Memoirs of a Middle-Aged Hummingbird
By Suellen Zima
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In 1988, she takes us back to China as it can never be seen again, and through her students' lives, watches its tumultuous changes from then until 2005. Taiwan, Macau, Bali, and Korea also become "home," while New Zealand, Fiji, Turkey, Vietnam, Russia, and Iceland, among others, beckon briefly, but she always returns to China. Through the enthralling details of the everyday life of ordinary people, the reader virtually lives their struggles, fears, achievements, joys and dreams.
Curiosity, intensity, and the journals she keeps along the way are her constant traveling companions. This independent budget traveler keenly experiences cultures, like a hummingbird with feet planted firmly in mid-air, hovering, drinking deeply, and then flitting away to return another day. Interwoven throughout are her personal, emotional, and spiritual journeys. This is a true life odyssey any seasoned or armchair traveler will want to explore.
Suellen Zima
Suellen Zima emigrated to Israel in 1983 at the age of 40. A fascinating visit to China in 1988 set her on a nomadic path, teaching in other parts of Asia and returning often to a constantly changing China. She now lives in southern California. Visit http://www.ZimaTravels.com and Follow the Senior Hummingbird as she wanders, wonders, and writes.
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Memoirs of a Middle-Aged Hummingbird - Suellen Zima
Memoirs of a Middle-aged Hummingbird
Suellen Zima
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Memoirs of a Middle-aged Hummingbird
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Contents
INTRODUCTION
1
ISRAEL 1983–1985
2
ISRAEL 1985–1988
3
JAPAN HONG KONG CHINA 1988
4
TEACHING IN CHINA 1988
5
HONG KONG BALI SINGAPORE THAILAND 1989
6
CHINA March–May 16, 1989
7
CHINA HONG KONG ISRAEL
U.S. 1989
8
TAIWAN Feb.–July 1990
9
HONG KONG CHINA TAIWAN 1990
10
CHINA TAIWAN 1991
11
CHINA MACAU Summer, 1991
12
CHINA 1992
13
HONG KONG MACAU 1992
14
CHINA MACAU ISRAEL 1993
15
CHINA MACAU MALAYSIA 1994
16
BALI AUSTRALIA NEW ZEALAND FIJI 1995
17
CHINA KOREA EUROPE TURKEY 1997
18
CHINA VIETNAM RUSSIA 1998
19
U.S. ICELAND DOWN UNDER
ASIA 1999–2005
20
MEDLEYS
LAST WORDS
To my friend, Carolyn, who always welcomed me to her nest and listened to my stories.
To my former husband, Les, and my son, Sebastian, whom I hurt by my choices.
To Stan, who started me on my inner journeys.
To my mother, who loved books.
INTRODUCTION
The hummingbird and I share several characteristics. We both plant our feet firmly in mid-air, hover, drink deeply, and then flit away. We are very independent creatures who live life quickly and intensely. If someone tries to hold us, we will die. But we can fly backwards as well as forwards at will.
In middle age, my strong desire to travel and live outside the United States catapulted me outside the cozy confines of a traditional life as wife and mother. In 1983, I went to Israel as an immigrant social worker. That was the beginning of new adventures that I had never even imagined. In 1988, my curiosity led me to China where I discovered I was a much better teacher than a social worker. It also resulted in a love affair with China that has brought me back 14 times to continuing and deepening relationships with former students turned friends. Bali, Taiwan, Macau, and Korea also became home
to me. I found what I was good at. I had a talent for adjusting to other cultures and flourishing in them. I intuitively became a bridge builder in whichever culture I ventured.
I was content and, indeed, often elated living as a hummingbird throughout much of the world. I discovered that the hummingbird lifestyle was not just a brief aberration from normal
life. Meeting other young and middle-aged hummingbirds along the way made me feel I had joined another society instead of leaving society. The intensive gathering of new experiences challenged me and kept me awake and alert. Although there were many discomforts and inconveniences, I knew I tired of the known
much more than the unknown.
Although my journeys were geographical, they were also explorations into deeply personal, emotional, and cultural realms. My overflowing cornucopia of memories constantly triggers recall of similar places I’ve seen, other times I’ve lived in, and people I’ve met. Along the way, I kept journals as well as wrote articles to help explain my experiences to friends. My mother kept every letter I wrote to her and my father along the way. It is mostly from my journal jottings and letters that this book is composed. Except for notations and some attempts to clarify, the writing is as it was written at the time. This is important because the times and places and people have changed greatly. The people in the book are real, but their names have been changed to protect their privacy. It is arranged loosely chronologically, flitting back and forth from in-depth descriptions to what are more like quick snapshots catching a fleeting moment in time.
I had not read the journals or letters since I wrote them. In reading them again, what impressed me was how passion and intensity became my traveling companions. There were many truly magical moments of serendipity along the way as well as pure luck. Although I certainly met and heard of people who got ugly fevers, diseases, parasites and were injured or worse in dangerous situations, I only had times of dirt and discomfort which receded in my memory. Like the plant of the same name, the wandering Jew is a hardy species that needs little encouragement to spread itself into new terrain.
So, come back in time and follow me.
1
ISRAEL 1983–1985
Sept. 24, 1983
How did you get a name like that?
he asked me with a look on his face of having eaten something distasteful.
I made it up from Swahili,
I answered helpfully although taken aback by this strange beginning to our conversation.
It’s a very bad word in Hebrew.
What does it mean?
I can’t tell you,
he said with a faint blush.
And so went the beginning of signing up for immigration to Israel. I explained to the sheliach, the person in the U.S. who would handle the paperwork and arrangements, how I had taken the name of Zima after I divorced. The name was not a Swahili name, but taken from a Swahili word that held symbolic meanings for me following a long-awaited trip to Kenya, which ended up being the last trip my husband, son and I took together.
I took his suggestions to minimize the effect of my name being a dirty word in Hebrew. I used a different Hebrew letter at the end of Zima that was not the same as the offensive word and practiced putting a much stronger emphasis on the first syllable than on the last syllable.
My seatmate on the plane to Israel was a Canadian born again Christian on a visit to the Holy Land. I knew I was in trouble when she said that the others on her tour were seated way up front and that she must have been seated next to me for a special purpose, whereupon she attempted to convert me. I promptly fell asleep, and except for waking up to eat, I slept quite deeply for eight of the nine hours of the flight.
I wouldn’t exactly say there was a band to welcome our small group of new immigrants at the airport, but someone was there to greet us and bring us to our first home in Israel. I feel quite comfortable at our immigration center called Beit Milman. I wasn’t expecting much, so I wasn’t disappointed with the accommodations. They actually gave me one bowl, one plate, one fork, etc. They also gave me only one hanger, but that’s okay because the closet only holds about five hangers. It’s adequate, and I have a beautiful view of Tel Aviv out my window, and a park right next door to jog through. I also have a 26 year-old roommate to share our one room with a small kitchen and bathroom. I’m very happy to be here and wondering what will happen next.
Oct. 10, 1983
I’ve been in Israel about a month. My adjustment has been surprisingly non-traumatic. I find my days filled with the challenges of living outside my familiar environment. I now go to Hebrew class six days a week, five hours a day. This, plus two hours of homework a night, swimming, aerobics, Israeli folk dancing, running, and spending a couple of hours a week in the Diaspora Museum to learn more about Jews of the world easily fills a week. I appreciate the calm that settles over the country for 24 hours from Friday at sunset until Saturday at sunset for Shabbat. Even the buses don’t run.
I have been told, and can easily believe, that change is the only constant here. Knowing that, I’m able to flow with it a lot better. In many ways, it is remarkable that this tiny country functions at all. On the other hand, it does function, and sometimes surprisingly well. Another truth
here seems to be that Israel has the façade of a western country, but is really much more oriental—which means eastern here rather than Chinese or Japanese. I find this eastern mixture fascinating and hope to understand it better as I live here longer. I have never before had contact with people from eastern countries, including Sephardic Jews from places like Morocco and Yemen, as well as Arabs.
How and why immigrants come here is also intriguing. In my Hebrew class, an elderly Iranian man explained how he had to pay $40,000 as bribes to guards so he and his wife could walk almost two days without food or water while eluding patrols in order to get a plane to Spain, then to Switzerland, then to Israel. My Hebrew teacher explained how she and a brother and sister came by boat to Haifa many years ago from Syria. They kissed the ground when they arrived. A Hungarian man went on a trip to London and from there contacted a Zionist agency that sent him to Israel. In my Hebrew class there are people from Uruguay, Romania, Mexico, Russia, England, Iran, France, Belgium, Canada, New Zealand, Australia, and Scotland. Because we all speak such baby Hebrew, it’s easy to forget that among the students are an engineer, a psychologist, a millionaire, a boss of a big company. I’m sorry to say that the English speakers are by far the slowest students to catch on to Hebrew with the worst pronunciation. On Fridays, we all listen eagerly when our teacher tells us stories from the Bible in Hebrew. It is amazing that she can do it so that we beginners can understand. What is even more amazing is realizing that these stories are history here in Israel.
By the way, my last name isn’t causing any problems so far. Only native Israelis know my name as a dirty word in Hebrew because they never teach sexual words to new immigrants. Besides, just about everyone in this country watches re-runs of an American drama called Dallas.
Apparently, there is a character in the program named Suellen. So, when people ask my name and I say Suellen,
I never get to the Zima part because they are so excited to meet someone named Suellen. Even my name is an adventure in Israel. And I absolutely love the diversity all around me!
Nov. 26, 1983
I went to a performance of A Moroccan Wedding.
Not only the dance, but the audience was mainly Moroccan. They talked all through the performance and clapped and ululated throughout the wedding scene. The audience definitely enhanced the performance. The music and movements of the dance were very different from western music and dance and gave me more appreciation of my belly dancing days of years ago.
I am also learning more about the Arabs from two of my roommate’s friends who are Arab. One talks of the discrimination he feels as a second class Israeli citizen, and the other one feels caught somewhere between two cultures—Arab and Jewish. Even though I think some of his confusion and conflict is part of the normal Who am I?
questions of those in their 20’s, I feel connected to the broader and more universal problem of how to make personal peace with the world around us. Even though he and I are worlds apart in background, I, too, have had to face bucking the tide and tradition, and I also know what it’s like to be out of my culture. I am a 40-year-old American, and so can never be totally Israeli. For some of us, there is no choice but to be somewhere in between personal needs and societal and cultural realities.
Keeping a sense of humor about the slumping economy here helps, but the situation is very serious and getting worse. The government continues to talk about cutbacks in just about everything. The value of the Israeli currency called shekel changes daily.
We had an air raid alert for practice this week. We were forewarned, but it was still strange to hear it. I vaguely remember them from the U.S. in the 1950’s, but they seemed very unreal. There was much more of a real quality about it here. If it sounds monotonous, then it’s a drill. If it wails with an up and down sound, it means to go to shelters. Every building has a shelter. In this, and many other ways, life here seems very real.
Some good news is that those squiggles called Hebrew are making more sense although being an illiterate deaf mute continually humbles me. There are many funny and frustrating moments such as when I said I did not want to eat too much and become sour cream (I meant fat.
) Later, I told someone we had been invited for wine and ice cream and tomatoes (instead of cake
).
Dec. 31, 1983
The Jewish New Year comes in the fall, so only new immigrants from western countries and Israelis who like parties observe Dec. 31st. They call it Sylvester
here which is its European name. Catholics celebrate it as a religious holiday because it was the circumcision day of Jesus. We had a good discussion in Hebrew class about why Israelis don’t observe Dec. 31st as the New Year. It led to one of Israel’s burning questions—What is a Jew?
Before Israel became a country, religious Jews thought and prayed about Israel. The new pioneers who came to the land of Israel discarded the passive prayers of those Jews and decided to actively return to the farm and hack out settlements in deserts and swamps. They also discarded the traditions of the elders and became non-religious. Now, not only the kibbutzim, collective farms, but Israel in general has some regrets about its wholesale discarding of traditions along with religion. Jews in the rest of the world, whether religious or not, observe certain religious traditions as their only link with Judaism and other Jews. In Israel, though, one does not need to do artificial things to feel Jewish. But yet, there is a certain sense of loss for traditions in Israel. This loss has created a vacuum which adoration of western materialistic values seems to be filling. With the Jews from eastern cultures like Morocco, Yemen, Tunisia, there is also a vacuum, but for different reasons. They lost their culture when faced with the western level of Israeli society and the reality of life here in Israel. For example, how could the father still be revered as the family king when he couldn’t find work and was illiterate and poor in Israeli society?
Not only is this now the 1984 that Orwell wrote about, but, according to the Jewish calendar, it is the year of total annihilation. Perhaps it is not coincidence that the Israeli economy is collapsing. In spite of all that, I wish you a Happy New Year!
Feb. 11, 1984
What a thrill it was to go to my first Bar Mitzvah in Israel. One of my classmates invited the whole class, and some of us took him up on it. In the row where I sat, I was the only American. I was with a woman and her daughter from Sweden, Sarah from Scotland, Diane from Montreal, Yvette from Belgium, Yolanda from Mexico and a woman from Argentina. There were also religious Israelis, and the relatives of the two 13-year-old boys who were earning their rite of passage to Jewish manhood. This was my first Jewish Orthodox service, and it was a good example of what the ingathering of the exiles really means. All of us were Jews. We made comments about which ways were similar or different from services in our own countries. At a certain point, the women, who must sit in a balcony away from the men, threw candy down upon the Bar Mitzvah boys to wish them a sweet life. There, in that rather formal, austere setting, the Bar Mitzvah boys and the other men looked up happily and expectantly as the women threw the candy upon them.
The contrast between the two boys was striking. Maurice’s son from France was neatly and carefully dressed. The other boy was Israeli. He was dressed in white jeans, blue sneakers, a white t-shirt, and a brown jacket with a blue kipa askew on his head. The temple’s décor resembled the Israeli boy’s relaxed, plain style so unlike the adornment of most temples in the U.S.
We went back to Maurice’s apartment after the service. What seemed like hundreds of people crowded into the living room. Champagne flowed. Delicious food was passed around. People sang Hebrew songs with a stunning backdrop of a blue sky, sand dunes, and the Mediterranean ocean in the distance. French, English, and Hebrew filled the air. Someone trying to pass would say, excuse me
in three languages, figuring that one of them would work. It was great fun.
June 4, 1984
Jerusalem must be the most beautiful city in the world. Our class took a trip there for a special holiday called Jerusalem Day. We visited some parts of Jerusalem that I hadn’t seen before, as well as some areas by the Western Wall and other parts of the Old City that I had visited on another trip. Jerusalem has an ambiance all its own, but its fragility is a fact of life. The guide showed us how all the neighborhoods around and in Jerusalem are now strategically placed so that Jerusalem can never be cut off again as it was in 1948. It is a very, very special place and I often feel a rush of excitement go through me when I realize I am really there.
Our day ended with a special ceremony for new immigrants in a Greek amphitheatre on Mt. Scopus looking out over an incredible landscape. The hills and mountains stretched out to the Dead Sea and Jordan beyond. A shepherd and his sheep completed a picture perfect peek into the closest I can imagine what heaven looks like. The ceremony was filled with happy music and dancing. All of us were recent immigrants from all over Israel. It was exciting to see that over half of the immigrants there were Ethiopian Jews. They are now coming to Israel in record numbers because of the political problems in Ethiopia.
I’ve heard that their adjustment to life in Israel is quite traumatic, but I’m glad they are here. I wish Israel could do better helping them feel comfortable. Looking at their strikingly handsome faces and gleaming white robes, I had the thought that I’d like to work with them when my Hebrew is good enough to get a job.
June 23, 1984
If the economy crashing, the elections coming in July, and the dissension over the Jewish terrorists who are now being sentenced for their crimes is not enough to tear this tiny country apart, there is yet another issue that is going to shake this country mightily. Ethiopian Jews have been escaping from Ethiopia in small numbers, but there is soon to be a wave of aliyah, immigration, from Ethiopia of a majority of the 25,000 left there. I have the chance to be in on that event.
The agency called Youth Aliyah is opening a children’s village near Akko for Ethiopian children aged 11 to 18 this summer. I do not yet have the fluency in Hebrew to work as a social worker, but there is a chance for me to be a housemother there. Being a housemother is a very hard job under any circumstances, but these 25 children will be in culture shock and there will be no common language. Added to this is the fact that the Ethiopian Jews are extremely religious. I would have to be an observant Jew by Orthodox standards to live with them.
I am very drawn to the idea of being in on this from the beginning. I have always had an idea in the back of my head to live in Africa. And now they are coming here. Even before we adopted our mixed-racial son, I have felt drawn to blacks. Israeli society has, at best, mixed feelings about them coming here, and at worst, outright prejudice against blacks of any religion. I believe I could feel a sense of purpose in helping with a new wave of aliyah that requires a pioneering spirit. Having to live like an Orthodox Jew holds me back. On the other hand, the thought excites me because I am also somewhat curious about religious Jews. The religious—non-religious split here is raw and wide, a big problem in Israeli society.
I thought my life couldn’t change more than it has already, but I can see I can go in even further directions from where I used to be.
August 26, 1984
Someone I met recently said that his impression of Americans is that we have a childish quality and always seem to play at living. I think that is accurate. We have a childish way about us that I feel is quite charming in some circumstances, but quite strange in other circumstances. I am now able to see the American in me a bit more objectively through the eyes of others.
Whatever our faults, however, we do know how to make some aspects of daily living, like going to a bank or a post office, efficient. For example, I went to the post office today to send off a letter. There were two employees there to hand out packages that had come for people, but no other services were available. Why? All the other employees had gone on a two-week vacation. For these two weeks, we are supposed to go to a post office that’s further away. Then the situation will reverse.
My American mentality really has a tough time accepting such a system. So, not only are there surly employees, general inefficiency, changes in the hours they are open, an economy that requires us to constantly go to the post office because the price of stamps rises with the currency’s downfall, slowdowns, strikes—but also communal vacation schedules.
Oct. 27, 1984
One of the most heart-wrenching experiences I’ve had was watching 120 Ethiopian kids saying good-bye to each other as they were being transferred in small groups to different Israeli boarding schools. They had been together for four or five months at the same location where I have been going daily for my present Hebrew class. Because we were in the same location, I got to know several of them.
Everyone was sobbing—boys, girls, and the staff. It was like a mass funeral because they never expected to see one another again. When each bus pulled away, the sobbing became hysteria. These teenagers have had so much separation to deal with in their short lives. They came to Israel without their parents and siblings, not knowing if they would ever be reunited. I like them a lot. They are generally strikingly beautiful, friendly, intelligent, and extremely eager to study and learn.
Yesterday I visited the children’s village that was set up in July for Ethiopian children that I had thought about working in. The American rabbi in charge let me know my chances of working there are nil, but does that deter me? No. I just became surer that I intend to find a niche for myself working with these children in any way I can. I have been pleased with the contact I was able to make with the kids while I was at that language class in the brief opportunities we had to be together. In a few years at the most, this aliyah from Ethiopia will be over. I’m very glad to be here at the same time. Jews certainly cross all barriers—racially and culturally.
AMONG THE ETHIOPIANS
I arrived at the boarding school ten days after they did. The 25 mostly mid-teenage Ethiopian Jewish boys had come to Israel by plane from refugee camps in Sudan. I was a 41-year-old American Jewish social worker who had been in Israel 14 months. They came without parents, and without personal possessions. Some came from cities, but most came from small extended family villages with no knowledge of modern
life. I came from a modern, extended world that had not included most of everything that had filled their lives. They came with no Hebrew, but a solid Jewish religious tradition. I came with an inexperienced, limited Hebrew, and with no religious beliefs or convictions. I came white from a middle-class liberal culture. They came black from the all-black world of Ethiopia. They came to Israel because they had no other good options. I came to Israel voluntarily in the spirit of adventure. They had stared at starvation and death. I had only read about it and studied how such experiences might affect children. They came to Israel filled with expectations and dreams for their future. I came to Israel with few expectations and no dreams.
We lived together in a small all-male Orthodox religious school with a view on one side overlooking the mountains of northern Israel extending into Lebanon. On the other side were white non-descript buildings of the small development town called Maalot. The nature there, including the howls of the nearby jackals at night, reminded the boys of their mountain villages. It reminded me of nothing I had ever lived in before, but had only visited occasionally on camping trips.
Along with us in the school were about 15 religious families, mostly all Israeli-born and raised, who were the teaching staff, 120 Israeli high school boys, and 17 Ethiopian boys who had been in Israel less than half a year. They had been transferred from a transitional place in the Tel Aviv area. I was to live in that boarding school for eight difficult, very intense months. It was to be one of the most fascinating times of my life.
Over the months, I would come to know each child as a separate personality, his strengths, weaknesses, and quirks that one learns from the daily familiarity of living together. However, in the very beginning, their Ethiopian names defied my tongue, and the absolute lack of verbal communication rendered them harder to differentiate as individuals. Their behavior was also more or less communal
since they were not relaxed enough in their new situation to assert their individuality. Even so, one child obviously had artistic talent judging by a large lion he drew on the dormitory wall. One had a tendency to fight. Another promised to be an excellent student because he used every moment to study the simple Hebrew letters an Ethiopian counselor was trying to teach in the time before an experienced Hebrew teacher arrived.
Some communication was possible with the 17 Ethiopian boys who had been in the country for some months. In the six weeks they had been at this boarding school, these 17 already had a reputation as troublemakers and tough kids who had no respect for authority. They were known for complaining loudly about everything, accentuating their demands by striking—food strikes, study strikes, whatever they felt worked.
I immediately saw there were definitely reasons to complain. A mother’s
job is to make everything all right. As their housemother, the children saw me as the appropriate person to complain to. There were their reasonable and unreasonable complaints to deal with, as well as my own interpretation of how things should
be. The habit of complaining spread like a virus from the 17 vatikim, old students, to the 25 hadashim, new students, until they plagued both my waking hours in which I tried out possible ways to solve the problems, and my sleeping hours in which I tried to dream up solutions. For a variety of complex reasons, not the least of which was my newness in a foreign work environment that followed unwritten rules which were unknown to me, my powerlessness to make changes left me frustrated, ineffective, and sometimes ridiculous. It often made me feel that I had joined Alice at the Mad Hatter’s Tea Party. A discordant theme ran through our time together.
My very first hour of work was to aid the staff nurse and an additional nurse from the local clinic who were giving the newcomers TB tests. A substance was injected just under the skin on the forearm that would have to be read
a few days later. It was complicated to listen to the child’s version of his name, and then try to find the Hebrew transliteration on a list.
I wondered what the children understood about this medical procedure and later learned that they subjected themselves to many forms of medical care on faith without often being offered an understandable explanation. This was partially inherent in the situation of having an Ethiopian interpreter who only partially understood Hebrew and who also had no cultural background for understanding the medical procedures. The children approached one by one with arm outstretched, either grimacing, nervously smiling self-consciously, or with tightly closed eyes.
Don’t get too close to his head. He probably has lice,
the nurse said to me as I cradled a smaller child protectively while he received his TB test. Strangely, I came to accept lice as the most positive part of the continuous medical morass I sloshed through daily as a housemother. Lice were a problem I could do something about—at least temporarily. The first de-lousing was done en masse, with eager, wet, curly heads being thrust forward for the special shampoo. Ten minutes later came the special combing which was often painful for them because of their tight curls. We joked about the lice, calling the little ones babies
and the larger ones fathers.
This grooming procedure was readily accepted. They would often come to me and pantomime that their heads were itchy.
Other aspects of their medical care were much more elusive. The Ethiopians came with diseases that generally were outside Israel’s modern medical knowledge—active tuberculosis, stomach parasites, abscesses that erupted all over the body, and malaria which had been eradicated in Israel by its intrepid pioneers. The scariest of these for me was malaria that would rather suddenly turn a happy, active, teenage boy into a sweating, listless, shaking and shivering mass.
Amara, one of the children who succumbed often in the beginning months to a high fever, had a particularly beautiful face with finely chiseled features. His personality was generally friendly and happy. He was the joker of the group—the one who could lovingly drive me crazy.
One time, his fever would not break. I took him to the emergency room of a hospital a half hour away. At that time, we had just about no common language, but had developed a certain trust and rapport through smiling widely at each other. I had had gratefully little acquaintance with hospitals, especially in Israel, and felt at a distinct disadvantage with my puny Hebrew.
The doctor was a bizarre middle-aged man who seemed much more interested in me than in the patient. Seeing that the patient was an Ethiopian, he launched into a broken-English historical account of how the Ethiopian Jews were descended from Menelik, son of Solomon and the Queen of Sheba. Interesting though this was, I was more worried about Amara than in his ancestry.
A more pleasant encounter during that hospital examination was with a man who had the face and body of a young man, but the wrinkled neck of a much older man. His skin was whiter than mine, and quite freckled. His hair was not as dark as my Ethiopian children, but equally curly, even kinky. He spoke soft Amharic, the language of Ethiopians, to Amara and told me simply that he had been born in Ethiopia.
Amara’s blood test indicated he needed to be hospitalized. I explained to him as best I could that he would have to stay there for awhile. As we walked to his ward, the halls were lined with beds. Many were filled with Ethiopians, their faces and bodies dripping with sweat from malarial fevers. At least he did not have to be in a hallway, but his ward was with old men rather than children.
I left some small toys, pens, and crayons to use when he hopefully would have more energy. And I introduced him to those in nearby beds. As I prepared to leave, he looked at me somewhat fearfully and tearfully. I looked at his brown body against the white sheets of his bed, his smallness compared to the men around him. The hospital smell surrounded all of us; the man in the next bed was throwing up his supper. With a heavy heart and a large effort, I smiled widely at Amara. He responded with a broad grin—our way of assuring each other that things were okay. I turned and left. That was the first time I had to leave a child in the hospital. I was to return to that hospital several times more.
A ROUGH BEGINNING
Waves of immigration are not new to Israel, but each wave of people from a different country and culture brings with it unique complications. Before it became world knowledge, Israel had been bringing in Ethiopian Jews from refugee camps in Sudan. In 1984, almost all the Ethiopian teenagers arrived initially without their parents. With or without their parents’ permission, they had left a traditional, close, extended family of loving parents, grandparents, siblings and cousins, and trekked in groups for two weeks or so into Sudan. It was a perilous escape in which both wild animals and Ethiopian patrols had to be avoided or outwitted. A refugee camp in Sudan was a waystation in which thousands crowded into tents. Death and dying from starvation and disease was a daily sight. Jewish Ethiopians, in fear of death or injury, lived in the delicate balance of hiding their Jewishness, and, at the same time, revealing it to the proper sources in order to make it to Israel. In this environment, most of the children waited three to six months, but some remained two to three years.
Arriving with literally nothing but the paper-thin, worn, and mended clothing from Sudan, they came to the land of their dreams. As Jews, they had heard all their lives about the promised land.
While still loving their birthland, the political climate in Ethiopia, harassment as a religious minority, the chance of being drafted indefinitely in Ethiopia’s war, and the spreading famine gave them the incentive to pursue their Biblical homeland.
The boarding school concept of education is a time-tested, well-developed, and popular manner in which to educate large numbers of its youth. Education in these live-in institutional settings is usually for Israeli children with parents. However, when necessary, they have become destinations for new immigrant teenage children who need to learn Hebrew and the Israeli way of life. The Ethiopian teenagers were purposely sent to strongly religious boarding schools. Although having been isolated from other Jews for a very long time, most had been raised with a firm set of beliefs based on the Old Testament. Newer rituals as practiced by the Orthodox of Israel had to be taught to them.
Their flights to Israel on giant planes also transported them in mere hours into an expanded, highly developed technological world, as well as a different social structure and culture. Many, having come from remote mountain villages, were amazed by the gadgets of our lives. My alarm clock, hair dryer, and pocket calculator were sources of wonderment. The tape recorder soothed their homesickness as they recorded their chants and listened, alone or in small groups, for hours every night. For several months, this activity became a very important link for them with their birthland.
There were humorous first experiences—such as trying to open a pop top can, blowing up a balloon, or a child looking blankly at a photo of himself until a wide smile crossed his face at the realization that it was a picture of him! One child, seated next to me in my car, kept holding his arms out, looking frightened, and telling me over and over again to be careful. I finally understood that this was his first time in a car rather than a bus, and he felt very insecure being so close to the road.
They showed unusual spatial concepts in their artwork, and in their body movements. In their first original drawings, they placed huts with the Star of David (their Ethiopian synagogues) alongside wild and domestic animals, next to buses, planes, watches, and guns—a general impression of both familiar and new items. While showing impressive skill and easy movement in scampering up trees and mountains, they were uncoordinated for certain movements and sports unfamiliar to them. They quickly filled in gaps such as how to ride a bicycle, play basketball, and propel themselves on a swing. They took to chewing bubblegum, but never did quite master blowing bubbles. They were curious and fast to learn modern tools such as faucets, forks, and toilets.
Technical knowhow came faster than adjustment to the Israeli culture. The translation for the Hebrew word klitah is absorption.
Absorption requires acculturation into the Israeli culture. It begins immediately upon entry into Israel. Each Ethiopian was given an Israeli name at the airport. Thus, Gwadye, Malafia, Warku, became Eli, Uri, Asher. We began to use their Israeli names a few weeks after their arrival at the boarding school, to which they responded proudly.
One as yet unsatisfactorily answered question is how, and at what pace, to achieve the right
balance between integrating a minority culture into a majority culture without destroying the integrity and special characteristics of the minority culture. The method preferred at the boarding schools was to put all possible energy into converting the youth as totally and as quickly as possible into Israelis. Other theories claim that this approach to absorption has been disastrous in other large immigrations, leaving in its wake a cultural void for the immigrant. At the very least, each immigrant faces some degree of individual and group identity crisis.
These Ethiopian teenagers arrived young enough to learn new ways and adapt, yet old enough to remember their culture and feel a strong identity with it. Those in the boarding schools had to learn how to cope with balancing two worlds—the all-Israeli environment in which they functioned daily, and the transplanted Ethiopian traditional culture in which they visited parents and relatives newly arrived in Israel. All must cope with the ramifications of a much greater generation gap than in normal parent-child relationships because the parents, much slower to learn Hebrew and the Israeli lifestyle, relied heavily on their children to make decisions for the family.
In the push toward rapid acculturation, it was often easy to concentrate on the dramatic aspects of their rescue, and to expect gratitude for the health and safety Israel offered, without adequately remembering the shock and trauma that had preceded each Ethiopian’s arrival. They were saved,
but from a birthland they loved, and at the cost of many personal and cultural losses. For many, parents and relatives would never arrive in Israel. Every child was in mourning for someone, and in a state of continuing worry over the worsening plight of those still in Ethiopia.
In this state of trauma and grief, health was a major subject. Health problems of the children were connected to actual physical ailments, but also to cultural differences in perceptions of sickness. These teenagers were thin, but had not been victims of severe malnutrition. They were generally healthy since severely physically or mentally limited children would not have been able to make the long trek by foot out of Ethiopia.
In addition to serious ailments like malaria and stomach parasites, there were many daily complaints of headaches and stomachaches. It was usually quite difficult to diagnose and treat these since the origins of the problem had numerous possibilities. Sometimes they simply didn’t drink enough water and had to be encouraged to drink more frequently. Some aches were reactions to strange, new foods, or were side effects of the trauma they had been through. Of course, there was homesickness as well as worry over parents and relatives who had not arrived in Israel. Sometimes they simply wanted to sleep longer, or give themselves a plausible excuse to stay huddled under blankets in a winter climate more cold and harsh than any they had ever experienced in Africa. Being sick was also a way of avoiding a long, rigorous day of studying Hebrew, especially since many had had little or no formal education in Ethiopia. Some suffered from learning disabilities that could not be properly diagnosed or given specialized, professional attention in the first several months.
Some aches and pains were responses to stress, or to gain attention. In the Ethiopian culture, someone who is ill is put to rest, relieved of all responsibilities, and has food brought to him. The Ethiopian boys interpreted the Israelis’ casual attitude toward minor illnesses as a lack of warmth or caring for them.
The expectations that doctors and modern technology could solve all medical problems instantly and completely also led to disillusionment and an unloved, uncared for feeling. The high level of expectation that all could be cured in Israel was particularly problematic in children with psychosomatic ailments. They complained often and loudly, and wanted to be constantly taken to outpatient clinics, or even for hospitalization. The other Ethiopian children exhibited endless patience and sympathy for those who regularly complained of illness.
At our boarding school, out of 42 children, we had four fairly serious cases of depression. Their depression was expressed through apathy, psychosomatic illness, extreme anger focused on some relatively minor complaint, rebellious behavior, or talk of suicide. The staff was warned to take all talk of suicide seriously. While not a part of their culture in Ethiopia, suicide was a reaction to the stresses of absorption by teenagers as well as adults. There had in fact been several suicides around the country.
Talk of hanging began at our boarding school shortly after the celebration of Purim, a Jewish holiday in which the hanging of the villain is part of the history. This holiday, and the beginning of talk of suicide, came about three months after the children’s arrival. In those three months, much of the newness of their experiences had become more commonplace, and the homesickness had had a chance to set in. By this time, their dream-like expectations of Israel had confronted reality and turned into impatience and disappointment. This was also a fertile time for depression because the mass of Ethiopian Jews had already arrived, and little hope was offered for others still in Ethiopia. Israel is itself an extremely familycentered society, and these children had come from even closer extended family ties. Being without at least one parent was a terrible deprivation even though other relatives may have arrived in Israel. Death was also prominent in their minds because they were receiving word of the deaths of parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters, uncles, aunts, cousins. Whereas lack of a common language for communication sometimes led to hilarious pantomiming and guessing, or was an annoying inconvenience, it was a definite liability in trying to respond to deep depression or suicide attempts.
Along with knowledge of an expanded world came the desire to acquire material goods. This led to much complaining, and in some cases, actual stealing. Clothing became a highly emotionally charged issue, taking on the burden of generalized frustrations with their new world. Exacerbated by staff problems with purchasing and distribution, items of clothing became significant symbols to the children of whether or not they would be properly loved and cared for in Israel. Having come with only a few tattered clothes, they were at first extremely grateful for everything they received. However, after a few weeks, they complained endlessly about every item of clothing. To add fuel to their discontent, the wide, baggy style of Israeli clothing insulted their concept of tight fitting clothes as what looked best on them. Not being used to shoes, they were sensitive to the smell inside the shoes after being worn. Thus, they continually subjected all shoes, including leather, to vigorous and frequent washing in spite of being repeatedly told that it made the shoes fall apart.
The Israeli students at the boarding school watched the Ethiopians receiving free clothing and called them spoiled
in Hebrew. The Ethiopians openly called the Israelis jealous
in Hebrew. Thus began the conflict between the Israeli and Ethiopian students. Compared to the parents and grandparents of the mainly Sephardic Israelis at our boarding school who had come to Israel in the earlier North African waves of immigration, the Ethiopians were received in grand style. Not only did these Ethiopian newcomers share the same school, rights and privileges as the Israeli boys, but they also received special consideration, free clothing and supplies, plus a lot of attention.
Cultural differences in temperament and fighting techniques compounded the initial jealousy of the Israeli teens who perceived the Ethiopians as imposing on their
school territory. Ethiopians, as a rule, are quiet and dignified, reserved and sensitive individuals. In contrast, Israelis are apt to threaten loudly and grandiosely, backing up their macho stance with heavy-handed fists. The Ethiopian children, unused to idle threats and hero talk, and inexperienced in fist fighting, became genuinely frightened for their safety.
Ethiopian children learn the art of stone throwing as sport, and as self-defense. Not only aren’t the Israeli boys particularly adept at throwing rocks, but there is, of course, a real danger of serious injury. The pattern became one of an Israeli insulting an Ethiopian or threatening him physically until the Ethiopian picked up a rock. A threat to one became a rallying cry to all. The Israeli boys would then goad the rock-holding Ethiopians into throwing. That then gave the Israelis, they felt, justification to attack the Ethiopians.
There were many repercussions to such interactions, including smashing the Ethiopians’ expectation of being accepted as an equal in Israel, a first realization of being black in a white world, and a punitive reaction against the Ethiopians by the staff of the school. At first, the Ethiopians asked me, Why don’t they want us here?
They later expanded the question to Why don’t the Israelis want us?
And, after some Israelis made an issue of their being black, the Ethiopians asked me, Why don’t the whites want us?
Thus, it went through the stages of we—they, Israeli—Ethiopian, to white—black.
No doubt one of the most confusing and distressing aspects of the entry of the Ethiopian Jews into the modern world was not the realization that they were black, but that, to some people, color mattered. They had come from an all-black society unique even in Africa because whites had never dominated Ethiopia. All friends as well as foes had been black. With limited or no knowledge of blacks in the rest of the world, they knew no color line experientially or intellectually. Ethiopian Jews had suffered persecution in Ethiopia and Sudan because of being Jewish, but never because of their color. They came to Israel with a deeper feeling of connection to other Jews than to non-Jewish Ethiopians.
I, as a white American, had grown up aware of a white/black boundary in relationships, even if very subtle. I felt a definite difference with these children to whom there was no color line. I rejoiced in their open and easy acceptance of me. More than once I could see the confusion and hurt pride in their eyes after an Israeli-Ethiopian confrontation. Some began to make comments about wishing they were white, or comparing their shade of brown to each other. They had had no reason in their all-black world to develop a protective shield. Such a consciousness began to develop.
While censoring the actions and words of the Israeli boys, the staff reacted punitively to the Ethiopians because of the danger in rock throwing. The Ethiopians took criticism of their form of self-defense as a further sign of being unwanted and unprotected. The Israeli staff knew how to use disciplinary action on Israelis who are guided from a very early age into a group consciousness and a deep feeling of responsibility for others in the group. When one Israeli in a group is disciplined, it serves as a warning and deterrent to the others. These same assumptions did not hold true of the group consciousness of the Ethiopian teenagers. Although they responded protectively as a group if one of their members were attacked by an Israeli, they were much more self-centered. Making an example of one child did not have the same impact. While they had very close ties to their many blood kin, they did not necessarily extend this social responsibility far beyond bloodlines.
In conjunction with a self-centered view that had been stretched to an even greater extreme because of having had to survive under hostile conditions in Ethiopia and Sudan, they did not see, or care, that their individual actions could somehow affect the group. This was evident in survival issues, such as stealing clothing and food, as well as in play. Never having developed a sense of team competition in Ethiopia, they often spoiled competitive games by, for example, dropping out of relay races if they became bored or uninterested, or simply ruining the goal if they became frustrated with a game. Other members of the group tolerated such tactics.
They did not accept consequences of their own actions. Wanting to emphasize the positive and improve classroom behavior, I set up a system with their teachers giving out points to each student according to effort and progress. These points could later be redeemed for items of their choosing that they would not ordinarily receive. The system eventually broke down completely because they blamed the teachers for not giving them enough points, and me for not giving each of them equal rewards, regardless of the number of points they had earned.
They could also exhibit an amazing capacity for group behavior that could escalate to spontaneous and contagious group hysteria well beyond normal teenage peer group influence. This phenomenon was potentially always present whether in what might be considered important issues as well as fairly trivial ones. One had to be very cautious in extending permission to one child for something as simple, for example, as ironing a pair of pants because almost immediately many of the other children appeared with items to iron.
Another baffling challenge of working with these children was how to deal with young teenagers who had developed a premature independence and general mistrust of everyone but himself. While most of the children had faced the trauma of separation from family and familiar surroundings for some months, a couple of the children had left home at about age 11 and had spent three years on their own as refugees in Sudan. Such children did not fall back into dependency and malleability. The self-centeredness that had kept them alive did not disappear with inclusion in a warm, protected group. Reunion with their parents did not turn them back into compliant children. This type of child was more isolated from the other children. They possessed a confusing configuration of child, adult, and teenage qualities that made dealing with their needs in a group situation more complicated.
A major shock to Ethiopians upon arrival to Israel was the discovery that the majority of Israelis were certainly Jewish, but not religious. They had expected all Israelis to be observant Jews. The Orthodox Jews in Israel, to whom the Ethiopians felt the closest religiously, followed many different customs in their religious observance to which the Ethiopians had to adjust. The children in the boarding school spent hours daily learning and praying by Orthodox Jewish standards. The demand of the Orthodox Israeli leaders that Ethiopians had to undergo symbolic conversion before receiving permission to marry in Israel horrified and humiliated the proud Ethiopian Jews. Having been persecuted for centuries as Jews by non-Jews, they came to Israel expecting non-conditional acceptance as Jews by Jews.
Jan. 4, 1985
The boarding school has become their home, and I have temporarily become their mother. They call me my mother
in Hebrew with all the sweetness of homesick children missing their mothers. There is added poignancy because most aren’t sure they will ever see their mothers again.
One child just left to visit relatives today. He didn’t know until he arrived that it was because his mother had died in Ethiopia. There seem to be several now without one or both parents.
Although their Hebrew is coming along well, I wish there were more words between us. When I think of the hours I sat in social work classes discussing nuances of words and how important it is to use just the right words in therapy, I wonder how I can ever do an adequate job here in my childish Hebrew along with their baby Hebrew.
They are basically eating well, but generally avoid cucumbers and don’t like hard cheese, figs, and dates. They’ll try some new foods, but they all refuse to eat olives and small fish.
Clothing remains a constant source of friction. I think wanting more and more regardless of need is a desire for attention and something tangible to make them feel cared for. But, in spite of the draining battles over clothing, I looked around at the handsome, freshly scrubbed faces of my kids at a recent group meeting with the director, and I felt very proud of them and proud to have become so closely connected to them.
I’m learning not to get alarmed when I hear their sharp intake of breath when they’re listening to me. It is apparently the Ethiopian equivalent of uh-huh
to show they’re listening.
Jan. 5, 1985
The Orthodox reverence for the sanctity of Shabbat is one of the ways I have felt the strength of the Orthodox believers I’m living among at the school. Unfortunately, on this particular Saturday, after I enjoyed a very quiet Shabbat sleeping and writing some letters, the place exploded. It was the Ethiopians against the Israelis. I took away a handcrafted wooden weapon from one boy just as he was about to clobber two Israelis who had come up to the Ethiopians’ floor. Both sides know how to goad one another, and then there are the wild ones who are very hard to control when they get angry. When the rocks started flying, I retreated with two confiscated weapons to a high rock. Yosef came up to me to ask if I was afraid and to make sure no Israeli had hurt me. In the middle of all this, my friend and her boyfriend arrived with a trunkful of games and clothes for the Ethiopians.
Dov, the director of the boarding school, came by and I told him the children were collecting weapons to fight at night and that we definitely needed an Amharic-speaking counselor there. They gathered all the Ethiopian kids together. The rabbi told them that there had never been a problem of rock throwing here, or of groups against groups. He raised his voice gruffly and said that children who did not behave would be sent away. Some of the kids wanted to talk, but they weren’t allowed to speak. A couple of the boys began to cry. They were feeling unloved, unwanted, and unlistened to. I could take it no longer and left the room when I, too, started to cry.
Jan. 8, 1985
This schedule is crazy. It is now 2:30 a.m. Today had definite extremes of positive and negative. Yosef was at my door promptly after breakfast when I didn’t appear and asked, What happened to you?
He and Gadi came in and spent some time listening to the tapes and then went off to class. Uri woke me up a little later on the pretext of needing more pills. I gave him some attention instead. I brought Moshe to my room and showed him how to