The Naive Woman and Mother: Love, Children, Money & the Incorporation
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who has had complexities living
with a man obsessed with finances
and control leading to abuse and
lack of self esteem. She realized the
importance of dedicated friendships
sticking to her principles to woman
and their absolute need of education,
a solid career and connected to a
partner that includes issues, finances
as a duo responsibility.
Tricia Rintoul
In this candid autobiography, the author, a registered nurse, attempts to tell her story in a grateful way but emphasizing reality. She reveals how important trust is and how indifferent life can be without it. She loved her profession as a Registered Nurse and all her comrades she gained along the way and to this day as a 70-year-old lady. She saw parenting as the most important job of her life and had great results. Family was imperative to her because of her nursing. Divorce was a shock but she carried on as a volunteer caring for people in need and enjoying her great friendships and classmates. She empowered many other women by her excelled skill of empathy and enjoyed her kids and grandkids and her many friends and held on tightly to her sense of humour. She had many awards for Community Work including the Queens Majesty II and Queen of
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The Naive Woman and Mother - Tricia Rintoul
Copyright © 2010 by Tricia Rintoul.
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CONTENTS
Prologue
Chapter 1 A New Man In My Life
Chapter 2 The Courtship
Chapter 3 The Marriage
Chapter 4 The Children/Grandchildren
Chapter 5 Good Times
Chapter 6 The Secret Shame
Chapter 7 The Assault
Chapter 8 My Family
Chapter 9 The Craziest Divorce Ever
Chapter 10 The Incorporation
Chapter 11 The Destruction Of A Family
Chapter 12 The Importance Of Wonderful Old Friends, Cohorts, New Friends And Achievements
Chapter 13 Empowerment, Education And Forgetting
Epilogue
Dedication
Dedicated to all the hundreds of wives that are honest, trusting, unsuspecting, and are financially naive. My hope is they may be inspired to improve their judgement after reading my story, and it will help me to gain insight and relinquish my pain.
I work every day to put behind me and to try to find a place of happiness in my friends to not let my husband and kids rob me of my self-worth of happiness in my future.
Maybe I can make a difference for others. Divorce is traumatic enough without the distress of the unknown—children, money and the Incorporation.
PROLOGUE
I knew that May 7, 2004 would change my life, but it would not change me and my principles and values.
I woke up at 9:00 a.m. that day, as I had always done on Saturday mornings. The routine since we built the cottage 17 years ago, was for my husband and I to go to the cottage after a week of long days work in the city. Sometimes we drove on our own depending on time. Saturday morning then began with a coffee and a muffin. I savoured that first coffee. I said Good Morning
to my husband and alluded to a comment he made on our way home from friends after playing cards the night before. It was also about a repetitious comment that had been hurdled at me for sometime over the past year. Just wait until your elder daughter gets you.
My concerns had become more urgent and researching since I retired in December 2003 attempting to understand our financials. I discovered they were not forthcoming and Tom had become exceedingly irritated with me using more verbal abusive language and two incidents of physical violence. I had sat down with him in November 2004 suggesting his anger rages were new to me and becoming out of control and I would not tolerate another outburst and he should think about Anger Management.
As I sat in the chair in my bedtime attire I knew that Tom was anxious while reading his many reports which he did regularly in the morning while sitting at this long Board Room table he had acquired from a Northern Company. Within moments, after the question about Carey, he had repeatedly stated for months when he was in a bad mood, Wait until your daughter gets you.
Tom exploded irrationally, throwing his reports all over the room, jumped the table and he had me by the neck repeatedly saying You do not understand
while I struggled and pleaded to let go. In such a state, I validated all his verbiage, while he sparked hatred and rage and I finally got loose in order to run to my bedroom, lock the door as he attempted to break it down, get dressed and run for my life to the car while gathering up my clothes that had been thrown out on the front deck. I grabbed the dog and drove off in a state of shock.
My prayers were with me as I survived and my thoughts were Tom needs to find himself again. He had been suffering from anxiety and panic attacks and I had visited his physician to have an explanation with no success. The only way would be to get involuntary help through the legal system because we had discussed help for his anger with no results. I had even mentioned to the children and what it does to a family with his ugly moods. They did not seem to be concerned. I had also had a consult with a friend of mine over the last year about this behaviour. She was a social worker and told me if it happened again to use the legal system to get Tom help. These rages only escalated causing serious trauma.
I was driving to the police office to report the incident that a lawyer assured me would get Anger Management
help for my husband.
The cell phone rang How are you?
Carey, my youngest daughter, questioned. How am I? How do you think I am?
I was just assaulted, thrown out and called a gutless woman by your father.
Do you know what you are doing?
she said in an excited tone and I said Yes, and it is the only way your father will get help.
His anger is completely out of control and he will hurt someone if not managed."
The cell phone rang again. How are you? Are you okay?
It was my young brother of whom I did not realize would know about the incident.
I was in a surreal situation that my thought process was completely void except I knew in my heart that Tom needed help for a long time as he escalated his abusive and arrogant behaviour and I must take the lead. He had also threatened my life when he would be returning to the city later the same day. I related this to my brother.
There had been many moments over the past months and probably years that found myself crying, but I realized this was not one of them. I must try to keep myself level-headed and get this man help while protecting myself and family.
The police were kind and understanding and I answered all their questions as they questioned his irrational behaviour, and guns in the house. They stated that I had acted accordingly to validate his remarks and quickly removed myself as there were guns in the house. Very important for them to know. They were under his bed.
As a volunteer Board member of a centre for battered wives, I still stand that no man has the right to physically attack a woman and especially his wife. The ride to the city was a fog. His attitude had to change and my children had to take it seriously.
What the future held was something I, the newly-retired professional woman looking for peace and travel, could not imagine I had asked Tom in one of his more lucid moments about plans. Would he travel now even to visit my friend in Ireland and he said Yes.
Could I imagine a life without Tom, the man whose ambitions had been the centre of our family right from day one starting 40 years ago. Without him, what were my directions. Kids had grown and I had five grandchildren. I had already some life-changing decisions with retirement, with volunteering and the love of Bridge. Maybe this would sort itself out but I still had two grown children and their families for support and to assist Tom to get his emotions under control. That was the main goal, I thought.
When I returned to the city family home, I found a message from my sister-in-law and a nursing classmate with some comforting thoughts on the phone. Distance was a fact but she did embrace me with her kindness. In our carefree days we had