Broken and Betrayed: The True Story of the Rotherham Abuse Scandal by the Woman Who Fought to Expose It
By Jayne Senior
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For fourteen years, Jayne Senior tried to help girls from Rotherham who had been groomed, raped, tortured, pimped and threatened with violence by sex traffickers. As the manager of Risky Business, which was set up to work with vulnerable teens, she heard heartbreaking and shocking stories of abuse and assiduously kept notes and details of the perpetrators, passing information on to the authorities in the belief that they would do something. Eventually, when she lost hope that the authorities would take action against the gangs she had identified as the abusers, she became a whistleblower for The Times investigative reporter Andrew Norfolk.
Now, in her powerful memoir Broken and Betrayed, she describes a life spent working to protect Rotherham's girls, the pressure put on her to stop rocking the boat, and why she risked prison in the hope that she could help end the appalling child exploitation in the town.
Jayne Senior
Jayne Senior managed Risky Business, a youth work programme reporting to Rotherham's social services, for fourteen years. When she was forced out of that position, she took a job managing Swinton Lock, which works with troubled kids, and in 2013 was asked by MP Sarah Champion to take on a role supporting the victims of sexual abuse in Rotherham. Broken and Betrayed is her story of a life spent working to protect Rotherham's girls. In 2016 she was awarded an MBE.
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In the mid 1960s, when I was born, Rotherham was a prosperous place. The industries which had kept this part of South Yorkshire going since Victorian times were still producing enough steel and coal to ensure full employment in the town. It wasn’t and isn’t the prettiest place on earth; it was a town where work was hard and industry heavy, but the community was warm, caring and tight-knit. Families were the same and ours was no exception.
My parents, Joan Hazel Johnson, known as Hazel, and Arthur William, only ever called ‘Johnny’ Johnson, were in their late thirties when I arrived – unusual for then when many, if not most, couples had married, settled down and had their families by their mid twenties. Actually, that was my parents’ story too. They’d met during the war and married quickly, as couples did then. Originally from Middlesbrough, my dad was an RAF Flight Engineer and was stationed at RAF Binbrook for the duration. Dad joined the air force in December 1941, aged just seventeen, and flew with 460 Australian Squadron Bomber Command in Avro Lancasters, in particular ‘G’ for George, which is now preserved in the Australian War Memorial Museum in Canberra, Australia. He was shot down over Caen, France, on his twenty-second mission but returned to England safely and carried on to complete thirty-one operations. He was then transferred to the RAF Transport Command at the end of the war, making regular flights to Singapore. He flew in the 1948 Berlin Airlift from start to finish, completing 294 missions. In October 1950 he was discharged as medically unfit from air crew duties after completing an amazing 1,754 flying hours.
By a long way, I was the baby of the family. My eldest sister, Barbara, was a full eighteen years older than me, my brother, Phil, was twelve and my other sister, Susan, was six when I was born. Phil, bless him, was probably fed up with girls and when Mum fell pregnant with me he’d desperately hoped he’d be getting a brother. No such luck. When Barbara picked him up from school on the day I was born he apparently took the news very grumpily. Perhaps to make up for his disappointment, my dad told him he was allowed to choose my name and so he picked Elizabeth.
Now I’d have been quite happy with that as it’s a name you can do a lot with. Unfortunately my dad wasn’t so pleased, so it was relegated to my middle name. Eventually they settled on Jayne and even today I’d have preferred Elizabeth!
Although he was hostile at first, Phil always looked out for me when I was a toddler and would defend me against Susan, who was understandably jealous that I’d pushed her out of her rightful place as the youngest in the family. As the only boy he had a bedroom all to himself so he’d invite me in and sneak me a piece of chewing gum, which I’d chew for all it was worth until Mum or Dad shouted up to see what I was doing, and I’d have to spit it out. ‘Our Boot’ was his nickname for me – believe it or not, it’s a term of endearment where we’re from . . .
Sue had a much-loved doll named Tressy, and to make its hair grow you’d turn a key in its back. One day, for a bit of fun, I grew Tressy’s hair to full length and promptly cut it all off. As payback, Sue cut my entire fringe off! Sue also had a black doll that she adored. I remember Mum washing it and putting it in the oven to dry but she forgot about it and when we opened the oven door it was just a pool of goo and a pair of eyeballs. I thought that was so funny but Sue was devastated.
As she got older, Sue picked up with a boyfriend called Willie, to whom she is still married. I took an instant dislike to him for no other reason than when he stayed at weekends I had to get out of my bed and let him sleep in it. By this time both Phil and Barbara had left home and I had been given Phil’s bedroom. On the night of Sue and Willie’s engagement, they were going out for a meal with both sets of parents. Sue had spent a fortune on a new outfit, but I got in first and put it on and went to the local youth club in it. My irate dad came looking for me but didn’t find me – I was hidden in the DJ booth by my friends.
When I look back I realize I must have tested my parents’ patience. One day, a group of mothers on our street organized a jumble sale to raise money. I was told I could go along and was given a little bit of cash by Dad. I came home about an hour later and I had bought every single item back that Mum had donated.
I grew up in Kimberworth, a suburb of Rotherham about two miles from the town and overlooking the giant steelworks. The neighbourhood was a quiet one, made up of private semi-detached houses and older terraces. It was a working-class area with a strong sense of pride and community; everyone knew everyone and all the kids who played on my road felt perfectly safe, even in the woods at the back of the houses where we spent many happy hours. When we were about thirteen one of my friends, Gail, was flashed at in these woods but we were so confident on our home territory – and naive too – that we trooped into the woods to look for the man who’d done the flashing. We weren’t scared, just curious. In the summer holidays I would spend weeks with my nanny and granddad, George and Nellie, in Middlesbrough. She was kind and lovely and he was grumpy – a typical northern couple from that generation. We’d drive up to the north-east and all the way there I’d hug my precious cassette recorder, listening to tapes of Elvis Presley. To this day I’m a huge fan of Elvis, particularly his later stuff, and I even like his films – which must prove that I’m a true fan!
Nanny had a false eye and I was the only one that would happily take it out and clean it for her. After she died Granddad used to come and stay. He’d no hair and I used to play a trick on him which he never found funny – he’d fall asleep in the chair and I would smack him on top of his head, which made his teeth fly out.
When he visited I’d come home from school at lunchtime just to give him his dinner. He was always complaining about me playing my music, so one day I put the Muppets theme tune on repeat and went back to school. When I got home he passed me my favourite Elvis record, which had somehow ended up in four pieces. ‘Sorry, Jayne,’ he said, ‘I accidentally sat on it.’
In Middlesbrough I obtained a nickname – ‘No-Change Jayne’– which was given to me by my granddad after one particularly memorable incident. A van that sold anything and everything used to visit their street often and one summer’s afternoon, as I played out in the garden, Granddad appeared with a five-pound note in his hand.
‘Jayne,’ he said, ‘tek this and go fetch me twenty Woodbines from the van, would you, pet? An’ if they don’t have Woodbines, just get me owt.’
I took the five-pound note – a big sum in the early 1970s – and went up to the van. These were the days when children were served cigarettes without question, so it wasn’t unusual for an eight-year-old to request Woodbines.
‘I’m sorry, love,’ said the van man, ‘I don’t have any Woodbines today. D’youse want anything else?’
I paused. Granddad had said get anything. Ten minutes later I arrived back at their house with my purchases.
‘What the ’ell’s this?!’ he yelled when he saw what I’d bought. ‘Sweets! Chocolates! And two pairs of flamin’ tights! Warrama gonna do wi’ them?!’
What could I say? He’d asked me to get anything, so I’d chosen whatever I’d wanted. And, worst of all, I’d spent every last penny. ‘No-Change Jayne . . .’ He never called me anything else until the day he died. When I left Middlesbrough after my long summer visits I’d always come home with a slight north-east twang that resembled my dad’s.
Spending other people’s money aside, I had the happiest of childhoods. I felt secure and, most importantly, was loved unconditionally. We were a close family, all looking out for each other. When I think about my childhood now, and compare it with the experiences of so many of the abused girls I’ve worked with over sixteen years, I feel very, very lucky indeed. I was close to both my parents, who in turn were close to each other.
Dad grew all his own vegetables in the back garden of our house, so I’d help him in the garden and watch as he built and fixed things in his garage. He was an engineer by trade, working at the Guest and Chrimes foundry in the town, and perhaps I took after him, because I wasn’t much of a girly girl; I was always keen on practical tasks. I loved animals too and kept mice and hamsters in the shed out the back. When they died I’d make their coffins and bury them with great ceremony in the garden. As I got older, and the hamsters became a bit embarrassing, I turned the shed into a Bay City Rollers club and wouldn’t let my friends in until they pledged allegiance to the Rollers and could sing all their songs. We had a special dance that I can still do – but I won’t!
Like most kids I knew round our way, I went to the local comprehensive school, Old Hall, now renamed Winterhill and still going today. I suppose I was a mediocre student; not a bad kid but occasionally prone to episodes of naughtiness. It was a strict school and every morning in assembly we had to read from the Bible. I got a bit tired of this, so one day I glued it to the prayer stand, much to the anger of the deputy head, who was deeply religious. I had really good friendships with a trio of girls – Amanda, Grace and Tracey. One day I was babysitting for our Barbara and Amanda was with me. Why Grace and Tracey weren’t with us, and why the two of us weren’t in school at all, I cannot recall, but Amanda and I decided to ring the deputy head and pretend to be Marjorie Proops, the newspaper agony aunt, and offer her some advice on men. After about thirty seconds she said, ‘Jayne Johnson, is that you?’
Perhaps all this was born out of frustration, because in my third year I was the only girl to choose woodwork and metalwork as two of my options for O levels. Immediately my parents were summoned to be told I couldn’t pick these as they were ‘boys’ subjects’. In a more progressive time my mum and dad would’ve pointed out how stupid this was and demanded I be allowed to study practical subjects, but even in the mid 1970s Rotherham could hardly be classed as a liberal town. People followed traditional paths all their lives. Mum and Dad had a close but old-fashioned relationship, in which he decorated and did the garden while she cleaned and cooked. Mum was a nurse at Rotherham General Hospital and went part-time when she started a family. She loved it, and was very good at it, but people knew their place – especially women – so I had to choose typing and shorthand instead. Unsurprisingly, I hated both subjects and did not want to work in an office, but that was the path I seemed destined for, like it or not.
I left school with dismal results and had to go to night school to catch up with my shorthand. Mum and Dad were good friends with a couple up the road, Stan and Iris, whom we always referred to as ‘auntie and uncle’, as you often did with your parents’ friends back then. Auntie Iris was the office manager of a sewing factory in Rotherham called Two Steeples and, after a word from my mum, she pulled strings to get me a job there. At the time, the Conservative government of Margaret Thatcher had just expanded the Youth Opportunities Programme, also known as the YOP scheme, which had been introduced in the late 1970s. I was the perfect candidate for such a scheme and so, with reluctance, I started working there.
I hated it. My job switched between reception and keeping a tally of the workers’ hours so they would be paid correctly. I was frightened to death of the factory girls; they seemed tough, uncompromising and very clannish. Day after day I got the bus to work, wishing I was back in my dad’s garage, fixing things and getting my hands dirty. After six months the scheme finished and I was taken on full-time. Everyone was pleased apart from me, but after a while I became used to the place. I started to get to know a few of the factory girls and was less intimidated by them, though woe betide me if their wages were wrong. It seemed I’d be there forever, or at least until I got married and had children.
By this stage I was seeing Paul Senior, a lad of my age from a nearby council estate. We met at a local youth club while we were still at school. When I say ‘met’, it was hardly love at first sight. There was some rivalry between my school and the one Paul attended, Kimberworth, and sometimes the lads would kick off for just that reason. One night we were all up at the local youth club. I was playing table tennis with Paul’s mate as we had a few friends in common. As sometimes happens with fifteen-year-old boys, a fight broke out and somehow Paul became involved. I’m not one to avoid trouble, as we’ll see, so I waded into the fight in an attempt to break it up, and did so by jumping on Paul’s back and hitting him over the head with a table-tennis bat. We were both slung out into the freezing winter’s night by the youth workers, the doors banged closed behind us.
‘Thanks a lot!’ I said. ‘Now we’ve been chucked out and it’s all your fault!’
‘It weren’t me,’ he said, shoving his hands into his jacket pockets, ‘it were your lot started it. You shouldn’t’ve got involved.’
‘Well, tough, I did,’ I said. ‘What are we gonna do now?’
‘Dunno,’ said Paul. ‘Better go for a walk to keep warm. You comin’?’
Well, I didn’t have much choice, did I? Off we went into the night, and we’ve been together ever since. I can’t say I fancied him at that point, though. Instead I had eyes for his mate, Andy Blakesley, the lad I was playing table tennis with when the fight broke out. As I got to know Paul I liked him because he wasn’t one of the crowd. I don’t mean he was a loner – he had plenty of mates – but he did things his own way. He was a lad off a council estate and he wasn’t a follower. He didn’t smoke, didn’t really drink, didn’t get into much trouble. He was a laid-back lad and not out to impress anyone. When he left school he was taken on a YOP scheme at the local steelworks and he’s never worked anywhere else.
Mum and Dad really liked Paul when I brought him home to meet them. They and Paul had a lot of respect for each other and they were happy that he seemed a nice lad with a steady job. By this time, my sisters and brother had all left home and were married, and in due course that was what I’d do as well. There was no reason to suspect that my future wouldn’t play out like those of the family and friends I’d grown up with in Kimberworth. And yet events were about to take a turn down a very dark road indeed.
It was December 1981. I was seventeen, and still working at Two Steeples. That winter was particularly cold and as my dad picked me up from work, which he occasionally did on his way home, it had started to snow heavily. It seemed to take ages to reach Hungerhill Road, the street in Kimberworth where we lived. We trudged up the drive through the settling snow and into the house. It was dark and quiet – unusually so. There was no familiar teatime smell of cooking either. You know that odd feeling you get when you think something’s wrong? This was one of those moments.
‘Mum!’ I shouted. ‘Where are you?’
‘I’m up here,’ said a low voice from the bedroom. ‘I’m not feeling very well.’
We took our shoes off and went upstairs, Dad first. We found Mum lying on the bed, looking terrible. She’d been Christmas shopping and had started to feel unwell. Dad was a first-aider at work and knew something was badly wrong. He belted downstairs and rang 999. On a good day, an ambulance would’ve been with us within fifteen minutes. But this wasn’t a good day. We waited and waited, but the doorbell remained silent as, outside, the flakes of snow became thicker.
Dad rang 999 again. ‘The ambulance is on its way. Hungerhill Road, Whiston, isn’t it?’
‘No!’ Dad shouted. ‘It’s Hungerhill Road, Kimberworth! You’ve gone to the wrong place!’
They must have turned the ambulance round and sent it in the right direction, but by the time the crew arrived it was too late. Just a few minutes previously I’d asked Mum if she needed anything.
‘Will you hold me, Johnny?’ she said to my dad. Then she died in his arms of a massive heart attack.
They put her in the ambulance anyway, my dad got into the back and it sped off to hospital. I stood alone on the pavement in the gathering snow, watching the blue light flicker into the distance. I felt like I’d been hit over the head with a hammer. I had no idea what I’d do next, but what I did do I will regret forever.
I charged back into the house, picked up the phone and dialled my sister’s number. ‘You’ll have to come quick, Sue,’ I said, ‘I think our mum’s dead.’ What a way to announce the death of a parent. I was only seventeen, and obviously in shock after seeing my mum die suddenly, but still . . . That moment will always haunt me.
After I put the phone down I ran up the street to a neighbour, Gwen, one of my mum’s best friends. I blurted everything out in a flood of tears and sobs, and from that moment everything became a blur of activity: phone calls, doors being knocked, people rushing into the house. It seemed like the whole street was out, despite the weather. Susan, Barbara and Phil all arrived, then Dad came home, his world completely fallen to pieces in the space of an hour or two.
We all felt the same way. Dad and I had left the house that morning with a packed lunch and a kiss, Mum waving goodbye to us as we closed the front door. Within fifteen minutes of us arriving home – no Mum. She was fifty-five, just five years older than I am now. Even today, I can’t quite comprehend how suddenly and dramatically she was taken from us. A deep darkness descended on me as I realized that my life, and the lives of my siblings, would never be the same again.
For Dad, Mum’s death meant complete shutdown. Just before she passed away he’d promised to remove the dingy wood panelling on the walls and replace everything with bright new wallpaper. They’d taken all the ornaments down and Dad had begun the work. After her death, we looked at bare walls for three years until Dad decided he should probably finish what he’d started.
Of course, I was left alone with him, and being a traditional sort of man he expected that I’d just slip into Mum’s role. He meant no harm, he just thought it would be that way. So if I hadn’t ironed his shorts or dusted the mantelpiece he’d be grumpy. I remember when I first tried to make a pan of stew, never having cooked a thing in my life. Mum had always done all that. I bought some meat and vegetables and threw them into a heavy-bottomed frying pan. I waited until the meat was almost black and then served it up on Dad’s plate – the fact that you couldn’t possibly chew any of it without breaking your jaw was irrelevant. For some reason, Dad just expected me to know how to do it.
When she was alive, Dad had given Mum housekeeping money which she’d top up with her wages. Out of my £40 a week I paid £20 board, but Dad only gave me the same as he’d given Mum, so I used what was left of my wages to pay the milkman, the window cleaner and the paperboy, along with other bits and pieces. I had nothing left at the end of the week, but Dad still expected me to shop at Asda. He’d sit in the car while I pushed the trolley miserably around the aisles, wondering what I was going to do with all this stuff.
Something had to give. Eventually I told my older sister what was going on at home and she was shocked. Immediately she took Dad down to Asda and made him do the shopping from the weekly budget we were trying to get by on. When he got to the till it dawned on him that we simply didn’t have enough money to pay for it all. That was Lesson One. Lesson Two was about cooking and ironing. Barbara taught Dad and me to do both and from that moment things became a bit easier. I think now that I was pretending I could do it all as a way of coping with my grief. Even so, those lessons were very timely – for by now I had a secret, and was terrified of telling Dad my news.
2
I was pregnant. I couldn’t believe it. I was in complete shock and fear, wondering how I’d tell Dad and what his reaction would be. This was the early 1980s, but the shame and scandal of young girls having babies out of wedlock still loomed as large in working-class homes as ever it had done. After all that had happened, I felt I’d failed Dad and completely let him down.
I was only a kid; seventeen, frightened and out of my depth. But I wasn’t alone. Thank God I had my siblings. I went round to see Barbara and sobbed in her kitchen as I blurted out the news.
‘Well,’ she said, with the experience of a married woman in her thirties, ‘you won’t be the first and you’ll definitely not be the last. It’s not the end of the world, Jayne.’
Those were the kind of comforting words I wanted to hear. I hadn’t meant to get pregnant, but I do believe things happen for a reason and at that time, still reeling from the shock of Mum’s death, I was in a very dark place. Perhaps I needed something or someone to love. In the meantime, though, there was Dad to consider.
‘Leave it to me,’ Barbara said. ‘I’ll talk to him. It’ll be all right.’
A day or so later she came round. It was the moment of truth, so I sprinted upstairs while Barbara gently steered Dad to the end of the garden. Peeping through the curtains at my bedroom window, I watched as Barbara put her arm round Dad’s shoulder. I could tell by his sagging shoulders that he was crying. After a while they returned to the kitchen.
‘Jayne!’ he shouted. ‘Come down . . . I think you’ve got something to tell me.’
Full of dread, I plodded down the stairs and into the kitchen. Without a word Dad just opened his arms and gave me a huge bear hug. I cried and said I was sorry. There wasn’t much he could say in return: I’d been daft and got caught. But as Barbara said, I wouldn’t be the first or the last . . .
Paul came round that night. He was only a young lad but he was actually really pleased at the news that he was to become a dad. It was me who was in shock; I was so scared I felt physically sick. Even if he’d wanted to, Paul wasn’t the sort of lad who would ever shirk his responsibilities and when Dad asked him if he was going to marry me – almost the first words he uttered as Paul walked through the door – the answer was a definite ‘yes’. But I had other ideas. I didn’t want to get married, not without my mum being present. Of course, that was impossible, so I vowed never to get married. To me, it was black and white; shame or no shame, I wouldn’t go through with it.
Paul’s family were good about it. His biological father had abandoned the family when Paul’s mother was pregnant with him and his brother was only two months old. Paul never got to meet his real dad. They were perhaps more used to the ups and downs of life than our family, at least until Mum died. However, we weren’t moving in together, not immediately anyway. Throughout my pregnancy and for several months after the baby was born I continued to live at home, working and looking after the house. Paul could only stay over at weekends and even then he had to sleep in the spare bedroom. It’s only thirty-and-a-bit years ago but it seems like Victorian times compared to now.
The baby was born and he was a fine, healthy boy whom we named Lee. And, yes, I was right – he was the thing I needed in my life to make me feel a whole person again. I’ve met many, many teenage mums during my career and in almost all cases the one thing they have in common is the need for something to love and care for. It was the same when I had our Lee. Having a child and being determined to give them the life they didn’t have – or that was taken away from them – seems to give young girls a kind of hope for a better future. There are exceptions, of course, but as I’ve said, things happen for a reason.
Paul would come