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Daily Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics - Rokelle Lerner
JANUARY 1
NEW START
I WELCOME THIS NEW DAY
AND THIS NEW YEAR
Today I have a fresh start. I choose to begin a new letting go of unhealthy thoughts, feelings and attitudes that have stifled my growth.
This day I choose to think new thoughts, to look at new values and to find new ways of expressing my God-given gifts.
I now choose to deepen my understanding of myself and others. I will look at my relationships with family and my friends in a new light. I choose to have vital, healthy interactions with others.
I truly welcome this new day, this new year, and this new me. I welcome the wonderful possibilities open to me.
JANUARY 2
EXPECTATIONS
I HAVE WONDERFUL
EXPECTATIONS OF THIS DAY
The day that stretches before me holds promise of much good. I have been given a blank piece of paper on which to write, and I will write only that which I lovingly wish for myself:
I expect today to be a day of renewal, a day of joy, a day of love and peace.
I expect this to be a day of healing; I expect to feel vibrant health surging through me.
I expect this day to be a day of joy, a day in which I feel free from anxiety. I expect this day to contain delightful surprises.
I expect this day to be a day of love. My personal relationships will be satisfying and fulfilling. I will not have to work hard to get my needs met.
I expect today to be filled with wonderful promise, and so it will be.
JANUARY 3
FEELINGS
MY FEELINGS ARE
TEMPORARY AND FLUID
Today I acknowledge that I have emotions—but I am more than my emotions. I recognize this day that I have thoughts, but I am more than my thoughts. I need not cling to uncomfortable feelings or negative thoughts today.
If I am feeling low in spirit for any reason, I must remember that the clouds will lift, the moods will pass, and I will see light again.
Nothing outside me has the power to keep me depressed or anxious. No person has the power to keep me upset or lonely. I have it in my power to choose what I believe about my feelings.
Today I choose to believe that my feelings are temporary and fluid.
Today I choose to believe that my spirits will rise above the clouds. My infinite source sustains me and I know my heart will again sing a joyous song.
JANUARY 4
HEALTHY THOUGHTS
I FEEL FREE TO MOVE ON TO
HEALTHIER IDEAS, THOUGHTS
AND EMOTIONS
Today I rejoice in my ability to move on to new thoughts, new relationships, new emotions.
Many times in my family, I felt trapped, isolated and unable to see a way out. I did not know how to spring free from the emotions and behaviors of others.
But I know now that I cannot be responsible for my family. I love my family, but I must also live my own life, with self-respect and freedom.
I do not have to be trapped in unhealthy situations. I can make changes in myself, and I can strive to find ways to shrug off the traps that imprison me.
Today I will put all negativity behind me, and I will continue to be aware of my power to cope effectively with unhealthy situations.
JANUARY 5
GOALS
TODAY I WILL TAKE STEPS
TOWARD ATTAINING MY GOALS
Today I begin a journey toward reaching the goals I dream about so vividly. I will concentrate on clearly defining what I want in my relationships.
I will reflect on what I need in the physical, emotional and spiritual areas of my life, and I will take time today to take action on at least one of my goals.
I will not block myself from taking action. Too often in the past I have had hopes and dreams that were blocked by my lack of direction and by fear.
Today I have a sense of direction and the strength to make decisions in the face of fear. I will not allow myself to be paralyzed by indecision.
Instead, I will move with confidence, knowing that change is a series of small successes.
JANUARY 6
BELIEFS
TODAY I OPEN MYSELF
TO NEW BELIEFS
I feel no fear of new beliefs today. I see that changing my beliefs helps me release old patterns of behavior.
In my alcoholic home, I learned to view life in ways that were unhealthy for me. I acquired attitudes and beliefs about people that were unbalanced, distorted, and out of focus. These old beliefs are like blueprints from the past, but I realize that I can change them.
Today I give my strength and my power to new beliefs.
Today I know my life can change if I have faith and confidence, and if I truly believe it can change.
When my beliefs are tentative and halfhearted, my life is tentative and halfhearted. So I must believe with all my heart that healthy recovery, healthy relationships and a harmonious life are possible for me.
Today I give my strength and power to new beliefs.
JANUARY 7
TENDER MOMENTS
I WILL BE HERE AND NOW AND REJOICE IN ALL
THAT SURROUNDS ME
Let me be gentle today. Let me cast aside my protective shell, let me loosen my muscles and feel myself become less rigid, less brittle.
I smile as I feel myself move harmoniously with nature. My spirit flows from moment to moment. I am tender to myself, gentle, and I am aware of the gentleness hidden in others.
I take time to notice textures. I touch and am touched by soft currents of air. I listen to small sounds. I take delight in subtle tastes and smells.
I am present, here and now, and put aside past pain and fear. I let in the beauty that surrounds me, from moment to moment.
JANUARY 8
APATHY-BE-GONE
I FREE MYSELF FROM APATHY
Today I will shake off my apathy, and I will free myself from the heavy feelings of powerlessness, helplessness and futility.
I realize that I might become apathetic if I think that my life has no meaning, has no possibility for growth and change. I see that my life has meaning and that there is always room for change, always a way to break free from the past.
I will no longer be dissatisfied and bogged down by what my parents did many yesterdays ago. I will not be paralyzed by what happened to me in the past. It is time to forgive, time to let go and move on.
I am not a victim. I am alive, wide awake and free from the numbness of apathy. I look forward to each new day with exhilaration, as I zestfully take on the challenges that come my way.
JANUARY 9
ATTENTIVENESS
TODAY I WILL LISTEN
ATTENTIVELY TO ALL THOSE
I COME IN CONTACT WITH
I will listen to opinions, thoughts, and feelings, and will try to understand what people are saying with the words they use. I will not attempt to read minds or interpret what others say as judgments against me.
I will work hard today to accept others and not overreact when they voice an opinion or a feeling different from my own.
I grew up in a family where chaos and turbulent emotions were commonplace. I felt controlled by family members. But I no longer need to feel controlled by the emotions of others.
Today I will recognize my powerlessness over the thoughts, opinions, feelings and actions of others. I will work hard today to allow others to be who they are.
I will be who I am. I will listen attentively, noting others’ perspectives calmly and appreciatively.
JANUARY 10
POSITIVE ATTITUDE
I WILL AFFIRM MY WORTH AND
GOODNESS AND OPEN MY EYES
TO THE GOODNESS IN OTHERS
Today I will pay attention to the positive qualities of the people in my life. I will be more tolerant of human frailties and increase my awareness of the wonderful complexity of humankind.
In noticing the goodness of others, I affirm and claim my own. What kind of person am I? I am positive, loving, strong and capable. And others? I will look for their strong points, for their friendliness and for their resilience. I will understand that they were not put on earth to meet my needs unconditionally, just as I cannot unconditionally meet theirs.
I will strive to see the goodness in others, and appreciate their uniqueness.
JANUARY 11
LOVE
I WILL GIVE MY LOVE
FREELY AND GENTLY
Love will flow from me like rays of sunshine. Love is my total acceptance of me and you. Love is giving. Love is the glowing light within each person.
At times in the past, my love had been hidden, blocked off by impenetrable clouds. No light or love came through. These clouds prevented me from seeing the love within me and the love within you.
Only I can dispel my clouds. Only I can let my radiance shine forth. Only I can show you my being.
In my family the love we felt for each other often got cloudy with broken promises, fear, anger and confusion. But today the confusion, anger and fear are gone. I no longer dwell on past broken promises.
Today I let my love shine forth, and I share my bounty with others.
JANUARY 12
SELF-PACE
I WILL QUIET MY MIND AND
BODY AND I WILL BE CALM IN
THE KNOWLEDGE THAT
I AM NOT ALONE
I will slow down today and take time for me. I will become emotionally calm. I will slow down physically, knowing that I can accomplish what has to be done without haste and frantic activity.
I slow down to pace myself, to appreciate the nuances of an unrushed life. Moving slowly, I am reminded of my special connection to my Higher Power. I feel touched with a kind of Godliness, and I am inspired.
Growing up in an alcoholic family, I kept busy with tasks, work, outside activities and school—immersed in action and crowds to avoid feeling lonely, isolated, and ashamed.
But now, I can slow down, I can take my time, and go at my own pace. I choose my company in a leisurely way, without a sense of obligation and urgency.
JANUARY 13
SELF-RESPECT
TODAY I WILL BE AWARE OF
MY OWN FEELINGS AND
AFFIRM MY SELF-RESPECT
I see two kinds of fear: There is a healthy kind of fear that tells me when there are real dangers in the world to be wary of; this healthy fear protects me. But there is another kind of fear—the anxiety that I will not be able to live up to the expectations others might have of me.
Today I see that I do not have to strive continually to please others. I will please myself, I will take myself into consideration. I will take stock of my own needs and wants and know that I can choose to act fearlessly on my own.
I know my anxieties will lessen the more I respect my own needs and desires and make them known to others. I feel happy and peaceful in this knowledge.
JANUARY 14
RULES
TODAY I WILL LOOK AT THE RULES
I LIVE BY AND CHANGE THEM TO
FIT THE PERSON I AM NOW
I see that I can choose to keep my current rules or change them. I can realign the guiding values in my life to make them relevant to who I am now.
I can recognize the importance of guidelines, rules, values—all the overt and covert principles which help guide my daily existence. I also recognize the need to evaluate the rules that have been passed down to me from parents and grandparents.
Today I will become more aware of the rules in my life. I will carefully assess them, knowing I can decide to keep them if they fit, or discard them if they are outdated or inappropriate.
My criterion shall be: Does this rule or guideline enhance my life and enable me to be a more creative and fulfilled person, or does it constrict my life and keep me bound to the past?
Rules are guidelines that confront me with my limits.
I can keep the rules from the past. Or I can rewrite them and choose guidelines that I can feel comfortable with. I have the power to make the choice.
JANUARY 15
SELF-CARE
TODAY I WILL RESPECT MY BODY,
MY PHYSICAL SELF
My body is a vital gift, and I will treat it with respect, with the utmost care. I will seek out what it means to truly nourish my body, and I will take special care to eat healthy meals.
Growing up in an alcoholic environment, I invested so much emotional energy in other people that I forgot to focus on the needs of my physical being. But today I will look at my habits and ask, Do my habits promote health and well-being, or do they undermine it? Do I overeat, or undereat? Do I smoke, and through denial, contend that I’m invulnerable? Do I get enough rest and enough exercise?
Today I will make a fearless and searching inventory of my physical being and do those things which show respect for my body, my physical self.
JANUARY 16
THE CHILD IN ME
I WILL PAY ATTENTION
TO THE CHILD IN ME
I am an adult, but I need to remind myself of the value of those child-like qualities I may have forgotten or pushed aside.
Like many others raised in alcoholic families, I gave up my childhood early. I became serious too soon. I became a caretaker, old for my years, responsible for adults in my family.
Today I will let my child surface and blend with my adult state. I feel a vibrant energy. Filled with wonder, I look at the world with fresh eyes. I can let myself laugh freely and spontaneously. I can be playful and experience the moment, perfectly centered, alert.
Today is a perfect day to notice how children play and how they interact with their environment. As my inner child surfaces, my rigidity melts away like icicles melting in the sun.
JANUARY 17
SELF-TRUST
I WILL TRUST ALL MY OWN
THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS
Today I recognize strongly that I have no control over anyone’s actions or emotions. I stand in this world with myself and with my Higher Power. I need to continue to relate to friends and family members and continue to grow in those relationships.
As I trust people with my intimate self, I need to trust myself, my own thoughts and my own emotions. Growing up in an alcoholic family, I often discounted my own thoughts and emotions. In trying so hard to please others, I made myself unhappy.
Today I need to affirm trust in myself and trust in my Higher Power, so that I will continue to validate my own thoughts and my own emotions.
I will validate and trust my own thoughts and emotions today.
JANUARY 18
SUCCESS
I MAKE DECISIONS CONFIDENTLY
I will feel confident with each decision I make. I take special care to make decisions based on what I know now. I will make decisions confidently and at my own pace. I will not be ruled by impulsiveness or be pressured into making a decision before I’m ready.
At the same time, I will have no fear of making decisions because each decision will be made with deliberation and in good faith.
In the past, I let decisions pile up. I put them on hold
because I was anxious about making a mistake. Today I know that I will make the best choices I can possibly make. I am allowed to make mistakes, and I am allowed to learn from them.
I cannot live without making decisions. Knowing this, I will make decisions confidently and without fear. I will trust my decisions and do the best I can.
JANUARY 19
PARENTS
I ACCEPT MY PARENTS AND
AFFIRM MY INDEPENDENCE
FROM THEM
Today I will live my life as a person independent from my parents. My parents are separate people, with their own thoughts, emotions and behaviors. They do not control me and I do not control them.
I have my own thoughts, emotions and behavior. I am independent, but I care for my parents and I do not condemn them. They have their shortcomings and faults, as I have mine. My parents have praiseworthy qualities and they do the best they can, as I do the best I can. I will no longer try to change their thoughts and emotions.
My task today is to affirm my independence and to see the positive characteristics in my parents.
JANUARY 20
OPPORTUNITIES
I CAN MEET NEW OPPORTUNITIES
WITHOUT FEAR
I will be alert and open to new opportunities