Healing Companions: Ordinary Dogs and Their Extraordinary Power to Transform Lives
By Jane Miller
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As the more than 65 million dog-owners in America will attest, there’s something about the presence of a dog that inspires confidence, nurtures emotional well-being, and brings out the best in ourselves. But for some people, the presence of a dog can do even more. Written by the leading expert in an emerging new field of therapy, Healing Companions is the first book to detail how dogs are increasingly benefiting those who suffer from a range of emotional ills, from eating disorders and anxiety, to agoraphobia, depression, and post-traumatic stress.
Healing Companions will teach you:
- What criteria to consider when choosing the right dog for you.
- What kind of training service dogs require.
- What to expect and how to respond when you take a service dog out in public.
- How a dog can complement other forms of therapy.
- How to navigate the procedural regulations that apply to a service dog.
- How to recognize the dog’s needs and provide it with proper care.
- And much more.
“Animals are more complete than people. They are wonderful teachers, therapists and role models for us all. Read Healing Companions and learn about their ability to guide and heal us all.”—Bernie Siegel, MD, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Love, Animals, and Miracles
“This book should be required reading for everybody who is considering getting a psychiatric service dog or is working on training them.”—Temple Grandin, author of Animals Make Us Human
Jane Miller
David Miller is a writer living in Chicago. This is his first novel.
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Healing Companions - Jane Miller
Introduction: How the Healing Journey Began
Several years ago I discovered something powerful about the dogs who share many of our lives. Though all dogs provide love, comfort, joy, and support, for some people, dogs actually have the ability to transform lives. Although I have been in clinical practice as a therapist for years, this isn’t something I learned through professional training. The catalyst was a tiny furball named Umaya who came home with me on Christmas Eve. Here’s how our journey began.
After a dozen years of working and attending graduate school, I finally moved into my own house in October 1992. My first priority was to get a dog; furniture could wait. As a child of divorce, I recalled that the most memorable, life-altering gift my father ever gave us was a black Labrador Retriever pup we named Tasha. As I grew up, she was my best friend and confidante, especially while going through the trials and tribulations of adolescence. Tasha taught me how extraordinary the bond between a human and animal can be, and I always knew that once I had a home of my own I wanted to find another Tasha. However, I also knew if I adopted another black Lab, she might remind me too much of Tasha’s absence, and eventually I fell in love with a breed with a similar disposition the beautiful dark Golden Retrievers.
When I started to look for my new dog, I discovered a breeder of Goldens less than 5 miles away from my home. At our first meeting, I was greeted by a boy aged about 17 years who lived with his family on the farm where they raised the dogs. As a child, he had suffered a serious accident when the combine he was riding went up in flames, and, although he had survived, he still bore the scars of his accident, despite numerous plastic surgeries and skin grafts. As we walked out into the yard to meet the dogs, he told me how he started breeding dark Golden Retrievers after the accident, and he credited the dogs for giving him back his life. The dogs accepted him completely for who he was, not what he looked like. I was so touched by his story, and seeing how deeply the dogs loved him, I knew I’d find my pup here. The next litter was due October 30th. I could hardly wait.
When the day finally came for me to meet the litter, the first pup I picked up curled happily into my lap. But after a few moments she got frisky, and when I put her down she immediately peed. I knew at that moment she was the one because she wouldn’t pee on me! We painted her toenails purple so we would know she was mine, and I named her Umaya, which means stability. Then, a few weeks after Umaya entered my life, I received her AKC papers to discover that her dam’s name was Tasha!
I brought my darling pup home on Christmas Eve, and, once I let her out of my arms, Umaya scampered about the house, sniffing here and there with her mouth full of toys, investigating everything but with her eyes glued always on me. She slept with me from the first day, cuddled with me, and taught me how to play. From the start it seemed as though we communicated even without words—she seemed to know what I was thinking and feeling—and my friends remarked that she seemed to embody one of my favorite sayings: Every day is a gift.
Looking at that lively puppy, I could not have foreseen where this relationship would take us during the next 12 years, nor the enormous impact she would have on my work. Who could have guessed that she would not only change my life but that of my clients as well?
Umaya went everywhere with me, and my days happily revolved around her needs. Within a week of her homecoming, however, I spotted blood on her blanket. I immediately took her to the veterinarian, who diagnosed a urinary tract infection. Though the breeder offered to replace her, I wouldn’t hear of it. Umaya and I had bonded. We’d get through her illness together, as we would the many other problems that we would share during the course of our loving and joyful relationship. When I was unable to attend my grandmother’s funeral because of a blizzard, I listened to the service over the telephone. Umaya, still a puppy, crawled onto my lap and licked my tears away, and, when the service was over and I’d hung up, she brought me a toy to play with. Umaya always knew what I needed and she never failed to bring a smile to my face.
But there were bigger troubles ahead. When Umaya was 5, I discovered a lump one day on her left hip while I was giving her a massage. When I brought her to the vet, he diagnosed her with fibrosarcoma, a skin cancer not commonly seen in dogs, and he recommended radiation treatment as a precaution to prevent the disease from spreading. Without treatment, her likelihood of survival was quite slim. Because the veterinary hospital was close to my office, during her 18 days of treatment I started to bring Umaya to work with me. From the first day, Umaya walked into the waiting room and began to make the rounds of clients, greeting each one with a mouth full of toys and her happy smile. Without ever making a complaint or a whine, she continued to find joy in every day, every little wonder to wag about.
Umaya successfully completed her treatment and seemed well on the path to recovery when, a few weeks later while she and I were taking a walk, two dogs flew out of a neighbor’s garage and raced to attack her. Though Umaya turned away from them in an attempt to ward off the attack by appearing submissive, the dogs latched onto her side near her back left leg, close to where the tumor had been. There was blood everywhere.
Terrified, I brought Umaya home, and within half an hour she was in the hospital. Two hours of surgery followed. Fortunately, the attack had missed all of her major organs. The fact that she was on antibiotics to prevent infections during her radiation therapy gave Umaya an edge. Fearing that Umaya would be overstressed if she spent yet another night in the hospital, her veterinarian sent her home with me, along with antiobiotics and a list of signs to look for during the night. When Umaya awoke near me the next morning, after having survived the attack and ensuing surgery, I knew that she would live.
Following the attack, although Umaya displayed behaviors indicating that she may have been suffering from stress, she continued to go to work with me, hopping on three legs and bright with the glow of being alive. But from that period on, perhaps because of adhesions or the buildup of scar tissue, Umaya lost the ability to use her rear legs until she received acupuncture, which helped decrease the inflammation and gave her back the ability to ambulate. At the same time, I was recovering from surgery of my own after an exhaustive (and unfortunately unnecessary) operation years earlier to locate the source of internal bleeding. I struggled with chronic pain and I could not have been more sympathetic to Umaya’s plight. She and I seemed to be leading somewhat parallel lives and both benefited from acupuncture treatments.
During all of this time, Umaya continued to accompany me to work, and for me the therapeutic process was transformed. She began to attend therapy sessions, lying in a corner of the room while the clients talked. She became a mirror image of my clients’ feelings, helping them become more in tune with their own emotions. If they were sad, she’d walk over to them and look pouty; if they were angry she’d chew her rubber bones voraciously, or she’d bring her toy over in an attempt to diffuse their anger. Frequently, clients would begin petting Umaya, start talking, and not even realize that they were sharing painful memories, releasing old hurts, and freeing their spirits. Umaya wordlessly provided support and a sense of calm. As I saw clients experiencing Umaya’s presence in such a profound way, I began to consider how powerful it would be for some of them to have a dog of their own.
In our fast-paced world, doctors are often quick to advise patients suffering from traumatic stress, depression, anxiety, and other emotional and psychological problems that their ills can be solved through the use of one medication or another. Too many people think the pill itself is a magic bullet
that will make their lives happier, easier, and more secure. It isn’t. Medications must be taken under careful supervision, and many anti-depressant drugs carry the risk of negative side effects, including in extreme cases suicidal tendencies. Although many individuals do require medication, which has helped countless people, there are other pill-free choices that are extremely beneficial and may not have been considered. For many people one choice that they may have never heard of, either by itself or in combination with drug therapy and psychotherapy, might make all the difference.
Service dogs have been assisting the blind, the hearing-impaired, and those in wheelchairs and with other disabilities for a long time. There are also Therapy dogs who help enhance quality of life for many people by visiting hospitals, nursing homes, and, other institutions providing comfort and support. Umaya’s strength and calming influence were a revelation to me, and when I saw the way that my clients responded to her, I began to realize that having a dog could have a profound impact on some of my clients’ lives.
This is not just the story of our journey, however; it’s a window onto the world of psychiatric service dogs for people with invisible disabilities, showing how the dogs can change and enhance the lives of their human companions. In the following chapters, we’ll meet some of these amazing dogs and see how they have helped a number of individuals improve their lives in profound and unexpected ways, allowing them to gain self-esteem, self-confidence, assertiveness, and so much more. These dogs provide emotional support, as all dogs do, but they are specifically trained to perform certain tasks unique to the individual’s needs. Through the stories of these dogs, I hope to show how you, a friend, or a family member how he or she might benefit from such a healing companion.
In addition to these remarkable stories, this book will also explain which dogs are the right candidates for the job, which dogs are not, and how to tell the difference. Here’s a hint: It has nothing to do with the dog’s breed. Mixed-breed dogs are very well suited to assist those with invisible disabilities. These dogs can be in-home companions or full-time Service dogs who also accompany their companions out in public and to work. I’ll discuss how these dogs are trained, how the dog may impact other members of the family, and how to make life more comfortable and less stressful for the dogs while they are undertaking their essential tasks. I’ll also provide a helpful list of resources for further information, support, and services.
For anyone who may not know about the profound benefits that these service dogs may bring, as well as for anyone who loves dogs and enjoys learning more about their value to their companions, I hope this book will serve as an informative, practical, and inspirational guide.
Umaya started me on this extraordinary path. Now, share the journey of my clients and others who have opened their hearts to a service dog and found a healing beyond their expectations.
1
Mindy s Story: Umaya Leads the Way
There’s something calming about the presence of a dog.
When I began to bring Umaya to my office, she spread joy wherever she went, but when she walked among my clients, her tail wagging so hard that her entire rear end wiggled in turn, it was just about impossible to ignore her enthusiasm. She would move from person to person in the waiting room, inviting them to play. The clients simply loved her, but Umaya would ultimately prove capable of so much more. There was no design behind my discovery of Umaya’s gift. It was, you might say, serendipitous.
For some time I had been working with a young woman named Mindy, who was in her 20s but looked younger. An incest survivor, Mindy had lived a life of which nightmares are made. Violent crimes always leave the survivor feeling insecure, but imagine what it must be like when the violence begins in infancy. Experiencing night after night of sexual abuse, Mindy never felt safe even in her own room. Although it is often a male relative who carries out the abuse, that wasn’t the case here. Mindy’s abusers were her mother and her sister. A mother is normally equated with nurturing, safety, protection, and love, but the unthinkable had happened to Mindy as a child.
It came as no surprise that Umaya was a gentle support during Mindy’s sessions. People often feel comfortable and safe with a dog and will talk in its presence when they are uncomfortable talking with another person. As Mindy opened up and began to reveal her childhood horrors, her stress level would naturally increase. And there would be Umaya, rapidly rubbing her tongue on the rug in response to the tension in the room, as if she were trying to get a bad taste out of her mouth. Mindy would look at Umaya and realize that Umaya was reflecting her own stress, that she was mirroring the uncomfortable feelings Mindy was releasing as a result of describing her trauma when she, herself, didn’t know how to deal with those emotions. But what happened next with Mindy and Umaya was even more extraordinary.
One day, I walked into my office for a session to find Mindy waiting, talking to Umaya. But her voice sounded different. Childlike. As I observed her interacting with Umaya, I realized that Mindy wasn’t acting like Mindy,
but had assumed another personality. I understood then that Mindy had multiple personality disorder, the result of the trauma she had experienced as a child. Umaya had not just brought out a childlike quality in Mindy; she had coaxed out a child, another self, within her.
When children are abused in infancy, before the personality has had a chance to form, multiple personalities may be created to help the child cope with extremely difficult circumstances. In therapy, the multiples can look to the therapist as a comforting figure, a parent, but Mindy was convinced that they saw Umaya in that role. The little ones, as Mindy referred to those parts, wanted Umaya to protect them, almost like they wanted to be enveloped in her love.
Though there was nothing unusual about her outward appearance, before Mindy realized that she was a multiple, she felt like she was living in the midst of a war zone. As Mindy and I continued to work together, we would ultimately discover that she had several parts within her that had helped her survive: some male, some female, some adults, some children, sometimes aligning themselves with each other in groups. As Mindy began to remember her difficult past, while working with a psychiatrist as well as with me, the memories were disturbing, and she never knew what would set her off. She was balancing three jobs to make enough money to survive, and she felt as if she was constantly running, like the lid on everything had flown off.
Every act became a chore and Mindy had to relearn basic life skills, to feed herself, to bathe herself, to take care of herself. She had to learn to be more direct and assertive with others. And she needed to find a sense of security, of love.
During this difficult time, it seemed that Mindy was less afraid of dogs than of humans. Whereas dogs make their needs known simply and directly, Mindy’s experience with people up until that point was that they communicated through a series of mixed messages so she couldn’t make sense of anything. When her psychiatrist and I both suggested that she should consider adopting a dog, Mindy looked at me one day and said, I need an Umaya.
Many discussions ensued about this prospect. Mindy wanted to know what was involved in caring for a dog, and how much responsibility she would be assuming if she adopted a canine companion. She wanted to understand what the dog would need in order to have a good life, and she needed to believe that she could take care of those needs. And we had concerns as well. Because Mindy has multiple personalities, we had to consider what would happen if any of the parts didn’t like a dog or became jealous of the time Mindy spent with her companion. Then there were the daily walks,