Brave Face: A Memoir
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“Razor-sharp, deeply revealing, and brutally honest…emotionally raw and deeply insightful.” —Booklist (starred review)
The critically acclaimed author of We Are the Ants opens up about what led to an attempted suicide in his teens, and his path back from the experience.
“I wasn’t depressed because I was gay. I was depressed and gay.”
Shaun David Hutchinson was nineteen. Confused. Struggling to find the vocabulary to understand and accept who he was and how he fit into a community in which he couldn’t see himself. The voice of depression told him that he would never be loved or wanted, while powerful and hurtful messages from society told him that being gay meant love and happiness weren’t for him.
A million moments large and small over the years all came together to convince Shaun that he couldn’t keep going, that he had no future. And so he followed through on trying to make that a reality.
Thankfully Shaun survived, and over time, came to embrace how grateful he is and how to find self-acceptance. In this courageous and deeply honest memoir, Shaun takes readers through the journey of what brought him to the edge, and what has helped him truly believe that it does get better.
Shaun David Hutchinson
Shaun David Hutchinson is the award-winning author of several books for young adults and the editor of multiple young adult anthologies. A native Floridian, Shaun currently resides in Seattle, where he spends his free time running, baking, and designing virtual worlds. He can be found online at shaundavidhutchinson.com or on Twitter @shauniedarko.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Moving story. Upsetting events. Easy to relate to. I couldn't stop reading it. Thank you Shaun Hutchinson!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Thanks to the Shaun the writer, for writing this autograph so honestly.This book is also well written. It was not easy to write down the dark times, embarrassing moments, doubts, what you were longing for when you were a teenager. Your experiences as a gay ,had a mentally depressions,and the complexity of the social situation at his teenage time, were widen my knowledge and make me understand more about anyone who is in your shoes.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5An interesting perspective for those of us willing to listen and learn. While we might have some differences, this book also showed me the similarities and helped form a better understanding between myself and others.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5teen/adult memoir (depression, attempted suicide, struggling with queer identity and coming out as gay teen/young adult)
I skipped the suicide chapters (thanks for the helpful content warnings, Shaun) but did slowly make my way through the rest of the story. This was a very deliberately written account of the author's experiences with serious depression--as he says, it's not always as simple as 'it gets better' where mental health is concerned.
I do worry about some of the youth I work with and am learning to better recognize some of the signs that they may need help. I think this is a valuable book that I hope will be helpful to many who may be going through some of the same things and I am also glad that Shaun made it through both as a person and as a writer of books that I enjoy and find worthwhile. Thank you for writing this. - Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I remember the first line of the book Angela’s Ashes by Frank McCourt: “When I look back on my childhood I wonder how I survived at all. It was, of course, a miserable childhood: the happy childhood is hardly worth your while. Worse than the ordinary miserable childhood is the miserable Irish childhood, and worse yet is the miserable Irish Catholic childhood.”Shaun Hutchinson’s BRAVEFACE reminds me of McCourt’s words. All teens have angst and feel miserable much of the time. Now add to it that you are a gay male teen in the nineties living in a world of degrading stereotypes and misinformation about “gayness.” It is one thing to be a lonely teen, but that loneliness is compounded when dealing with internal pressures that you aren’t quite sure how to deal with…or how others will deal with it.I am a 50-something, straight, married woman who works with teens and writes novels for a living. While Shaun was trying to make his way through the murky waters of gay adolescence, I was living in LA. As a hard-working actress at the time, the majority of my male friends were gay. I am sure that some gay men fall into the stereotypical categories that movies of the day displayed: overly dramatic and flamboyant, or oversexed pedophiles. But none of my gay friends were any of these things. They were educated well-versed men of varying backgrounds, religions, philosophies, and temperaments. Just like straight people. They wanted love and families and peace and friendship, just like straight people. The plus side for me having gay male friendships (and this is still true today) is that there is no sexual tension. I love having friends who truly like me for me the person, and not just me the woman. (By the way, I have many lesbian friends as well.)That said, I thought I knew more about gay culture than many. But I was wrong.Shaun educated me with his personal story. Written in refreshingly honest, darkly humorous, and oftentimes beautiful prose, I learned how truly difficult it was for him to come out, especially in an era when gay bashing was a popular pastime. Shaun introduced me to an internal and emotional world I had never analyzed. Sure, I figured it was hard to come out to parents and friends; thought it was even harder to show feelings toward another man in the same way heterosexuals show their feelings. But I had no idea how much anxiety could be caused by living in a world that 1) may not understand the fears associated with being gay; 2) may not care about their fears; and 3) sometimes exacerbate those fears either intentionally or unintentionally.My husband had a gay uncle who I will call Bill. His partner, who I will call Jim, was with him for forty years. Bill was an artist and antique dealer and had been left many properties by his gay friends who had passed, and whose families had disowned them. This was apparently a thing in Southern Cali back in the day (and perhaps still is) for gay men to leave their estates to friends. But Bill did something I had never heard of: He legally adopted his partner Jim. Just like you would adopt a child. He did this per the advice of his attorney so that when he died, everything would go to the hands of his partner instantaneously. They were forewarned that family members would come crawling out of the woodwork, these same members who had shunned and often belittled their gay relatives. And that’s exactly what happened. As soon as Bill died, creepy relatives came forward to reap their unearned rewards. Thankfully, the story has a happy ending: the relatives were paid a small sum before slithering back into their holes, and Jim was taken care of until the day he passed.While it may seem like a digression, I offer this story to prove a point: The gay community is filled with millions of tales like this one, or like Shaun’s. Feeling like the odd-man out. Wanting to be accepted in a world that still barely recognizes gays as real-life human beings and not just cartoon characters some straight people conjure up; trying to get past the stereotypes and bigotry that often come in the form of homophobic rhetoric and behavior; and mostly, just trying to survive in an effed-up world. In other words, if you think it’s hard to be a person today at any age, in any environment, in any situation, imagine how difficult it is for those who are fearful of hurting their parents, angering their neighbors, shocking their friends.Thanks, Shaun, for opening up the window into the soul of what it is to be a gay man, and what it is to come out. And not just for that: for reminding the reader that we all are the same deep down…we just want to be who we are without being judged by a jury when we have done nothing wrong to begin with.Readers, give this book to your friends. Let it be a bridge. Allow it to open dialogue with your children. And remember that whether you are gay, straight, or somewhere in between, you are a person. You deserve to be heard, to be understood, and to be loved. After all, we are all in this together
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A memoir I can highly recommend to to students. Hutchinson tells his story of coming out and dealing with depression. His writing is swift and readable.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book was a remarkable journey. It was one of those books that I left a trail through ... turned down corners at places that contained perfect descriptions, thoughts I know I will want to go back to.
I read parts of this book aloud to my partner, sometimes because it was a funny line, sometimes because I had never read a more perfect description of a feeling, thought .... or that nasty internal voice.
Not only is this book beautifully written, but it is also honest and candid in a way that many memoirs don't quite manage. I wish I had been able to read a book like "Brave" when I was a teenager but I'm thankful that so many young people now have the option. Thank you, Shaun.
And yes, Shaun David Hutchinson, smoking menthol cigarettes is EXACTLY like sucking minty hornets through a fire hose.
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Brave Face - Shaun David Hutchinson
PART 1
THE WRONG WORDS
JOURNAL ENTRY
1997
Every day, at least once, I silently wish I wasn’t gay. See, basically, being gay involves choices and fears. The choice is how to go about finding love. The fear is that I never will.
I feel so alone because I’m surrounded by people who can never understand exactly how I feel.
I know that I’m gay and I can’t do anything about the life I have to lead, but neither can I do anything with the life I have.
No matter what angle I try to look at things, the truth is that I’m a coward. I talk and strut, but what do I ever accomplish? I don’t know, it just seems like I’m running in an endless circle. I don’t want to look back on my life and regret the path I took. I look at my life presently though, and I hate and I hate and I hate . . .
VOCABULARY LESSON,
PART 1
Eighth Grade, 1991 to 1992
I KNEW WHAT IT MEANT to be a faggot, but not what it meant to be gay.
I was thirteen, in eighth grade at St. Mark’s Catholic School. Thankfully, this wasn’t a building filled with nuns who beat our knuckles with rulers. Our science teacher and vice principal was a woman with short hair who’d served in the military, rode a Harley to school, and taught us about both puberty and evolution. We attended daily religion class, which is where I did my homework for my other classes, and had mass once or twice a month, but I didn’t mind.
Despite not being Catholic, I liked St. Mark’s. It was nothing like my previous school, where I’d been frequently sent to the administrator’s office for counseling with the vice principal, who would beat my ass with a sandal and then pray for my eternal soul, which she made sure I knew she believed was hell bound. I hated that school so much that I faked fevers by going to the bathroom and running hot water against my forehead. I also scraped a pencil eraser across the crook of my arm until it bled and frequently jumped from the top of a metal geodesic dome on the playground in an attempt to break my ankle. My only friend was a boy who once ate a spider during a fire drill.
My experience at St. Mark’s was different. I learned how to cultivate friendships, how to fit in without being miserable, how to make people laugh. And I learned some new vocabulary words.
In the mornings before school, I sat in front of the library, which was situated at the far end of a parking lot between the main school building and the church. Younger kids chased one another around or threw footballs, but I was an eighth-grader and too cool for that. Instead, I killed time reading. After falling in love with Robin McKinley’s The Blue Sword, I searched out and devoured as many fantasy novels as I could get my little hands on. My appetite was insatiable. And when I couldn’t find books I hadn’t read, I reread old ones.
One morning near the beginning of the school year, I was lounging on the steps, my back to a column, reading The Eye of the World by Robert Jordan. I didn’t hear Kurt approach, didn’t know he was there until his shadow fell across me, and I didn’t think anything of it until he slapped the book out of my hand so hard the cover tore off.
Faggot.
He stood over me with his hands on his hips, staring down.
I’d never been bothered while reading before. In fact, I was known for sneaking books behind my textbooks when I was bored. I wasn’t popular, but I wasn’t unpopular, either, and I certainly wasn’t a faggot.
Albert was a faggot. Albert was a tall, thin boy with delicate features and long eyelashes whose hair was always perfect and whose uniform was always impeccably neat. Albert was best friends with girls and hung out with them instead of with us.
Tito was a faggot. Tito was my mother’s hairdresser, and she sometimes took me to him to get my hair cut too. He was a flamboyant Mexican man who fluttered around his shop, spoke with a lisp, and carried his hands with a characteristic limp wrist.
Hollywood was a faggot. Hollywood was a character in the 1987 movie Mannequin, which tells the story of an uninspired young man on the verge of losing his job designing window displays for department stores, and the mannequin who comes to life and does the work for him. She saves his job, they fall in love, barf, the end. Hollywood is a fellow window dresser who is played for laughs by Meshach Taylor. From his campy demeanor and dramatic gasps to his flamboyant collection of glam sunglasses, he’s nothing but a joke. Hollywood has no backstory, no life, and serves no purpose in the movie other than to be laughed at and to help the hero get the girl. Hollywood was every gay stereotype rolled up into one poorly written character.
Hollywood was a faggot, Tito was a faggot, Albert was a faggot, and faggot
was the worst insult to fling at an eighth-grade boy.
Fuck you,
I said. Slowly, I rose to my feet. Kurt was bigger than me, but I was taller. All I wanted to do was pick up my book and go back to reading about a world of magic, where a person’s deeds defined them, but I couldn’t let Kurt’s challenge pass. There was no one else from our class around, but that didn’t matter.
Faggot,
Kurt said again, and then he walked away.
I retrieved my book, and the cover, which I later decided not to tape back on. It was the cover, I believed, that had set Kurt off, and I made the decision to stop reading where anyone might see me so that no one else thought I was a fag. I also decided Kurt had to learn a lesson. So I casually whispered to the right people that I’d seen Kurt being friendly with Albert. I never called Kurt a fag, but soon other kids did. Soon Kurt was the butt of jokes. Soon boys he’d been friends with conspired to throw him in the Dumpster at the edge of the PE field. And Kurt never called me a faggot again.
No one did.
I knew nothing of sexuality, nothing of sex except that it sounded kind of gross. I knew nothing of love. Nothing of being gay. To me, being gay and being a faggot were the same. They were the worst thing a person could be. They were what I never wanted to become, and I’d do anything to ensure I never did.
FUTURE SELF,
PART 1
August 1992
I WANT TO BE A lawyer.
My mom was scared. She was driving slowly, stuck in traffic alongside everyone else who’d waited until the last minute to flee the monster hurricane that had targeted South Florida. Hurricane Andrew might have been the first hurricane of the season, and he might have come late, but he was not playing games. My mom had been born and raised in Florida, as had I, so she didn’t scare easily when it came to hurricanes, but Andrew was projected to tear right through our neighborhood, and she’d finally made the call to take me and my two stepbrothers to my aunt’s house north of us.
Why?
my mom asked.
I shrugged. To help people.
Then you’d want to be a defense attorney?
Yeah,
I said. A public defender.
You won’t make much money that way.
I guess not, but I love to argue, and you don’t need a lot of math to be a lawyer.
My mom laughed. It was good to see her laugh despite the fact that a force of nature, a thing over which she had no control, was threatening to tear apart the life she’d built. My mom had worked for a law firm until she’d fallen down a flight of steps and hurt her back so badly that she’d been declared legally disabled. She’d escaped a small town, escaped a bad marriage to my biological father, and had built a life she was proud of. She was raising me and my brother, Ryan, had remarried, and was helping to raise my stepdad’s two sons. No matter what the universe threw at her, she fought to protect the life she had and the life she wanted.
But no one can fight a hurricane.
I was fourteen when Hurricane Andrew hit, wobbling slightly to the south and sparing my hometown, but devastating Homestead. While most of my friends from St. Mark’s graduated eighth grade and went to a nearby Catholic high school, I decided to jump ship and attend my local public school. I honestly don’t know why. Maybe I was ready for a new adventure, maybe I wanted to reinvent myself. Leaving the kids I’d spent four years with and starting over at a new school was a terrifying decision, but it also felt like the right one. I said good-bye to my friends and never saw any of them again.
I was excited to start high school. I’d signed up for classes and had gone shopping for supplies, but Hurricane Andrew screwed everything up. I was maybe the only person who was actually disappointed that the first week of school had been canceled, because I’d spent all summer dreaming of how my first week would unfold. It’d be like a John Hughes movie, more Sixteen Candles than The Breakfast Club. I wished I was Jake or Bender, but I was probably going to wind up more like the characters played by Anthony Michael Hall—nerdy, eager, and badly dressed. I was okay with that because the cool kids still accepted him in their own way.
I saw my future self make friends and go to homecoming games and get drunk at parties and go to prom. I saw my future self graduate high school and head off to college. Fall in love and get married. Attend law school and build a career defending the vulnerable. Have children and grow old and die happy, surrounded by people I loved.
You can do it,
my mom said. I believe you can do anything you set your mind to.
Really?
Of course.
My mom always told me the truth, even when I might have preferred she didn’t. So I believed her when she said I could do anything and become anyone. I believed there were no doors closed to me, no challenges I could not defeat, no obstacles I could not overcome if I worked hard, fought bravely, and moved through life with integrity. I wasn’t a good student. Teachers were constantly saying that I was smart but that I wasn’t living up to my potential. I’d come to believe that my failures were a result of me just being lazy.
We studied the thirteen original US colonies in Mrs. Baker’s eighth-grade social studies class. Mrs. Baker had never liked me, and I’d definitely never liked her. She was a bully, and I hated bullies, so I took advantage of every opportunity to undermine her. I asked uncomfortable questions that I knew she wouldn’t want to answer—questions about the colonists’ complicity in the mass murder of native tribes and about how American exceptionalism was an idea founded on the backs of slaves—and played the class clown whenever possible. When Mrs. Baker announced we’d be taking our comprehensive exam on the thirteen colonies, she made sure to fire a shot at me.
The exam will be on Monday, giving you all weekend to study, though I’m sure that won’t bother Mr. Hutchinson, since no amount of studying can help him.
She sneered at me, and a couple of people snickered. Oh damn. I’d been called out by Mrs. Baker.
I can ace the test,
I said.
This is a test about the thirteen colonies, not about napping.
Okay,
I said. We’ll see.
The exam would require knowing everything about those original colonies. When they were founded, who founded them, their major imports and exports, their locations, the country the founding colonists came from. The exam was something of a legend at St. Mark’s, known to make or break a student’s grade for the semester. So, of course, instead of spending the weekend studying, I set an alarm to wake me up two hours early on Monday morning. I sat outside on my patio, and I memorized everything.
I’m impressed,
Mrs. Baker said when she handed back the exams. She’d eyed me skeptically on test day when I’d been the first to finish. Not only a ninety-eight, but also the highest score in the class.
She paused at my desk. You must have studied a lot.
I could have taken the win. I could have accepted the praise and let it go. But I didn’t. "I played Super Mario all weekend, I said.
I didn’t start studying until Monday morning."
Yeah, I know. I was a dick. But I also believed, like my parents and my teachers, that I could do anything I set my mind to, and that when I failed it was because I was lazy and not living up to my potential.
I believed that the future I envisioned for myself was achievable. I just had to try harder. I just had to want it badly enough.
So even as Hurricane Andrew bore down on South Florida and threatened the future my mother had worked so hard to build, my future felt bright and perfect and possible.
THE FUNNY FREAK
Fall 1992
HIGH SCHOOL WAS NOT LIKE a John Hughes movie, which was probably for the best. Those movies had issues—they were racially and culturally insensitive at best, misogynistic, homophobic, and they used rape as a punch line. I was, however, still basically an Anthony Michael Hall character. Nerdy, awkward, overwhelmed. All the students at St. Mark’s had been able to fit into one two-story building, but my high school was a sprawling campus full of confusing hallways and buildings that seemed to shift and move at random like the staircases at Hogwarts. There were more students in my class than there’d been in all the classes at St. Mark’s combined, and I was a nobody in a great horde of somebodies.
I’d made a couple of friends. There were Debbie and Allison in my English class, the two Dans I sat with at lunch, and a couple of random people I talked to during class but nowhere else. I suspected Debbie, Allison, and Dan One were mostly interested in copying my English assignments, and Dan Two was a strange, manic guy I never quite understood. And while I liked Debbie, Allison, and the Dans, they didn’t feel like my people.
A few weeks into the school year, I saw a flyer announcing that the drama club would be holding auditions for Dracula after school, and I decided that I absolutely had to go. I’d never acted before, but my older brother, Ryan, had spent most of his high school years in the theater, and he’d loved it, so I thought I might love it too. With an uncharacteristic burst of bravery, I showed up to the audition and signed in. Ms. C., the theater director, called my name and then handed me a photocopied page containing a monologue for a character named Renfield, who was the devoted and blood-bound disciple of Dracula.
I read one sentence before Ms. C. stopped me.
Forget trying to read every single word the way it is on the page,
she said. Focus on the feeling.
I stood in the middle of Ms. C.’s classroom and scanned the block of text on the page she’d given me, unsure what she wanted me to do. After Kurt had knocked the book out of my hand, I’d made certain no one would bully me again, which I did by becoming a bully. I hadn’t been able to change my outward appearance—my knobby knees and big nose and awkward everything—but I’d mastered hiding my weaknesses. I’d transformed myself from a quiet, shy, bookish boy into a young man who wielded words like knives, struck first, and kept striking until his enemy surrendered. Surely I could handle becoming Dracula’s bloodthirsty bitch for thirty seconds.
As I faced Ms. C. and began to read, I morphed into the funny freak Renfield. I craved blood and the approval of my master more than anything in life or beyond. I saw the world through a lens of miserable madness. I felt a bottomless hunger etched on my bones that I couldn’t sate. I understood in my soul that my master would never give me what I desired, but I strived to please him anyway.
And then I finished and transformed into the unfunny freak Shaun again.
* * * * *
You’re not psychic. You can’t see the flies unless you’re looking at them with your actual eyes.
Ms. C. stood at the edge of the stage while I clawed at the air to my left for invisible flies that I looked for to my right.
I’d been cast as Renfield. Sure, it was on the B team, but I was a freshman who spent his afternoons with juniors and seniors who treated me like a weird little brother, so I’d hit the jackpot. Ms. C., however, was beginning to show signs that she was regretting giving me a shot.
We’d been rehearsing for weeks and I hadn’t been able to transform into Renfield the way I had during my audition. Likely because I was a terrible actor. Ms. C. knew it; Phil, our Dracula, who moaned inappropriately during his death scene, knew it; the A team definitely knew it. Still, I kept trying. I willed myself to worship our Dracula, to imagine living and breathing only for him, but it was Alex, our Harker, whom I really worshiped.
Alex had wavy dirty blond hair that parted effortlessly down the middle, blue eyes, and a long nose. He reminded me of the Clown Dog boy from Don’t Tell Mom the Babysitter’s Dead. I followed Alex around like I was a clown dog, and I was ridiculously transparent about it.
I couldn’t help myself. Alex talked to me, not when we were outside of rehearsals, obviously, but while we were waiting for the A team to finish so that we could get some stage time. All of us on the B team hung out. Ally, Maria, Alex, Phil. And me. I felt special. Like I’d dragged myself out of the water onto the shore of the Island of Misfit Toys, and they’d invited me to stay.
I don’t know what any of those people actually thought of me. Maybe they genuinely liked me; maybe they only tolerated me because they could see I was a hot mess in danger of falling to pieces if they looked at me sideways. Either way, for a while, I felt like I belonged.
During one rehearsal, we were sprawled on the landing at the top of the steps in front of the auditorium doors. I sat with my pale, hairless legs stretched out in front of me. Ally was on one side, Maria on the other. Phil and Alex were whispering between themselves.
Nice shorts,
Maria said.
My mom bought them for me.
She looked at Ally and laughed. I figured.
My mom meant well. She was, after all, trying to clothe and feed four teenage boys on a budget. When it came to clothes, my mother had decided that Duncan was the undisputed arbiter of cool. Duncan was a sweet ex-Mormon who worked at the Gap and couldn’t have found cool
if it’d been clinging to his back, giving him a reach-around. The clothes he convinced my mom to buy were so uncool that they almost circled back around to cool again. Almost.
I’d once tried to discuss the situation with my mom.
Once.
Mom: What do you think of this shirt?
Shaun: It’s kind of orange, yeah?
Mom: You don’t like it?
Shaun: I didn’t say that; it’s just that it’s so . . .
Mom: Orange. Yes, Shaun, I heard you the first time.
Shaun: Do they have it in another color? Or with fewer stripes?
Mom: I spend all week driving from store to store to find the best sales so that I can buy clothes for you boys and this is how you thank me?
Shaun: I’m only saying—
Mom: No, forget it.
Shaun: You know what? I bet this shade of orange will go really well with those turquoise plaid shorts you bought me last week.
I wasn’t wearing the plaid shorts that day in front of the auditorium. Instead, I was wearing denim shorts that were black on the legs, violet on the front pockets, red around the waist, and had emerald-green back pockets. I didn’t own a shirt long enough to cover them.
You’re a virgin, right, Shaun?
The question caught me completely off guard; I wasn’t even sure who’d asked, Alex or Phil, or why they wanted my input on the subject. Both Alex and Phil were seniors, so I assumed they’d had lots of sex with many different girls, and how the hell was I supposed to answer? Would they make fun of me if I told them the truth? Would they believe me if I lied? Either way, I needed to answer quickly or they’d assume whatever I said was a lie, so no
slipped out before I had the opportunity to think through the repercussions.
The girls didn’t say anything, but Phil laughed. It was Alex’s response that really surprised me, though. His eyes grew wide and he leaned forward, staring at me, and said, For real?
Backing down would have been a disaster. Admitting I’d lied would have been worse than if I’d told them I was a virgin in the first place. Besides, I wasn’t lying; I was acting. I’d become another version of myself. One who’d had sex.
What was it like?
Alex asked. Phil who? Ally who? Maria who? As far as Alex was concerned, the others might as well have been abducted by aliens.
I was in trouble. Everything I knew about sex I’d learned from a book called The Devil’s Cat, which I’d read when I was nine on a train ride from Florida to Washington, DC, with my mom and older brother. There was a scene in a cemetery with a woman and a cat and a couple of people possessed by the cat. I didn’t understand any of what they were doing or why the cat needed to watch. It was an incredibly confusing and poorly written book, and I would not recommend that anyone read it. For leisure or sex education.
I’d also read Then Again, Maybe I Won’t by Judy Blume, but I doubted sex was anything like waking up confused and ashamed in sticky underwear. And, of course, I knew how to masturbate, but I held firmly to the hope that sex had to be better than ten seconds of frantic activity in the shower while one of my brothers banged on the door, yelling at me to hurry up.
I’d had a girlfriend in eighth grade, but our relationship, which had spanned two weeks, involved writing notes during class and had felt more like homework than a relationship. We’d never even held hands or kissed.
Either way, I didn’t know what to say to Alex. I didn’t know what to say to any of them. I figured someone would see through my lie, but it wasn’t just Alex waiting for my answer. They were all paying attention. Even Phil, though he was leaning back on his hands and only looking at me out of the corner of his eyes. I think they were all virgins. The people I’d spent the last few weeks idolizing didn’t know any more about sex than I did. Hell, I could’ve told them that it felt like the chest-burster scene from Alien, only in reverse, and they probably would’ve believed me.
Wet,
I said. But in a good way. And warm.
It sounded like I was describing a bubble bath.
Alex leaned so far forward he looked like he was going to fall over. "But what was it like?"
Why was knowing so important to him? Was Alex trying to live vicariously through my experiences? More importantly, did I want to impress him so desperately that I was willing to fabricate my first sexual encounter?
Yes. Yes, I was.
It was amazing,
I said. There’s nothing like it. It was like we were this single person and . . . You just have to experience it.
I shook my head condescendingly like I couldn’t believe none of them had ever done it. It was over fast, though.