Living a Purposeful Life: Searching for Meaning in All the Wrong Places
By Kalman J. Kaplan and Michael Shapiro
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No people seemed to search for meaning in their lives more than did the ancient and classical Greeks. They were not content with living simple lives but oftentimes took on gargantuan tasks which resulted in a great deal of upheaval and unpleasantness in their everyday lives, and oftentimes to disaster, indeed suicide. The biblical human being, in contrast, is not driven to search for meaning in this way. One's purpose is inherent in daily life. He does not need to search for it. The God of the Hebrew Bible makes the human being, man and woman, in His own image. He then breathes life into man. Life has an inherent purpose. Man must be a steward of God's creation.
Kalman J. Kaplan
Kalman J. Kaplan is Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago College of Medicine. Dr. Kaplan has published fourteen books and many articles and was awarded a grant from The John Templeton Foundation and Fulbright Foundation awards to develop a program in A Biblical Approach to Mental Health. Among Dr. Kaplan's books are Right to Die versus Sacredness of Life, The Fruit of Her Hands, A Psychology of Hope and Living Biblically.
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Introduction
Three of the most influential books over the last century have focused on meaning, the search for it or the lack of it. The 1942 book The Stranger, by the French existentialist Albert Camus, stresses the essential meaninglessness of life because of the inevitability of death. The protagonist, Meursault, is psychologically detached from the world around him. Seemingly significant events for most people, such as his mother’s death or an upcoming marriage, have no meaning for him. Because Meursault seems unable to grieve, he is seen as an outsider, a threat, even a monster. At his subsequent trial for a senseless murder he has committed, the fact that he had no reaction to his mother’s death seems to tarnish his image even more than his taking of a life.¹
In Camus’s second book, The Myth of Sisyphus, in this same year, he writes about the Greek character Sisyphus, who was assigned the task of pushing a rock up a mountain. Upon reaching the top, the rock would roll down again, leaving Sisyphus to start over. Camus sees Sisyphus as the absurd hero who is condemned to a meaningless task, the central concern of The Myth of Sisyphus.²
Camus claims that there is a fundamental conflict between what we want from the universe (whether it be meaning, order, or reason) and what we find in the universe (formless chaos). We will never find in life itself the meaning that we want to find. Either we will discover that meaning through a leap of faith or we will conclude that life is meaningless. Camus asks if coming to the conclusion that life is meaningless necessarily leads one to commit suicide. If life has no meaning, does that mean life is not worth living? If that were the case, are all faced with a choice of making a leap of faith or killing ourselves? Camus suggests a third possibility: that we can accept and live in a world devoid of meaning, hardly an attractive option. It should be pointed out that Camus wrote both of these books from Nazi-occupied France during World War II. This was a very pessimistic period in France as Germany had invaded in May of 1940.
Man’s Search for Meaning was published somewhat later, in 1959, by Viktor Frankl, who writes that he developed his logotherapy out of his experiences in Nazi concentration camps in Nazi-occupied Poland. Frankl argues that man’s search for meaning is the primary motivation in his life and not a secondary rationalization of instinctual drives. Frankl on the surface seems less philosophically pessimistic than Camus. But as the title of his book clearly states, meaning is something that must be searched for. It is not intrinsic in one’s personality.³
However, is this really true? Or does it represent an attempt by a therapist to impose a meaning structure on an individual? This is a criticism levied at logotherapy in 1960 by no less than Rollo May, one of the founders of existential psychology.⁴ In May’s view, Frankl applied (perhaps even imposed) a specific meaning structure on a patient when he/she did not have a particular goal. May thus feels despite its advantages, Frankl’s logotherapy hovers close to authoritarianism.
Suicide is rampant in today’s world, and many people report feeling that their lives are without purpose. Yet a search for meaning can actually be quite destructive. Consider the murders committed by Charles Manson’s Helter Skelter gang as the tumultuous 1960s were coming to an end. Manson often spoke to the members of his family
about Helter Skelter
in the months leading up to the murders of Sharon Tate and Leno and Rosemary LaBianca in August 1969. Helter Skelter
referred to an apocalyptic war arising from racial tensions between blacks and whites and referred specifically to songs in an album by the Beatles entitled The White Album, and to the book of Revelation in the Christian New Testament. Manson and his followers were convicted of the murders on the basis of the theory by the prosecution that they were part of a plan to trigger the Helter Skelter scenario.⁵ Yet, were they not searching for meaning?
In direct contrast to these books is a more recent very popular work, The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, published in 2002. Warren is pastor of a megachurch in sunny Southern California, a very different place than the gray Nazi-occupied Europe, and indeed the death camps themselves in Frankl’s case. What is important for Warren is not searching for meaning but living one’s life purposively.⁶ A similar stance is taken by Kay Warren in her very positive 2012 book, Choose Joy, Because Happiness Is Not Enough.⁷ While both books are written in a specific christological framework, their thoughts express a more general biblical view of life. Could the fact that the Warrens are writing in sunny California rather than a grey, cloudy European context explain the difference in their views. Yet, this difference in locale alone cannot explain this difference; after all, the previously discussed horrific murders committed by the Manson gang occurred in sunny Southern California. It is thus possible to be destructively obsessed with a search for meaning—even in sunny Southern California.
So what is the difference? What is the difference between searching for meaning and living purposely, and where does this difference come from? Perhaps it lies in the observations of the French writer Alexis de Tocqueville in his classic work Democracy in America. He puts it this way with regard to how his experience in America altered his view of religion.
In France I had always seen the spirit of religion and the spirit of freedom pursuing courses diametrically opposed to each other; but in America I found that they were intimately united, and they reigned in common over the same country.⁸
While Camus’ and Frankl’s thought do not seem to be emerging from a biblical worldview, the Warrens’ view does, and it is grounded firmly in biblical thought. Three separate biblical verses record the Israelites’ acceptance of the obligations that the Hebrew Scriptures (Torah) impose on them.
When Moses first ascends Mount Sinai, God commands him to tell the people that if they accept the covenant, God will make them a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.
⁹ Upon hearing these words, the people respond, All that God has said, we will do.
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Later in the text, after Moses relates specific divine rules to the people, they again say, All of the things that God has said, we will do.
¹¹ A few verses later, after Moses writes and reads aloud the words of Scriptures, the people utter the phrase na’aseh v’nishma.¹² Although this literally is translated as we will do and we will hear,
it has often been interpreted as "we will first do and then we will understand." In other words, meaning does not need to be searched for, it is a consequence of living a purposeful life.
Nicholas Wolterstorff, former Noah Porter Professor Emeritus of Philosophical Theology at Yale University, argues this same point.
The ancient Greek writers had a tragic view of life. Theirs was a culture of honor and shame; they admired the hero. But the hero often found himself enmeshed in a situation where death provided the only alternative to living in shame. The fates had decreed. There was no other way out. . .[However] the biblical God is not one who decrees our fate but one who has created each of us as a creature of worth, and who loves us. . .. In this world, heroism is not called for; it’s enough that we be grateful and make good use of the life that’s given us.¹³
The great Russian-Jewish philosopher Lev Shestov puts the problem this way in his work Athens and Jerusalem.
The Creator of the world has Himself become subordinate to Necessity which He created and which, without at all seeking or desiring it has become the sovereign of the universe. . . We must try to stand up against Necessity itself, try to free the living and feeling Parmenides from dead and altogether indifferent power.¹⁴
While searching for meaning can lead us terribly astray and indeed create terrible havoc, living purposively represents the essence of a biblical approach to life. My own work argues this very point and offers a biblically based psychotherapy as an antidote to the suicide crisis in contemporary society.¹⁵ Perhaps the very term suicide prevention
is often too negative, too little, and too late. What seems much more effective is a culture of life promotion,
where people grow up validating life and not death, living life purposively rather than in an endless search for meaning that too often can lead to destructive behaviors, even suicide.
Before we pursue this question in more detail, let us discuss a curious phenomenon that has emerged in America (and indeed much of the Western world over the last twenty-five years): a dramatic increase in the popularity of running marathons. This has occurred despite the publication of medical articles reporting on injuries to runners of all experience, with yearly incidence rates for injury reported by Fredericson and Misra¹⁶ in 2007 to be as high as 90 percent in those training for marathons.
For example, one study in 1998 by Marti and his associates¹⁷ reports survey results indicating that of 4,358 male joggers studied during the course of a year, 45.8 percent had sustained at least one injury. They strongly suggest a healthy regimen lies in the range of 10–25 kilometers per week. Macera and her associates¹⁸ issue similar warnings in 1991, indicating that male marathon runners were almost twice as likely to report lower extremity musculoskeletal problems in the month after the race, and female marathon runners were four times more likely to report such problems.
More recent research articles also point to potential dangers in the running of marathons. In 2014 Saragiotto et. al. report a review of 4,671 pooled participants which pointed to previous injury within the last twelve months prior to their running as the major risk factor for subsequent injury.¹⁹ Nathan reports the results of a questionnaire study indicating a significant association (p < .003) between running time and injury while running the 2012 London Marathon. Runners who completed the marathon in less than four hours were less likely to sustain an injury than those finishing in greater than four hours.²⁰ Perhaps those runners finishing in less time were better trained or more physically fit to begin with.
Tellingly, Nathan in 2013 points out the dramatic increase in the popularity and participation in marathons noted by Fredericson and Misra and suggests, it would be interesting to consider what the reason for this increase may be.
And we echo this question: Where does the idea of the marathon race come from?
The Run of Pheidippides
The marathon derives from the story of Pheidippides (530–490 BCE), an Athenian herald or courier
²¹ who was sent to Sparta to request help when the Persians landed at Marathon, Greece. Whether this actually took place is debated by scholars. But in any case, here is the basic story. Athenian runner Pheidippides ran about 240 kilometers (150 miles) in two days to ask the Spartans for help against Persian invaders. He seems to have failed in his request, but his run is completely understandable, and laudable. But then we come to more perplexing part of the story. Pheidippides then runs 40 kilometers (25 miles) from the battlefield near Marathon to Athens to announce the Greek victory over Persia in the Battle of Marathon (490 BCE) with the exclamation We win!
in Greek. He then collapses and dies. On the surface, this story seems to be very heroic. In fact, the English poet Robert Browning gives us a highly romanticized version of the story in his 1879 poem Pheidippides, equating his death (joy bursting his heart) with bliss.
So, when Persia was dust, all cried, "To Acropolis!
Run, Pheidippides, one race more! the meed is thy due!
Athens is saved, thank Pan, go shout!" He flung down his shield
Ran like fire once more: and the space ‘twixt the fennel-field
And Athens was stubble again, a field which a fire runs through,
Till in he broke: Rejoice, we conquer!
Like wine through clay,
Joy in his blood bursting his heart,—the bliss.²²
And this brings us to a perplexing part of the story. Why did the Greek Pheidippides push himself beyond his endurance to be the first to announce the Greek victory over the Persians? The Greeks had defeated the Persians at Marathon. Why was he driven to be the first to announce this news? On the surface, it did not have any obvious instrumental value. The Greeks had won. What gain did the Greeks in Athens derive from receiving this knowledge immediately, as opposed to the next day? Their forces had been victorious at Marathon—they had defeated the Persians. And even if the Greeks had received some benefit from immediate knowledge of their victory at Marathon,²³ why did not Pheidippides ride on a horse? And even if there was a compelling reason for this, why is Pheidippides’ clearly physically dangerous act valorized to this day, with people all over the world training in an attempt to emulate this act, despite, as mentioned above, the documented medical risks attendant to it?
We cannot avoid the interpretation that this ancient story fed into the ancient Greek sense of the heroic. In his superb book The Glory of Hera: Greek Mythology and the Greek Family, Phillip Slater tells us much of interest about the ancient Greeks and perhaps modern Western life. The Greeks were as creative a people as have ever lived and seemed to search for meaning in everything they did. They were not content with living simple lives but oftentimes took on gargantuan tasks which resulted in a great deal of upheaval and unpleasantness and oftentimes to disaster. Slater puts it this way: The Greeks were quarrelsome as friends, treacherous as neighbors, brutal as masters, faithless as servants, shallow as lovers—all of which was in part redeemed by their intelligence and creativity.
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And much of contemporary Western society seems to be acting exactly like these ancient Greeks, looking for exaggerated activities, often quite dangerous and self-destructive, to find meaning in otherwise empty lives. They are willing to do this even to the point of risking their own health and even at times their lives. And running marathons is a prime example of this phenomenon even though it can be detrimental to one’s health, as the medical evidence previously cited by Fredericson and Misra clearly suggests. But running the marathon is not unique in this regard. A good number of people engage in quite dangerous activities in an attempt to gain a sense of accomplishment, indeed meaning, missing in their everyday lives, which seem to be empty of purpose. Mindlessly emulating Pheidippides’ run seems a prime example of this. And even if Pheidippides’ action did have a specific purpose, rather than reflect an amorphous need for meaning, why did he not ride a horse as did Paul Revere. We will examine Paul Revere’s story now.
The Ride of Paul Revere
Paul Revere was a silversmith, engraver, early industrialist, and patriot in the American Revolution against Britain. He was obviously not an ancient Greek, but a biblical man, by all accounts a fairly typical early New England Christian. Paul Revere seemed to have been a regular attendee in Boston’s New Brick Church and was most likely quite familiar with stories in the Hebrew Bible and in the Christian New Testament.
Paul Revere is best known for his midnight ride to alert the colonial militia in April 1775 to the approach of British forces before the battles of Lexington and Concord, as dramatized in Henry Wadsworth Longfellow’s poem, Paul Revere’s Ride. He did not seem to be searching for meaning. Rather, his action had a purpose. Most importantly, Paul Revere did not die, nor did he push himself beyond his endurance.
Listen, my children, and you shall hear
Of the midnight ride of Paul Revere,
On the eighteenth of April, in Seventy-Five:
Hardly a man is now alive
Who remembers that famous day and year.
He said to his friend, "If the British march
By land or sea from the town to-night,
Hang a lantern aloft in the belfry-arch
Of the North-Church-tower, as a signal-light,—
One if by land, and two if by sea.
And I on the opposite shore will be,
Ready to ride and spread the alarm
Through every Middlesex village and farm,
For the country-folk to be up and to arm."
Then he said, Good night!
and with muffled oar
Silently rowed to the Charlestown shore,
Just as the moon rose over the bay,
Where swinging wide at her moorings lay
The Somerset, British man-of-war:
A phantom ship, with each mast and spar
Across the moon, like a prison-bar,
And a huge black hulk, that was magnified
By its own reflection in the tide.
Meanwhile, his friend, through alley and street
Wanders and watches with eager ears,
Till in the silence around him he hears
The muster of men at the barrack door,
The sound of arms, and the tramp of feet,
And the measured