Blessed With Two Lives: A Story of Addiction, Recovery, and Redemption
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In this memoir, Overend narrates his journey—beginning with a life packed with drugs and alcohol and serving ten years in jail. Sharing details about his personal and professional life, he tells how he was given a second chance and feels he’s been allowed two separate lives.
Blessed with Two Lives shares a story about change, recovery, and redemption from addiction, negative behaviors, and criminal activities. Overend credits a higher power and the power of example from others who have changed and showed him the way out of addiction.
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Blessed With Two Lives - Harry John Overend
BLESSED WITH
TWO LIVES
A Story of Addiction, Recovery, and Redemption
HARRY JOHN OVEREND
Copyright © 2016 Harry John Overend.
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ISBN: 978-1-4834-5568-6 (sc)
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Library of Congress Control Number: 2016912075
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Contents
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter 1: Here I Am
Chapter 2: The Family Years
Chapter 3: The Addictions and Crimes Begin
Chapter 4: My First Time at Rehab
Chapter 5: The Reformatory
Chapter 6: The Summer of 1965
Chapter 7: Off to Prison
Chapter 8: Entering Daytop
Chapter 9: The Daytop Program
Chapter 10: Climbing Daytop’s Staff Ladder and Leaving
Chapter 11: Élan and My Directorship
Chapter 12: The Rich and Famous Residents
Chapter 13: Leaving Élan
Chapter 14: A College Degree, New Jobs … and Still Drinking
Chapter 15: My Second Life Begins
Chapter 16: Some Fun Memories
Chapter 17: On My Own
About the Author
Preface
A ll these events are based on my own experiences. All the characters are real people. The unlawful events mentioned are listed in state police records.
I’m now semiretired. As a certified addiction professional, crisis intervention specialist, court/criminal-justice liaison, and motivational speaker, I still work with people who suffer from addictions. Along with my certifications, my own life experiences, strengths, and hopes are my best tools in helping others.
I’ve been a therapeutic-community former resident employed in that setting for thirty-eight years. For ways to help your child become drug-free, I highly recommend the book You Can’t Do It Alone by Monsignor William O’Brien and Ellis Henican. If I can recover from making poor choices and overcome too many years of addiction, so can anyone else.
Acknowledgments
T he Daytop residential addiction-treatment and rehabilitation program in Connecticut turned my life around and introduced me to a better and happier existence. I’m eternally grateful to its cofounders, Monsignor William O’Brien and psychiatrist Dr. Dan Casriel, and to its many directors and staff members—including, but by no means limited to, David Deitch, Ron Broncato, and Charles Devlin—who oversaw the operations at this facility and were vital to my receiving the most beneficial treatment.
Also influential to my recovery were those who relocated from the Daytop Swan Lake facility to the Connecticut residential facility, including George Tocci and director Kenny Williams, as well as Daytop’s Connecticut residents, including Vinny Nuzzo and Jackie Robinson Jr. Thanks also to my mentor, King Dyckman, PhD; James Downey, uncle to Robert Downey Jr.; authors Jim Naughton and Larry Kudlow, who encouraged me to write; the men’s fellowship group in Stratford, Connecticut; and the directors of the Connecticut Board of Pardons, Connecticut Renaissance drug-treatment center, Greater Bridgeport Regional Narcotic Programs, and Élan Corporation.
Thanks as well to my many childhood friends, including Denny Tillison, Vinny Knapp, Al Ambrose, Fred Kurtz, and all my friends from East Hartford High School.
I have been blessed with parents and sisters who were there for me in good and bad times. My daughter, Uriela, has been the greatest blessing in my life, and I thank her for the graphic design for the cover of Blessed with Two Lives.
Introduction
R eality therapy states that everyone is responsible for his or her own behavior—not society, not the environment, not heredity, not the past, but each individual. I have learned that addiction recovery involves teaching people how to look at what they have been doing, evaluate their own behavior, and make a plan to do better. Contentment with oneself and one’s life does not come through a textbook or a magic solution to one’s problems. It is attained by accepting responsibility for what one does instead of looking for blame or finding fault or dwelling on the past or feeling sorry for oneself. It requires a desire for improvement within the reality of one’s own situation. It is about life and the way you live with yourself and others. This was Daytop’s version of reality therapy, used in group sessions at the time.
Addiction to alcohol and drugs affects thousands of people in all walks of life. Because addiction can always return, there must be continued treatment. Freedom from addiction comes through involvement in a fellowship of men and women who keep showing each other by example how to say sober and clean. Treatment centers help in this process of changing negative attitudes and behaviors.
I’ve seen this therapy work for thousands, young and old, who suffer from addictions. One must be open-minded, willing to change, and dedicated to succeed through recovery. My story is about change, recovery, and redemption from addiction, negative behaviors, and criminal