TMI: My Life in Scandal
By Perez Hilton, Leif Eriksson and Martin Svensson
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"Delicious memoir. . . . catnip for Hollywood gossip hounds." —Publishers Weekly
The story of how Mario Lavandeira becomes Perez Hilton, the world's first and biggest celebrity blogger, with millions of readers around the globe.
With Perez's help, many promising young artists reached the masses—Katy Perry, Adele, Amy Winehouse, and Lady Gaga, to name a few. Soon Perez was a Hollywood insider, but after a dramatic fallout with Lady Gaga, his blog became increasingly mean.
When people called him a bully and a hypocrite for outing gay celebrities, Perez was forced to reevaluate not only his alter ego, but also himself.
TMI reveals the man behind the blog in a new, revealing, and still juicy memoir.
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TMI - Perez Hilton
Acknowledgments
PROLOGUE
It’s 2010, and I’m with Lady Gaga at the dress rehearsal for the Much Music Video Awards in Toronto when I hear a woman’s voice behind me: Why have you been writing all those nasty things about me on your website?
I turn around and see Fergie from the Black Eyed Peas. She’s standing just a few feet away from me, at the edge of the stage. From the speakers, I hear the intro to Paparazzi,
and Lady Gaga’s voice soon fills the empty venue.
Fergie gestures wildly. Why are you being so mean?
I don’t really have a good answer for her—which is why I continue to ignore her questions.
Fergie shakes her head and walks away.
The next evening, at the entrance to Universal’s after-party, I bump into will.i.am.
Hey, Perez,
he says. I need you to do me a favor. I need you to never write about my band on your site again.
I take a deep breath before telling him, Uhh … I’ll try.
Other people have started to gather around us. I’m tired and sweaty, and the makeup I wore to the awards show is making my face itch.
Will.i.am continues: Why’d you disrespect me, man?
I meet his eye for the first time. I don’t have to respect you. You’re such a fag. Stop being such a faggot.
Sadly, I don’t even have time to regret my words before, from the corner of one eye, I see a man step forward with his fist raised. Everything goes black.
1
The Fat Kid
I escape to Mom’s Spanish gossip magazines and The Oprah Winfrey Show.
Igrew up with my mom, dad, maternal grandparents, and little sister in a super suburban neighborhood of Miami called Westchester. Everyone who lived there was the same; the families on both sides of the block were Cuban, and mine was just like all the others. The single-story house we lived in looked the same as all the others, too—aside from the fact that we didn’t have a pool, and my bedroom didn’t have any windows.
Back then, my name was Mario Lavandeira, born Mario Armando Lavandeira Jr., though I was also known as the Fat Kid.
That’s what everyone called me after a couple kids from school started to sneak up behind me and give me embarrassing back fat pinches, laughing at me. Either that or they’d make fun of me in other ways.
But before I get into all that, I need to tell you about the first few years of my life, because they were actually pretty good—and above all, totally carefree. A few blocks from where I lived, there was a place called La Perla Supermarket. I loved going there with my mom, Teresita, and always used to grab a bite to eat in the bakery while she shopped.
Before I was born, she actually worked as a cashier there, and that’s how she met my dad, Mario (though everyone called him Mandy, short for his middle name, Armando). They had both moved from Cuba in the late 1960s, back when it was still legal to do so.
My mom’s dad used to own a couple of butcher shops in Havana, but when the Castro regime took over, the government confiscated all private businesses and brought them under state control, so he decided to try to create a better life for himself and his family in America. Virtually all of my mom and dad’s relatives did the same—it’s truly tremendous what the Cuban community managed to accomplish in Miami.
In the mid-1970s, while Mom worked at La Perla, Dad and his parents were living in a rented apartment right down the street, and she would see him almost every day when he went in to buy coffee. Mom was only sixteen at the time, Dad twenty-eight, but he was still living at home—which wasn’t unusual for a single Latino man back then. It was four years before they got married, but just two years after that, on March 23, 1978, I was born.
At the time, we were living in a two-room apartment on Southwest Twelfth Avenue in Little Havana. It was a predominantly low-income neighborhood, but there was a great sense of community there, mostly because there was one major thing binding us all together: our culture. Everybody knew everybody, and my mom’s parents, Felipe and Elia, lived only a short walk from our apartment.
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I loved my grandparents dearly. Most of all, I loved my abuelo (grandfather), who was a very affectionate man and almost acted like a second father when Dad was busy working. Whenever they came over to our place, I put on shows just for him, dancing and goofing around, and he always used to encourage me.
Mom stopped working pretty soon after I was born, because Dad wanted her to stay home with me. She was happy to do it, but she was never really a domestic person. In fact, my father was the one who cooked for us when he got home from work; he made the best Cuban food in the world. For the holidays we would always have Cuban-style pork, and during the week it was usually rice and beans, breaded beef, or some other variety of meat.
While Dad took care of the cooking, Mom used to talk on the phone with her friends. She loved to gossip and would talk about anything and anyone—about our family, our relatives, friends and acquaintances, neighbors (not much has changed there). The interesting thing is that in the Latino community, the word gossip (chisme in Spanish) isn’t something negative; it’s something everyone likes, and even as a kid I could spend hours flicking through Mom’s Spanish-language gossip magazines. The truth is that I didn’t actually learn to speak English before I went to school.
In any case, Gloria Estefan was the celebrity I obsessed over most around this time, and for my sixth birthday Mom and Dad took me to one of her shows. They were fans of Gloria, too—she’s another Cuban from Miami, and Cuban Americans like to think of her as royalty. The show at the Miami-Dade County Auditorium was in two acts, with one intermission, and for the encore they played Conga,
Gloria’s biggest hit. I remember they had these huge blow-up balls that they were tossing around the audience as Gloria shouted, If anyone wants to come do the conga with me, come on up!
Without pausing to think for a second, I charged up onto the stage. That was the moment when I first realized I was different.
That was the moment when I first realized I was different.
Mom was pregnant with my sister Barbara around this time, and a few months after she was born we moved into a single- story home at 8400 Southwest Twenty-First Street in Westchester, together with Mom’s parents. I don’t remember much of the move itself, but I do remember immediately loving our new home, which was much bigger than our tiny old apartment. I remember one of our first days there particularly clearly, because I went over to the neighbor boy’s place to play.
We were alone in his house and decided to take off our clothes. More accurately, we thought we were alone, but his big brother suddenly came charging into the room and my parents found out all about it that very same night.
Not long later, they sent me to a therapist with the aim of trying to make sure I wasn’t gay. I guess that shows just how worried they were. I mean, no one from our neighborhood went to therapy.
As far as I was concerned, the therapy sessions were pretty funny. I mean, all that happened was they dropped me off with a woman who, in my eyes, seemed really strange. She just asked all kinds of questions and had me play.
Sadly, the treatment sessions didn’t go on for long. After just the second or third session, the therapist asked me to wait outside while she talked to my mom. I could hear her through the door as she said, You know, your son is exceptionally bright. There’s nothing wrong with him.
The kids at school clearly had other ideas, because when I started first grade that fall the other students seemed to decide I was someone they could pick on and bully. Other than giving me back-fat pinches, mocking me, and stealing my school bag and throwing it around between themselves, they started calling me Elvis, because my hair was all big and poofy. Elvis or Barf, after the fat dog-like character in the film Spaceballs.
There was only one occasion where I actually stood up for myself and fought back. It happened when a kid refused to stop pushing me in the hall at school—even though I asked him several times. It didn’t help, and just a few days later someone yelled, Hey, Fat Kid!
at me. That name stuck for the rest of my time at school.
Despite all this, my parents were constantly reminding me about the sacrifices they had made to send me to private school. Telling me it was the reason we couldn’t afford a fancy car and so on. All in all, it made me quiet and introverted, and when school finished for the day I went straight home to my room and sat on my bed, eating junk food and watching sitcoms and The Oprah Winfrey Show until late in the evening. The truth is, I still think of that bedroom as some kind of backdrop for my childhood. The beige wallpaper, the wooden furniture, the blue tiles in my bathroom. And, of course, the TV. Together with Mom’s Spanish-language gossip magazines, it became my only window out onto the world.
2
Latino Culture
My parents continue to worry about my feminine side and enroll me in judo class in an attempt to butch me up.
The older I got, the worse the bullying became, but if I’m really honest, I don’t think they did it because of the way I looked. I think they did it because I was gay. It wasn’t something anyone ever mentioned, but it was definitely always the elephant in the room.
The problem was that I couldn’t come out. Particularly not once I started sixth grade and began attending a strict Jesuit all-boys school where you had to wear a uniform and go to mass, and where 95 percent of the students were Latino.
During the 1990s, no one ever really talked to us about homosexuality at school. Not until one day in theology class, when my teacher said, You know, there are studies that claim one in every ten people is gay.
I remember staring at her and thinking, Wow, is she really saying this?
Unfortunately, she crushed what little hope I had in the very next breath, by saying, But you boys aren’t like other boys.
The saddest thing about it was that she was a lesbian herself (still in the closet, of course).
Back then, Latino culture as a whole was incredibly machista, and that meant it was OK to say bad things about gay people, even if they were members of your own family. I had a gay cousin, and I remember my relatives saying things like Hope she doesn’t bring her girlfriend
whenever we got together for the holidays. I also remember overhearing them talk about another gay relative, saying that they didn’t want him in the swimming pool because he had AIDS, and they were worried the kids might catch it.
There was so much ignorance back then, a real lack of education, and it was pretty commonplace to hear jokes about gay people whenever the family got together. I remember one occasion in particular, at home in our living room. I made such an effort to laugh at one of their jokes that I could feel my mouth straining, but I was also terrified they would notice how hurt I actually felt. The reason I remember that occasion so clearly is because just a week or so later, I asked my parents if I could start taking piano lessons. I loved music more than anything, and I desperately wanted to learn an instrument.
It was the fall of sixth grade, and I guess it must have been the weekend, because although it was after ten in the morning, both Mom and Dad were sitting at the kitchen table when I came into the room.
Can I start piano lessons?
I asked, immediately realizing that I should have kept quiet.
Mom just stared at me before calmly explaining that piano lessons were something little girls did. The very next week, she and Dad enrolled me in judo class instead.
Naturally, I hated it from the moment I first set foot in the club where the lessons took place. The