The Father's Heart
By Seyi Falaiye
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What does it mean or take to be a father? Does it mean having someone who has your last name and looks like you? Does it mean spending your time or money? These things are important but are they really what it takes to be the kind of father we need to be? This book will discuss and define what it means to be a true father and what it takes to leave a legacy we can be proud of. We will examine some of the duties, responsibilities, and challenges we may encounter on our fatherhood journey.
In this book, we will look at God the Father, who is the essence of true fatherhood, and we will focus on all that He has called us to be as we work towards being the men and fathers that He wants us to be. We will focus on His fatherly attributes and delve into how we can incorporate those characteristics into raising our own children and grandchildren. This book will challenge us in areas where we can take an honest look at ourselves, be accountable, and be encouraged to do what is necessary to be the leaders we have been called to be. Through this book, we can build up the generations that will come after us as we chase the Father, who has set the example for us.
We will all leave a legacy behind us one way or another. It will be a legacy that our children and grandchildren will see, and some may follow. The question is will it be a legacy that our Heavenly Father will be proud of? So, let us make every effort we can to build a solid foundation for future generations.
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The Father's Heart - Seyi Falaiye
DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to God the Father, the ultimate example of fatherhood. To my father, who was a big inspiration for this book and to the many current and future fathers around the world. Fatherhood is a challenging but very rewarding blessing that comes from the Lord. It is a very serious responsibility; therefore, this dedication goes to the fathers who are making an effort to leave a legacy for their children and grandchildren. This book is also for the fathers who need to start making an effort—be encouraged and remember that it is never too late to start a lasting legacy.
All praise and thanks go, exclusively, to the Lord Jesus Christ for providing this opportunity to share my insight, my life, and the lessons learned from his precious word to help men become the fathers and leaders they are called to be.
Additional thanks go to my brother Rotimi Kehinde, Kingdom Branding, and GodKulture Global for his support, friendship, and effort in getting this book into the hands of fathers from every walk of life. God’s blessing be abundantly upon you.
A final thanks goes to my family for sticking together through the thick and the thin. May God bless you all richly and bountifully.
In all things, may God receive the glory.
FOREWORD
I am so excited that my friend, Seyi, has written a book on Fatherhood. Fatherhood is the missing piece in today’s society. We live in an ever- changing world but the principle and concept of fatherhood remains invaluable. Fatherhood.org states that children that grow up in father- absent homes are more likely to suffer emotional and behavioral problems among other issues. This is a crisis. In 2017, The Census Bureau data showed that one in four children were living without a father in the home. Our ignorance or lack of appropriate attention to this issue is feeding this monster. That’s why this book is so relevant and timely.
My father taught me a lot of things, like the value in having a good name. I’ll never forget the places and spaces I found myself in, more times than not, the individuals always knew my father. They would go on and on about how amazing my father was. I can’t even imagine my upbringing without my father. His calm demeanor, his creativity in songwriting, his humility and grace with which he approached life and his decision-making have made my siblings and I the leaders that we are today.
There is no replacement for the evenings he would teach my brothers and I math; or drive me to my special lesson to prepare for my exams. My father raised us to be visionaries and creatives. He taught us about prayer, the Bible, and disciplined us when necessary. The virtues that have become part of my core values come from the principles that I’ve watched him exhibit over the years.
Some are:
- An unreserved love for his wife and children
- A pursuit of faith and spiritual growth
- Fairness and justice in dealing with conflict
- A commitment to facilitating quality education for his children
- An unwavering passion for music and creative arts
- A sense of humor and wit
You see, Fatherhood is about leadership. Fathers are leaders and they set the tone of leadership development in the home. Fatherhood is about guidance. They provide vision and direction. It is about sacrifice and selfless love. True fathers want their children to do better than them. Fatherhood is about legacy.
Seyi has masterfully written a timeless material that is more than a book. It is a roadmap for anyone who seeks to understand the power that fathers wield. It is a rallying call to action. The Father’s Heart will transform your thinking and is highly recommended because it is definitely a game- changer.
Rotimi Kehinde
Founder/President
GodKulture Global
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Dedication
Foreword
Introduction
Part One: What is Fatherhood?
What is Fatherhood?
The Place of Fathers in Today’s Society
The Importance of Fatherhood
The Spiritual Importance of Fatherhood
Part Two: The Collapse of Fatherhood
The Breakdown of Fatherhood
The Irresponsible Father
The Unaccountable Father
The Absentee Father
The Dishonorable Father
The Domineering Father
The Abusive Father
The Passive Father
Part Three: Do Your Fatherly Duty
The Duties of a Father
Protector
Provider
Guide
Part Four: Are You Fulfilling Your Responsibility?
The Responsibilities of a Father
Nurture
Success, Gratitude, and Humility
Honesty and Availability
Setting (or Resetting) a Legacy
Part Five: The True Heart of the Father
The True Heart of the Father
Holiness
Love and Sacrifice
Discipline and Protection
Provider and Guide
References
INTRODUCTION
The battle for the family is very real and very intense. The battle for fathers and genuine fatherhood, especially, is real on the physical and spiritual forefront of societies around the world. In our world today, the value and the significance of fathers in the home is sinking and the family is paying the price whether they know it or not.
First and foremost, in all things, it is important to give credit and respect where it is due and when it comes to matters of fatherhood, there is no exception. In the world and throughout history there have been some very remarkable men who have been dedicated and active in the rearing of their children and, sometimes, the children of other men. To each and every one of those men, may God bless you and continue to give you wisdom and grace to continue the good work that you are doing. Just as much as a mother, a father who is active in the life of his children is a blessing to them, not just for the present but for years to come.
For those who will read this book, the ultimate purpose is not to demean the men in the world who are fulfilling their calling of being a good father and taking care of their wives and children. This book is also not meant to undermine or demean the work that so many married and single mothers, aunts, and grandmothers put into their children and grandchildren in raising them with priceless values and standards in order to be productive members of society. To the contrary, this book is meant to address the issues within fatherhood—with the intent to bring awareness and positive change to this thing we call being a father.
This book serves to encourage all men to step up, step forward, and be the father that God has created us to be. As we lean into God’s way of fatherhood, we will begin to improve the legacies we leave for our children to follow. Along with our wife and children, we will be able to live according to His values, attitude, and doctrines through the Holy Spirit when we wholeheartedly take on fatherhood.
I pray that as you read this book, you allow God to speak to your heart. Permit Him to point you in the right direction. Allow God to show you where you need improvement, he will lead you, he will not desert you. May God bless you through this book. I pray that you may learn to grow an honorable legacy as a man and father.
Part One:
WHAT IS FATHERHOOD?
WHAT IS FATHERHOOD?
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Our world is constantly changing, evolving, growing, and ever looking to redefine things in society, such as political correctness, gender relations, religion, and other issues including what it means to be a man and the definition of fatherhood. As I sit and reflect on the true definition and significance of fatherhood, I sometimes wonder what that word truly means and how it fits in our world today. This book is not meant to diminish the roles of mothers who are equal and an integral part of the family structure. However, it is a call to men as a reminder that God has called each and every one of us to be the head of his household. To put it plainly, as a father, you are needed. You are called to lead your family in the will and the way of the Lord and you have been appointed as the spiritual covering over your family. Will you answer the call or leave your duty to the charge of others? Regrettably, some men choose the latter, leaving mothers, relatives, the government, and others in society to gather the pieces left behind in their absence. In light of this reality the question still remains. What is the true definition of a father?
According to Webster’s Dictionary, a father is defined as: A male parent or a man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or a provider.
There are several key words I would like to touch on as far as the definition of a father goes. First, the individual is a male who actively parents. He is not just a person who shares the DNA of a child. This means that this book is directed not just to biological fathers. It speaks to the stepfathers, the grandfathers, the foster fathers, and any other male who has the charge of taking care of children. The second part is that he provides paternal care, paternal protection, and paternal provision. These responsibilities should not be passed to any other individual with the exception of death, incapacitation, or invalidity. More importantly, it is paramount for all men to understand that fatherhood is not just a passing phase in life. Once a man becomes a father, that charge is given until the day that he dies. It is important to know that every father’s legacy, for better or worse, lives on in the lives of his children and other generations to come. With such a responsibility and with such consequences, the magnitude of true fatherhood should not be taken lightly but should be seen as a privilege and an honor that each man should bear with pride and gratitude to God.
I have two boys who according to the doctors were never supposed to be born, because of conditions that would make it hard for my wife and I to have children. This, understandably, was hard news to take when we heard it but we kept praying and a year or two later our first son was born and two and a half years later we were blessed with our second. Despite the medical prognosis given to us, God saw otherwise and blessed us with two boys who I am proud to be a father to. I am by no means a perfect father and I still have a lot to learn but every day when I look in their faces and see their smiles, hear their laughter, and even comfort their tears, I can only thank God for His mercy and praise Him for showing that He, not the doctors, has the last word. In addition, it allows me to do whatever I need to do to make sure that they are protected, provided for, and raised to eventually grow to be the men that God has created them to be. I realize the blessing that God has given to me and I take the raising of my sons seriously and so should every man who has been blessed with children. There is no better or greater charge that can be entrusted to a man.
THE PLACE OF FATHERS IN TODAY’S SOCIETY
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A father is to have a good work-home balance as best as his capacity is to do so. Historically, one measure of manhood has been for the man to go out and work to provide for his wife and children and while this is still true, a father is also needed at home to help raise his children. This responsibility is not solely a woman’s job and regardless of cultural norms it takes both a mother and a father to fulfill their roles in the home. I have truly come to the conclusion that it takes a man to raise a boy who will one day, be a man himself. After all, only a man can teach a boy how to be a man. As great, important, and respectable a mother is and as much influence as a mother may have, as a woman, she cannot fully