Still in My Arms
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Amy E. von Oven
I am a thirty year old wife and mother of four children. I thought I had life figured out until my forth child was stillborn at 37 weeks, and my world came crashing down around me. I have been in Church my entire life, but have never had my faith tested like this before. My husband Brad and I have been married for ten years and he has been my rock throughout this battle in our lives. This journey has truly changed us forever as we are learning to live life again with our children.
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Still in My Arms - Amy E. von Oven
© 2011 Amy E. von Oven. All rights reserved.
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First published by AuthorHouse 06/02/2011
ISBN: 978-1-4567-4864-7 (ebk)
ISBN: 978-1-4567-4865-4 (hc)
ISBN: 978-1-4567-4866-1 (sc)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2011908615
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Dedicated to our Sweet Daughter
Bethany Hope von Oven
May 3, 2009
7 lbs 3oz 21 in
Forever in our hearts
About Me
I am a thirty year old wife and mother of four children. My husband Brad and I have been married for ten years and he has been my rock throughout this battle in our lives. This journey has truly changed us forever as we are learning to live life again with our children.
I just recently completed my Bachelor’s Degree in Early Childhood Education, although I have been blessed to be a stay at home mom for the last ten years. We live in Georgia with our children who are eleven, eight and five. Each and every day they teach me that life is a blessing and they are a miracle. I have learned that life is short and to never take any moment for granted. God is the giver of life, and we are not guaranteed our next breath. Today and everyday, God allows me to remain on this Earth and I choose to live for Him and glorify His name.
Table of Contents
• Day 1- The beginning
• Day 2-The Hospital
• Day 3-May 6-The Memorial Lunch
• Day 4-The Funeral
• Day 5- Prayers
• Day 6-Emptiness
• Day 7-Broken plans
• Day 8-Rest
• Day 9-Lost Memories
• Day 10-New Pain
• Day 11–Learning to Dance in the Rain
• Day 12-Strength
• Day 13-Challenge
• Day 14-Lost
• Day 15-Fear
• Day 16- Genuine Hurt
• Day 17-My Heavy Heart
• Day 18-Empty Guilt
• Day 19-Regret or Joy
• Day 20-Faith
• Day 21-Bitterness
• Day 22-Blessings
• Day 23-New Life
• Day 24-Power
• Day 25– Confused
• Day 26-Contentment
• Day 27-Jealousy
• Day 28- Hidden treasures
• Day 29- Inspiration
• Day 30- Complete Restoration
• Day 31- True Peace
• Day 32-It’s all an Attitude!
• Day 33- Right or Wrong?
• Day 34-JOY
• I Will Praise You in This Storm
By: Casting Crowns
• Finding Jesus Christ
• Resources
Day 1- The beginning
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Matthew 5:4
May 3, 2009 is a day I will never forget. Although many of the memories are vague in my mind, I will never forget the reality of that day! May 2, was a beautiful Saturday filled with joy and laughter. I woke up anxious and exited to start the day. I was having a baby shower at our church, and although I am always nervous at social gatherings with me as the center of attention, I was elated.
The baby shower was beautiful and yet exhausting. By the time I returned home I had been gone a total of five hours. I was tired, swollen, hungry, and all of the other so called clichés very pregnant women seem to experience late in pregnancy!
It had been a long hot day, not to mention that I was 37 weeks pregnant and feeling rather large and ready for this baby to come. I quietly sat in the nursery and put away the wonderful gifts we had received and laughed at all the pink stuff we had been given, considering we did not know if it was a boy or girl!
Later that evening I finally crawled into bed to crash for the night. I gently placed my hands on my stomach expecting the baby to be moving, as she had done every night prior to this. As I anxiously watched the time continue to tick by with still no movement, I began to worry. My husband started pushing on my stomach and there was still no movement. After an hour, I decided I needed to head to the doctor.
I can still remember praying all the way to hospital that everything would be ok, but I think I knew that it was not ok. When I got to the hospital they quickly got me into a room and tried to find the baby’s heartbeat and yet a chilling silence saturated the entire room. I was beginning to feel very sick as they rolled the ultrasound machine over my stomach to reveal a curled up and lifeless baby girl. I laid my head back and cried, God no, God why?
The next few hours are somewhat of a blur. I don’t think I talked much; I just laid and cried. The next morning was Sunday, May 3, 2009. I was in a delivery room being induced to deliver my stillborn little girl. While most of the day is lost in my memories, I do remember the moment she was born. Three pushes and out she came. I did not see her - I simply laid my head back and closed my eyes as tears rolled down my face. My husband watched as her lifeless body came into the world. He fell to his knees and sobbed as he tightly held my hand.
Father, my whole body is numb as I fall into your arms. This moment in my life feels as though I have fallen into a dark hole. Hold me tight and guide me as I find my way through the unknown. Amen.
missing image file~I remember shaking uncontrollably as I sat in the cold hospital room waiting for my doctor to come in. I so desperately wanted my baby to start moving and for this to all be a very bad mistake. I could feel the presence of God so deeply, as if He was telling me that there was no mistake; she was really gone. What moments do you recall from your baby’s birth?
Day 2-The Hospital
"My God, my God, why have You forsaken me?
Why are You so far from saving me, from the words of my groaning?
O my God, I cry by day, but You do not answer,
and by night, but I find no rest" Psalms 22: 1-2
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