Feathers from My Nest
By Beth Moore
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Beth Moore is widely known and respected as an engaging and effective speaker, Bible teacher, and best-selling author. Feathers from My Nest reveals a more contemplative and personal side of Beth, very much in the spirit of her Things Pondered.
Feathers from My Nest is a collection of vignettes, as Beth reflects on items belonging to her daughters who have left the nest for college. As she ponders each item, rich in memories, Beth draws from its spiritual significance.
This book not only tugs gently on the sentimental heartstrings of parents, it also reminds us all of the gift of grace children offer our lives every day.
Beth Moore
Author and speaker Beth Moore is a dynamic teacher whose conferences take her across the globe. She has written numerous bestselling books and Bible studies. She is also the founder and visionary of Living Proof Ministries based in Houston, TX.
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Feathers from My Nest - Beth Moore
chapter one
wood, brick,and mortar
Do you have a normal home just like anybody else?
The question caught me off guard. My first thought was of how few anybody else's
I know who have the illusive normal home.
Does a normal house count? Now, that I've got. Just a regular, family-raising enclosure with no few pets in the yard. A little wood, a little brick, a little mortar, and a lot of fur. Same house we've had for seventeen years and most of the same pets. Yes, I'd say the Moores qualify for a normal house, but it's the home part that might stick an ab onto the front of that aggravating N word. Let's be realistic. If the experts on Christian family dynamics are looking for normal,
they might want to skip the Moore home.
Normal? Not particularly. Functional? Uh, what does that mean? It sounds more like an appliance to me. My dishwasher was functional, but it still broke after seven measly years. My children, who are certainly fun,
if not the poster children for functional,
are still kicking… and sometimes even screaming. No, I'm not sure we're particularly normal or perfectly functional, but happy? Ah, yes. At least we were this morning. We've got a lot of daylight yet for all that to change. Anyway, if we're not happy, please don't tell us. We're doing just fine thinking that we are.
Maybe we have a skewed idea of what happy is, but something is working for us. All four of us possess salvation in Christ alone and will spend eternity together in heaven. We practice mutual respect. I might add that practice has yet to make perfect. We laugh our heads off. And gladly at the other person's expense. We agree on some things. Disagree on plenty of others. And, right or wrong, feel some measure of freedom to express it. Did I mention passionately? On top of all that, none of us spent last weekend in jail, but even if one of us had, I suppose we would make it through that too.
Maybe that's the key phrase. Making it. I don't know how you feel about those two words, but I happen to think they're huge. Since the first day my children went to Mother's Day Out, I dreaded the proverbial empty nest like a terminal disease. I literally collapsed on the mailbox when the school bus had the gall to kidnap my kindergartners. Honestly, I worried about myself. I thought, If you're acting this way now, what in the world are you going to do when they go to college? Sure enough, that day came way too soon, but I did not sink into despair. Oh, I cried all right. But that first quiet morning when I had no children to awaken for school, I felt some things I didn't expect. Like gratitude. Overwhelming gratitude. I sat before God with tears streaming down my cheeks and three words fell unexpectedly from my lips over and over: We made it. And not just by the skin of our teeth. I might as well confess that I'm not much of a martyr. Even when I sacrifice something for Christ, I go running to the throne as fast as I can to gain all the more of Him. Somehow, I have to hope there's more to life than simply surviving misery and just barely making it through life.
I realized that first morning in my empty nest that we didn't just survive. We made it. Our children loaded up their cars for college and pulled out of a driveway made of concrete solidified by time. Our girls left a home made of more than wood, brick, and mortar. Oddly, we never even realized how solid it was until years of harsh weather were unable to destroy it. No few times life had come to huff and puff and blow our house down. Keith and I took turns holding up walls depending upon who had the strength that season. At times I feared we were the four little pigs (some bigger than others) in a house made of straw, but time proved otherwise. You can be sure that the reason we made it wasn't because we held up the walls but because, to do so, we had to stand squarely upon the foundation beneath our feet. A certain Rock.
The first morning I awakened to a house with no children, my home was quiet, but to my surprise it wasn't empty. Suddenly it felt full. Full of memories. Full of anticipation. Full of a love that can somehow go with them to college and beyond yet stay back home with us. A love that has a name. Jesus. I knew we had made it because of Him. My heart poured forth like a busted pipe saturating every room and soaking the carpet with gratitude. I glanced at an old picture on the wall that Keith and I had received as a wedding gift. It was hanging on the dark paneling of our first little dwelling when we came home from our honeymoon. The picture has moved from place to place with us and only grows more conspicuous. While all the surrounding furnishings change, the orange and brown paint on this picture reflects the same 1970s style that marked the groomsmen's tuxes at our wedding. Let's see if I can say this nicely: It's just plain ugly. The words on the picture, however, are priceless—timeless. Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it
(Ps. 127:1 KJV).
That picture has hung on the wall through every fight, every struggle, and every battle for control we've ever experienced. Sometimes it hung lopsided because someone slammed a door, but it always hung in there. It was nailed to the wall when everything else was shaking. I find it so peculiar—and so like God—that our remedy was right there all along, speaking truth over us and calling out to us in a quiet but powerful inflection. Its words were the still, small voice in the midst of the rolling thunder. Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it. Perhaps you may be as relieved as I am that the Hebrew word for build in this verse also means repair.
At times ours was a home in desperate need of repair because ours were hearts in desperate need of repair. The process has been painful, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. God could have performed an instant miracle of healing upon our hearts and our home, but I hate to think what we would have missed. We've been right there with Him, holding the shingles in place while God nailed them down. Holding the sloshing paint bucket while God slapped a new coat on the walls. We haven't missed a thing. Neither has the picture. It has hung there long enough to see not only the struggles but to witness the change, hear the laughter, and feel the warmth of the sunshine pouring through the opened windows. The chill is gone.
That we've made it several decades doesn't guarantee we'll make it several more, but we've still got all the tools for rebuilding out in the toolshed. And we certainly know whom to contract for the labor. After all, He's a carpenter by trade. We know how to make it if we're willing: start handing Him the pieces. If we don't, it will be a lack of obedience, not a lack of knowledge. To us, making it means that we each cast our votes in favor of family… even when we vote for different things in life. We love and confess our love to one another almost daily. We don't just let love and mutual concern develop naturally. I've learned that the things that develop naturally
are usually the things of the human nature, not the Holy Spirit's. We've worked hard at family.
We've had to. We had so many strikes against us that the umpire was practically yelling Out!
before we stepped up to bat.
One of my deepest desires in putting these thoughts on paper is to encourage you in your own family journey. Beloved, with the intervention of God and a lot of cooperation, unstable families can become stable. Emotionally dangerous homes can become safe houses of gentler candor. Homes shattered by loss can echo once again with laughter. Peace can replace chaos… but you must promise not to confuse peace with quiet. The goal is not building a monastery. Remember, God's peace is like a river, not a pond. In other words, a sense of health and well-being, both of which are expressions of the Hebrew shalom, can permeate our homes even when we're in white-water rapids.
God can change the entire dynamics of a household. He really can make an unhealthy family healthy. I know because His Word says it's true. I know because He's done it for us. Centuries of generational bondage can be broken and descendants blessed because of one generation's willingness to work hard with God to change. Those who welcome the healing work of God can rebuild the ancient ruins and restore the places long devastated
(Isa. 61:4a). Keith and I brought enough accumulated baggage into our house to crack the foundation… except that inch by inch the foundation became Christ. And He's simply uncrackable. You don't have the one family God can't transform. And, no, not every person in the household has to be willing and cooperative for change to begin. I will ask you this: Are you?
Remodeling a home often begins with just one who is willing to pray, believe God, persevere, and be personally remodeled. Don't start trying to rebuild your whole family. Life's far too short to labor in vain.
Just allow God to rebuild you. Thankfully, health can be as contagious as sickness. Slowly you will begin to see the contagious effect of God's healing work. Perhaps you're thinking, My marriage has already ended in divorce. It's too late for my family to make it.
Beloved, do you still have family? Then it's not too late to start developing into a strong one. Not all members of each household have to be present for the remaining members to make it. I have a missing person too. A boy we raised for seven years. The son of my heart. Our household could have toppled to the ground over the change—all the complicated emotions and regrets involved. But what a tragedy it would be to sacrifice what remains on the altar of what is missing. Search your house for what is present—even if it's the solitary person in the mirror. Single, married, divorced, widowed, orphaned—all of us are invited to relocate from the shifting sand and rebuild upon the Rock. No better time than before the next flood. In His account of the wise and foolish builders in Luke 6, Christ didn't imply the possibility of a flood but the inevitability. Rains will come, the waters will rise, and life's currents will pound furiously against our homes. Count on it. But there's one thing you can count on more than an inevitable flood. The Rock. Trust in the LORD forever, for the LORD, the LORD, is the Rock eternal
(Isa. 26:4). No, there is no other Rock; I know not one
(Isa. 44:8b).
chapter two
127,000 miles
One of the things my children left behind when they flew the coop was a billion miles on my '91 Moore-mobile. OK. So it was only 127,000. But I felt every mile of it. In fact, I'm still feeling it since I'm still driving it. Present active participle verb tense: 130,000 miles and counting. Keith suggested that I might need to wait until someone graduates from college to shop for a replacement. Will any someone do? Or does it have to be one of ours? And what if that someone
ends up cramming four years into six, I ask you?
But don't think the man doesn't practice what he preaches. Keith didn't give up his last truck until it had a good, round 200,000 miles on it. At 150,000 miles, I told him it was time for a new one. He said that it was just getting broken in.
What man calls broken in,
woman calls broken down.
Between Keith and me we have some serious frequent driver miles, but the difference is that most of Keith's miles accrued between here and the deer lease. Mine are the consequence of that modern-day road hazard called carpool—a sinister plot of the male population to drive the women of America out of the workforce and into a home for unfed mothers.
It's time the public knew. Lives are at stake. It's not that the mother can't drive. It's that no one in the car will let her. A carpool driver rarely faces the front. You may never see her face, but her body can be recognized in double-jointed contortions over the seat, index finger shaking violently. At first glance a passerby might ask, Was that a woman bent over the seat wearing her pajamas?
Yes, but she'll tell you they're her workout clothes. A cover-up. And that's only the beginning.
Oh, the things that run through her mind between the drop-off zone and Kroger. What if the kids tell their mothers about the ticket I got for speeding through the school zone?
"What if Chelsea tells her mother that I accidentally called her a brat? What rhymes with brat?" No one knows her secret pain. She eventually develops a tic, but that's not the worst of it. She begins dressing to match her minivan. She used to be normal. It's not her fault. But it is her responsibility. Carpool. That perilous rite of passage in modern motherhood that hasn't reached its full potential until you would gladly drive your car into the nearest pool. While in it.
Trust me. I put in my time. Between three children, not only did I often work double time on overlapping shifts; I drove to three different schools. I am pretty certain I've done more road time than Charles Kuralt. You too? As much as I hate to, I bet I can one-up you. One of my children's schools was seventeen miles from home—smack in the middle of Houston's rush hour traffic. Right here is where I win the prize: It was my boy
carpool. Now for my really disturbing confession: I loved it.
Don't get me wrong. It was a pain! All the rushing around in the morning because someone else's mother is depending on you. Rushing only to wait in the driveway for ten solid minutes on sweet little so-and-so. All the help they are when they learn to read the speed limit sign and match it with your speedometer. Mrs. Moore, are you speeding?
Of course not, darling.
Then there's all the noise. All the fighting. Or worse yet, all the getting along, which usually entails something obnoxious like wrestling, sticking stuff in their noses, or playing a friendly game of seeing how long the other one can go without yelling when he's punched. (Yes, really.) Nobody likes the same music or the same volume. Turn it up, Mrs. Moore. I can't even hear it.
Turn it down, Mrs. Moore. It's hurting my ears.
Only God and the attendance office know how many times I had to sign them in late—marching into the school like the Pied Piper, with a line of munchkins behind me. And that was only the morning shift. Nothing compares with the humiliation of everyone staring as you burn rubber turning into the pickup lane in the afternoon. I never had to honk for my carload. They just listened for my tires to squeal. All the way there, I'd be thinking, It can't possibly be three o'clock already. I just dropped them off! For heaven's sake, what are we paying these teachers? (Not nearly enough.) I have no idea if I left a lasting impression on the children, but I certainly left one on the pavement in front of the Baptist Academy. Look, I had a lot on my mind! Like trying to keep up with whose turn it was to sit in the front. Let's face it. That's real stress. The folks at the New York Stock Exchange think they have stress? They should take a turn in the carpool, shouldn't they, girls?
But if we could just see the forest for the trees. Carpool analogy? If we would just see the children for the challenge… how blessed we would be! My mother believed to her dying day that it was a sad woman indeed that didn't have a young child somewhere in her life. She also felt there was no excuse for not having one. If you didn't have one handy, you could get one—in Sunday school, in a church nursery, a pint-size human who lives down the street—all the while, relieving a young mom and adding something worth more than a hill of beans to your life. She'd tell you that you could find a child almost anywhere you find a lot of life. But find one indeed. Because to her, you would be a miserable soul if you lost touch with children. I