The Vagina Book: An Owner's Manual for Taking Care of Your Down There
By Thinx, Jenn Conti, Daiana Ruiz and Margaret Cho
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With sections on anatomy, periods, hormones, sex, contraception, fertility, hair care, and so much more, this fun-to-read guide helps readers make healthy decisions for their bodies.
Compelling personal essays from a diverse group of luminary figures—including Margaret Cho, Roxane Gay, and Blair Imani—are sprinkled throughout, enriching the pages with beauty, strength, and honesty.
• From OB/GYN Dr. Jennifer Conti and the team behind the beloved Thinx period products
• Dispenses with taboos and misinformation about vaginas and bodies
• Provides the latest health research in easy-to-digest entries
Advice includes yoga poses to help with PMS and cramping, a cheat sheet for making sense of contraception options, why you should care about your pelvic floor (plus easy strengthening exercises!), and the illustrated history of feminine hygiene products, from ancient Egypt through today.
This groundbreaking guide is a perfect gift for every modern woman and a vital addition to every modern bookshelf.
• A must-have handbook for anyone with a vagina
• Presented in a luxe, cushioned case filled with more than a hundred vibrant illustrations
• Perfect unique gift for anyone who is passionate about sexual health, feminism, and learning more about their body, as well as readers of Refinery29 and GOOP
• Add it to the shelf with books like Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski PhD;, WomanCode: Perfect Your Cycle, Amplify Your Fertility, Supercharge Your Sex Drive, and Become a Power Source by Alisa Vitti; and Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashaue.
Thinx
Thinx is a New York City-based period solutions company, specializing in menstrual hygiene products, including their best-selling Thinx period underwear.
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The Vagina Book - Thinx
hearts.
introduction
how I unlearned everything I thought I believed about vaginas
by Dr. Jenn Conti
I am an ob/gyn doctor: I deliver babies, I do pap smears and breast cancer screenings, I surgically remove uteruses and ovaries, and I perform abortions, because all of this is part of healthcare. Inclusivity and choice are guiding principles in my work. But I wasn’t always this way. Anyone who knew me as a teenager might not recognize the woman I am today.
When I was sixteen years old, I considered myself to be pro-life.
I thought abortion was murder. I thought anyone who considered it was selfish, coldhearted, and godless. In the community I grew up in, it was common to believe that abortion was the pinnacle of evil in the world. So pervasive was this mentality that killing babies
was, not infrequently, the topic of social group discussions. If we could just get other people to see how truly black and white the topic of abortion was, they’d surely recognize the moral depravity of the issue, the injustice for the unborn. I wanted to be an ob/gyn doctor because, as the eldest of nineteen grandchildren, I had seen birth, in all its glory, eighteen times over. I wanted to help bring babies into the world, not shut them out of it. I, of all people, knew how wrong abortion was.
I started volunteering at a local women’s health clinic after school, and it wasn’t long before I noticed small, unexpected shifts in my perspective.
One day, a girl I recognized from class came in requesting a whole slew of STI (sexually transmitted infection) tests. She said she’d been at a party the night before and then woke up that morning in a bed she didn’t recognize, next to a guy whose name she didn’t even know. She said she was pretty sure they’d had sex, and she thought they’d used a condom, but couldn’t be sure. Could I just please ask the doctor to order the tests and maybe give her some pills for the next time it happened? Oh, and could I not look at her like that,
like this was the most shocking thing I had ever heard? I remember the feeling of ranking my health decisions against those of other people—that one of them was right and the other was wrong. I never thought of myself as outwardly judging others, but that’s exactly what it was: judgment. I assumed I knew what was best for other people, and that scenarios like if, when, and how to parent were one size fits all.
Slowly, stories like this began to lose their sacrilegious bite. Everyone, it appeared, was having sex, and everyone was running into sticky situations like this one. And instead of getting angry, I got worried. Clearly admonition and religious persuasion were ineffective when it came to sex. What if that was all wrong? What if judgment did more harm than good?
Then the unthinkable happened. Someone I knew, a church leader’s daughter, got knocked up, and I knew she wasn’t godless. If anyone had a direct line to the Almighty, it was Mary
(because that’s the kind of pseudonym you use for a story like this).
Mary was my age and had everything going for her. She had long, gorgeous blond hair that hung beautifully down her back, perfect skin, and a symmetrical smattering of freckles on her cheeks that made you think instantly of midwestern virtue and all things patriotic.
She was dating a boy (let’s call him Ben
) and the both of them had attended church every week since they were born. Everyone knew they would probably get married. Ben had given Mary a promise ring—an outward symbol of their love and a public broadcasting of their vow to keep it in their pants
until their union was approved by Jesus on their wedding night. This was the norm for teenagers in the church.
I still remember the day she came into the clinic. It was late in the afternoon and the facility was about to close. The receptionist called me, saying the last patient had just arrived, 20 minutes late for her appointment, but insisted on being seen, saying it was urgent. She said the girl was hysterical and would need someone to escort her to the exam room. I walked up front, and when I turned the corner into the waiting room, I was dumbstruck. There was church Mary, Ben’s Mary, chastity-belt-on-her-ring-finger Mary, and holy-shit-it’s-you Mary. Her freckles were obscured by the beet-red shine of her wet, puffy cheeks, but it was unmistakably her.
I took her back to the exam room, and her story came tumbling out. She was pregnant—twelve weeks—and Ben didn’t know. Nobody knew (except God, obviously). She worried about what this could mean for her future. She said if she was forced to have a baby, it would ruin her life. There was only one way out of this, and she had already thought about it long and hard. She needed an abortion, and would the clinic please, please, help her? And we did.
When you grow up only seeing one side of an issue, it’s easy to know the view you hold is the right view. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about how I could have so adamantly believed abortion was definitively wrong, and not a complex, often uncomfortable, yet necessary reality of life.
Part of it, I’m sure, came from the fact that I was essentially indoctrinated to think homosexuality, abortion, and interracial marriage were bad. When you teach a child something before the age of seven—the classic developmental cognitive, emotional, and moral stage where we become more capable of rational thought—you’re essentially cementing perceived truths into place. And so, this was my truth until I studied science, had some really wonderful teachers, and made friends with people who did not share a similar life story.
Given the 180-degree turn I’ve made with all of these beliefs, you might think I’d be embarrassed of who I used to be. The truth is, I’m proud of the change I’ve made because it makes me a better doctor and human to have understood these different assumptions so intimately.
It’s this familiarity with a judgmental mindset that has made me the doctor and the educator I am today. At the core of every encounter I have with a patient is the acknowledged truth that no two human beings are alike, and that I will never purport to know what is best for someone else’s life. I strive to be an empathetic health provider for those who walk through my clinic door, a teacher, and a resource for anyone who wants to get to know their body a little bit better.
This is exactly what I hope this book will be for others—an honest, compassionate, and inclusive resource. Textbooks and sex ed class can teach us only so much in this area, and vaginal health is certainly not the forte of religious or political leaders. Stories and lived experiences are what round out the most significant narratives, and so, this book is for anyone looking to learn more about vaginas.
CHAPTER 1
periods
what actually happens during menstruation?
While most of us received a rudimentary education about periods in grade school (which probably involved first kicking all the boys out of the room), it’s possible the specifics have become a bit fuzzy since then. Here’s the thing—on average, you’ll menstruate for over 2,000 days in your lifetime. That’s a lot of time to be kind of hazy on the details! So, let’s take this opportunity to go back to the basics: What’s actually going on down there all month?
In a nutshell, if you menstruate, your body is always preparing for one of its eggs to be fertilized. The lining of your uterus will thicken around one of your eggs, creating a cozy home in preparation for a fertilized egg. If you don’t become pregnant, your body sheds the lining and releases the unfertilized egg. Then, the cycle starts all over again! Let’s break that down.
menstruation
Day 1 of your period is also day 1 of your whole menstrual cycle. This is when your body gets rid of unneeded stuff: the uterine lining, the unfertilized egg, and mucus. And of course, blood flows out your uterus through your vagina and into your pad, cup, or tampon—or onto your jeans, if you’re free bleeding! As you’re probably aware, menstruation tends to last 3 to 7 days and is accompanied by all sorts of fun things like cramping, mood swings, fatigue, and more.
follicular phase
Did you know we’re born with all the eggs we’ll ever have? We usually start with 1 to 2 million follicles (immature eggs), but by the time puberty comes and menstruation begins, the number has dropped to around 400,000. These immature eggs are stored in our ovaries, each inside its own microscopic, fluid-filled follicle. The follicular phase begins when 1 of about 20 competing follicles matures into an egg and ends with ovulation of 1 egg. The first day of your period coincides with your follicular phase, so you’re technically double-booked with menstruation for the first week.
Let’s talk hormones: In our brains, we have a gland called the hypothalamus, which is responsible for things like thirst, hunger, sleep, sex drive, and hormones. At the beginning of your cycle, the hypothalamus kicks things into gear by telling its buddy, your pituitary gland, to release follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH). That’s when your follicle matures and starts preparing for ovulation, the next phase of menstruation. These multitasking follicles then release another hormone, estrogen, which causes the lining of your uterus to thicken in preparation for the fertilization of your egg.
ovulation
Once your estrogen levels hit their highest point, your hypothalamus gets another message: Release a burst of LH. This surge causes one follicle to burst open and release an egg, which then travels into your fallopian tube. Ovulation typically lasts 1 day, usually around the 14-day mark of