Postcards from the Past: Portraits of People and Places
By Sam Oglesby
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"Cool, beautiful, intelligent and elegantly arrogant, Dr. Estelle Granger ran the hospital with an iron hand.......I was stunned one morning when she burst into my office, lips trembling with rage and tears streaming from her bruised, swollen eyes......Near collapse she hoarsely implored me, 'You Americans are the big shots now. Can't you do something? Everything is collapsing and nobody is in control! I don't care about myself! It's the patients! It's Vietnam!' Her words troubled me as much as the incident itself. And what she said was true. Nobody was in control. Meanwhile the Viet Cong and the NVA watched and waited." (Chapter 3 - Terres Rouges). "Postcards from the Past" takes the reader on a journey through time and many places; from Southeast Asia to Europe to the streets of New York City. These are all true stories although some identities and nationalities have been changed. Some are humorous, some poignant; others are filled with intrigue and murder.They are all fascinating tales which chronicle the lives of a diverse collection of people - simple villagers in Java, jaded royalty in Thailand, a 60 year-old maid in Manhattan and a host of other characters including a bunch of jailbirds.
Sam Oglesby
Sam Oglesby has spent most of his life in Asia living and working in Japan, Vietnam, Thailand, Myanmar, Indonesia, the Kingdom of Bhutan and other far away places. In this memoir covering more than fifty years of adventure he takes us through palaces, slums, war, earthquakes, jail and even a hangover. Oglesby was educated at the University of Virginia and the Johns Hopkins School for Advanced International Studies. He worked as a diplomat and an international civil servant before retiring to the South Bronx where he gardens, sings cabaret and writes about his life and experiences.
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Postcards from the Past - Sam Oglesby
Copyright © 2003 by Sam Oglesby
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Contents
PREFACE
CHAPTER ONE
CHAPTER TWO
CHAPTERTHREE
CHAPTER FOUR
CHAPTER FIVE
CHAPTER SIX
CHAPTER SEVEN
CHAPTER EIGHT
CHAPTER NINE
CHAPTER TEN
CHAPTER ELEVEN
CHAPTER TWELVE
CHAPTER THIRTEEN
CHAPTER FOURTEEN
CHAPTER FIFTEEN
DEDICATION
This book is dedicated to Ari and my parents.
You were always there for me.
"There’s so much more embracing
Still to be done,
But time is racing …"
Some Other Time
from the Broadway show On the Town words by Betty Comden and Adolph Green
1945 Warner Bros. Inc. (renewed)
All rights reserved.
PREFACE
The story behind this book is a tale of sloth and failure and my rather belated attempts to make up for those sins of the past. The failure lies in my inability, despite the best of intentions, to keep a journal documenting interesting moments in my life. More than just moments, there were events and times, peopled by unforgettable characters-family members, friends, total strangers-which needed to be remembered and shared. As a great fan of the diarists-I remember reading Samuel Pepys’ Diary at an early age-I decided to keep my own journal documenting things that seemed important to me, but somehow it never happened, aside from a few random pages scribbled here and there over the years. Going through a trunk full of old photos and other miscellaneous memorabilia, I would come across the odd scrap of paper with some paragraphs written about a place or a person, a blank page ripped out of a paperback book on which I feverishly described how it felt being under fire in a bunker in a remote place in Vietnam in 1966, or an amateurish poem I had written, pouring out my emotions about a love that had gone sour. As much as I treasured the memories these bits of paper brought back to me, they were like specks of dust floating in the attic of my mind. They didn’t tell the story I wanted to hear, the story of my life. I needed to pick up that strand before it disappeared. It would be glib and pompous to say that I was too busy living life to write about it, but we will delude ourselves with all sorts of excuses rather than admit the truth, which was that I was plain lazy.
Laziness can always be corrected with a well-placed kick, but memory, once it starts to go, cannot be summoned back that easily. I realized that my memory was preparing to exit, stage left, when a friend regaled me with a very amusing story and finished the tale by saying Don’t you remember what fun we used to have?
It didn’t dawn on me even after she had finished the story that I was the protagonist. I drew a blank. I had simply forgotten the whole affair, something that should have been remembered and savored, not suppressed or forgotten. Strange to say, retirement jolted me to my senses; funny how unlimited leisure can jump-start you into action. One day, as I sat in my garden staring out into space, randomly reminiscing about everything and nothing-I can’t help but think of Marlon Brando’s final scene in The Godfather before he checks out-I knew that I had to write down those things, good and bad, funny and sad, which had made my life what it was. Why this compulsion? What was so important about MY life? It had not been especially exemplary, so what was there to say? I could not pretend to have been a role model of any sort; many people had been better and badder than I had been and had written to tell about it. Call it therapy or the whim of an old man trying to fill his time; I just had to do it.
When I turned sixty, I found myself fascinated by the fact that I had already lived most of my life. Maybe by looking back at those six decades, I would learn things
I had missed when I was too young to see the forest because of the trees. And there were issues, deeply personal feelings, that had been stashed away but not forgotten, which needed to see the light of day. The first of these was my parents. We parted company when I was a teenager. Though we lived under the same roof, I remember feeling estranged from them for reasons I couldn’t even articulate to myself. Just another adolescent angry at the world and taking it out on his parents? Whatever the reasons, I moved on and matured,
but I never really came to terms with them before their deaths. How I wanted to speak to them to express my appreciation for having brought me into the world, for having raised me to the best of their abilities, for having given me some of the gifts and talents they possessed. But it was too late. It never happened because of their early deaths and my blind pride. I brooded about this sad state until a friend suggested I could find peace of mind by writing to them. I did this in the first two chapters of this memoir. Tin Box Memories
and Last Call
take me back to my childhood and the seeds of my bitterness towards my mother and father. My friend was right. Somehow, after writing these two pieces, a great weight seemed to lift itself from my shoulders and I found a peace of mind that I had not expected would ever come to me.
My adulthood and working life were spent mostly outside of my native land, the United States. Living abroad was fascinating, exciting, exotic; I could go on with an endless series of adjectives that would describe adventures I wouldn’t trade for the world. But I also wonder what it would have been like to have spent my whole life in one place, a small place, say a farming town in Iowa or a fishing village in Maine. As colorful as my life abroad may have been, I wondered what it all added up to. Where was the continuity? The next four chapters of this book explore this question. They also delve into the darker realm of loneliness and what it feels like living on the periphery of societies you so desperately want to join, but in which you will always remain a stranger. As a foreigner living in the third world, I became acutely aware of this imbalance. In Terres Rouges,
I return to Vietnam and the futility of the War and what it did to all of us, the Americans, the Vietnamese and the French. In Jaipong,
I describe my love for the charm and mystery of Indonesia and the pain I experienced when I had to leave. City of Angels
is a nostalgic trip back to Thailand which proved to me that, yes, you can go home again, but only for a few days. The Golden Hour
exposes my rather complex feelings about Burma, now called Myanmar, and raises questions about what foreigners can do to help
a developing country.
It was in Burma that my loneliness became most acute, where I ached to become part of the society, but found that it was not possible. Writing about my experience in these countries has given me new insight into life in my own country. I returned from thirty years aboard resigned to the reality that no matter how much you try, how well you learn the language, how deeply you immerse yourself in the culture, you will always be an outsider. Liked, yes, and even respected, perhaps, but always one of them
and not one of us.
How ironic then to return to one’s Motherland and feel like a stranger here too! By the time I returned to the United States, the winds of change had blown in many directions, in my opinion, not all of them good. Something called multiculturalism,
which had started in a benign and well-meaning enough way, seemed to be spinning out of control, with ethnic groups and races glaring at each other, defensively misconstruing intentions and failing to communicate at the most basic level. The melting pot
of old may not have been the perfect answer, but what had replaced it seemed in danger of becoming a bitter Tower of Babel. I was crushed and depressed by the gloomy social atmosphere I found in my own backyard, the low ebb to which human relations seemed to have sunk. So much for togetherness. I thought of that line from Sondheim’s Send in the Clowns.
Losing my timing this late in my career …
seemed to perfectly describe the futility of my coming home
when I did.
With one or two exceptions, the remaining tales in this collection are not heavy; some are even funny. After all, even in the darkest of stories, there should be something to laugh at.
Sam Oglesby
New York City
May 2003
missing image filemissing image fileCHAPTER ONE
TIN BOX MEMORIES
My Parents Wanted the Best for Us, But Somehow Never Got It Right
There were four of us, my parents, my sister and me. We lived in a Quonset hut overlooking the East China Sea. Hot in summer and cold in winter, our semicircular tin box could have been off the set of Bridge on the River Kwai, more hospitable to rats and mosquitoes than it was to the unhappy humans who found themselves living there. When we walked on the sagging plywood floor, the building trembled and overnight weeds seemed to sprout up through the planks in my bedroom. After the sun went down and sometimes into the night, the Quonsets would speak,
emitting strange creaking sounds as their metal skins contracted after a respite from the noonday heat. Living there, I felt like a prisoner. My parents, the jailers.
Though they would never have admitted it, my parents were eccentrics. Oblivious to creature comforts, tidiness, or any sense of cozy interior aesthetic, their living habits reduced our sad structure of a home to constant disarray in spite of the efforts of a full-time maid to clean and pick up after them. Added to this domestic drabness was our house worker, Higa. Stick-thin and of an indeterminate age somewhere between thirty and sixty, her only qualification for the job was extreme homeliness, a trait my mother insisted upon when she hired domestics, ever vigilant to keep my flirtatious father out of mischief. My parents’ announced goal in life was to provide for their offspring what they had been deprived of as children of the Great Depression. My mother was particularly obsessed about having enough food to eat and was always muttering a Scarlett O’Hara-like mantra to us: You’ll never have to go hungry like I did.
She focused with fierce attentiveness on my sister, practically force-feeding her at mealtime. By the age of four, the child was obese.
Education meant everything to my parents, who, by their own tenacity, had fought their way out of Great Depression poverty and won degrees at prestigious universities. My mother liked to tell me how, as a fulltime day student at Tulane University in the 1920s, she had held down a full-time night job delivering telegrams on a bicycle. They promised me a fully paid education at the university of my choice and bribed me to excel in school. I was given a dollar for every A
on my report card. Education had been their vehicle to respectability, but it was also the cause of my mother’s professional downfall. As a primary schoolteacher, she had been trained at a time when corporal punishment was standard procedure. More out of habit than conviction, she continued to wield the ruler long after others had abandoned it and on the eve of her retirement after thirty years in the classroom, she was fired instead of feted.
My father was an atheist and, with little difficulty, had convinced my mother to follow him. She left the Catholic Church shortly before their marriage. When I was nine or ten, she renounced her newfound atheism and suddenly decided that we all needed religion. Each Sunday morning, the household-my father excluded-would go to church. As a lapsed Catholic, my mother seemed destined to roam in a kind of theological wilderness. Every month or so, she would sample a different religious denomination and in the space of a couple of years, we were indoctrinated and baptized in a series of faiths ranging from Christian Science to basic Baptist. The only lesson I retained from these myriad teachings was that dancing was sinful. I think it was the Baptists who taught that. On a less elevated level, I learned how to masturbate at the Methodist Bible Study camp to which I was forcibly sent, kicking and resisting to the last minute until the bus doors slammed shut. These religious outings were the most dreaded part of the week for me. We always seemed to be running late and my mother, who cursed like a sailor, would dive into a stream of expletives when her corset zipper got stuck or when I dawdled. Prance, goddammit!
She would hit me on the head with her long, black, patent leather purse to herd me into our aging Chevrolet while I whined with childlike logic, Mother, we’re going to church and you’re cursing!
Watching in the background, my father seemed to get perverse enjoyment from these histrionics, reinforcing his belief that religion was a sham.
In their youth, my parents had been remarkably good-looking people. My father was a Kevin Costner look-alike and Mother had the swarthy Creole beauty that her native New Orleans was famous for. I suspect it must have been sheer physical attraction, which brought them together. There was no other reason; they were so utterly different. My mother actually confirmed my hunch in one of her wandering monologues about the good old days. It was a case of being thunderstruck across the crowded room, she said. On the eve of their wedding, she dumped her fiancée, a somewhat older, well-established doctor, for this handsome stranger whom she had met by chance at a party during Mardi Gras. How could she know then that she would live to regret it? That a few years later, romance would sour and her impulsive act would literally scar her? Mother suffered the curse of being a great beauty whose looks suddenly vanished in early middle age, leaving her disoriented about who she was. By forty-five, she had gone Mediterranean.
In the space of a few months, she became shapeless and sprouted a mustache. As she stood before the bathroom mirror shaving the black hairs off her upper lip, she seemed dazed by her physical transformation and how to deal with it. The sudden blossoming of her religious interests occurred about this time and she and my father began to sleep in separate bedrooms.
My father kept mostly to himself. He only had three or four neckties, at least one of which was heavily stained. Weekday mornings, he was the first to leave the house. Sometimes I would stand at the window and watch him walk up the street to the neighbor’s car waiting to take him to work, pausing every few steps when he would get a shooting angina pain. He would stop, pluck a piece of nitroglycerin out of his shirt pocket, put it under his tongue, light up a Camel and continue walking. He came back late, sometimes smelling heavily of sake. At home, my father spent most of the time in his room, enveloped in a cloud of smoke from pipes, cigars or cigarettes. He was a voracious reader, marking pages of the books he read-mostly accounts of the Civil War and