The Achilles Effect: What Pop Culture Is Teaching Young Boys About Masculinity
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A discussion of pop culture messages about masculinity, their impact on boys, and the benefits of introducing more gender balance to boys lives.
When most people think about gender stereotypes and children, they envision princesses, dolls, and pink clothing. Few consider the warriors, muscle-bound action figures, and T-shirts covered in graffiti and skulls that are assumed to signify masculinity.
The pop culture environment that surrounds boys introduces them to a world where traditionally masculine traitslike toughness, aggression, and stoicismare highly esteemed and where female influence is all but absent.
The Achilles Effect explores gender bias in the entertainment aimed at primary school boys, focusing on the dominant themes in childrens TV shows, toy advertising, movies, and books: gender stereotypes of both sexes, male dominance, negative portrayals of fathers, breaking of the mother/son bond, and the devaluing of femininity. It examines the gender messages sent by pop culture, provides strategies for countering these messages, and encourages discussion of a vitally important issue that is rarely talked aboutboys and their often skewed understanding of gender.
The Achilles Effect is a guide for parents, educators, and students who want to learn more about male and female stereotypes, their continued strong presence in kids pop culture, and their effect on young boys.
Crystal Smith
Crystal Smith is a writer, photographer, and artist who developed an early love of storytelling in a family of voracious readers. She resides in Utah with her high school sweetheart husband and two lively sons. When she isn’t writing or creating, she can be found re-watching Jane Eyre or reading ghost stories with all the lights on. @crysrensmith.
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The Achilles Effect - Crystal Smith
Table of Contents
Preface
Introduction: Boys Will Be Boys
Chapter 1: Warriors, Wimps, Brats, and Clowns:
The Impact of Male Stereotypes on Boys
Chapter 2: Distant and Disappointed Dads:
Pop Culture Lessons About Fatherhood
Chapter 3: Separating Boys from their Mothers’ Influence
Chapter 4: Male Dominance and Lack of Female Heroes
Chapter 5: Modern Day Warriors:
Superheroes and Sports Stars
Chapter 6: Language and Communication
Chapter 7: What We Can Do About the Achilles Effect
Chapter 8: Recommended Resources
References
Endnotes
Preface
missing image fileThe woman’s seat.
That is the name my son assigned to the passenger seat of our car when he was just three years old. It was around the same time that I, as a female, was also denied the chance to drive our imaginary delivery truck or wear a hard hat on our make-believe construction site.
I was not exactly surprised to see this nascent gender bias in my son. It is exceedingly hard to avoid, not that I didn’t try.
Knowing that popular culture is the source of many a child’s ideas about gender, I limited my son’s access to television and film. I considered gender balance in every toy purchase and I used gender-neutral language around him. Still, I knew that, despite my valiant efforts, my son would one day be exposed to the notion that certain behaviours are more appropriate for boys than girls—an idea that is far too pervasive and deeply entrenched in our society for me to block completely.
And there it was, arriving earlier than I ever would have guessed and manifested in arbitrary rules about who could sit where in a car.
Where this idea had come from—other children, teachers, books—was immaterial. The seed had been planted and I had to prevent it from taking root.
I began looking for information about the role of popular culture on a young boy’s understanding of gender and, more specifically, masculinity, but found very little.
For young girls, the opposite is true. There are books, magazine articles, and blogs devoted to the impact of Disney princesses, Barbie, and other fictional females on little girls. There is also discussion about the lack of female characters in children’s films and the sexualization of young girls. (The latter topic is addressed in a book called The Lolita Effect, which inspired the name of my book.)
Given the wealth of materials about young girls, pop culture, and gender, the near absence of similar information about young boys baffled me. There is certainly no shortage of things to talk about.
Traditional views of masculinity, ancient in origin but perpetuated in today’s pop culture, teach boys to equate manhood with dominance, physical strength, and a decided absence of vulnerability. Boys who do not fit this masculine ideal feel the pressure to conform, going to extremes to prove their masculinity, or the pain of exclusion, suffering taunts like wimp
or nerd.
The idea of dominance, one of the hallmarks of traditional masculinity, also affects boys’ views of femininity. By regularly characterizing males as the dominant sex, children’s popular culture places females in a position of relative inferiority and teaches boys to devalue girls, women, and femininity in general.
Traditional masculinity is sustained in popular culture by gender stereotypes that affect boys as much as girls—a fact that is often overlooked. Boys looking to see themselves reflected in popular culture are instead faced with stereotyped views of what they should be, and introduced to many unhealthy ideas about males: boys don’t cry; boys don’t wear pink; boys don’t play with dolls; boys are undisciplined, aggressive, noisy, and like to fight.
The Achilles Effect discusses the pop culture inputs that contribute to a young boy’s understanding of masculinity and femininity. In the pages that follow, I combine recent research with examples from current children’s movies, TV shows, books, and toy advertising to demonstrate what school-age boys are learning from the culture that surrounds them and how those lessons are affecting them. The programs and books I have chosen may lose currency, but they provide excellent examples of what parents can look for when evaluating gender portrayals in newer films, television programs, books, and toy advertisements.
The Achilles Effect is not about eliminating all aspects of traditional masculinity, but about broadening the term to be more inclusive of boys who do not fit the narrow definition we currently have. Nor is it about denying the differences between boys and girls. Certainly, there are some and boys need to know that it is okay to view girls as different. They also need to know that different does not mean less than.
The Achilles Effect discusses the early school-age years, but provides gender lessons that can be applied throughout a boy’s life. I chose this age group, roughly equivalent to the kindergarten and primary school grades, because it is during these years that boys start to ascribe meaning to the words boy and girl.
This is also a time when they are faced with an onslaught of influences that shape their understanding of those two words. In order for them to develop healthy ideas about both sexes, it is critical that these early influences be balanced and gender-positive. Unfortunately, the majority of these influences, while considered innocuous by most adult observers, are anything but. Gender bias is not universal in children’s entertainment, but it is very common, and affects boys’ opinions of women and men, fathers and mothers, heroes and heroines. Even boys who do not watch a lot of television or film may absorb biased ideas about gender through peers who are more conversant with pop culture themes.
In researching The Achilles Effect, I examined some of the most popular films, TV shows, and books aimed at a male or mixed audience. In other words, no princess stuff—not because boys can’t enjoy such materials, but because most do not. I looked closely at the way masculinity and femininity are presented and found some truly troubling notions, all of which I will discuss in detail here.
My choice of materials was, admittedly, arbitrary, veering from proven hits to personal favourites. To determine popularity in animated entertainment, I considered everything from the number of merchandise tie-ins to frequency on the television schedule. For books, I looked at public library reading lists and bestseller lists from online retailers. I checked the Common Sense Media website for more ideas and also included some of the films, TV shows, and books preferred by my own sons.
I would like to make clear that I am not advising against watching the programs or reading the books I discuss here. I am suggesting that parents strive for balance, not make pop culture an all-or-nothing proposition for their sons. I am also recommending that parents and caregivers become aware of what their sons are watching and take the initiative to talk to them about gender portrayals. In Chapter 7, I provide suggestions and tips to help adults (parents, caregivers, and even educators) begin discussions with boys about the gender bias that is so prevalent in the entertainment they see.
Readers may question my conclusions and disagree with my assessment of boys’ popular culture, and that is okay. My ultimate goal is not to dictate what is right and what is wrong in pop culture, but to encourage discussion about a vitally important issue that is rarely talked about—boys and their often skewed understanding of gender.
A Word About Preschool Entertainment
When I first began researching this book, I examined preschool and school-age entertainment. I had planned to discuss both, but changed course when I discovered a sharp divergence between the two. Unlike programming aimed at school-age boys, where males and male stereotypes dominate, preschool TV shows offer far more nuanced portrayals of males and plenty of positive female characters.
Good television shows abound for this age group: Bob the Builder with its gentle and caring protagonist, strong female co-lead, and mixture of male and female supporting characters; Arthur and Franklin the Turtle, which provide balanced male characters and exceptional portrayals of engaged and involved mothers and fathers; and Go Diego Go and Dora the Explorer, both of whose protagonists play against type—he as a sensitive nurturer of animals and she as an adventurous and smart female lead. In addition to Dora, Ni Hao Kai-Lan and Olivia are other female-led shows that attract both male and female viewers.
Preschool programs clearly demonstrate that the key to achieving gender balance while appealing to a diverse audience is to create programs about kids in general, not about stereotyped versions of them—a lesson that seems to have been lost on the producers of programs for older children.
If preschool programs and the books associated with them can provide young boys with a balanced view of the world, why the abrupt change in tone when the target age group is older? I do not have the answer to that question, but as we will see in subsequent chapters, producers of school-age entertainment clearly could learn a lot from Diego, Dora, and Bob.
A Word of Thanks
My first book. What made me think I could actually pull this thing together? I knew I had the requisite research skills, honed through my BA in history and master’s degree in library and information science. I have many years of experience volunteering with women’s groups, including the Halton Women’s Centre and The Pixel Project, which inspired me to add my voice to the many others already seeking greater gender balance in our world. I have been writing professionally for years and I take every chance I get to share my opinions on my Achilles Effect blog. But the support of some very important people is what really made this book possible.
I owe the men in my life a debt of gratitude for allowing me to escape into my office
on countless evenings and weekends to work, even when it seemed, because I spent so much time watching TV and reading, that I wasn’t really working at all. More specifically, I want to thank Karl for his endless patience and support and for being, in our sons’ words, the best daddy ever. I also want to thank Nikolas and Eliot for inspiring me every day with their curiosity and creativity. (Additional thanks to Nikolas for being my movie buddy.)
A special word of thanks to my mother, Marilyn Papple, for instilling in me a sense of confidence and a belief that I could be anything I wanted to be, and for never telling me that collecting caterpillars, playing with Hot Wheels, and watching hockey were things that boys did.
Thanks to my sister, Chantal Smith, and other family members and friends— Grandma Dorothy Papple, Dad & Sarah, Michelle Walsh, Melvina Walter, and others too numerous to name here—who greeted news that I was writing my first book with encouragement and enthusiasm.
I also want to thank my crack team of editors and reviewers, Ginny Fanthome, Brenda Coonan, and Mackenzie Smith. I had no idea when I started working on this book just how easily I would lose perspective and fail to see where changes were needed. These three fabulous women generously gave their time to help me improve the final product. Thanks also to Laura Brooks for her expert advice on copy editing.
Lastly, a word of thanks to the wonderful people I have connected with through Twitter and my blog—Melissa Wardy from Pigtail Pals, Sharon Haywood from Adios Barbie, Amy Jussel from Shaping Youth, Erin McNeill from Marketing, Media and Childhood, and many others—who let me know that there is an audience eager for this book.
Introduction: Boys Will Be Boys
missing image fileBoys will be boys. It’s a loaded phrase and one that I hear frequently in the schoolyard, at birthday parties, at baseball practice—anywhere that young boys get together to socialize or play. My disdain for this phrase inspired me, in part, to write this book.
There is a lot to dislike about this expression. It carries with it a sense of inevitability, inferring as it does that boys are innately inclined toward stereotypically masculine behaviour—that nature trumps nurture, so to speak. It offers an excuse for the negative behaviours that are assumed to characterize boyhood—fighting, yelling, pushing, and shoving—while implying that aggression, rowdiness, and competitiveness are the truest signifiers of masculinity.
The phrase boys will be boys
also draws a proverbial line in the sand, with boys on one side and girls on the other. Yes, girls and boys interact and play together and some may become good friends. But by the time they enter school, kids have learned that boys and girls are fundamentally different and that the behaviour that is accepted in one group is not okay for the other. From choices about toys and clothes to their reactions to stress, children understand early on that there are certain expectations attached to their sex.
For boys, those expectations are based on a very restrictive view of masculinity, defined by psychologist Ronald F. Levant as including: the requirement to avoid all things feminine; the injunction to restrict one’s emotional life; the emphasis on achieving status above all else; the injunction to be completely self-reliant; [and] the emphasis on toughness and aggression…
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The impact of this view of masculinity can be seen at a very young age in boys who are embarrassed to show affection, reluctant to admit they are scared, or ashamed to cry when hurt. As boys get older, stereotyped behaviours become further entrenched, as any observer of a schoolyard can tell you. Watching kids interact on the playground, it is not unusual to see boys using intimidating language and postures to show toughness and dominance.
The situation does not improve for grown men. The emotional restraint they were taught as children often carries into adulthood, leaving them few outlets for their stress. Men feel consistent pressure to take on the role of provider. They are socialized to see their careers as the most important aspect of their lives and taught to believe that full-time employment is a sign of successful masculinity
—a belief that many women share. Those who do not conform to the stereotype of the male breadwinner can experience a drop in self-esteem and a feeling that they have failed to become real men.
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Fathers who do not work, whether by choice or not, face another level of disapproval. In a 2005 study conducted by Yale University, stay-at-home fathers were ranked the worst parents in comparison to employed fathers, employed mothers, and stay-at-home moms. The study also notes that fathers who stay home with their kids are viewed with disdain by employers, who assume that these men are incapable of finding work.3 And in an Australian study, friends of male primary caregivers reported feeling disappointed in their friends for choosing to become full-time fathers.
Increasingly, the precepts of traditional masculinity are also thought to have an impact on men’s physical health. Because concern for health is often seen as a feminine trait, many men are reluctant to visit the doctor or even ask questions when they are in their physician’s office. Lifestyle is another issue. Generally speaking, men engage in more health-damaging behaviours than women—higher alcohol consumption, more risky behaviour, less healthy diet, less interest in maintaining a healthy weight— in part because such behaviours signify manliness. 4
Traditional masculinity, as described by Levant, has deep roots. Family therapist Olga Silverstein and writer Beth Rashbaum note in The Courage to Raise Good Men that this narrow view of manhood has been with us since ancient times, first appearing in the stories of mythical heroes like Hercules, Jason, and Achilles.5
As implied by the title, the story of Achilles has particular relevance to the subject of this book. This legendary warrior epitomized the hyper-masculine ideal that we encounter to this day in popular culture and our wider society: he was physically strong, angry, vengeful, and sometimes disdainful of the feminine influences in his life.
Achilles was born of a mortal man and the goddess Thetis. A prophecy stated that Achilles would have either a long, dull life or a short, glorious life. Believing in the latter, his mother went to great lengths to protect him.
The story with which most of us are familiar involves Thetis dipping Achilles into the River Styx in an effort to make him immortal. The heel where she held him was not submerged and it became his sole physical vulnerability. In another variation on this story,