.
What about those other reasons, the ones we hear about but that may not seem to apply to us? I write because I:
have something to say
like to read
want to stick it to my dictator/boss/ex-husband/mother
lived a fascinating life I want to document
want to make