Beyond Mindfulness: Living Life Through Everyday Zen
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Ken Jones was a Zen practitioner, writer and teacher of some forty year years standing, and alsoa widely published haiku and haibun poet.
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Beyond Mindfulness - Ken Jones
Introduction: How to Use this Book
This book is a package of talks and writings given and made over a considerable period rather than a beginning-to-end read. This format inevitably implies a certain amount of repetition, for which I ask the reader’s forgiveness. I believe that different approaches to the theme signalled by the title will suit different readers. The straightforward approach would be to start with How To Do Everyday Buddhism
. This is a kind of do-it-yourself introduction which, in my experience teaching retreats, works equally well for people of other inner path spiritualities than Buddhism. The eight talks which follow were taken variously from my retreats. Since each, like that on relationships for example, is freestanding they offer a choiceful rather than a strictly sequential read. Suchness and This vs. That, which comes next, offers a deeper understanding founded on the teaching of Eihei Dogen, one of the greatest of Buddhism’s philosopher-monks. It is also something of a beginner’s guide to Dogen, whose writings can be quite difficult.
The piece on ageing was originally published as a pamphlet by the Buddhist Hospice Trust, and soon went out of print. My own subsequent experience of deeper ageing and terminal illness has confirmed to me that if you follow the instructions on the bottle, they do work. Life can certainly get particularly interesting after eighty, or even earlier.
Finally, for something novel, you may like to dive into the haiku prose writings at the end of this book. Nine of these offer experiences of Zen retreats over the years, including solitary ones and interviews. Another ten trace out my experience of a long drawn out terminal cancer. All are redolent of Zen Buddhism, and offer another way of sensing how it feels.
Ken Jones
How to Do Everyday Buddhism
This is an enlarged and updated version of an earlier text written for my website www.kenjoneszen.com. It has been prompted by new approaches and clarifications arising from retreats I have taught since then. The original text was intended as a kind of do-it-yourself manual both for would-be participants on my retreats (four or five day events) and for other interested readers. It also provides a foundation and introduction for other essays and papers on my website. These retreats have become something of a new and multi-faceted approach to the teaching of Buddhist practice, beyond their central concern with Everyday Buddhism
and as spelt out in more detail on my website as New Departures in Dharma Teaching and Practice. With the advance of my prostate cancer I am no longer able to continue with my annual retreat programme at the half dozen or so hospitable centres available to me. So this seemed an opportunity to explain where I had got to, and to leave behind some kind of record.
Buddhist retreats traditionally consist of a talk by the teacher explaining some concept or practice, perhaps with anecdotal illustrations, and concluding with a question and answer session. The whole will commonly be reinforced by meditation sessions and perhaps one-to-one interviews. However, I believe that these ideas need to be more grounded in each student’s life experience if they are to become an embodied and effective practice.
As a first step I invite each student to reflect — on and off the cushion — how the idea (for example suchness
) is, or might be, emotionally experienced in their lives, and particularly in the more discomfiting and grievous episodes. Later in the day they are invited to share their experience in groups of four or five, the discussion being regulated by a speaking stone
. They also work in pairs in which each takes it in turn always to ask the same question of the other and nothing more. "Tell me, so-and-so, how does it feel? The feeling refers to whatever of life’s discomfitures the student is currently deepening in her emotional awareness. Or it may be the more general question
how does it feel to be you?" This exercise can sometimes produce striking openings, though much depends on the skill and sensitivity of the questioner. The whole process is reinforced by intensive personal interviews, followed by further individual practice on or off the cushion. It takes place against a background of energetic group physical exercises characterised by awareness of the other and, incidentally, a lot of fun and tumbling about. From the first hours of the retreat I aim to build up a strong sense of fellowship and mutual confidence as an important emotional lubricant.
In the foregoing I have been inspired by the influential Zen teacher Norman Fischer:-
These days, as I continue to teach Zen outside the traditional context of monastic life, I am trying to see what will work to bring ordinary people in the ordinary world to the sort of deeper, fuller living that Zen promises. I have found that it is of crucial importance for people to be able to express themselves fully… In recent years it has become clear to me that students need to do more than absorb teaching and ask clarifying questions. They need to speak to their hearts… Expression is healing. It opens us, propelling us forth into our lives. It’s not so much a matter of ideas or even of feelings, for expression is more than a cognitive or emotional act. Yet somehow the simple act of speaking truly, out loud and to others, inspires us finally to point our prow out to sea as we set forth onward for the journey. (Sailing Homes, Free Press, 2008, p43).
This kind of teaching is absent from the teaching most post-modern Western students receive and I believe has seriously limited the effectiveness of much Buddhist teaching in the West. It is unlikely to work for most students with an Asian background and education who inhabit a rather different culture of personal relationship. In the West the adhesion to Asian cultural norms has cast a long shadow over what we teachers are trying to achieve.
This paper is a manual
in that I have included at each stage do-it-yourself
exercises to enable readers working on their own to make some trial of the methods I describe and to go more deeply and personally into what they have been reading.
Everyday Buddhism
is not a new kind of Buddhism, but is hospitable to most Buddhist traditions and, indeed, to other inner path spiritualities. The Zen slant in these pages is no more than a reflection of my own practice, which has been particularly inspired by the thirteenth century master Eihei Dogen.
The self as the focus of study and meditation is central to everyday Buddhism in virtually all Buddhist traditions. To become familiar with one’s unique emotional furniture and to trace the trajectory of one’s lifelong but futile struggle to sustain a secure and enduring sense of self is the major diagnostic task outlined below.
1. Understanding this Self of Yours
Please take some time to reflect on the kind of stories
which you need to tell yourself about yourself, what sort of person you are.
When I have used the above exercise on retreats the great majority of participants have referred to a strong sense of lack, of personal inadequacy in shaping their dominant story. Each was surprised and moved to discover that they shared much the same feelings with everybody else. From our first experience of meditation, when we go in search of a still mind, we discover that our self feels threatened by that stillness. It struggles to maintain a strong sense of presence, even if this is reduced to endlessly ruminating over matters of no significance. Our self needs to feel active and doing, to feel a secure and enduring self identity.
At birth each of us is dealt a different hand in the extent and character of our self-neediness: we are each born with a different start in life. This depends on heredity and karmic rebirth (if you believe it), but also in our very first months of life and maybe even our experience in the birth canal. D.W. Winnicot, the pioneering paediatrician, maintained that many people suffer because of failure to receive sufficient parental support and affirmation in infancy. This is needful, because in the earliest stages of emotional development, before the development of something that could be called an autonomous ego, very severe anxieties may be experienced. Without an adequate parental environment in these early years some people feel, deep down, a strong sense of existential lack. In adulthood, self-centred, they clamour for attention and emotional recognition (love?) and may become punitive if they do not get their way. This may be so acute as to translate into a psychotic condition, with clear bodily manifestations. (See D.W.Winnicott, Babies and their Mothers, 1988, pp36—38, and also the Buddhist psychologist, Mark Epstein, The Trauma of Everyday Life, Penguin, 2013, pp29, 46).
At the other end of the spectrum are those relatively few who appear to have been born at ease with themselves and others. These are the easy people to work with, since they do not burn with the smoke of a self-centred agenda which obscures the task in hand and has to be negotiated before it can be readily addressed. The majority lie somewhere between these two extremes. Given favourable conditions they may get by in life for the most part. Finally there are the relative few who undertake a spiritual search, perhaps because just getting by is not good enough or even tolerable. I recall it was Jung who observed that to commit seriously to a spiritual practice it was necessary to be something of a neurotic.
What is the origin of this sense of existential inadequacy which marks our human condition? Let us go back to Buddhist basics. First there are the Three Signs of Being: Impermanence, Insubstantiality (of the self and of all phenomena), and Suffering. In the face of these the fearful self struggles somehow to find a solid and enduring identity, and a freedom from the pain caused by the lack of it. These struggles, cumulated down the centuries, have kept our world ablaze, as the Buddha exclaimed in his famous Fire Sermon: All is burning… burning with the fire of greed, with the fire of hate, with the fire of delusion.
The Buddha and all the great Buddhist teachers have focussed attention on the self — your very own self — as lying at the heart of Buddhist practice — the Great Way, which leads to liberation from suffering and a self profoundly at ease with itself and all that is other. To study Buddhism is to study the self; to study the self is to forget the self; to forget the self is to be enlightened by all things
, proclaimed Master Dogen.. (It is unprofitable here to get entangled in the ancient debate as to what sense there is and is not a self. It is more helpful to understand the self as a process, as explained in the skandha theory of Buddhist psychology).
Note that Buddhism is not a spiritual anaesthetic for the pain of a broken leg or a broken heart. Buddha did not teach the way out of pain but the way out of dukkha, rather misleadingly translated as suffering
. In the Sigalavada Sutta he explains that when misfortune strikes we commonly experience what we feel to be a single sensation — pain
. In fact there are two feelings: first there is physical or emotional pain, but, secondly, there is also how we respond to that pain. For example it is well known that by changing our emotional response to a physical pain we can modify its acuteness. There are many common examples of the working of the two arrows, as in a hospital ward where all the patients broadly speaking experience the same pain, but the range of responses may vary widely, from abject depression to a cheerful concern for others.
Can you recall any experience of this kind from your own life?
The two arrows are important to bear in mind in emotional awareness practice since it is our distanced and conscious awareness of our response to the painful experience that is crucial, as opposed to being heedlessly engulfed by the sensation itself.
2. The Needy Self at the Heart of Buddhist Practice
That great twentieth century sage Krishnamurti once strode onto the stage before a large and expectant audience. He raised his arm and displayed the gap in his open hand between his thumb and his index finger. Ladies and gentlemen, all the miseries of the world are to be found in that gap!
He displayed the misery created by desire and aversion — desire which can never be adequately satisfied to bring peace to the needy self, and aversion to what can never be adequately evaded. Or, as the Zen saying has it, we are all fleas on the hot griddle of life: the fleas that jump must fall and the fleas that fall must jump. Each of us has evolved our own unique pattern of feelings, thoughts, and behaviours to shape our lives in an attempt somehow to adapt to this predicament. Our griefs, afflictions and discomfitures range from losing our dearest, losing the respect of friends and co-workers, to losing our bunch of keys or getting tooth ache.
However, before we each explore and open in full awareness to our unique needy self two explanations will be helpful.
Neediness choice vs objective choice As we deepen our emotional awareness we are better able to distinguish between those objective choices which are simply necessary to living our lives, and choices which are driven by the existential neediness to which Krishnamurti refers. The former constitute a simple duality between this and that. The latter dualisms are made more to sustain and affirm our sense of self-identity than to reflect objective differences. There is, of course, no clear distinction between these two kinds of choice; in most cases there is something of both motivations. However, as our emotional awareness develops, our understanding and discrimination between the two sharpens.
Consider a meeting of a committee whose members must make decisions about the questions posed by an agenda. Hopefully there will be at least two or three members who are not so swayed by a subjective neediness to the extent that their objective assessments are significantly distorted. But there will usually be others who bring their own personal agenda
to the table. They may feel a strong need to stamp their own decisions on the meeting (and like to hear their voice doing it). Or they may need to be liked and well regarded by other members, or perhaps their precarious self just wants to go along with the majority. A group whose work is dominated by the personal agenda of its members may become dysfunctional — brought to a standstill by what are called personality problems
.
Again, there are those who are distressed by the suffering in the world and commit themselves to some social activism movement. But there will usually be other motivations at work, such as a desire to make their life meaningful, or the secure feeling of belonging to a righteous movement.
Can you recall an episode in your own life where your decisions and choices were influenced by a subtle self need which you may not have fully recognised at the time?
The tech fix mentality and culture. Our modernist culture is marked by a great number of discomfitures which can be more or less remedied out there
, by the immense scientific and technical resources we have developed and deployed. If you have tooth ache a painless dental remedy is only a phone call away. If depressed, a medication may soon restore you to your usual good cheer. In short, we can now get more of this that we want, and less of that which we don’t want, than ever before. Previously our hope lay in changing the experience of our affliction (the second arrow) through spiritual belief and practice. Hence the contemporary waning of religions of divine deliverance.
Nonetheless a wide range of unfixable discomfitures (like death) remain. And more fundamentally, the insatiable need for an invincible sense of self cannot be remedied by any techfix, though consciousness-changing drugs may be able to do so for a time.
3. Our Lifelong and Unwinnable Lawsuit with Reality
(Hubert Benoit)
You are now in a position to actualise Krishnamurti’s dramatic gesture in terms of your own life, and to reflect on how it has been shaped by a neediness to acquire emotionally, cognitively, physically and behaviourally whatever might strengthen your sense of a strong self-identity, and, contrariwise, to evade everything that might threaten to undermine its solidity and permanence. Thus David Brandon refers to swallowing a long kebab of roles, actions and thoughts which only temporarily fill my emptiness." For the self is insatiable, and herein lies the origin of dukkha (suffering
), arising from this seemingly endless frustrating evasion".
Please reflect on what Benoit’s poignant metaphor might mean in terms of your own life. It is as if two old friends were to meet up after a long absence and ask each other: Well, how has it gone for you?
I maintain that a profound exploration of our needy selves is an essential and fundamental task underlying our spiritual enquiry. Herein lies The Great Matter
of Zen Buddhism, from which the work of existential liberation can fruitfully proceed.
So, as an ongoing practice, please jot down and build up your existential autobiography, in whatever way suits you. This work may be undertaken off the meditation cushion at any suitable time and place. However, it will be most fruitful on the cushion, when the mind has been allowed to fall calm and there is some clarity beyond chatter and rumination.
What have been the underlying needinesses that have driven your life? Please focus on the inner experience, whilst at the same time noting the objective conditions which may have affected you. Avoid overmuch intellectual analysis, preferring a loose, playful and meditative kind of enquiry.
Pay attention not only to the emotional impulsions driving your life. Our emotional needs can powerfully shape our cognitive landscape, ranging from what we think about ourselves to the many different stories
we tell ourselves about the world (with plenty of gratuitous help from our culture and, above all, the mass media). The Buddha gave considerable prominence to the role of such views
in the shaping of each self.
Now consider all of the foregoing — emotional, cognitive and behavioural — in the different spheres of your life — family, intimate relationships, the place of friends and friendship, your career, workplace and the like; and your choice of leisure activities and what might lie behind it. Finally, characterise your overall lifestyle, and reflect on why it is as it is.
How have your inner life and its outward manifestations unfolded over the years? Have there been any particularly instructive and revealing episodes?
When affliction strikes we seek somehow to avoid it, each with our favourite evasions. For some its is escape into denial, anger, self-pity or blame — It’s all your fault!
Denial