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Toni Morrison ON Mothers and Motherhood - Lee Baxter
MOTHERHOOD
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Toni Morrison on mothers and motherhood / Lee Baxter and Martha Satz, editors.
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1. Morrison, Toni--Criticism and interpretation. 2. Morrison, Toni--Characters--Mothers. 3. Mothers in literature. 4. Motherhood in literature. I. Baxter, Lee, 1968-, editor II. Satz, Martha, 1943-, editor
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TONI MORRISON ON MOTHERS AND MOTHERHOOD
EDITED BY
Lee Baxter and Martha Satz
DEMETER PRESS
To Miriam and Michael,
who everyday winningly reveal the motherwork I have done.
—Martha Satz
To Sooneiah and Aidan,
who have taught me as much as I’ve taught them.
—Lee Baxter
Table of Contents
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Martha Satz and Lee Baxter
PART I: OTHERMOTHERING
Masculine Othermothering in Toni Morrison’s Home
Susan Neal Mayberry
Not a Maternal Drudge … Nor … An Acid-Tongued Shrew
:
The Complexity of Ruth and Pilate in
Toni Morrison’s Song of Solomon
Jill Goad
You’ve Already Got What You Need, Sugar
:
Southern and Maternal Identity
in Toni Morrison’s Song of Solomon
Anna Hinton
PART II: BAD
MOTHERING
Studies in M(othering):
Unpacking the Wicked Thing
in Toni Morrison’s
A Mercy and Beloved
Veena Deo
Rethinking, Rewriting Self and Other
in Toni Morrison’s Love
Lee Baxter
The Trauma of Second Birth:
Double Consciousness, Rupture, and Toni Morrison’s Beloved
Lauren A. Mitchell
Are You Sure She Was Your Sister?
Sororal Love and Maternal Failure in Toni Morrison’s Paradise
Kristin M. Distel
From Sweetness to Toya Graham:
Intersectionality and the (Im)Possibilities of Maternal Ethics
Jesse A. Goldberg
Racialized Intimacies and Alternative Kinship Relations:
Toni Morrison’s Home
Rosanne Kennedy
PART III: LACK OF MOTHERING
Failed Mothers and the Black Girl-Child Victim of Incestuous Rape in The Bluest Eye and Push
Candice Pipes
Mothering Oneself in Sula
Marth Satz
Black Motherhood, Beauty, and Soul Murder-Wound
Althea Tait
They Took My Milk
:
The Multiple Meanings of Breastmilk in
Toni Morrison’s Beloved
Barbara Mattar
Brother-Mother and Othermothers:
Healing the Body of Physical, Psychological, and Emotional Trauma in Toni Morrison’s Home
Tosha K. Sampson-Choma
About the Contributors
Acknowledgements
We would like to thank Andrea O’Reilly for her support throughout this project. We would also like to thank all the people with whom we have corresponded about this volume.
Lee would especially like to thank Andrea Robertson for her encouragement and support. While working on this project she has been particularly indebted to her mother, Norma Ducau, and her friends, especially throughout the editing process.
Martha would like to thank Debbie Needleman and Maresa Patterson for their valuable suggestions.
Introduction
MARTHA SATZ AND LEE BAXTER
TONI MORRISON HAS NOTABLY ADVISED writers, If there’s a book that you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet, then you must write it
(A Great Conversation
). And Morrison has followed her own advice, writing most centrally about Black women and girls and their formative and transformative female experiences, most particularly motherhood. Her work cultivates an examination of black motherhood that counters motherhood performed and advocated by the dominant culture.
Morrison writes of experiences that tell the stories that have been suppressed by white patriarchy. She expresses how African American culture prays, escapes, hurts, and repents. In other words, Morrison’s work subverts the white gaze, as it offers an alternative history to the official narrative presented by white hegemony. And as already noted, her writing focuses on the everyday experiences of Black women and girls, who are placed at the centre of all of her novels. Although in Song of Solomon, to name just one example, the protagonist, Milkman, is male, the women—Pilate, Ruth, Corrie and Lena—function as foils throughout the story as they embody and depict the social and cultural pressures and their prescribed stereotypes of African American women.
Focusing on the experiences of Black women and girls, Morrison’s writings subvert their historical exclusion and provide them with a voice that shares their everyday internal and external experiences. These experiences depict gender hierarchies and cultural expectations of what it is to be a woman, a wife, a mother, and a daughter. In so doing, Morrison, as Andrea O’Reilly argues, defines and positions maternal identity as a site of power for black women
(1). This position of power is used to instruct, protect, and empower their children in a racist, class-defined, and sexist world. But Morrison, in her work, also examines what happens when there is a deficiency of mothering and motherhood. In these books, the absence of a nurturing mother results in both personal and cultural damage. Morrison, therefore, advocates the importance of mothering as she highlights the effects of loss and anguish caused in its absence.
The works in this collection address a range of Morrison’s novels, including The Bluest Eye, Jazz, Song of Solomon, Home, Beloved, Paradise, Sula, and Love. They examine and critique Morrison’s challenges to the Eurocentric characterization of mothers, motherhood, and mothering. The essays emphasize how the women co-opt or challenge the dominant concepts of mothering and motherhood as stable notions. Furthermore, mothering and motherhood, as discussed in all of the essays, is not necessarily confined to the role that females play in raising children and taking care of family members. Stanlie James has described this form of nurturing as othermothering,
which can also include being nurtured by others on an individual or community level. She describes othermothering as an acceptance of responsibility for a child not one’s own, in an arrangement that may or may not be formal
(45).¹ Regardless of who raises the child or children, motherhood and mothering is complex and complicated.
This collection of essays focuses on the repressive and the inspiring facets of mothering and motherhood. The themes examined in the collection explore motherhood as experience, and mothering and motherhood as identity and subjectivity. Mothering and motherhood, as Andrea O’Reilly poignantly asserts within motherhood studies, bear separate meanings: "motherhood is used to signify the patriarchal institution of motherhood, while mothering refers to women’s lived experiences of childrearing as they both conform to and/or resist the patriarchal institution of motherhood and its oppressive ideology" (2). And, as seen in this volume of essays, Morrison’s depiction of motherhood, mothering, and othermothering is concerned with the women in Morrison’s novels who counter the Eurocentric patriarchal institution of motherhood and their lived experiences of mothering, as well as how mothering effects a child’s identity formation and agency.
This volume is timely, as it helps to further our understanding of gender, sexuality, power, community, identity, and media. News outlets and social media have played a huge role in disseminating images and news of racism and misogyny. The news has played and relayed images of shootings of black men by police, and of then presidential candidate Donald Trump accusing the Black Lives Matter movement of inciting violence against law-enforcement officers. We have also seen men in positions of power describing women using misogynistic language and defending their words as two men in a locker-room just talking
and the continued opposition toward LGBTQ rights. Moreover, the government has slashed budgets making women’s right to choose more and more difficult. Indeed, all of the papers in this volume provoke dialogue and debates on the raising of children and the ways they may be empowered. Through these debates, issues of othering, identity formation, maternal experience, patriarchal ideology, racism, and subjectivity all come to the forefront. By further opening up discussions on these issues, these essays offer the opportunity for us to better understand and respond to mothering/motherhood and address these various concerns. We have placed the chapters into three sections, which address Morrison’s examination of othermothering, the intersectional oppressions that create bad
mothers, and the effects of lack of mothering or poor mothering on children. We realize that these topics overlap but nevertheless feel that these three categories address the exploration of mothering/motherhood in Morrison’s work.
The first section, titled Othermothering,
examines how nonmothers, and alternative forms of mothering are advocated throughout Morrison’s work. The term othermothering
denotes acceptance of responsibility for a child not one’s own, in an arrangement that may or may not be formal
(James 45). We see this practice in her novels such as Beloved, Paradise, Song of Solomon, and Home. Susan Neal Mayberry explores othermothering
in her chapter, "Masculine Othermothering in Toni Morrison’s Home. Mayberry argues that in her books, Morrison depicts forms of othermothering that include community mothering as well as
masculine othermothering through Frank Money’s character. Mayberry believes that
Frank Money’s learned maternal bonding with the feminine allows him an African American manhood that enables him to become an effective othermother."
Similarly, Tosha Sampson-Choma examines othermothering in Home. This novel emphasizes not only that women are just as capable of everyday violence against children as men are, but that men too are just as capable of nurturing children as women are. Thus, Morrison challenges the normative perception of mothering and motherhood. Sampson-Choma contends that Frank functions as Ycidra’s primary nurturer, while their step-grandmother ... demeans, demoralizes and emotionally abuses
them. Predicating her argument on Patricia Hill Collins’ concept of othermother,
Sampson-Choma argues that Frank’s narrative provides an opportunity to expand critical conversations on motherhood
as Frank both nurtures Ycidra but also rewrites his own narrative in the discourse of brother-mother.
This alternative form of mothering critiques and endorses an Afro-American aesthetic,
as the novel explores the complexity of family relationships.
Alternative forms of mothering are central to all of Morrison’s novels. Jill Goad’s chapter, "‘Not a Maternal Drudge … Nor … An Acid-Tongued Shrew’: The Complexity of Ruth and Pilate in Toni Morrison’s Song of Solomon, interrogates the broader stereotypes and cultural perceptions mirrored through Ruth and Pilate. The relationships with the men only serve to highlight the stereotypical characterization of Ruth and Pilate. Although this novel’s protagonist is a man, Milkman, Ruth and Pilate explore the roles of black women in relation to their husbands, sons, fathers, nephews, and lovers with the ever present patriarchal white society. Ruth and Pilate are presented as opposing individuals: Ruth is a fragile woman whose identity is subsumed by her relationships with her father and son, Milkman, whereas Pilate is a self-created, independent woman. And, as Goad argues, Morrison’s
characterization of Pilate speaks to societal judgments of women who do not fit a traditional mother and wife mould. In other words, women who do not fit into the traditional mould of
mother or
motherhood" are castigated and punished by society.
Anna Hinton also examines Pilate’s role in Song of Solomon in "‘You’ve Already Got What You Need, Sugar’: Southern and Maternal Identity in Toni Morrison’s Song of Solomon. Hinton views Pilate’s character as one who empowers others through motherwork because she retains her self-preservation through incorporating Southern traditions while living in the North. Pilate is considered as an outlaw, as she defines herself on her own terms. Hagar, on the other hand, rejects Pilate’s mode of mothering and
desires what the heteronormative, capitalist, racist, and patriarchal culture tells her to desire." Pilate rejects the parameters set by white patriarchal society and thus maintains her individuality.
Bad
mothering can be viewed as absent mothering or abusive (physical and/or emotional) mothering. The absence of mothers and child abuse can lead to children living with trauma, which causes them to make bad choices and live outside the community; they become seen as bad
people. Morrison’s work highlights the effects of the lack of nurturing and the lack of protecting one’s child/children. Her novels destabilize and recognize the ambivalence of what it entails to be a mother. Veena Deo’s chapter, "Studies in M(othering): Unpacking the ‘Wicked Thing’ in Toni Morrison’s A Mercy and Beloved" examines the way mothers are represented in American history as products of social and cultural construction. Racism is intricately bound within the social and cultural construction of America.
Social and cultural hegemony is further examined in Lee Baxter’s paper, "Rethinking, Rewriting Self and Other in Toni Morrison’s Love. This essay examines identity formation through Julia Kristeva’s alternative account of (m)othering in her work on mother and mothering, and patriarchal ideology. More specifically, Baxter considers the way patriarchy causes women to view one another as an other, thus creating a divide between women, mothers, and daughters. She posits that it is not until the Cosey
women recognize both their selves as other, as well as the other in the Other, that they can learn to love truly and break free from the idealized social constructs of femininity and maternity." Mothering in Love is both absent and present. The divide created between mothers and daughters is brought upon through bad
mothering and is not overcome until the women accept themselves as Others and recognize that they need to mother themselves, love themselves, and pass on this self-empowerment to other women—to instruct, protect, and empower their children.
Maintaining one’s individuality also means that one is secure in their identity. However, identities are constantly in flux and in question in Morrison’s work. Identity formation in Morrison’s work is more often than not interrupted by traumatic instances. Lauren Mitchell’s "The Trauma of Second Birth: Double Consciousness, Rupture, and Toni Morrison’s Beloved and Kristin Distel’s
‘Are You Sure She Was Your Sister?’: Sororal Love and Maternal Failure in Morrison’s Paradise examine the ways traumatic events distort one’s relationship with one’s self. Identity formation is halted with the violation of the body. Mitchell posits that there is a
dialectical relationship between Sethe’s ‘inner’ and ‘outer’ stressors … that result in … a kind of rebirth. She discusses this through the lens of Hortense J. Spillers’s recent work on
second birth." On the other hand, Distel explores the ways in which the attachment between sisters is a privileged relationship that provides a love that mothers fail to give. Her overall examination of Paradise views mother and sibling relationships as complex, where motherhood is marred by cruelty whereas bonds between sisters are not.
Rosanne Kennedy in her chapter "Racialized Intimacies and Alternative Kinship Relations: Toni Morrison’s Home examines the effects of growing up in households that mirror
the dominant aesthetic, cultural, and economic values of white society." Kennedy scrutinizes the ways the households in Home and The Bluest Eye embody racist ideas that end in failed attempts at ‘respectability’
and lead to alternative maternal and communal households.
In the section that investigates the lack of mothering, the essays examine the various ways mothers and community fail to provide safe spaces for children and empower them. The broader question, which these papers address, is how patriarchal ideology fails to ensure safety for the most vulnerable; how it creates a strict division between gender roles and racial hierarchies; and how it subjugates women and their various roles as mother, sister, daughter, and wife. In her examination of The Bluest Eye, Candice Pipes’s paper, "Failed Mothers and the Black Girl-Child Victim of Incestuous Rape in The Bluest Eye and Push, discusses the effects of incest in relation to gendered roles, identity formation, and patriarchal ideology. Pipes argues that the novel suggests that a
reordering of the black community is necessary to save black girl-children from incest." In other words, the reordering of the community exposes the falsehood that patriarchy ensures safety, in particular female safety, and allows for women and girls to form healthy identities with themselves and their female counterparts.
This subjugation causes women to find ways to subvert the heteronormative ideologies set out by the rule (law) of the father. However, by disrupting these ideologies, these women are further marginalized within their social spheres. They further marginalize themselves through problematic ethical acts, such as Sethe murdering her own child in Beloved, and Eva burning and killing Plum, and Sula cutting off her own finger in Sula. Martha Satz in "Mothering Oneself in Sula," explores how the ethical obligation, deontological, and care approaches are taken in Sula. These approaches result in the construct of a new mythology of human life. In particular, Satz argues that the Wright family and the Peace family are dialectic, which highlights two forms of mothering that cause the reader to respond to alternative forms of mothering.
Althea Tait examines trauma and how it is passed down from mother to daughter in her chapter Black Motherhood, Beauty, and Soul Murder Wound.
In particular, Tait analyzes how conformity with Eurocentric forms of oppression
through forms of beauty causes an inner hate and fear that will become inhuman and ugly. These views are so entrenched that Black women cannot properly bond, which causes a deformed sense of identity.
InFrom Sweetness to Toya Graham: Intersectionality and the (Im)Possibilities of Maternal Ethics,
Jesse Goldberg argues that motherhood cannot be raised to the level of universal experience, but rather it is always experienced intersectionally, and so what might be called a ‘maternal ethics’ is rendered both impossible on the level of universal imperatives and yet utterly material and necessary in an anti-Black, patriarchal world.
More specifically, Goldberg examines the works of Sula, Beloved, and God Help the Child in relation to the ethical demand that mothers are expected to undertake in order to protect their children.
Finally, Barbara Mattar’s "‘They Took My Milk’: The Multiple Meanings of Breastmilk in Toni Morrison’s Beloved illustrates the
parallels between Sethe’s agency as a lactating mother and our contemporary cultural meanings and interpretations towards this bodily fluid that can draw fascination, hunger, and disgust. Mattar argues that society needs a better cultural response in order
to reposition the lactating mother as the source of agency and informed decision maker about this aspect of her body and her relationship with her child."
In each of these essays, the readers will find the different ways Morrison’s fiction constructs and responds to the thought-provoking notion of mothering and motherhood. Morrison’s deft writing challenges her audience to look beyond the surface of beauty, beyond the authorized Eurocentric historical account of slavery and its generational traumas, and beyond the advised standards of how a mother should behave and/or nurture her children. She shows us what life is as a black parent navigating in a Eurocentric, patriarchal world. Morrison’s work examines the difficult, terrifying, and sometimes horrifying difficulties of being a parent, a mother, a wife, a sister, but she does this by depicting hope through her portrayal of nurturing figures that range from Pilate to Frank Money—nurturing is gender blind. Mothering and motherhood, as we see within this volume of essays, are fluid concepts, in the sense that it is everyone’s responsibility to nurture our children and ourselves as adults. We all need to be mothered and need to take time to mother ourselves.
ENDNOTE
¹This has been examined and documented in such studies as Carol Stack’s book All Our Kin: Strategies for Survival in a Black Community (1974); Priscilla Gibson’s article, Developmental Mothering in an African American Community: From Grandmothers to New Mothers Again
; Arlene Edwards’s article Community Mothering: The Relationship between Mothering and the Community Work of Black Women
; and Njoki Nathani Wane’s article, Reflections on the Mutuality of Mothering: Women, Children, and Othermothering.
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I.
Othermothering
Masculine Othermothering in Toni Morrison’s Home
SUSAN NEAL MAYBERRY
HAVING OFFENDED AN OLDER but vastly more ardent mother than I by deriding the innateness of maternal bonding upon giving birth to my son, I manage to break a young father’s heart by blithely informing him: Mother love does not come naturally.
When that same father reminds me of my doubts five years later, I flatly deny having made light of maternal bonding. I had finally delivered a daughter after enduring all sorts of unnatural infertility treatments because I feared I might come to love my boy too much.
For almost fifty years Toni Morrison has stirred up more than her share of trouble in an effort to free mother love from such unbalanced oppositions—not by lov[ing] nothing,
but by helping both genders discern when an absence of love becomes too much
as well as know[ing] when to stop
loving too much (Beloved 92; 86, 216; 104). Validating in many of her novels a range of maternal reactions to all sorts of others, she endorses the notion of othermothering
as an acceptance of responsibility for a child not one’s own, in an arrangement that may or may not be formal
(James 45). She also holds with community mothering, a related concept that encompasses women typically past childbearing years who have often previously othermothered and continue to care for adult community members (Wane 112; Edwards 88). Morrison’s tenth novel Home (2012) extends these ideas to sanction what we may call masculine othermothering
—a symbiotic model in which Frank Money’s learned bonding with the feminine allows him an African American manhood that enables him to become an effective othermother.
As described by feminist critic Patricia Hill Collins, othermothering has been linked to traditional West African societies in which all the women in a household or village mothered all the children, regardless of biological ties. Mothering, thus, was not a privatized nurturing ‘occupation’ reserved for biological mothers,
nor was economic support of children the exclusive responsibility of men (45). Since mothering expressed itself as both nurturance and work, and childcare was viewed as the duty of the larger community, mothering, othermothering, and community mothering garnered power and status for women in West African culture. Because parenting duties remain organized as a collective activity, the practice still relieves some of the stresses that can develop between children and parents [and] provides multiple role models for children; it [also] keeps the traditional African value systems of communal sharing and ownership alive
(Wane 113).
Since these West African cultural practices were retained by enslaved African Americans, they gave rise to a distinct tradition of African American motherhood in which the custom of othermothering and community mothering was emphasized and elaborated
(O’Reilly 5):
The experience of slavery saw the translation of othermothering to new settings, since the care of children was an expected task of enslaved Black women in addition to the field or house duties.… The familial instability of slavery engendered the adaptation of communality in the form of fostering children whose parents, particularly mothers, had been sold. This tradition of communality gave rise to the practice of othermothering. The survival of the concept is inherent to the survival of Black people as a whole … since it allowed for the provision of care to extended family and non blood relations. (Edwards 80)
Manifested in many African American communities to this day, othermothering equips children with the psychological and social skills they need to survive the oppressive racism and sexism of a kyriarchal culture. These survival skills include a sense of stability, connections of kinship, feelings of self-worth, and knowledge of African American social history, without which black children may succumb to what Morrison has long called the white gaze
—constant negative messages from a dominant society that devalues them as human beings and disallows self-identity via a proud cultural inheritance. bell hooks deems othermothering revolutionary,
since it takes place in opposition to the idea that parents, especially mothers, should be the only childrearers.… Even in families where the mother stayed home, she could also rely on people in the community to help
(144).
Morrison’s novels reflect this centrality of women in African-American extended families
by depicting the actualities of African American othermothering during and after slavery (Jenkins 206). Although Andrea O’Reilly’s Toni Morrison and Motherhood widens the notion to include those grown women in Morrison’s novels who never receive protection, nurturance, and cultural pride as daughters and thus become psychologically wounded adults, O’Reilly limits her analysis to the othermothering of adult women by other adult women.¹ Morrison’s texts, in fact, disrupt these reified gender roles. Her (un)usual double-eyed look subverts both race and gender norms by questioning the primacy of female-oriented othermothering and asserting that males can be nurturers and culture bearers, too.
In a 1994 interview with Bill Moyers, Morrison was asked about the most crucial need in contemporary urban African American communities. She responded with a single word, Love,
and added, We have to embrace ourselves.
In the interview, without using the term, she commends male othermothering for converting bureaucratic agencies into agency for self- and other-regard: I love those men I heard about in Chicago, black professional men who went every lunch hour to the playgrounds in Chicago’s South Side to talk to those children. Not to be authoritarian, but just to get to know them, without the bureaucracy.
Agreeing absolutely
with Moyers that The love [she is] talking about is the love inspired by moral imagination that takes us beyond blood,
Morrison recounts a group of black businessmen who volunteer at local shelters to comfort crack babies: They were spending time holding … children who were … [exposed to cocaine as fetuses]—holding them. Holding them. Now, I’m sure it does something for the baby, but think what it does for that man, to actually give up some time and hold a baby.
As such, Home illustrates how experiences with othermothering effectively render black men better by tempering those more typically white American male rites of passage like making war and money.² Reflecting her ability to engage imaginatively with several subjects simultaneously, Home becomes a kind of tiny Rosetta Stone to Toni Morrison’s entire oeuvre
(The New York Times).³ It also maps out new territory by disrupting normative narratives of masculinity more than any of her novels since Song of Solomon. Home reflects Michael Awkward’s idea of a nonmonolithic black masculinity
(33) that valorizes black feminism through nurturing activities while concurrently challenging the nuclear family model as a universal constant in American culture (33).
At the Toni Morrison Society’s Fifth Biennial Conference in 2008, during which Morrison read the opening chapter of her then current book project, she commented that she had been planning for some time to examine the relationship between a brother and his sister. A Morrison Society colleague pronounced the ensuing novel Home, dedicated to Morrison’s younger son Slade after sadly being delayed by his death in 2010, right up [my masculinity studies] alley.
⁴ As Morrison contrasts the purportedly golden age of postwar 1950s with the violent reality of the Korean War, McCarthyism, and the routine emasculation of African American males, she offers Frank (otherwise known as Smart
) Money an alternative way to be a man as he comes to reassess Ycidra (nicknamed Cee) Money, his original caring-for,
in a new light (35). For a black veteran in 1952, the journey from a Northwest passage back to a reenvisioned home in Lotus, Georgia, becomes his greatest battle. But the fight to