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    Transform Your Self-Talk: The Art of Talking to Yourself for Confidence, Belief, and Calm
    Transform Your Self-Talk: The Art of Talking to Yourself for Confidence, Belief, and Calm
    Transform Your Self-Talk: The Art of Talking to Yourself for Confidence, Belief, and Calm
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    Transform Your Self-Talk: The Art of Talking to Yourself for Confidence, Belief, and Calm

    By Nick Trenton

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    Change your self-critic into your biggest cheerleader.


    Our behavior comes from our thoughts, and our thoughts come from our beliefs. Thankfully, our self-talk can change this entire sequence and allow us to control our own fate.


    Quit self-sabotage and stop your negative thoughts before they happen.


    Transform Your Self-Talk is all about changing the narrative you’ve told yourself your entire life. It’s probably disempowering and robbing you of the belief you should have in yourself. We shouldn't start our days facing defeat. This book will dissect every mental habit you possess and rebuild your self-talk from the ground up. Start each and every day knowing that it is yours to conquer.


    You are what you believe. Will you take advantage of this?


    Nick Trenton grew up in rural Illinois and is quite literally a farm boy. His best friend growing up was his trusty companion Leonard the dachshund. RIP Leonard. Eventually, he made it off the farm and obtained a BS in Economics, followed by an MA in Behavioral Psychology.


    Stop living in your head and start living the life you want.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherPublishdrive
    Release dateAug 3, 2020
    ISBN9798671771305
    Transform Your Self-Talk: The Art of Talking to Yourself for Confidence, Belief, and Calm

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      Lots of insights in this book about the highly interesting topic of self-talk. The author talks about developing awareness of our thinking/self-talk and to reframe those aspects which are not serving us. The brain believes what we tell it most often. But with increased understanding around neuroplasticity we know we can now create new pathways and replace the old, unhelpful ones. Self-talk is a great tool that can help us achieve it. A great book - thank you.

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    Transform Your Self-Talk - Nick Trenton

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    Transform Your Self-Talk:

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    by Nick Trenton

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    Table of Contents

    Transform Your Self-Talk: The Art of Talking to Yourself for Confidence, Belief, and Calm

    Chapter 1. That Voice Inside Your Head

    The Science of Self-Talk

    Self-Talk as an Amplifier

    Eenie, Meenie, Minie, Moe

    Chapter 2. Good Versus Evil

    Positive Versus Negative Self-Talk

    A Simple Cost-Benefit Analysis

    Meet Your Inner Critic

    Five Levels of Self-Talk

    Chapter 3. All You Need to Do Is Listen

    The Key to Self-Awareness

    Assessment Tools and Tips

    Chapter 4. Replace, Transform, Evolve

    Three-Step Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

    Step 1: Observe

    Step 2: Challenge

    Step 3: Replace

    Chapter 5: More Than Words

    Everyday Reinforcement

    A Self-Empowerment Habit

    The Culmination of Rewriting Your Self-Talk

    Summary Guide

    Chapter 1. That Voice Inside Your Head

    It’s been there so long sometimes you barely even notice it—that little voice inside that quietly narrates, judges, encourages, explains or interprets the world around you. Though you may recognize the concept of an inner voice from self-help literature, the fact is there’s nothing abstract or mysterious about this inner chatter. Self-talk actually has a surprising body of scientific evidence behind it, informing a fascinating set of theories that seek to understand exactly what’s happening when we talk to ourselves.

    In this book we’ll take a closer look at what self-talk actually is, the various theories that have been proposed over the years to explain the phenomenon, and the facts we’ve amassed so far about both its psychology and physiology.

    We’ll discover the different types of self-talk, investigate why it happens, explore what’s normal and what’s not, and most importantly, we’ll see that self-talk can be changed for the better. As Bruce Lee famously said, As you think, so shall you become. Using a series of scientifically supported techniques to identify and improve your self-talk, you can take more conscious control of your thinking and perceptions, boosting confidence, self-mastery and resilience in a challenging world.

    Self-talk is something we do every day, and this is partially why it’s so hard for us to change. We don’t even realize we are doing it.

    You wake up in the morning and the second you open your eyes the stream of thoughts starts flowing: "What day is it? Oh right, Tuesday. I mustn’t forget that appointment later this afternoon. God, I have such a bad memory, why am I such an idiot all the time? I bet I’ll forget it. Typical. I’m always doing things like that. Oh look, it seems like it’ll be a sunny day today. That reminds me, I have to get my mole scan done at some point… but what if it’s cancer? But it’s not going to be. I mean, it might be. That would be just my luck. Great-Aunt Matilda had skin cancer. I think? If I die of cancer who will look after my kids? That would literally be the worst thing I could think of… but what’s the point in getting it checked out? Doctors are all useless… That reminds me…"

    You may not do all this every day, but you likely do some of this some days.

    Self-talk is that stream-of-conscious, ongoing internal dialogue that runs inside our minds, affecting every aspect of our lives from our moods, to our behavior, to our self-confidence, to our appraisal of risk and reward. It’s the constant conversation we have with ourselves. It can be neutral and mostly observational (oh right, it’s Tuesday), or filled with criticism, pessimism, doom and gloom (I shouldn’t try that, I’m not good enough). Often, all of the above become inseparable from the objective truth of a matter.

    Our inner self-talk is the built-in narrator that runs alongside our lives, playing over everyday activities and in the background of every action or decision we make. This narration colors the entire tone of our lived experience, telling us how to interpret both good and bad experiences, and how to understand ourselves and our place in the world. It amounts to a narrative we tell ourselves, and this narrative is solidified well before we become adults.

    Importantly, self-talk can be unconscious or conscious, negative or positive, beneficial to our lives or working entirely against our best interests. With some awareness and effort, negative and self-defeating inner talk can be identified and changed, so that the voice in your head supports rather than undermines you.

    There are three primary types of self-talk.

    The most obvious type is negative self-talk, and the thought-stream above is a prime example. These pessimistic interpretations, judgments, accusations, complaints, and catastrophic predictions leave us feeling awful. Some people in some circumstances might find negative self-talk motivational, but this comprises only a small percentage of negative self-talk (They said I can’t do this? I’ll prove them wrong! versus I’m not good enough to do it, so I just won’t try.). This is your inner self-critic who always sees the glass as half-empty. He can be useful and warn us about certain dangers, but again, that only takes place a rather small percentage of the time.

    On the other hand, true motivational self-talk, or positive self-talk, is that which actively encourages and supports us as we navigate life’s challenges, aim for our goals or cope with difficulties. This can be an affirmation-style phrase that you consciously use to correct biased thinking, or it can be simply smiling at yourself in the mirror before an interview and saying, I’m going to be great! I can do this and I certainly deserve it!

    Neutral self-talk is the bulk of the internal conversation, and consists of simple observations and comments, while instructional self-talk is the kind of dialogue we have with ourselves to help us through certain tasks, sports or performance, for example: keep looking straight ahead, easy does it, and OK, try again but this time focus on the ball… But even these statements can take a positive or negative tone if not carefully managed.

    For the purposes of our book, we’ll be looking primarily at negative and positive/motivational self-talk—and how to turn the former into the latter.

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