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Primary Lessons - Sarah Bracey White
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INTRODUCTION
This memoir by Sarah Bracey White is a poignant, touching and at times, heart breaking recollection of growing up a black child in the segregated South of the 1950s and 1960s. It is an intimate narrative in the convincing voice of the young author from the age of five to seventeen when she enters college. You will learn as I did about her parents, both teachers, living in South Carolina; her father losing his teaching position because of racial injustice and, more importantly, the loss of his self respect. He becomes a man who will abandon his family in search of work for a symbolic total of three times before leaving behind his wife and children for good. Her mother, for financial reasons, is forced to leave her youngest daughter with an aunt in the more racially tolerant city of Philadelphia. She is an aunt who is so kind and loving, Sarah doesn’t want to leave when her mother reclaims her and brings her back home to Sumter, South Carolina where she belongs. It is a town where the indignities of racism are felt more acutely and where colored only
signs are predominately displayed.
Beginning the memoir in the voice of a five year-old child, after a brief prologue, is a seductive and effective approach by the author to pull the reader into her story. After all, who doesn’t love the voice of a child along with a child’s sense of wonder. From this unique perspective young Sarah learns about love from her doting aunt and begins to comprehend the world of adults and the confusing world of racism. As the memoir progresses there is an awakening in Sarah, an unrest with the world that adults in the black community are too willing to accept. Her mother tells her not to tempt fate which annoys Sarah who tells a friend in a letter, Mama . . . says you should just accept your life like it is or fate’ll cut you down. I don’t agree. I’m going to make my life the way I want it to be . . .
The attitude in her is her personal act of rebellion and for me the heart and center of the narrative. It is a rebellion that is welling up in thousands of Sarahs and others like her across the country. It is felt by the hundreds of thousands who make their way to hear Martin Luther King, Jr. speak in front of the National Monument in the nation’s capital and on black and white TV screens across the country. It is where the memoir draws to its conclusion and in a sense where everything begins.
The point of any successful memoir is to discover what the speaker learns on their journey. And for me, the reader, it is a trip always worth taking when it teaches and enlightens or encourages me to revisit and solidify profound truths, I already know to be true. Sarah Bracey White’s journey is a continuous struggle to find her way, a struggle I found both difficult and inspirational. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.
Young Sarah becomes aware of this at an early age, realizing being born poor and black is not the measure of a person’s value. After reading this memoir, I know as will you, she will do everything in her power to battle injustice in the pursuit of a better life.
—Kevin Pilkington
PROLOGUE
By 1945, the United States of America had been at war for almost four years, but Bill and Roberta White had been at war far longer than that. For years, they’d struggled to raise a family, attend church regularly, own a home and a car, and be contributing members of their community in Sumter, South Carolina, a town where Jim Crow laws ruled the lives of colored people. The fact that they were schoolteachers, the backbone of the colored community, made them highly visible and respected but also left them vulnerable.
Roberta Bracey White was how Roberta signed her name on her seventh-grade math students’ report cards. Twenty-seven-years old and the mother of three children, she looked as if she were barely out of her teens. She had long, thick, black curls, perfect teeth, and a radiant smile—when she smiled. Her skin was the color of summer sand at the seashore; high yaller,
the kids had called her when she was younger. They’d also teased her about her real daddy, telling her that he was a white man for whom her mother had worked. Her mother denied the story, said it was her Cherokee ancestors who had given Roberta such lustrous black hair. But Roberta believed the gossip. To her, it explained why she was very light skinned while her mother, the man she called Pa, and most of her brothers and sisters were much darker.
When Roberta’s father objected to her mother’s work as a laundress at the local whorehouse, her mother had said that she’d do any honest work she could to get enough money to buy a house. She didn’t care what the townsfolk said about her, but Roberta cared. She believed that the girls in school shunned her, not just because her family was poor but because her mother worked at a brothel. So Roberta kept to herself and studied, certain that one day, when she became a teacher, everyone would respect her.
The year before Roberta finished high school, her mother finally bought a house, one with indoor plumbing, electricity, and a big yard where she planted a vegetable garden. But that same year, she died, and the house had to be sacrificed to pay for her funeral.
Roberta enrolled as a day student at nearby Morris College, a small Baptist-run school that had educated Sumter’s colored teachers for many decades. There she immersed herself in math, science, and the fundamentals of teaching. She was doubtful about her mother’s prediction—that a wonderful man would come along to marry her—until she met Bill White in the registrar’s office.
Five years older than Roberta, William Edward White, Jr., was the eldest son of a well-respected landowning family from the nearby town of Pinewood. His father, a teacher and then the local postmaster, had died when Bill was twelve, leaving behind a large farm, a young widow, and seven children. Bill put himself through Morris College by working at a drugstore and mixing embalming fluids for local undertakers. He eventually became a grade-school teacher and the designated principal at the same country school where his father had taught.
Bill was engaged to another girl when he met Roberta, but he fell in love with her anyway. When he took her to meet his mother, Miss Minnie, she told Roberta that, though she was beautiful, she wasn’t the kind of woman who could help her son better his race. When Roberta cried, Bill’s mother tried to calm her by saying that it wasn’t her fault but her parents’. They were illiterate and therefore incapable of preparing her.
Bill tried to make Roberta understand that his mother meant well but that she and his father had always had big dreams about making life better for colored people. He promised Roberta that his mother would change her mind once she got to know her. The two quickly married, but Roberta never gave her mother-in-law the opportunity to know her. She wasn’t the kind of person to forgive and forget harsh words. She refused to accompany Bill when he went to Pinewood for family visits. Bill’s visits to his mother eased the guilt he carried for not protecting her from the beatings his stepfather gave her every Sunday morning before church. His mother had tried to hide those beatings from her children, but they knew. As soon as they got big enough to stand up to their stepfather, that preacher man took a shotgun and ran them off the farm. No one cried the day he finally died. Bill promised Roberta that he’d always love and protect her. She believed him.
In the early 1940s, when the NAACP came south to challenge the standard of unequal pay for colored teachers, Sumter was an early stop. Bill was among the first teachers to attend the organization’s secret meetings. White folks quickly found out.
The white superintendent, who had occasionally lent halfhearted support to Bill’s efforts to educate colored children, summoned him to his office. He began the conversation in honeyed tones, reminiscing about how he had helped Bill get used textbooks for his students, about how fortunate it was that white Sumter County taxpayers were willing to support colored schools. Bill nodded in agreement when the superintendent said that whites and coloreds got along well in Sumter County. The superintendent remarked that he couldn’t understand why colored teachers were listening to the foolishness that northern troublemakers were trying to put into their heads.
Bill had heard all of those arguments before. When the superintendent finally came right out and asked for the names of the teachers who had attended the NAACP meeting, Bill feigned ignorance of any such meeting. The superintendent bristled at Bill’s arrogance. He accused him of lying to an official of the Sumter County Board of Education, an act he said could cost Bill his job. Bill was steadfast. He refused to name names. With a snort, the superintendent told Bill that, effective immediately, he no longer worked for School District #2 and that as long as he lived he’d never again teach school, anywhere.
When Bill told Roberta what had happened, she accused him of sacrificing his family for a cause. Bill’s argument that colored folks had to stick together in order to change the way white folks treated them didn’t defuse her anger.
In a way, though, he was lucky. They could have beaten those names out of him or killed him trying to get them. But instead, like Adam, banished from the Garden of Eden, he was separated from the one thing that made him feel like a man. Soon his family moved from their three-bedroom house into a rented three-room house attached to a corner store that straddled the line between Sumter’s haves and have-nots.
Because she still had her teaching job, Roberta refused Bill’s entreaties to move north. This is my home,
she said. They’re not going to drive me away.
She also refused his suggestion to move in with his mother. For a while, Bill worked at whatever odd jobs he could find. Humiliated by his inability to teach school and shamed by the disappointment he saw whenever Roberta looked at him, he began drinking to escape the pain.
Arguments about his drinking became everyday fare as the family got behind in car payments, the light bill, and finally the grocery bill. Desperate for money, Bill sought full-time work in nearby towns. Sometimes he sent small amounts of money home; other times, he was gone for months, with no word as to his whereabouts. But after a while he’d come home. Roberta always welcomed him back into her bed. Then, when the misery and shame again grew too heavy, he’d leave once more.
Early in 1945, Bill sent word that he’d landed a job in Wilmington, North Carolina, at a shipyard on the Cape Fear River. He begged Roberta to bring their daughters and join him. Things will be different,
he promised her. He said he was making good money and had stopped drinking. Each letter carried a money order and a war bond.
Roberta held out until the end of the school year, then closed up their house and took the train from Sumter to North Carolina. As the summer passed, she began to believe that maybe their life was returning to normal. Bill’s education had earned him a slot in the shipyard’s office where, with white workers, he transferred designs onto templates that hastened the shipbuilding process. On payday, his envelope contained the same pay colored workers got, plus a war bond to make up for the gap between colored and white workers’ pay. Bill smarted at this unfairness but tried to count his blessings.
As World War II wound down, the need for big liberty ships did too. Among the last to be hired, by late summer Bill was among the first to be fired. When he couldn’t find another job and again began to drink, Roberta fled back to Sumter, her three daughters in tow and a new baby growing in her belly.
The following February, when that baby was born, Roberta succumbed to her oldest sister Susie’s plea that, since she spit out daughters as easily as she spit out watermelon seeds, she should honor their long-dead mother, Sarah, by naming the new baby after her. Roberta hoped this would be her last child.
Soon after Sarah was born, Bill followed his family back to Sumter and took a job at the local furniture factory. His hands were constantly discolored by the stain he applied to furniture. Each day shame enveloped him as he watched Roberta go off to teach. Put your pride aside,
she told him. But he couldn’t just go to work, collect his pay, and be satisfied like other colored men were.
One morning, as Roberta prepared for school, Bill broke down and began to rave about how they’d let her keep her job just to humiliate him. He got his shotgun out of the closet, loaded it, and waved it around. Tears in his eyes, he thrust out a red-stained hand. Look at this!
he said. I’m not a common laborer; I’m a teacher. I’m not supposed to live like this. It’s not right. It’s not fair.
Roberta pleaded with Bill to put the gun down. You’re scaring the girls,
she said. I know you don’t want to hurt them, or me. You love us. You promised to protect us.
He put the gun down and cried in her arms.
Fearful that her husband’s pride had driven him crazy, Roberta decided to have him admitted to State Park, a mental asylum in Columbia. When she left him with a nurse in the lobby of the intake building, she told him that the doctors would help him to feel better.
A week later, she got a family friend to drive her to Columbia to visit him. The nurse at the desk told her they had discharged Bill two days earlier. The doctors said he’s not crazy, just too smart for his own good.
Roberta returned home, taught her classes, sent her daughters to Sunday school, cooked meals, washed clothes, and cleaned her house. No news of her husband came. She cringed at the pity she saw in friends’ and neighbors’ eyes when they asked, How are the girls?
but never How’s Bill?
She watched the teachers who still had their jobs because Bill hadn’t given up their names. They continued to live their lives just as they had before, as if they owed Bill nothing. At bedtime, she got down on her knees and begged God to give colored people a chance to live, work, and prosper like white people did. She begged Him to bring her husband home and either take away his pride or change white people’s cruel hearts.
Then she got into her double bed and cried, knowing the place she called home and loved so much would never love her equally. By late summer, tired, broke, and in need of solace, Roberta closed up her house and boarded a train bound for her sister Susie’s home in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, where all of her brothers and sisters had moved during the Great Negro Migration of the 1930s.
1
Antonia Bracey White is the most important person in my life. I call her Aunt Susie because that’s the name she took after so many people mispronounced her real name. She’s my mama’s big sister. I’ve lived with Aunt Susie ever since I was a little bitty baby. Our phone number is BA 5-4008. Aunt Susie made me memorize it, in case I ever get lost, but the only time I’m ever away from her is when I go to kindergarten, and I know my way home from kindergarten.
We live at 2304 North Smedley Street, Philadelphia, PA, in a red-brick row house with white marble steps. Aunt Susie loves me very much. I know because she tells me so, all the time. Whenever I tell her that I wish she was my mother, she smiles and says I already have a mother but that she loves me just as much as any mother ever loved her own child.
Mama and Aunt Susie are both married to men named William White. Aunt Susie’s husband, Uncle Whitey—everybody except me calls him Whitey—is the only daddy I know. Uncle Whitey’s real light-skinned, with brown eyes, wavy black hair, and a thick mustache. He could easily pass for white but says he never would. He says he got his looks from the white man who owned the North Carolina tobacco farm where his folks sharecropped.
Every August, Mama and my three sisters come north to visit us. The reason they don’t come until August is because every summer Mama takes classes so she can get her college diploma. Aunt Susie says I should be extra nice to Mama because she loves me a lot too. I try, but I can’t seem to please her. Mama calls Aunt Susie Big Sister
but they hardly look like sisters, except when they smile, and Mama hardly ever smiles. She’s about the same height as Aunt Susie but much lighter skinned, like the watered-down-with-milk coffee Aunt Susie lets me drink. Her head is full of thick black curls that don’t come from a hot curling iron like Aunt Susie’s do. Whenever I spy a gray hair in Aunt Susie’s head, she cusses, then pulls it out.
Mama never cusses or even talks loud. She says it’s unladylike. She also says Aunt Susie shouldn’t be playing the numbers because it’s illegal. Aunt Susie just laughs and says, White folks made the law, and they play the numbers, so why shouldn’t I?
Mama pinches her lips tight whenever Aunt Susie talks about white folks. Aunt Susie says it’s because Mama still lives down south and doesn’t understand that white folks ain’t no better than she is. She says I should never forget that I’m every bit as good as white folks, maybe even better.
Aunt Susie says her skin is so dark because she drinks her coffee strong and black. That’s why she puts plenty of milk in mine. Says it will keep me from getting dark like her. She laughs when I say I want my coffee black so I can be just like her when I grow up. Aunt Susie hugs me tight and acts like the sun has just come up when I run into her room first thing in the morning. What did you dream last night?
she always asks, then mulls over her Dream Book, trying to divine the winning number combination that will make us rich.
Every morning after breakfast, I take my usual spot on Aunt Susie’s front steps. When Mrs. Henderson or Mrs. Brown or Mrs. Cooper steps out of her house to water flowers in identical plant holders that members of the men’s club made from old rubber tires, she always waves at me. I wave back. At the far end of the block, two old white ladies who live in facing row houses gossip as they sweep last night’s trash into the gutters. Aunt Susie says that mostly white people lived on Smedley Street when she and Uncle Whitey first moved here. After Miss Mary, who lives next door, and my friends’ families started moving in, most of the white people quickly moved out to Germantown. Aunt Susie says I should always be polite to the white ladies, even though they never wave at me or even smile when I walk past their houses. Aunt Susie says they’re just crotchety old biddies who don’t like colored people. Well I don’t like them