Perfume Dreams: Reflections on the Vietnamese Diaspora
By Andrew Lam and Richard Rodriguez
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A PEN American Beyond Margins Award winner
In his long-overdue first collection of essays, noted journalist and NPR commentator Andrew Lam explores his lifelong struggle for identity as a Viet Kieu, or a Vietnamese national living abroad. At age eleven, Lam, the son of a South Vietnamese general, came to California on the eve of the fall of Saigon to communist forces. He traded his Vietnamese name for a more American one and immersed himself in the allure of the American dream: something not clearly defined for him or his family. Reflecting on the meanings of the Vietnam War to the Vietnamese people themselves—particularly to those in exile—Lam picks with searing honesty at the roots of his doubleness and his parents’ longing for a homeland that no longer exists.
“Lam shatters the assumptions of readers who have encountered the Vietnam experience only through American pop culture . . . He writes with the delicacy and intensity of a poet.” —Los Angeles Times Book Review
“Andrew Lam writes with the honesty of a true journalist and the feeling of a born storyteller. On his many journeys between Vietnam and the U.S., he sees first-hand the global consequences of war. Perfume Dreams is a meaningful book for our times.” —Maxine Hong Kingston, national bestselling author of The Woman Warrior
“Lam’s insights into Asian American life are reflected in candid, witty anecdotes that reveal much about the difficulties of living in two cultures.” —Audrey Magazine
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Great literary essays that open the gate to understanding of refugees plight, not just vietnamese but all who have lost home and must remake elsewhere. great read.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Tremendous & heartfelt writing. And indebted to the passage, "Home is portable if one is in commune with one's soul. ...For mine is a landscape where Saigon, New York, and Paris intersect, where the Perfume River of Hue flows under the Golden Gate Bridge." Astonishing. Outstanding!
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Perfume Dreams - Andrew Lam
Lost Photos
October 1997
When I was eleven years old I did an unforgivable thing: I set my family photos on fire. We were living in Saigon at the time, and as Viet Cong tanks rolled toward the edge of the city, my mother, half-crazed with fear, ordered me to get rid of everything incriminating.
Obediently I removed pictures from the album pages, diplomas from their glass frames, film reels from metal canisters, letters from desk drawers. I put them all in a pile in the backyard and lit a match. When I was done, the mementos of three generations had turned into ashes.
Only years later in America did I begin to regret the act. A few pictures survived because my older brother, who was a foreign student, had taken them with him. But why didn’t I save the rest the way I slipped my stamp collection in my backpack hours before we boarded the C-130 cargo plane and headed for Guam? For years I could not look at friends’ family photo albums without feeling remorse.
Then last week I had a dream that was so instructive it left me with a different estimation of that loss. In the dream I find myself once more in front of my old home in Saigon. I walk through the rusted iron gate to find, to my horror, the place gutted—an empty structure where once there was life and love.
Immediately I start to rummage among the pile of broken bricks and fallen plasters, finding at last a nightstand that once belonged to my mother. I pull at its drawer and out spill dozens of black-andwhite photos. I am ecstatic. The photos are intact.
They are exactly as I remember them. Here’s one of my brother when he was twelve, wearing his martial arts uniform and bowing to the camera. Here’s one of my mother as a teenager, posing next to the ruins of Angkor Wat. Here is my father as a young and handsome colonel, smoking a cigar. And me and my sister holding onto our dogs—Medor and Nina—as we wave to the photographer, smiling happily.
Suddenly a little boy appears in the dream. This is my home,
he yells, and you’re trespassing.
But these are my photos,
I meekly protest.
The boy looks at me with a mixture of suspicion and shrewdness and changes his tone. Well,
he says, how much would you give me for these photos?
But before I can find the answer, he laughs and snatches the photos out of my hand. I try to grab them back of course, but it’s too late.
I woke to find my arm still reaching out over the blanket in a gesture toward the pictures, still trying to retrieve them. Confused, I stared at my own empty hand for what seemed to be a long, long time. In that salty dawn with the cable cars rumbling up and down the hills and their bells clanging merrily outside my window, I saw what I hadn’t seen before: that nothing was ever truly lost.
What I failed to retrieve in the dream survives, if only as an exquisite longing. If words and language, as the poet Rilke tells us, can be made into a thing, mute as the statue of an orator, the reverse is true also.
Precious things lost are transmutable. They refuse oblivion. They simply wait to be rendered into testimonies, into stories and songs.
Child of Two Worlds
June 1998
Two roads lead to my home: one long, yet short, the other short, yet long.
—from a Vietnamese folk song
Once, in my mother’s garden in Dalat, Vietnam, I saw Mrs. Lau, the wife of our family servant, drag herself out of bed only a few hours after giving birth to bury her newborn’s umbilical cord in our garden. Her gestures among the jasmine bushes, the mumbling of prayers, the burning of joss sticks, and the offerings of mangoes and rice stirred a deep sense of mystery in me. Later I asked my mother about the incident and she, in a solemn voice, announced that it was the Vietnamese way to ask the land to bless and protect the newborn. Your umbilical cord is also buried in an earthen jar in our garden,
she said. The incident and the knowledge of my own earthly ties made a strong impression on me: our ways were sacred and very old.
In that world of parochial sanctities, I was not entirely convinced that the outside world existed. Vietnam, the tropical garden, was all there was. Life was deemed cyclical but the world was not yet round. It hovered instead in my mind’s eye in the shape of a voluptuous and ruffled S, the map of our country that I had more or less mastered in geography class in grammar school.
I remember standing in line before class with the others—white shirts and blue shorts, all—singing at the top of our lungs the national anthem each morning. O Citizens, let’s rise to this day of liberation,
we would bellow. Let’s walk together and sacrifice our lives. Blood debt must be paid by blood.
I had believed in the lyric, its every word, felt that shared patriotic fervor among my young, bright-eyed peers. The war was at full throttle then, and we embraced it. In school we devised war games in which the winners would inevitably be Southerners, and the Northerners were often berated for trying to invade.
No Vietnamese history book, no patriotic song, no agrarian-based adage could have possibly prophesied my own abrupt departure from Vietnam nor my subsequent transnational ending. For at the end of the Vietnam War many of us did not die protecting river and land as we, in our rituals, games, poetry, and songs, had promised ourselves and our ancestors’ spirits. For all the umbilical cords buried, for all the promises made, we did the unimaginable: we fled.
For the first time in Vietnam’s embattled history, a history alleged to be four thousand years old, the end of a war had resulted in a mass exodus. A diaspora. Refugees, boat people, the dispossessed, three million Vietnamese or so scattered onto more than fifty countries across the globe.
On April 28, 1975, two days before Saigon fell to the communist army and the Vietnam War ended, my family and I boarded a cargo plane full of panicked refugees and headed for Guam. I remember watching Vietnam recede into the cloudy horizon from the plane’s window, a green mass of land giving way to a hazy green sea.
I was confused, frightened, and from all available evidence—the khaki army tents in the Guam refugee camp, the scorching heat, the long lines for food rations, the fetid odor of the communal latrines, the freshly bulldozed ground under my sandaled feet—I was also homeless.
Places and times, when they can no longer be retrieved, tend to turn sacrosanct. Home forever lost is forever bathed in a certain twilight glow. Even after many years in America my mother still longed for the ancestral altar on which Grandpa’s faded black-and-white photo stared out into our abandoned home. She missed the carved rosewood cabinet in which she kept the enamel-covered family albums and my father’s special French wines from Bordeaux, and she yearned for the antique porcelain dining set covered by faded blue silk. She fretted over the small farm we owned near the Binh Loi Bridge on the outskirts of Saigon, where the chickens roamed freely and the mangosteen and guava trees were heavy with fruits when we last visited, and where the river, dotted with water hyacinths, ran swift and strong.
This is the time of year when the guavas back home are ripened,
Mother would tell the family at dinnertime.
So far from home, Mother nevertheless took her reference points in autumn, her favorite season. Autumn, the dark season, came in the form of letters she received from relatives and friends left behind. Brown and flimsy thin like dead leaves, recycled who knows how many times, the letters threatened to dissolve with a single tear. They unanimously told of tragic lives: Aunty and her family barely survived; Cousin is caught for the umpteenth time trying to escape; Uncle has died from heart failure while being interrogated by the Viet Cong; yet another Uncle is indefinitely incarcerated in a malaria-infested reeducation camp; and no news yet of Cousin and family who disappeared in the South China Sea. The letters went on to inquire as to our health and then to timidly ask for money, for antibiotics, for a bicycle, and, if possible, for sponsorship to America. The letters confirmed what my mother, who had lived through two wars, had always known: life is a sea of suffering, and sorrow gives meaning to life. Then, as if to anchor me in Old World tragedy, as if to bind me to that shared narrative of loss and misery, mother insisted that I, too, read those letters.
What did I do? I skimmed. I skipped. I shrugged. I put on a poker face and raked autumn in a pile and pushed it all back to her. That country,
I slowly announced in English, as if to wound, is cursed.
That country, mind you. No longer mine. Vietnam was now so far away—an abstraction—and America was now so near (outside the window, blaring on TV, written in the science fiction books I devoured like mad)—a seduction. Besides, what could a scrawny refugee teenager living in America do to save Uncle from that malaria-infested reeducation camp? What could he do for Cousin and her family lost somewhere in the vast South China Sea? He could, on the other hand, pretend amnesia to save himself from grief.
My mother made the clucking sounds of disapproval with her tongue as she shook her head. She looked into my eyes and called me the worst thing she could muster: You’ve become a little American now, haven’t you? A cowboy.
Vietnamese appropriated the word cowboy
from the movies to imply selfishness. A cowboy in Vietnamese estimation is a rebel who, as in the spaghetti Westerns, leaves town, the communal life, to ride alone into the sunset.
Mother’s comment smarted, but she wasn’t far from the truth. Her grievances against America had little to do with the war and the United States’ involvement in it. Her complaint against America was that it had stolen her children, especially her youngest and once most-filial son. America seduced him with its optimism, twisted his thinking, bent his tongue and dulled his tropic memories. America gave him freeways and fast food and silly cartoons and sitcoms, imbuing him with sappy happy-ending incitements.
Yet it could not be helped. For the refugee child in America, the world splits perversely into two irreconcilable parts: Inside and Outside.
Inside, at home, in the crowded apartment shared by two refugee families, nostalgia ruled. Inside, the world remained dedicated to What Was.
Remember the house we used to live in, with the red bougainvillea wavering over the iron gate? Remember when we went to Hue and sailed down the Perfume River for the night market and that night the sky was full of stars? Remember Tet, when Uncle showed us that trick with the cards?
Inside, the smell of fish sauce wafted along with the smell of incense from the newly built altar that housed photos of the dead—a complex smell of loss. Inside, the refugee father told and retold wartime stories to his increasingly disaffected children, reliving the battles he had fought and won. He stirred his whiskey and soda on ice, then stared blankly at the TV. Inside, the refugee mother grieved for lost relatives, lost home and hearth, lost ways of life, a whole cherished world of intimate connections, scattered and uprooted, gone, gone, all gone. And so Inside, I, their refugee child, felt the collected weight of history on my shoulders and fell silent.
Outside, however…
What do you want to be when you grow up?
Mr. K., the English teacher in eighth grade, asked.
I had never thought of the question before. Such an American question. But it intrigued me. I did not hesitate. A movie star,
I answered, laughing.
Outside I was ready to believe, to swear that the Vietnamese child who grew up in that terrible war and who saw many strange, tragic, and marvelous things was someone else, not me, that it had happened in another age, centuries ago.
That Vietnamese boy never grew up; he wanders still in the garden of my childhood memory, whereas I—I had gone on. Hadn’t I? It was a feeling that I could not help. I came to America at a peculiar age—pubescent, and not fully formed. Old enough to remember Vietnam, I was also young enough to embrace America, and to be shaped by it.
Outside, in school, among new friends, I spoke English freely and deliberately. I whispered sweet compliments to Chinese and Filipino girls and made them blush. I cussed and joked with friends and made them laugh. I bantered and cavorted with teachers and made myself their pet.
Speaking English, I had a markedly different personality than when speaking Vietnamese. In English, I was a sunny, upbeat, silly, and sometimes wickedly sharp-tongued kid. No sorrow, no sadness, no cataclysmic grief clung to my new language. A wild river full of possibilities flowed effortlessly from my tongue, connecting me to the New World. And I, enamored by the discovery of a newly invented self (I even gave myself a new name—Andy, call me Andy,
I would tell each new teacher and each new friend who had trouble pronouncing my Vietnamese name)—I sailed its iridescent waters toward spring.
Now, more than two decades later, in her suburban home with a pool shimmering in the backyard, my mother talks to ghosts. Every morning she climbs a chair and piously lights a few joss sticks for the new ancestral altar on top of the living room’s bookcase and mumbles her solemn prayers to the spirits of our dead ancestors and to Buddha. On the shelves below stand my father’s MBA diploma, my older siblings’ engineering and business degrees, my own degree in biochemistry, our combined sports trophies, and, last but not least, the latest installments of my own unending quest for self-reinvention—plaques and obelisk-shaped crystals and framed certificates—my journalism awards.
What Mother’s altar and the shelves carrying their various knickknacks seek to tell is the typical Vietnamese American tragicomedy, one where Old World Fatalism finally meets New World Optimism, the American Dream.
Almost half of Vietnamese moving abroad ended up in North America, and the largest portion of this population resettled in California. Vietnamese immigrants, within one and a half generations, have moved from living at the receiving end of industrial revolution to being players in the information age. The second largest Vietnamese population outside of Vietnam is centered around Silicon Valley.
Ours is an epic filled with irony: the most fatalistic and sentimental people in the world found themselves relocated to a state created by fabulous fantasies,