Why We Don't Achieve Sh*t
By Pasteur Tran
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You waste time. You complain. You make excuses. And you procrastinate.
Are you tired of yourself yet?
Your loved ones are too nice to say it to your face, but there's a reason you aren't getting what you want despite being capable of achieving it.
You steal from your heroes and
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Why We Don't Achieve Sh*t - Pasteur Tran
FRUSTRATED ACHIEVERS
I was sitting across from my friend at a café. He wasn’t looking that great. He was well dressed, but he clearly was upset about something. After ordering a coffee, he looked at me and went straight into the reason he wanted to chat.
I fucking hate my job, Pas. I want to quit.
This wasn’t new. He has hated the same job every damn year. Every year, he would complain that he hated his job. Every year, he would go back to that job and work hard anyway.
It was an endless cycle.
Terry was one of those people who hated his job, wanted to quit, and was capable of so much more and he knew it. In fact, based on his CV alone, I’m sure he was more than qualified to run his own little business, which is what he wanted.
His work treated him like shit. Extended hours, with no extra pay.
He had a boss who demanded he do mundane tasks without letting him learn or grow in any sort of way. His friends told him to go out and do drugs.
Even having a coffee felt like a privilege because I never saw him unless he needed to vent.
Well, Terry, you have always hated your job…
I stopped myself. To be honest, I was tired of him saying the same shit over and over again.
I decided to just tell him the truth.
You won’t quit your job, even though you hate the place. But let’s be serious here, you keep saying you have no time to work on other projects. You sit and complain about shit, but never address them. You say you have toxic friends who consume the rest of your time. How do you plan to change your job, anyway?
Once I stopped talking, he was shocked. I was shocked. All I was thinking was "Fuck, was that too brutal?"
The waiter served us our coffee and an eerie silence followed.
Terry stared at me. I could see he was tempted to fight back. He then stared at his coffee. Then, with a sudden jolt, looked up and said, Fuck. You’re right.
There are many people like Terry.
People capable of achieving amazing things—but they choose not to. From the guy who wants to start his own business but instead of starting he chooses to rework his plan over and over again, to the lady who can’t write a book because she surrounds herself with toxic people. From the young man who just parties and doesn’t care about tomorrow, to the lady who ignores opportunities because she recently broke up with her husband. The list is endless.
But who cares about them, right? What about you? Why don’t you achieve what you want? Why are you choosing not to? What is holding you back?
I get frustrated with people who won’t work to achieve their goals. If life has taught me anything, it’s that you can achieve anything, if you put your mind to it.
Everyone is capable. Everyone has potential. You will hear excuses such as: If only he tried a little harder. If only she would actually give it a shot. Whether you realize your potential or not is completely up to you.
In this book, I have distilled the reasons why people don’t achieve the shit they want. In part, I wrote it out of frustration after seeing so many ridiculously skilled people wasting their time. They think they need motivation but can’t see that there are different things that need to be addressed, such as fear, insecurity, or comparing themselves to the wrong people.
The main reason for writing this book, however, was to create a reference for people who need that extra push, because just saying Go fucking achieve
doesn’t always work. Yes, very selfish. But in reality, I want you to achieve what you want. It’s satisfying knowing that reading this book might help you turn a corner in your life, that maybe this book is what makes you actually go achieve your goals. Upon reaching the end of it, I hope you believe that you are capable.
This book is organized in layers. The first layer is you.
You need to be in the right mental space or you aren’t going to achieve shit. If you don’t believe in yourself, you are screwed. If you are too scared to record your first video, because you want to be a YouTube star, then how the hell do you plan to achieve that? Just hoping it will come to you one day won’t work. You must concentrate on you first.
The second layer is about your goal.
We are in a society where people seem to judge and pull you down. They tell you your goal is shit, or not worthwhile. How you plan to achieve your goal is discussed here.
Do you refuse to set a deadline? Or do you hope that your goal will just happen by pure luck? Or perhaps you’re working with goals that aren’t even yours.
If you answered yes, then you aren’t motivated; you really don’t even fucking care. This layer addresses why people don’t achieve their goals.
The final layer is the people around you. The people who will support you in obtaining your dreams.
Are the people around you toxic? Or are they cheerleaders hoping to see you succeed? Some people will stab you in the back. Others will, out of charity, help you and push you in the right direction. Who you surround yourself with is important. This layer is about the factors that influence you externally.
By the end of this book, I want you to be able to realize you are capable of achieving goals by seeing the reasons people fail to get the shit they want.
You deserve to live your dreams. You can do it. Some people are born lucky, others just have it better than you, but no one has the same path for the same goal.
Goals are unique. If you want to be a writer, an actor, a dentist, a vlogger—it doesn’t matter—you can achieve what you want.
I see so many amazing people failing to get what they want; I hope you can learn from their mistakes and pursue your dreams.
Everyone in this book is real, but I have changed their names and professions to keep things private. I am thankful for everyone who has influenced me and helped me create this book.
Now, let’s get to it, achiever…
PART I
YOU
You are the single constant in your life.
So, it is on you to achieve.
1. YOU DON’T TAKE SHOTS
There’s a cliché that has always bugged me: You can’t win the lottery unless you buy a ticket.
I thought it was a way for a gambler to justify his gambling addiction. I don’t have a chance to win money so I must buy a ticket.
But life is just like that. You don’t get a chance for success unless you play. You can’t achieve shit unless you buy a ticket.
I remember walking into my friend’s five-bedroom, five-bath mansion on the 54th floor. It was certainly an amazing sight. But a question gnawed at me, so I asked.
Kenny, how much does this place cost? Only if you’re comfortable telling me, of course, because this is fucking huge.
He didn’t flinch. $12.5 million USD.
My gut reaction was simply awe. But then, something really started to eat at me. How do I afford a place like this? Doing quick math in my head, I would need a smooth $2 million alone, just to have a deposit on the mortgage. I didn’t need to calculate how much I would owe the bank on a monthly basis; the first barrier was the damn $2 million cash.
Who just has that in the bank?
Kenny was a risk taker. His parents didn’t make a lot, and he grew up thinking money was everything. He worked odd jobs when I was probably playing Mario Kart on my Super Nintendo.
Kenny was always taking shots.
When he had an idea, he would do it. The idea didn’t have to be great, it just simply had to exist. When we were young and playing Pokémon cards, we thought of making our own collectable card game. We brought a printer and started designing cards. Realistically, we just copied the entire concept of Pokémon cards and changed the pictures and themes. We printed our cards out and started selling them to other students. It’s amazing what you can do when you are young. We didn’t care if you didn’t buy them because we felt other kids would. We made some nice cash. We had no idea about cash flow and accounting. The idea gave us money and we loved it. But then Pokémon and any other form of trading cards were banned from school because kids were caught stealing from each other.
Business closed.
But Kenny’s natural entrepreneurial spirit didn’t stop. He would run with ideas whenever he could. Once, he had a string of bad ideas: custom-made shirts, followed by a board game, and then topped off with a magnetic calendar for the fridge. Each one failed. Each idea was executed and thrown into a pile of bad ideas.
Life eventually starts to catch up and you can’t afford to keep taking shots.
Kenny fell in love and got married. He had to find a stable job, and that’s exactly what he did.
I thought that was the end of the story. It wasn’t.
After all, as I stood there in his mansion it was obvious that Kenny couldn’t afford his ridiculous mansion if he all he took was a stable job. As it happens, he kept taking little shots every year. Perhaps not large gambles but he still tried out different ideas.
Kenny had invested in a little mobile application company. The iPhone was announced and a surge in demand for mobile apps grew. When the iPhone first came out, almost any decent application would be a hit. Running through a string of successful hits, Kenny made it big.
He sold his shares and he made money. A lot of it. Enough to buy the mansion outright. But when I talked to him about how he knew what to invest in, he had no clue. He had a sense that apps might be the future, but with no certainty was