Who Am I After Sports?: An Athlete's Roadmap to Discover New Purpose and Live Fulfilled
By Darryll Stinson and Chris Broussard
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Many athletes grow up wanting to be a star - Michael Jordan, Mia Hamm, Michael Phelps, Cheryl Miller, Hussain Bolt, or Lionel Messi. As they journey through sports, their athletic identity strengthens. They get used to the attention, influence, and confidence that comes from being an athlete.
Darryll Stinson
Darryll Stinson is a former Division I athlete, dynamic motivational speaker and Founder of Second Chance Athletes. He's been featured on Fox, ABC, NCAA, TEDx and some of the top podcasts in the United States. After going from suicidal to successful, Darryll uses his experience to help athletes and entrepreneurs shed their past stories, and create a massive impact that aligns with their highest purpose. When he is not working, Darryll enjoys spending time with his wife and three beautiful daughters. #girldad
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Who Am I After Sports? - Darryll Stinson
Who am I After Sports?
An Athlete’s Roadmap to Discover New Purpose and Live Fulfilled
Darryll Stinson
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Dedication to a Real One
I dedicate this book to the late Elder Mike White and Francis White.
Elder Mike, without your heart and commitment to serve others and keep athletes focused on the greatest purpose in life, I wouldn’t be where I am or who I am today. You built the bridge I traveled on from suicide to success and significance. You taught me I’m here to serve
is one of the most powerful sentences a man can say. You always believed in me, and you knew the impact this book and my story would have on the world.
Thank you. I love and miss you dearly.
Ms. Francis, I love you. There would be no Darryll Stinson if there were no Francis White keeping Mike White together. You were the wind beneath his wings, and your impact on his life and mind will always be appreciated.
My only regret in writing this book was that I allowed my fear and insecurities to prevent me from finishing it sooner, so you and Elder Mike could enjoy reading it together. The good news, as I alluded to in my words to Elder Mike, is that he already saw this day in his mind. I’ll never forget how excited he got when I shared with him the vision for the book and Second Chance Athletes.
He said, "Ahhhhh … my boy D! Pretty soon Bishop
T.D. Jakes is going to be interviewing you for advice!" It had absolutely nothing to do with the book, and he said all that and more before I finished sharing my vision with him. Lol. #classiceldermike
Text Description automatically generatedAcknowledgements
To my wife, Brittany
You’re amazing. You listened as I brainstormed, wrote, doubted, quit, restarted, complained, yelled and completed this book. You mothered our children while I wrote early mornings and late nights. You put your dreams on hold so I could pursue mine. You were my refuge, my editor, my assistant, my lover and friend I needed to complete this project. Thank you. Our best days are ahead.
To my daughters
You’re my joy—the smiles I look forward to seeing when I get home and my motivation to reach my fullest potential. You’re smart, beautiful and have the best senses of humor. I love you. You’ll always be daddy’s babies. #girldad
To my family
Mom (Yolanda), dad (Darrel), Stacey (stepmom), Greta (aka ‘Grandmutha’). You’ve invested in me in ways I can never repay. From driving hours to support me in a game that I never got playing time, to cheering for me when I was receiving national attention, you were always there for me.
To my siblings
Chas, Nacole, Ashlee, Bri (basically), Baby D, and Taylor. I love y’all. We’re all going to do great things.
To all my aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws, elders, grandparents, church family, and sons and daughters in the faith.
I wouldn’t be the man I am without you. I wouldn’t have made it through hard seasons of life without your continuous support. I love you and am honored to share this journey.
To my fans and supporters.
You’re the wind beneath my wings. I’m extremely humbled that you place your faith in me and whatever dream I’m building. Thank you for your continued support.
To Pastors Travis and Tina
You believed in me when I struggled to believe in myself. You called out the greatness that was inside of me. You prayed me, my wife and our family THROUGH. We love you guys. This you know.
Lastly …
Thank you to everyone who called, texted, prayed, donated, commented on social media, read an article I was featured in or cheered me on from the stands. No act of kindness was too small. Each one made a positive impact on my life. And I want you to know how much I love and appreciate you.
Thank you!
Darryll Stinson
Major Disclaimers—Please give me grace
1. I don’t think athletes are the most superior beings on the planet.
My wife and three editors all voiced concern about the tone of my writing at times throughout this book. My gratitude for the work ethic athletics can develop within athletes at times may sound as if I believe athletes are superior to others. I don’t believe that. It was too challenging to extract that from the writing without losing my natural voice. So, I made an executive decision to leave those places as my authentic writing voice and clarify my heart and beliefs in this section.
I don’t think athletes are superior to others.
I believe sports are a great tool to develop persistence, grit, tenacity, mental toughness, leadership, teamwork and other valuable transferable skillsets.
I neither think athletes are the only high achievers on the planet, nor do I believe athletes have a special gift from God to be more tenacious. I believe the mindset and skillset many athletes possess due to their involvement in sports also can be cultivated by other industries and experiences. Consider it your Secret Sauce Skills. I believe being pushed to the max physically and mentally in high-pressure environments, with hundreds or thousands of fans watching, develops men and women in a way other forms of development do not. I believe this development gives athletes who have embraced the process described in this book—I call it The Athlete Transition Roadmap—an edge among people who don’t have similar experiences.
Please don’t attack me for my beliefs. If you’re not an athlete and you’re reading this, I believe in you and know that you have gifts and talents that will make an impact in this world.
2. Don’t get confused by timelines.
At times, it may seem like I was in college, then three years out of college, then somehow back in college again. The reason why is that I wanted you to know how up and down
and back and forth
transitioning can be. There were times where I thought I couldn’t care less about being an athlete, and the desire to compete as an athlete was long gone. Then a few months or years later, those feelings or hunger to be an athlete again would consume my mind like a flood. Sometimes I resisted the urge to entertain those thoughts. Other times, I let it push me back into a three-day depression.
The Athlete Transition Roadmap, although outlined in phases/steps, was not linear. Maybe with this book your process will be, but if not, no worries—you’re not alone.
3. The Athlete Transition Roadmap can be applied to anyone in transition.
This book was written for athletes, but the principles are transferable to any identity and career transitions. I’ve been told by CEOs, military veterans, and people who have been through divorces that this process was helpful in their transitions.
Keep that in mind and share The Athlete Transition Roadmap with anyone who needs a plan to help them through life’s challenging transitions.
4. I am not a therapist, and mental illness is real.
This book will help you live a more mentally healthy life, but if you’re battling depression, anxiety or other mental illnesses, please see a professional counselor or therapist. I, Darryll Stinson, the mental health coach, still see a counselor. I advise you to see one as well.
5. My family’s impact in my life is immeasurable.
I chose to dedicate this book to the late Elder Mike White because of his impact on my life in relation to the content of this book and the tragedy of his passing. However, I owe every day of my life to my family. I have been beyond blessed with a supportive family. From birth, my mom, dad, step parents, cousins, uncles, aunts, sisters and grandparents have been there for me when I was on the front page of the newspaper for my athletic success and when I was riding the bench
during a summer basketball game that they drove two hours away to see me play. And now I have my wife, Brittany, and my amazing daughters, Ava, Arianna and Amaya. Plus, my family-in-law, church family, fans and supporters. I have so much to be grateful for.
Thank you to everyone who called, texted, prayed, donated, commented on social media, read an article I was featured in or cheered from the stands. No act of kindness was too small. Each made a positive impact on my life. And I want you to know how much I love and appreciate you.
Foreword
At seven years old, I was like many young boys: all sports all the time. My heroes were professional athletes. Nearly every game I played was related to sports. The only part of the newspaper I read was the sports page. My aunt, who was a lawyer, once asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.
A football player,
I said.
She laughed. OK, Chris, if you can’t play football, what do you want to be when you grow up?
A basketball player.
A bit frustrated, she sighed, yet kept trying. If you don’t make it as a football or a basketball player, what do you want to be?
A baseball player.
That type of thinking can have tragic consequences. If you don’t make it to pros, then what? Or even if you do play at the highest level, what happens when your career is over? Too often the answer is that you lose your sense of self. With your identity wrapped up in your athletic ability, your last game can lead to days, months, even years of misery.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. No matter how great you are in sports, your identity should not be rooted in how well you dribble a basketball, catch a football, or hit a baseball.
But how do you get to that healthy place, that place where you feel good about yourself even when the cheering stops, even when there are no more games to be played?
One way to get there is to read this book. Darryll Stinson has seen this issue from both sides. He’s been the guy who was football or bust and, thankfully, he’s become the man who is now comfortable—and happy and fulfilled—in his own skin, even when the gridiron is no longer a part of his life.
As a sports reporter for more than three decades, I’ve seen many struggle with the question of, Who am I beyond an athlete?
That question can gnaw at you at the end of your career or even at the height of your success. Either way, it brings weariness and distress. It’s no way to live.
Darryll is as qualified as anyone to address this topic. His story is raw and transparent. Baring his soul, he reveals the pain and self-destructive behavior that not knowing your true identity can bring. His journey was not without scars, but that is a good thing. Because those scars have stories.
Stories of healing. Stories of redemption. Stories of triumph. Stories that can lead you to discover who you are after sports.
Chris Broussard
FOX Sports broadcaster and NBA analyst
Founder and president of The K.I.N.G. Movement
Endorsements
I believe Darryll’s work is vital to the success and wellness of athletes in transition across the globe. If you’ve ever asked yourself the question
What’s next after sports? this book will help you find and build the next season of your life.
—Jack Canfield, bestselling author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series, The Success Principles and featured teacher in The Secret
The Wuerffel Trophy signifies service, impact, and inspiration—all three things that Darryll walks out in his life every day. This book is a snapshot of how Darryll made it from suicide to success and how you can see the same success in your life. I believe what Darryll says, ‘Your best days are still ahead of you.’
—Danny Wuerffel, 1996 Heisman Trophy winner and executive director of Desire Street Ministries
Inspiring … actionable … and transformative. Darryll shares a transition framework that not only helps athletes but anyone in a season of finding a new identity and path in life.
—Buddy Curry, former Atlanta Falcons player and founder of Kids & Pros
"With clear, concise, and inspiring content, Darryll offers a roadmap that guides athletes through depression after sports to create their dream life. If you’re one of