Between Heaven and the Real World: My Story
By Steven Curtis Chapman and Ken Abraham
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Readers will be captivated by this exclusive look into Steven's childhood and challenging family dynamic growing up, how that led to music and early days on the road, his wild ride to the top of the charts, his relationship with wife Mary Beth, and the growth of their family through births and adoptions. In addition to inside stories from his days of youth to his notable career, including the background to some of his best-loved songs, readers will walk with Steven down the devastating road of loss after the tragic death of five-year-old daughter Maria. And they'll experience his return to the stage after doubting he could ever sing again.
Poignant, gut-wrenchingly honest, yet always hopeful, Steven offers no sugary solutions to life's toughest questions. Yet out of the brokenness, he continues to trust God to one day fix what is unfixable in this life. This backstage look at the down-to-earth superstar they've come to love will touch fans' lives and fill their hearts with hope. Includes black-and-white photos throughout.
Steven Curtis Chapman
Steven Curtis Chapman is one of America's best-known, most awarded contemporary Christian performing artists. Having sold 6 million records and with 34 number-one singles to his credit, he is the recipient of four Grammy Awards, 44 Dove Awards, and an array of songwriting honors. He has appeared on Live with Regis and Kathie Lee, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, CNN's Showbiz Today, and many other television shows. For many years he has worked closely with Chuck Colson to support Prison Fellowship Ministries. www.scchapman.com
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Readers find this title amazing, humbling, and heartwarming. The book shares the challenges of marriage and the importance of fighting for it. It also highlights the faithfulness of God and brings hope and longing for the Kingdom. Overall, this is a beautiful story that inspires and uplifts readers.
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Between Heaven and the Real World - Steven Curtis Chapman
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Prologue
The Wild Mouse
When I was a little blond-haired boy, my older brother, Herbie, and I loved to go to Noble Park, a 135-acre picturesque public property that includes a five-acre lake in my hometown of Paducah, Kentucky. It was a great place where families could take young children, play on the playgrounds, have a picnic, feed the fish, maybe get chased by a goose, and just enjoy the beauty of nature.
Years later, in the gazebo of that same park, I would kneel down before a beautiful young lady named Mary Beth, who’d stolen my heart, and ask her to be my wife.
As a boy, one of my favorite things about the park was the section called Funland, a small amusement park that was home to cotton candy and popcorn stands as well as several kids’ thrill rides, like the ones you’d find at a county fair, that operated all summer long. Herbie was especially fond of the helicopter ride. Each helicopter held two passengers and had a control bar that you pulled back and forth to cause the helicopter to rise or drop as it circled around a large stationary pole. If you pulled the bar toward you, the helicopter soared higher, and if you pushed the bar away from you, the helicopter eased down lower, similar to the Dumbo ride at Disney World.
As soon as Herbie and I climbed inside the helicopter, my brother pulled on the bar and the helicopter zoomed straight up as high as it could go. The attendant punched the start button, and the helicopter began going round and round. I screamed the whole time, terrified of heights, and tried to push the bar away as Herbie, always the thrill seeker, pulled it back, laughing the whole time with that evil big brother laugh.
I got off the helicopter, took several deep breaths to calm myself down, and searched out the little train that slowly chugged around the park. That was more my speed. We’d chug past the Haunted House and the Tilt-a-Whirl, and I’d reaffirm my commitment never again to step foot on that crazy spinning death trap. If you can’t tell, I was a bit of a safety-conscious young fella—a condition my brother found great joy in exploiting when given the opportunity.
Then life changed for all of us in Paducah the day the Wild Mouse arrived at Noble Park. It was our town’s first roller coaster. I hadn’t ridden the Wild Mouse yet and had no intention of doing so—even Herbie wasn’t sure about this one—but all my friends were talking about it. As I listened to their stories, I could only imagine the horror of that speeding coaster. Man, that thing is terrifying . . . you drop down this hill, and you twist and turn, and I thought I was gonna fall out for sure!
I’d never been to an actual amusement park, where real roller coasters ripped and roared around the track, so I didn’t know the difference. I had never experienced a grown-up
roller coaster. All I knew from the stories I’d heard was if I valued my life, I should stay completely clear of the Wild Mouse . . . so I did . . . for a while.
In actuality, the Wild Mouse was a little roller coaster car that could carry four kids, followed by a few other cars, going around on a short track that had some small dips, bumps, and slight inclines. The cars weren’t even connected but ran in sequence.
I should have known better. After all, the ride was named the Wild Mouse, not the Wild Dragon or the Wild Lion. It was the Wild Mouse, for cryin’ out loud.
Finally, the day came to face my deepest fears and stare death in the face of the Wild Mouse. I boarded with a prayer, and the ride began. I twisted and turned and dipped and bumped, screaming and laughing the whole time . . . and lived to tell about it! And if you had asked me back then, Steven, have you ever ridden on a roller coaster?
I would have pumped my chest and replied, Oh yeah. I’ve ridden on the Wild Mouse!
Fast-forward a few years later to when our uncle Barry took Herbie and me to St. Louis on Uniform Day at Busch Stadium. Once a year on that special day, kids could get in free to the St. Louis Cardinals Major League Baseball game if they wore their Little League uniforms, so Herbie and I packed up our Concord Lions uniforms and our ball gloves with hopes of catching a foul ball and headed to the big city of St. Louis. Uncle Barry did it up big-time. We stayed overnight at a fancy downtown hotel, went up in the St. Louis Arch, went to the ballgame in our uniforms, and ate hot dogs. Then the next day we went to a huge theme park, Six Flags Over Mid-America, known today as Six Flags Over St. Louis.
We rode a lot of the rides and were having a great time. Then we got in line for the Screamin’ Eagle—a real roller coaster, and not just any roller coaster. Oh no. When the Screamin’ Eagle opened in time for America’s bicentennial celebration in 1976, the three-minute thrill ride was billed as the highest roller coaster in the world—with peaks up to 110 feet high—and the fastest coaster—with speeds of 62 miles per hour. Located at the back of the park on a bit of a hill, the white wooden track was even more awe inspiring thanks to the cars decorated in red, white, and blue.
I was ready for it. After all, I’d ridden the Wild Mouse!
Herbie, Uncle Barry, and I squeezed into one of the cars after the Screamin’ Eagle idled into the station . . . this didn’t look so scary. I was perfectly fine . . . until the roller coaster starting moving. Like most coasters, the Screamin’ Eagle chugged slowly out of the station, then began inching up the incline, up and up, higher and higher, with the clackity-clack of the wheels on the wooden track sounding more ominous every moment. The view was fantastic, but the higher we ascended, the more my mind screamed, What have I gotten myself into!
We finally reached the top, and our car seemed to teeter there precariously for a second, or at least long enough for me to gasp for one last breath, and then whoosh! The Screamin’ Eagle lived up to its name, whisking us around a U-turn and then straight down, jolting, twisting, and turning as it went! I heard sounds of screaming all right, but it wasn’t the eagle that was screaming. It was me . . . screaming like a little girl. It was downright embarrassing, but I didn’t care because I was sure this was the end.
The coaster careened around another turn and down another drop, and then another, and kept on going, tossing us first one way and then the next, with the wheels screeching loudly through every turn. The coaster track ran close to a forest with trees right alongside the railing, and at one point, it looked as though we were going to smack right into a couple of branches dangling out over the track. But just a second or two before we became one
with the branches, the coaster dove down a hill, causing us to miss the limbs, but my stomach was still hanging up there in the trees! The Screamin’ Eagle kept right on screaming. My heart was pounding, and my face was red. My body lurching one way and then another, I was holding on for dear life. I was sure I was gonna fly right out of my seat at any moment.
Herbie and me all suited up and ready for a St. Louis Cardinals game.
Herbie was going crazy, whoopin’ and hollerin’ (a thing we do in Kentucky when we’re having the time of our life), his hands in the sky, lovin’ every minute of it! And Uncle Barry was laughing all the way. Just about the time I thought I was going to lose my breakfast, as well as everything I’d eaten for the past few days, the coaster raced down several more hills, slowed slightly, and then slammed on the brakes, coming to an abrupt stop, pitching all three of us forward in our seat and then slamming us back again with a thud.
Dazed, I climbed out of the roller coaster car and staggered off the station platform, trying to catch my balance and look strong in front of all the other kids watching in wonder, waiting to get on the ride.
I felt pretty good about myself. After all, I had survived the Screamin’ Eagle!
The Screamin’ Eagle was behind me, and I had conquered it. It was awesome! And best of all, it was over. I wasn’t about to get back in line for that ride! But you can bet all my buddies back home were gonna hear about how I took the Screamin’ Eagle by the tail feathers and showed it who was boss!
Before my Screamin’ Eagle experience, I thought I had been on a roller coaster, but this was a whole different journey. Yeah, I’d been on a roller coaster—I’d been on the Wild Mouse. Life is like that . . . I know mine certainly has been. You live through wild ride
experiences with some tremendous highs, some horrible lows, some hand-raising moments of exultation, and some gut-wrenching twists and turns . . . the cheers and the tears, like the experiences, are very real and valid. But then things or some thing happens that takes you far higher and much deeper than you could’ve ever imagined. And you realize that your Wild Mouse journey has suddenly jumped the tracks onto the Screamin’ Eagle.
A songwriter once wrote these words: We’ll travel over mountains so high, we’ll go through valleys so low. Still through it all we’ll find that this is the greatest journey the human heart will ever see. The love of God will take us far beyond our wildest dreams.
Okay, I confess that songwriter was me and the song was The Great Adventure.
Even as I wrote those words, I had already experienced higher mountains and deeper valleys than I could’ve ever imagined as a boy riding those roller coasters. And I certainly had no idea how much higher and deeper the journey was going to take me. I’d love to take you on some of that journey with me, if you’d like to come along.
I’m humbled and grateful that you’d take the time to pick up this book, and I have to confess that even as I was writing it, I wrestled with whether my story is something I would want to ask people to take time to listen to or read. After all, my story isn’t any more important or worthwhile than anyone else’s just because I’ve had my picture on album covers and I’ve won a few music awards. It is my story, however, and maybe by reading it you might be reminded of the importance of your own story.
While I’ve woven my life and my story into the songs I’ve written all these years, my desire has always been to tell the bigger story of God’s grace and His faithfulness. With my prayer being, God, I want to know You and I want to make You known with the gifts You’ve given me and the life I live,
my songs have always come from the places in my journey where I’ve seen more of who God is and more of my need for Him. I want to tell honest stories and sing songs about how God shows up in our real world.
So that’s what my hope and prayer is for this book as well, that as I share with you my journey over the mountains and through the valleys, you might find encouragement for your own journey and be reminded of what’s most true as we travel this journey together . . . between heaven and the real world.
Chapter One
Carnegie Hall Y’all
The sun was turning the freshly fallen snow to slush under my feet as I walked the familiar sidewalks of New York City on a clear February day. As a boy running through cow pastures to my favorite fishing spot, I never imagined I’d stroll the streets of the Big Apple someday, much less have so many memories come flooding back as I did.
"There’s the intersection at Times Square where we did an outdoor photo shoot for The Great Adventure album . . .
There’s Radio City Music Hall, where I won my first Grammy . . .
There’s the famous deli where one of my musical heroes, Ricky Skaggs, introduced me to another musical hero, Michael McDonald of the Doobie Brothers . . .
There’s that Italian restaurant that doesn’t take credit cards where I had to leave my wife, Mary Beth, waiting alone as collateral while I went to get cash to pay for our meal" . . .
Then I turned the corner and saw something I’d never seen, and never in my wildest dreams thought I would.
Tonight in Concert . . . Steven Curtis Chapman on Stage at Carnegie Hall.
Carnegie Hall! Are you serious? I’m really playing Carnegie Hall tonight? This is crazy!
A few minutes later, I stepped onto one of the most prestigious stages in the world for a sound check prior to my performance later that evening. I walked over to the edge of the stage to get a feel for the room and gazed in awe at the five tiers of red-velvet seats in front of me. The main floor was surrounded on three sides by four ornate, golden balconies. Each balcony was lined with decorative lights, with a rotunda-style ceiling illuminated in a circle of lights shining like stars inside the theater. The iconic concert hall was somewhat smaller and more intimate
than I had anticipated, but everything about it felt majestic.
Enjoying a heavenly experience
on the stage of Carnegie Hall.
I took a deep breath and thought, Pavarotti has sung here! What in the world am I doing standing on this stage? How does a boy from Paducah find himself playing his music at Carnegie Hall, in the legendary Isaac Stern Auditorium, where incredible artists such as Frank Sinatra, the Beatles, Stevie Wonder, Bob Dylan, and Liza Minnelli have performed? The first person to conduct an orchestra at Carnegie Hall, way back in 1891, was none other than the world’s greatest composer at the time, Pyotr Ilich Tchaikovsky!
Although I was far from a Tchaikovsky, I wasn’t exactly a newbie either. By the time I walked onto that famous platform in February 2014, I had been working in the music business for more than thirty years. I’d been singing professionally from my solo debut at a gathering around a swimming pool, to sold-out concerts in arenas around America and on stages around the world, giant music festivals with tens of thousands of people out under the stars, and even performances on platforms with Reverend Billy Graham before massive crowds. I had performed thousands of concerts. Yet despite my years of experience, performing in Carnegie Hall was certainly a pinnacle in my career and an experience I would remember for the rest of my life. I was very excited . . . and very nervous!
Part of the reason for my nervous excitement was the fact that not only would most of the twenty-eight hundred seats in the venue be filled that night but the stage would also be filled with a fifty-piece orchestra and a three-hundred-voice choir behind me. Over the years of my career, I had occasionally performed a song or two live with an orchestra, but my band and I had never done an entire concert accompanied by a full symphony and a choir, the orchestra playing my songs with arrangements I had never performed in public before. The whole idea was a bit intimidating.
I had rehearsed with the choir the day before, so I knew what that felt like. I was scheduled to rehearse with the orchestra later that afternoon; then it would be lights up and let’s go!
As a performer, playing a major venue in New York City always produces added tension because of the many stipulations strictly enforced by the theaters. If ever there was a place where time is money,
it would be a concert hall in the Big Apple. Our show was scheduled to run no longer than 120 minutes . . . not even one minute longer. If I happened to talk too much—as I’ve been known to do on occasion—or play a few minutes overtime—which I’m somewhat famous for—an additional few thousand dollars would be added to the cost of the night. Still, I knew that staying within my preestablished, ironclad time frame was going to be a challenge for me. This was bound to be a very emotional evening, with my set list full of songs that had special meaning to me and an opportunity to perform them live in a way I never had before. Added to that, my wife, Mary Beth, and my entire family would be sitting in the audience cheering me on for this milestone performance.
Most major New York auditoriums are staffed by professional stagehands, sound and lighting staff, and crew members whom artists are required to use to cart their equipment and merchandise in and out of the venue. All of these pros are union workers who tenaciously guard their areas of responsibility, and may God help the naïve musician who decides to move his own microphone or amplifier!
Hey, put that down! That’s my job,
a hard-nosed union hand will shout forcefully.
Um, yes, sir,
is the only correct response.
Dressed entirely in black, the union guys are typically not too concerned with trying to be our buddies. Their attitude is, We’ll do our job, and you do yours, and we’ll all get along fine and make this work.
Some of them can be downright scary as they hover around offstage, checking cables, resetting lights, or otherwise setting up for the show.
My band members and I began our sound check before the orchestra arrived, and I started to play and sing Spring Is Coming,
a song that wasn’t typically in the set list for my normal concerts but one I was particularly excited about performing that night. Already the emotions started to well up inside me as I blinked back the tears, partly because I was singing onstage at Carnegie Hall and could imagine what it was going to sound like with three hundred voices and fifty orchestral instruments joining me in just a few hours, but mostly because of the significance of the song and what it meant to be standing on this stage singing it.
We planted the seed while the tears of our grief soaked the ground
The sky lost its sun and the world lost its green to lifeless brown
Now the chill in the wind has turned the earth as hard as stone
And silent the seed lies beneath ice and snow
And my heart’s heavy now but I’m not letting go
Of this hope I have that tells me
Spring is coming, Spring is coming
And all we’ve been hoping and longing for soon will appear
Spring is coming, Spring is coming
It won’t be long now, it’s just about here.
Almost six years had passed since the events took place that had led me to write that song.
It was May 24 of 2008, three days after our youngest daughter, Maria, had passed away as the result of a tragic accident in our driveway. My family and I had arrived at Williamson Memorial Gardens in Franklin, Tennessee, and walked to the spot Mary Beth and I had selected just two days earlier to be the place where the body of our little girl was to be buried. You could smell the fresh dirt as we took our seats. Our hearts were so heavy that we could hardly breathe.
Many of our friends gathered around, and our pastor, Scotty Smith, began to speak. He talked about this day being a day of planting . . . planting a seed that was the body of Maria. He read 1 Corinthians 15, verses 42 through 44.
What is sown is perishable; what is raised is imperishable. It is sown in dishonor; it is raised in glory. It is sown in weakness; it is raised in power. It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body.
He talked about how a seed first falls to the ground and dies in order to come back to life . . . how we must plant a seed and wait. He reminded us that because of Jesus’s resurrection from the dead and His promise of our coming resurrection, this perishable seed of Maria’s body that we were planting is going to be raised imperishable. He talked about the promised Spring
that is coming when all things will be made new according to God’s own promise. He reminded us of the hopeful words of Revelation 21 and the coming day when God will wipe every tear from our eyes.
Somehow we were able to grasp God’s promise not fully—not even close to fully—but just enough that we were able to drop handfuls of dirt on the casket that day believing that the story of Maria’s life was far from over . . . that there is in fact a Spring that is coming when we really will see her again . . . more alive than ever. That day we were able to catch a glimpse of heaven in our very real world, a glimpse we desperately needed, and the hope it gave me inspired the song Spring Is Coming.
Now during the sound check at Carnegie Hall, after singing through an emotional verse and chorus of that song, I noticed a commotion on the side of the stage. Several big, burly stage crew guys were gathered around a man who was down on one knee on the floor. They had their hands on the back and shoulders of the man who had knelt down, and he appeared to be crying.
We cut short the sound check, and I went over to the men, thinking that perhaps somebody was hurt or something else was wrong. Is everything okay?
I asked. I looked at the man on his knees, his face still wet with tears. Are you all right?
He looked up at me and quietly said, I have one of those stories.
He slowly stood to his feet. My wife and I lost a little girl too,
he explained.
Right in front of his fellow crew members, he and I hugged.
His name was Scooter, and he was the main house sound guy at Carnegie Hall. He began to tell me about the hard struggle he and his wife had endured since they had lost their daughter several years earlier. Even with their strong faith as Christians, the hurt and grief had been agonizing. I knew all too well what he was talking about.
My wife and I went to your concert at Nokia Theater in Times Square a few years ago,
Scooter said, when you did the tour with your wife speaking and your sons playing in your band. That night your wife shared how she was afraid to let go of the grief because, if she did, she would lose that connection with Maria. Hearing another grieving mother share that was a real breakthrough for my wife, and that concert had a profound effect on us.
He explained how at the Nokia concert they bought Mary Beth’s book, Choosing to SEE, and my album, Beauty Will Rise, which they listened to on their way home that night. When they heard Spring Is Coming,
they were moved to tears. That song in particular, Scooter told me, was instrumental in helping to bring some deep healing to their hearts. Later, his wife read Mary Beth’s book, and that too was a huge step toward helping them heal. He said he felt like God had orchestrated this concert at Carnegie Hall as a gift to encourage him and to help him continue the healing process.
I put my arm around Scooter, prayed with him, and thanked him for sharing his story with me. Then both of us went back to work.
A few minutes before 7:00 p.m. I took my place on the side of the stage and listened as the orchestra began its preconcert tuning ritual. My heart was racing, and I peeked out to see a full house as well as a full stage of singers and musicians. This is really getting ready to happen! While the orchestra was filled with professional musicians who had been hired for the concert, the choir consisted of singers who were fans of my music and had come from all over the country to be a part of this night. They were almost as thrilled as I was to be there, which only added to the excitement!
I took my place at center stage to an enthusiastic ovation from the crowd and the choir, and with a small wave of the conductor’s baton, the orchestra launched into the prologue from The Great Adventure.
Here we go!
The concert that evening was amazing. Maybe it was the adrenaline rush, or maybe talking to Scooter had put me at ease and reminded me of what really mattered, but for some reason, despite the emotional moments and all the artistic tensions, I was like a little boy filled with wonder and joy onstage. The sound in the room was incredible, and I easily understood why the impeccable acoustics of Carnegie Hall are legendary. I had never imagined hearing my songs with a live orchestra and choir—on recordings, maybe, but never onstage like that. Mary Beth said later that I looked like a twelve-year-old Steven having the time of his life—probably because that’s what I felt like.
We performed a greatest hits
type of concert as well as a few songs I had seldom, if ever, performed live. One such song called Savior
was particularly powerful because of the beautiful orchestral and choral arrangement. I was overcome with emotion several times but was somehow able to hold it together and resist the urge to have a full-on breakdown.
One of the most emotional points in the show for me was when I got to sit down on the piano bench at center stage and just listen. I didn’t play or sing. I simply sat and listened along with the audience as the orchestra and the choir filled Carnegie Hall with the melodies and lyrics of two of my best-known songs, His Strength Is Perfect
and Be Still and Know.
It was truly a taste and see that the Lord is good
moment to get to hear my own songs like that. Many of the people in the choir had been singing my songs for years. They had journeyed with my family and me through good times and hard times, mountaintops and valleys. It was like a gift from them to me as they sang their hearts out to show me how much the music had meant to them.
I sat in the middle of the stage and listened in awe. It was as though the choir singers and the members of the audience were saying, This is a celebration of your life and your music and the impact they have had on our lives.
It was a heavenly moment for me, and the best was yet to come.
Near the close of the concert, as I often did, I performed the song Cinderella
and then followed it with Spring Is Coming.
As I began to sing that song, I looked back at the sound-mixing console and saw my new friend Scooter standing with his head back and both of his hands raised high in the air, singing along on every word and worshiping God.
Just above where Scooter was standing, in the front row of the first balcony, I could see my family. Mary Beth, Shaoey, Stevey Joy, Will Franklin, Caleb, Emily, and her husband, Tanner, were all there to celebrate this moment with me, and as incredible as this whole Carnegie Hall experience had been, nothing could compare with seeing them there . . . together. It was a beautiful picture of hope and a powerful reminder to me that God had carried us through the cold, hard winter of our grief. Even though our hearts still ached for the little girl who wasn’t there with us, the healing had begun and we were beginning to feel joy again and experience the first signs of what we knew to be true: Spring really is coming.
The concert ended with an emotional standing ovation, and I took a bow and looked around the room one last time, trying my best to take it all in. After the concert, several people asked me if playing at Carnegie Hall was a dream come true. I had to answer honestly, No, a boy from Paducah doesn’t think to dream that big.
Chapter Two
Unresolved Chords
When I’m writing a song, my natural tendency has always been to resolve the last chord . . . to bring it back to the 1 chord,
as we say in Music City. There have been a few occasions when I got a little adventurous and decided to leave the last chord unresolved, but for the most part, I think resolution is just in my DNA.
The musical concept of resolution basically means bringing a song to its natural and most obvious conclusion, that place where it seems to most naturally want to return, bringing the tension to an end. Music is like life in many ways; there are fast songs for when we’re happy and slow songs for when we’re sad or feeling introspective or maybe even romantic. And those songs are made up of chords, a collection of individual notes arranged in such a way that they bring order and give a sense of movement and direction to the music. It’s as if the song is a journey, full of twists and turns, hills and valleys, all leading to a final destination.
The resolution is crossing the line that says, This is done, I’m coming back home
and feeling the release that comes with it. The resolution is the answer to the question, the period at the end of the sentence. I like resolution in my life—a lot! And I strongly dislike things I can’t resolve or fix, and for good reason.
Dad, Mom, and me on Christmas Day, 1966.
As I share about my childhood, it’s important for me to say how grateful I am for my parents and how important it is that I honor them in telling my story. I’ve asked their permission to share some of the details of our family’s story that I know they wish they could change. I’m proud of them and thankful for many of the choices they made that helped shape me into the person I am. They are both amazing people, and I’m grateful for their willingness to let me share honestly. I know it’s their hope and prayer that God might be able to use their story—the good, the bad, and even the ugly—to encourage others on their own journeys. One of the many amazing things about our God is how He can take even the broken parts of our stories and bring about something beautiful as we trust Him with them.
I was born to bring resolution, to tie up loose ends, to help, and if at all possible, to single-handedly fix whatever was broken in my world. From conception, it seems like my life was to be defined by fixing broken things, broken situations, and broken people.
Prior to my birth, my mom and my dad found themselves at a crossroads and had to make a tough decision. Judy Rudd was a beautiful, bright-eyed country girl who was barely sixteen years old when she met Herb Chapman, who was nineteen, handsome, played a guitar, and drove a cool car. Herb knew this girl was different from the ones he’d dated before, and he used to tell me the story of how one night after a date he knelt down under a tree in his backyard and prayed, God, would you please let me marry that girl?
With the same engagement ring his dad gave his mom years earlier, Herb asked Judy to be his wife a few months after they met. She said yes, but soon began to question if she was ready to make the commitment of a lifetime. As the two young people were still in the process of trying to figure out where their relationship was headed, Judy discovered she was pregnant.
Thankfully, they made the frightening but brave decision to get married and raise the little boy that would come along eight months after the wedding.
Herb Chapman Jr. was born on June 2, 1960. Probably to more easily differentiate between father and son, Judy and Herb called their baby boy Herbie, and most people have done the same ever since. The young couple tried to figure out life together. It was a rocky beginning, to say the least.
After about a year and a half of intense struggle in their marriage, Judy and Herb came to another crossroads: should they divorce and go their separate ways? Somewhere in the discussion, Herb (my dad) suggested that maybe they should try having another child, on purpose
this time, to see if that might make a difference and help save their marriage.
They chose the latter course of action . . . thankfully.
Judy got pregnant again, and on November 21, 1962, Steven Curtis Chapman came riding in on a white horse to save the day. I was literally conceived to help fix my parents’ marriage. Obviously, I had no idea of all that was going on between Mom and Dad at the time. As crazy as this sounds, Herbie and I didn’t even know that he was conceived before my parents were married until we were in our thirties. We had never even given it a thought or done the math.
But years later, learning the backdrop to my arrival on the Chapman family scene helped me connect the dots in many ways. I was the Fix-it Kid. And for most of my early life, I filled that bill relatively well. I was the compliant and happy child who was always smiling with my mouth wide open.
I grew up in Paducah, Kentucky, a river town of around twenty-five thousand people located just off Interstate 24 in the southwestern corner of Kentucky. It was the home of a US uranium enrichment facility and a hub for the Illinois Central Railroad.
Right after high school, my dad had gone to work for the railroad, where his mother and many of my relatives worked. His real love, however, was music, and a few years after I was born, he was able to fulfill his dream of owning a music store. After injuring his back at work, he quit his railroad job, rented space in an old office building for $35 a month, and opened Chapman Music in Mayfield, a small town about thirty miles from where we lived. With no business education or training, but lots of hard work and determination, his small business began to grow.
Self-taught with his own style, Dad was a great guitar player and a great singer. But his real forte was teaching guitar. Since he had no other employees at the store, he opened late, usually around 2:00 p.m., and stayed open late to accommodate his clientele. The unusual hours were mostly due to Dad’s teaching business. Sometimes he wouldn’t go in to work until noon, because most of his students came after school or work, and then he stayed at the store until after nine or ten o’clock every night. Dad often got home long after I’d already gone to bed. Consequently, Mom, Herbie, and I saw Dad mostly on the weekends.
Mom and Dad’s relationship had been rocky from the start, and the fact that Dad’s work schedule left Mom alone much of the time to raise two young boys probably created even more tension. Dad’s upbringing didn’t help either. He was determined to be a good dad, and he was, but his father had abandoned their family when my dad was just a boy, leaving him without a strong example to follow when it came to knowing how to love and lead a family well. Money was sometimes tight, and family vacations were nonexistent other than an occasional Saturday fishing trip. Dad worked hard to provide for our family, and Mom helped to make ends meet by working outside the home at Curtis and Mays Photography Studio.
My earliest memories are of a relatively happy home. When we were all together, however, it often seemed like Dad had a lot on his mind and it didn’t take much to light his short fuse. He had undergone surgery on his back after his injury at the railroad. Unfortunately, the surgery had not rectified the problem entirely, so Dad lived with the added stress of chronic back problems.
Fights between Mom and Dad were fierce and flared quickly. Dad sometimes punctuated his statements by slamming the door in a rage. Mom would usually end up in tears. The arguments never got physical, although I recall seeing my dad throw a bowl of coleslaw across the room. It wasn’t thrown at anyone so much as thrown out of frustration. Still, that sort of outburst can have an effect on young boys, and it did on Herbie