Moving Forward Sideways Like a Crab
By Shani Mootoo
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Jonathan Lewis-Adey was nine when his parents separated, and his mother, Sid, vanished entirely from his life. It is not until he is a grown man that Jonathan finally reconnects with his beloved lost parent, only to find, to his shock and dismay, that the woman he knew as “Sid” in Toronto has become an elegant man named Sydney living in his native Trinidad. For nine years, Jonathan has paid regular visits to Sydney on his island retreat, trying with quiet desperation to rediscover the parent he adored inside this familiar stranger, and to overcome his lingering confusion and anger at the choices Sydney has made.
At the novel’s opening, Jonathan is summoned urgently to Trinidad where Sydney, now aged and dying, seems at last to offer him the gift he longs for: a winding story that moves forward sideways as it reveals the truths of Sydney’s life. But when and where the story will end is up to Jonathan, and it is he who must decide what to do with Sydney’s haunting legacy of love, loss, and acceptance.
“The novel’s evocation of the light and sights of Trinidad, its tropical over-ripeness and the scary suddenness of night’s onset, are vivid. But most vivid of all is the sensitive, wise Sid/Syd, whose tragedy is to never have been loved the way she/he deserved.” —Toronto Star
“Mootoo’s character-driven novel is rich in setting and slow in pace, inviting the reader to linger over its closely observed details.” —Booklist
Shani Mootoo
SHANI MOOTOO is a novelist, poet, and visual artist. Her novels include Moving Forward Sideways Like a Crab, long-listed for the Scotiabank Giller Prize and short-listed for a Lambda Literary Award; Valmiki's Daughter, long-listed for the Scotiabank Giller Prize; He Drown She in the Sea, long-listed for the Dublin IMPAC Award; and Cereus Blooms at Night, short-listed for several prizes including the Giller Prize, and long-listed for the Man Booker Prize. In 2020 Mootoo received an honorary doctorate of letters from Western University, Canada. She is also a recipient of the K.M. Hunter Artist Award for Literature, the Chalmers Arts Fellowship, and the Dr. James Duggins Outstanding Mid-Career Novelist Prize.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5An amazing book by an Indian woman from Trinidad and Canada providing insights into the lives of transgendered individuals and those who love them.Moving Forward Sideways Like a Crab introduced me to the complex life of a person who was transgendered. For the first time I was able to understand at a visceral level how a person makes and lives with decisions about gender that I do not encounter in my own life. The book’s subject, and how well that subject is handled, make it an important and unique publication, especially for those of us living in limiting traditional communities.This book however is much more than its treatment of sexual minorities. Appropriately, characters are much more than their sexuality. A variety of themes are interwoven: loss and re-connection, migration and cultural difference, inter-generational relations, secrecy and death. . The writing is graceful and compelling. The landscapes of Trinidad and Toronto, where the book is set, are lushly portrayed both in terms of their physicality and of the differences of the people who live in each. One of the main characters is part of the Indian community that has long been a part of Trinidad. Hindu life and ritual is described.The plot is unusual and an excellent vehicle for the story. Jonathan grew up in Toronto, cared for primarily by his mother's partner. When the couple split, Jonathan's caregiver disappears, only to be rediscovered after Jonathan is a young man. Jonathan is intensely curious about the fact the person has changed gender, but holds back questions out of respect. Gradually Jonathan and the reader come to learn the full story.Shani Mootoo was raised in the Indian Trinidad community and moved to Canada as a young adult. Initially she devoted herself to creating films and videos, some of them widely praised. She has claimed that her interest in visual storytelling seemed safer to her than words after she was punished for telling about the sexual abuse she received as a young child. In writing her novels she displays both her visual and verbal gifts. In addition to her work in film, she has published several books of short stories, poems, and fiction. Her writing often focuses on issues of migration and sexual diversity.I strongly recommend this book to those interested in learning to appreciate those who are transgendered---and to anyone who is curious about people, or simply cares about excellence in writing. Akashic Books is to be congratulated for making available yet another excellent and important book.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5MOVING FORWARD SIDEWAYS LIKE A CRAB by Shani Mootoo was sent to me by Akashic Books in exchange for an unbiased and honest review. This title was first published by Doubleday Canada in 2014 and is being reprinted in the US by Akashic Books in 2017.This is a story about storytelling. How a story is understood by and shapes both the ‘teller’ and the ‘listener’.It is a story of unfolding layers - layers and layers of culture, ethnicity, origins, immigrant experiences and expectations, friendship, city life - island life, cold climate - tropical climate, Toronto - Trinidad, family expectations and relationships, gender, physical appearance, childhood experiences, lesbian and bisexual relationships, and storytelling.It is a very descriptive story - of language, place, local customs, city life, emotions. I was caught up on every page with descriptions - of snow, of the walk Sid makes to the clinic, the Hindu funeral rituals, Sid’s friendship with Zain. Mesmerizing.The story begins with a prologue of sorts - From Sydney’s Notebook; Moving Forward Sideways Like A Crab by Jonathan Lewis-Adey follows and is written in 3 parts with 12 chapters.Jonathan is born to a very independent and successful author, India Lewis-Adey. She is in a relationship at the time with artist and Trinidadian immigrant, Siddhani Mahale. ‘Sid’ in effect raises the young child (Jonathan) which leaves India time to fully concentrate on her writing career. When their relationship cools several years later, India tells Sid to leave and Sid can’t bring herself to say good-bye to young Jonathan. This begins Jonathan’s very deep feelings of abandonment.Many years later, Jonathan begins searching for Siddhani Mahale and is puzzled when he can only locate a Mr. Sydney Mahale in Trinidad. Sydney is indeed Sid and has undergone sex reassignment surgery. Sydney is now a female to man transsexual. Jonathan visits Sydney in Trinidad off and on for many years trying to reconnect with this very important parent figure. Jonathan is also trying to understand Sid/Sydney’s abandonment of him and his new transsexual self.Jonathan is always the ‘listener’ and when Sydney dies, Jonathan tries to understand Sydney through Sydney’s journals and letters as the ‘teller’.There are many strong characters in this story - Siddhani/Sydney Mahale, India Lewis-Adey, Jonathan Lewis-Adey, Zain - best friend, confidante and inner voice of Sid and later Sydney, Sydney’s staff in Trinidad, the mysterious Eric, Anta - who helps organize Sydney’s Hindu funeral.It is a very lyrical, poetic, emotional story - rich in its settings, emotions, gender and story-telling. I can’t stop thinking about this story and its participants.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5No character in MOVING FORWARD SIDEWAYS LIKE A CRAB is quite where he or she wants to be in life. Sydney is a woman who lives as a man, Zain is a married female not quite satisfied with the attention she gets within her traditional marriage, Jonathan is a grown man who is still the little boy inside, the young boy who was left by his mother's lover and whom he considered his second parent. Jonathan's mother, a peripheral character in the novel, is obsessed with her writing career and doesn't want to be pulled back in history - or so it seems - to either Sydney, her previous lover or to Jonathan, the son she had but let Sydney primarily raise until he was about ten. Mootoo's book about characters moving through life lacking something: a true gender, a sense of being loved, a need for attention is a thoughtful, very personal sounding contemplation told through Jonathan's memories, Sydney's journals, and Zain's letters. Their stories are interwoven into one, traveling from Canada and the told over-and-over-again story of the snowy cold day Sydney walked to the clinic to have her breasts removed, to Trinidad where Jonathan, Sydney, and the servants who work for him eat the most West Indian of food, look out over the most West Indian scenery, and live life in a very Trinidadian manner. The novel is compelling and one becomes interested in the characters. Mootoo's first novel, CEREUS BLOOMS AT NIGHT was much more West Indian in nature, with gender being more of a subplot. Now, in this book, Mootoo's fourth, gender identity takes first place and the West Indies come in second. It is almost as though an editor said "But you've lost that West Indian feeling! Get it back!" and Mootoo obliged by adding nature scenes, descriptions of food, and adding close-up looks at Trinidadian Hindu customs.There is much to like about MOVING FORWARD even though it is difficult to get to know Sydney (almost as if as a real-life person, Sydney would not let anyone too close), and the chief narrator, Jonathan, is not particularly likable, being a bit self-centered, feeling cheated of the years he spent without Sydney, wanting to be the son, but really wanting a mother and not the father that Sydney has become. Zain may be the most interesting character as she seems (through her letters) to say what she feels, and she gives love freely even though it may not be quite in the manner in which Sydney craves it.Mootoo introduced some interesting plot elements that were not followed up upon thoroughly and leave the reader a bit disappointed. There is a horrific murder of a main character, yet this is never totally addressed or totally resolved, even though most readers will be waiting to hear a different ending.For fans of Shani Mootoo, this book will not disappoint, but it will make one think: about why many move forward in life by moving "sideways," why there is so much dissatisfaction in relationships, how religion and community play into life choices, and what defines friendship. For those who are reading Mootoo for the first time, this may not be the best book to start with. Reading Mootoo's books chronologically may be helpful not only to allow a new reader to become acquainted with her style, but also so that her development as a writer can be clearly seen.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I enjoyed this literary novel about a middle-aged man resolving his relationship with the trans man who, as a woman, raised him for ten years then disappeared from his life. The author writes beautiful descriptions of Toronto winters and Trinidadian landscapes and food. The title Moving Forward Sideways Like a Crab describes the author's structure, moving obliquely through time with flashbacks, letters, and diaries unfolding the story of Sid/Sydney while jumping back and forth. I tend to prefer plot and action based stories, but Mootoo drew me in with her beautiful writing, compelling characters and an enduring mystery at the heart of the relationship between Sid/Sydney and his greatest love. For those who like literary novels add a star.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A moving and thought provoking story about a man looking for his mother Sid, only to find that Sid is now Sydney, a man living in Trinidad. Sydney is dying and wants to tell Jonathan about his life. A nuanced meander through the life of someone who never felt comfortable in her own skin.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5A compelling story well outlined by other reviewers before me. The search for one's lost parent and the gender issues combine to make a poignant story. It was confusing and perhaps unnecessary for Sid to not only be transgender, but also to have been the lesbian partner to Jonathan's biological mother during his early childhood. This was not well documented in the early chapters and not central to the story.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5A young man finally reconnects with the woman who raised him. After his mother and her girlfriend, Sid, broke up, a nurturing and loving figure vanished from his life. After years of searching he finds Sid, now Sydney living in his native Trinidad. Since they last saw each other Sydney has transitioned to living as a male. Hormones and surgery have completely changed the way he once looked. Now the two seek to reconcile before it is too late.It is a novel of forgiveness, loss, and rediscovery. A moving and lyrical tale about love that transcends time.
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Moving Forward Sideways Like a Crab - Shani Mootoo
Surely it is a failure of our human design that it takes not an hour, not a day, but much, much longer to relay what flashes through the mind with the speed of a hummingbird’s wing.
There is so little time left now, and what Jonathan wants to know and I to say are not the same.
I realize Jonathan is a grown man and can surely take whatever words I offer him, but what good would come of it if I were to tell him how, ten years into my relationship with his mother, India, she informed me that I was a disappointment? I would not want to encourage him to consider this, lest in doing so he concur.
Nor does he need to know that there was a time after his mother and I first met, in those months before he was born, when India would ask after our lovemaking, How did you know to do that?
Does he need to know that she gripped my shoulders and trembled?
Or, should he know? I wonder if he would believe it.
He certainly doesn’t need to know that after his birth, India and I grew cool with each other. And yet, nearly ten years later when we broke apart, I hadn’t stopped loving her. Should he know that? He would likely scoff at this pathetic admission. It might even appall him.
After India and I first met, in the months before I moved into her house, I saw my physical upkeep as part of a daily drama between her and me, and I made a job of keeping my body trim and groomed, my clothing and sheets washed and pressed, my shoes polished, my kitchen and bathroom clean and tidy, wine in the fridge and chocolate on my bedside table.
Ten years later, the list of what, it turned out, I was inept at doing included: putting up shelving in her office; organizing and cleaning the parts of the house where Jonathan and I spent time; enjoying myself—or at least giving the appearance of such—at parties thrown by her publisher and by various literary festivals. I didn’t make well enough of myself as an artist to be recognized by her peers. I failed to take Jonathan away often enough or long enough that she could have time to write. I indulged Jonathan too much.
My rendition of our rupture is, of course, one-sided, perhaps a little flippant, the rewriting of cold facts encouraged by time and distance. I once asked her, And you and me?
To which her response was a gesture of her hand toward and down the length of my body, a delicate nonverbalization of waning desire. After this, the relationship could not be sustained. It was India who spoke the words first, and a short time later, declaring the obvious was as good as insisting upon it. Over the course of a few months we became territorial, keeping our belongings, our agendas, our thoughts to ourselves.
Then one day I came home to find Charlie Bream standing in the doorway between the dining room and the kitchen. I couldn’t see India, but knew she was in the kitchen. Bream was almost as tall as the height of the doorway. He wore the whitest dress shirt I’d ever seen, long sleeves rolled just below his elbow, and gray wool trousers. He turned and, although I had never met him before, greeted me as if he and I were old buddies. I sat on the bench in the hallway taking much longer to remove my shoes than was necessary. Bream’s trousers were thick and heavy, and a black leather belt hugged him just below his waist. His black cap-toe oxfords with their blond inserts were neatly placed on the shoe mat. They were made in Italy. Size 44. One notices everything in such an instant. From where I sat I could smell Bream’s cologne. India, who in the ten years we had lived together would not boil an egg, was grilling croissants with ham and cheese. I was offered one, but declined and went upstairs to Jonathan’s room. There, I waited for Bream to leave. I lay on Jonathan’s bed and looked down the length of my own body. I had indeed let myself go.
I could hear Bream’s voice, and India’s. They spoke evenly and at a normal volume, which seemed as brazen as if they had been whispering.
Charlie Bream didn’t last, and he was not, it turned out, one of India’s more memorable encounters. But whenever I think of that time, I see in my mind an image of Charlie Bream in the doorway of the kitchen, and his shoes, made in Italy, size 44, on the mat in the entrance.
I could not bear to say goodbye to Jonathan and so I did not. India warned me not to try to fight her for any rights to Jonathan. As an immigrant, as a non-wage-earning person, and, most importantly, as a person without her connections, I would, she assured me, lose in every way. Yet for some time I did fight her, not to match her callousness nor for the principle of the thing, but for the love of the boy I had raised. His needs were the structure around which my days had been built. But that was a time when someone in my position had no legal recourse. India was right: I was outmatched. The irony is that it was Jonathan himself who was at the heart of our tug-of-war, and soon I was no longer willing to put him through our struggle.
After I left, I discovered that it was not only Jonathan I missed. India used to rub herself, after she’d showered, with rose oil. Its scent would waft into our bedroom. Even after I had returned to Trinidad I would be taken hostage by this scent rising up out of nowhere. Sometimes, I imagined I saw, in my peripheral vision, piles of folded laundry waiting to be put away: Jonathan’s little shirts and trousers, his underwear and T-shirts, India’s black V-neck Ts, her black skirts, her black underwear, her black jersey dresses, my blue jeans and black T-shirts, and the detergent scent of mountain air would fill my nostrils. I would turn my head quickly to find that I had been tricked by a pile of books, or simply by regret.
In the end, these are not the incidents and reflections I want to leave with Jonathan. And perhaps what he wants to know is something else, something more personal too.
I suppose I could explain to him that I came to realize that the imagining and dreaming, the wishing and the knowing that led bit by bit to the being I am today, had actually started long before I left Trinidad and went to live in Canada. Long before I met his mother. Long before he came into my life. How I have tried in the past to tell him—to tell him about Zain, that is—but he can’t seem to take it in. Now I must explain it to him one more time—how on that particular day in my childhood when I was in the classroom at the new secondary school to which I had transferred, a student I had just met, this Muslim girl named Zain, pinched my arm. How I grabbed her wrist and told her to stop. But it was too late. I had already felt the strange mix of power and fear that would haunt me forever. Perhaps that was why, upon finishing high school, I left Trinidad and immigrated to Toronto.
Granted, I never told him that on one of my visits back to Trinidad not long after I had parted with India, Zain and I were sitting on the sill of her swimming pool, eating codfish balls and drinking lime juice—she by then an adult married woman and mother of two in a yellow-and-white two-piece bathing suit; I, the same age but feeling like some undecided, half-formed thing in my T-shirt and shorts; both our pairs of feet swinging beneath the surface of the water—and I told her in a rush about how one had to undergo psychiatric reviews to transform one’s self in the ways I’d just begun to think about, and that only if it were determined that one’s mental health was compromised would the insurance pay for what was needed. Zain was quiet for a while. Then, as she slid into the water, she said, That’s a shame, because there isn’t anything crazy about you.
She swam off and dipped under the water. Up came her feet, toes pointed at the sky. She stayed like that for a good minute.
I could tell Jonathan how a couple years later, during another visit, Zain pressed into my hand an envelope bulging with American hundred-dollar bills that, ever since that conversation beside the pool, she had been saving.
And some time after that gesture, I could say, I arrived one cold and snowy morning at a building in Toronto, entered a room at an appointed time with a bagful of cash, and changed my life forever. And I could leave it at that. Perhaps these are the stories that would satisfy Jonathan. But they are only a fraction of the truth, and I need to tell him the rest. I need to tell him how I have battled with the belief that had I only been a different person, Zain would be alive today. Had I been a different person. This, more than anything, is what needs to be said. Still, that would be only a fraction of the story.
In the end, I hope that Jonathan will understand why, after coming to Canada in search of some sort of authenticity, after living in Toronto for more than three decades, I returned home—I returned, that is, to live again in Trinidad. But how do I explain it so that he doesn’t think I ran away, gave up, failed?
One more chance is all I ask for. But time is against me, and there is so much to tell.
1
It amuses me how the instant the fasten-seatbelts sign is turned off during the flight from Toronto to Port of Spain, Trinidadians get up and strut about. They seem to know one another; they congregate in the aisles unabashedly airing their business, telling jokes, heckling each other or reminiscing. Their anticipation is palpable. Some begin the journey as strangers, but through conversations struck up in the interminable lineups at the airport or during the five-hour flight itself, they inevitably learn that they know someone in common, or are even related. I have always envied their ease and willing camaraderie, and having been to their island numerous times over the past decade, have often wanted to contribute my penny’s worth; but discretion—on account of being just a visitor to the island—has prevailed.
On the approach to Trinidad, as the plane comes in from the Caribbean Sea toward the dense blue of the Northern Range—where there is always the surprise of mountainside villages comprising three or four houses glimpsed through the clouds—another sign of anticipation occurs: passengers lower their voices and withdraw into more private preoccupations. Once the mountains are achieved, there is silence on board. The hub of Port of Spain suddenly appears and I take pleasure in being able to spot the Queen’s Park Savannah, the NETT Building, and the Lapeyrouse Cemetery before the plane heads out over the sea again, over the Gulf of Paria, where it circles into position to glide in to the airport, first over the Caroni Swamp and then over the fertile belly of the Caroni Plains.
Is it already two months since that last flight down? Although I could not have imagined then the full extent of what lay in store for me, I sensed that my life was on the verge of another of its ruptures, and I feared that this was, perhaps, to be my final trip here. And so I did not merely observe the passengers, as had been my habit since my first trip here almost a decade ago (my first trip as an adult, that is; the very first happened some thirty years ago when I was a child), and neither did I merely watch the view from the plane window; this time I tried to ensnare in my mind every detail of all that went on around me and all that passed outside the window. As we headed over the plains to the airport, I savored the sight of the bamboo-lined, snaking Caroni River and, on either side of it, the farmers’ houses sitting amidst remnants of cane fields, and the pigeon pea plots and the black-water rice paddies our reflection sailed across.
The usual pleasure of a visit to the island was tainted this time by apprehension, and so naturally I recalled the first time I had come here looking for Sid. After years without a clue as to Sid’s whereabouts, Internet technology had put at my fingertips the means to realize my dream of finding the parent who had deserted my mother and me when I was ten years old. Resentment at having been dropped so flatly had plagued me since that time. In junior high school I had attempted to register my unhappiness: I’d failed at every subject save for art and English literature and composition, and had embarked on a path of delinquency that included smoking at home and on the school grounds, skipping school, not doing homework—to name the most benign of my transgressions. One might say that I had no imagination when, in order to escape being at home with my mother, I hid away in the reading booths at the Toronto Reference Library on Yonge Street. But there in the booths I lost myself in chronicling my longings and grievances in a notebook. The school psychologist, with whom I was now well acquainted, encouraged me to show him the notebook, and it was with his sustained provocation and encouragement that I began in earnest to turn the facts of my early life into short fictional narratives and poems.
For years, well past high school, I managed to keep from my mother any knowledge of this scribbling, or the fact that it had become a passion. I did not attend university, but found instead a job as a clerk in a health-food store on Bloor Street at Spadina. This seemed to both please and unsettle my mother, but still I kept from her what I thought of as my real work. When I eventually signed a contract for my first book with her publisher, it was without her knowledge. I will never be sure that the publisher was not simply doing her a favor when he took me on. Perhaps, too, he might have thought that investing in the work of the son of one of his most successful authors made good business sense. My mother received news of that first book’s release with undisguised consternation. She read the novel in one sitting. I waited for her response, ostrich-like, hoping that she would ignore the autobiographical nature of the work and see only the craft. The instant I glimpsed her face, I knew that there would be little conversation about the book. I was right. Oh, Joji, get over it, will you? Please,
was all she said. Nevertheless, over the course of some years, two more books followed. On reading the second, India said, You’re not at all a bad writer, but you’re repeating yourself.
I can’t deny that with each book’s publication I hoped that hype about them would attract Sid’s attention. If Sid were to read any of my works, my thoughts went, she would surely find in them reflections of our past life together and my present longing, and would contact me and our reconciliation would happen. But no such thing occurred, and to make matters more unbearable, my books were not much of a success. Nevertheless, my publisher—my mother’s publisher, I remind myself—maintained an interest in me. Pressed to present a new manuscript for his consideration, I tried for years, in vain, to come up with stories and themes that veered away from my personal experiences. When I realized I couldn’t write anymore, or so it appeared, I sank into a long depression during which there were periods when I pointed squarely at Sid’s cold-hearted departure for what I saw as my failures. I took to hiding out again at the reference library, my laptop, unused now for word processing, the gateway out of my morass. And it was in this way that my depression and bitterness were reshaped, at the computer, into the hope of reconciliation—if not between Sid and my mother, then at least between Sid and me—and my search became an obsession. I imagined daily what it would be like if and when Sid and I were reacquainted.
The reality was not quite so swift or easy. Over the course of several years I typed the name Sid Mahale into the Google search box and found that while there were quite a few Sid Mahales in the world, none jumped out as immediate possibilities. Images that appeared beside that name were interesting but useless: a book that did not have any clear relationship to the name; photos of parklands, flowers, dogs. There was one image of a pyramid-shaped bottle of perfume, one of a pile of burning car tires, and a few of the banks of the River Ganges.
I managed to find e-mail addresses for every Sid Mahale whose profile glancingly resembled that of my Sid’s, and over time I wrote letters of inquiry to them all and kept my fingers crossed. To my surprise, all my letters received responses, but invariably they ended with the hope that I would soon find their namesake.
My Sid Mahale was Trinidadian, had immigrated to Toronto more than forty years ago, and was a visual artist—a painter. I eventually found an announcement on the Internet for an exhibition of paintings by a Sid Mahale at a gallery in Queens in New York, and bought a plane ticket there. As I recall this now, I am impressed by my own recklessness and the utter hope contained in that impulsive gesture. On the night of the opening I arrived at the so-called gallery, a narrow and claustrophobic living room, to find that this Sid Mahale was a thin young woman in her second year at art school. Her family was Ugandan and she knew no Trinidadians with the same surname. I bought one of her smaller paintings for a hundred and seventy-five dollars.
At the time I had no idea if my Sid had remained in Toronto, was still working as an artist, had gone elsewhere in Canada or to some other part of the world, or had returned to Trinidad. For some reason Trinidad was the last place I looked; it only occurred to me to do so when I didn’t find her in Toronto, in New York, or elsewhere. I certainly didn’t rush here. Hindsight suggests that in spite of my obsession with my search, I must have chosen to spin my wheels. Perhaps I knew in the depths of my being that it would be difficult, and possibly more painful than it was worth, to reconnect with a parent who had left me without word and had never made any attempt to be in touch. And so, after a while, the search degenerated into the idea of the search, and for a time it was my romance.
Sometimes there are elaborate calculations that lead to action, and sometimes there is no cognition, just action impetuously taken. For me, it was as simple as awakening one morning nine years ago and knowing instantly that I would go to Trinidad. There is no point in attempting to find a deeper understanding; I was simply and truly ready.
Thirty years or so ago, my mother, Sid, and I had visited Sid’s parents’ house in Trinidad. That was the true first visit to the island for me, and it had taken place one year before the dreadful split-up. On the morning nine years ago when I bolted awake with my new resolve, I remembered that the Mahale house was in a small town called San Fernando. In the Google search box I typed, Sid Mahale San Fernando, Trinidad, and a message came up asking if I meant Sydney Mahale San Fernando, Trinidad. I decided to try again. Sid’s father was a doctor, but I didn’t remember his first name, so I typed in Dr. Mahale followed by San Fernando and Trinidad, and up popped an obituary from a newspaper. And there in the obituary I found Sid’s full name: Siddhani. My heart pounded in excitement. I wrote, Siddhani Mahale San Fernando Trinidad, and a message came up asking again, Did you mean Sydney Mahale San Fernando Trinidad? On the link for Sydney Mahale San Fernando Trinidad there was no image to search under, but knowing that Trinidad is a small country and remembering the joking between Sid and my mother that all Trinidadians were related or knew each other, I thought that this Sydney might know of my Sid. It crossed my mind that I might discover this Sydney Mahale was, like myself, one of Sid’s sons. If so, he might be, I supposed, a real son. The real son. This caused some jealousy, I’ll admit. But he’d be a brother of sorts too, I reasoned. I had liked the island as a child and I was already consumed by the idea of a trip. Perhaps I would be lucky, but if not, the trip would not be wasted; I had always felt an affinity for the place, and I could spend a week in Trinidad doing a bit of writing, hiking in the Northern Range, and looking for the places I’d visited during that long-ago childhood trip, and perhaps I could attach to this another week in Tobago snorkeling.
The telephone book in my San Fernando hotel room was not an inch thick, and included residential and business numbers. It could not have been easier; while there was no Sid Mahale, I did find Sydney Mahale. I picked up the receiver several times to make the phone call, but decided instead to take a taxi to the address in the phone book.
Sydney Mahale’s house was not, as I had expected, in the south of the island, but in the northwest. A man I would later come to know as Lancelot met me at the gate and asked whom he might tell Mr. Sydney was there to see him. I gave him my name, Jonathan Lewis-Adey, but added that Mr. Mahale might very well not know of me. I waited for what seemed like an eternity before the same man, Lancelot, returned and unlocked the gate’s three padlocks. He pulled open the gate and invited me in. Halfway up the yard an older gentleman with an unsteady gait approached. It dawned on me that this was Sydney Mahale, and I realized at once that a person of this age could not be a child of Sid. He and my Sid were very likely of the same age. The gentleman and I looked at each other and I made the gesture of offering my hand in greeting. But before I could understand what was happening, my heart heaved. The eyes. I knew them. The smile. It was not a resemblance. The smile was the same. I was overcome by a dreadful panic. I could hardly breathe. Sydney Mahale did not shake my extended hand, but pulled me to him. I went like a child, and although I was a great deal taller than I had been when I was ten, I pressed my head to the shoulder of this person, once a mother to me, and I cried like a child.
That was nine years ago. On finding Sydney Mahale, I had encountered not the parent who had from the first day of my life loved and understood me better than anyone else, including my mother, but a stranger who confounded and challenged me. Still, I came every year from then on to be with him, sometimes more than once a year. I would often stare at Sydney, baffled that inside this unfamiliar being resided the